Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[*JG* 2]

I appreciate all of the posts and opinions about my post last night. I can understand how everybody feels and respect all of the responses.

No . . . I'm not a mean vindictive woman trying to hold on to this good-for-nothing man. I've been through this a time or two in my lifetime and I'm sick to death of men getting over on women. I have no issues letting go of the relationship. I can walk away with my head held high because I did nothing wrong.

My concern actually is for Nicky. She's gonna marry this cheating, lying man . . . and he will then be her cheating, lying husband!!! He will do this to her again . . . and again . . . and again. Infidelity is a disease. Some people have it and some people don't. Corey obviously HAS IT. I have reason to believe that there are "other women" ... and have had some friends in Ocho trying to find out for me for the past couple of months . . . (yes, I shared that with Nicky too).

Nicky and I spoke several times yesterday, and it was abundantly clear to me that she's believing Corey . . . and that she will continue her plans for the wedding . . . a wedding she's funded for a man she's supporting who she bought a Visa for. Her response . . . "I don't know what to do. I've already sent out the invitations!" Come on. You don't know what to do??? Have some self respect and love for yourself!!!

I would become a celibate monk if I could just get Nicky to open her eyes and SEE what the real deal is. Corey only wants a free ride and he will do whatever it takes to get one. Nicky is a wonderful woman with a big heart -- and Corey's taking advantage of it . . . People! His whole entire family KNEW there were 2 of us being played for a Visa!!! It's a coup for them! Money from the U.S.!!!!

Why did I "wait" until last night to post? I only found out yesterday afternoon about this situation and was directed here by a friend who wanted me to know that I too was being played.

Oh -- and by the way, Nicky's profile does indicate where she lives. I did not divulge anything she hasn't.

It's clear that Nicky's gonna do what Nicky's gonna do . . . but I would HOPE that her friends on this Board would love and care about her enough to help her see what's really going on here -- and the destruction to her life that's so very imminent -- financially and emotionally. I tried several times to talk to her yesterday, but she's only hearing what she wants to hear.

If you don't believe me about the relationship, all of my trip reports about my relationship with Corey are on toesindasand.com. They are entitled Bullet, Bullet, Connect , Where the River Meets the Beach , and A week at the Cottage. I am holding a ticket to return to Ocho to spend Corey's birthday with him on 12/2. Obviously, he hadn't received his interview date when I bought it . . . so he was STILL continuing the game on both of us!

I'm not ashamed for calling a spade a spade. I don't know Nicky . . . but I will do whatever I can to keep her from being used any further. If she, ultimately, makes the choice to marry him . . . so be it. I will at least know that I tried to give her all the information about this man that I could (and ALL of it is supported . . . I read text messages to Nicky that he sent me and she had the SAME ONES!). If Corey and his son come to Orlando, I will never become involved with their lives -- ever. Right now . . . my only mission is to save another woman from making a horrible mistake -- and I truly feel that marrying Corey would be devastating to Nicky's life.

This is ugly . . . ugly for her and for me . . . and for our families. We are all hurting. However, it's really a reflection on Corey himself. This could've been anybody on this Board!!! Wouldn't you want to know ALL the facts before you made a decision to marry somebody like this?????

Oh, Lilly, Thank you. After being in the middle of it all day yesterday, and hearing Nicky's reaction, I begged Lilly to plead with her to really think this through. I agree with Lilly's post above 100%. And, yes, if anyone knew anything about my husband, I would want to know. And, if I didn't really think it through, I'd want them to engage others in their cause.........whatever it took.

Not bashing, Nicky. Love is powerful thing and I can see she really loves him. But, to allow him to get away with this will only make him think anything he ever does is going to be okay and forgiven. He disrespected you, girl. Don't you do it to yourself too.

[*JG* 2]

In my opinion, Lilly wants to show the world what he is.

If something similar happened to me, this would be the TIP of the iceberg.

I don't blame her, apart from mentioning where Nicky lives if that's something that Nicky hasn't put out there.

Can't see why Lilly SHOULDN'T post it if it's true.

I agree JaEnglish. Lilly welcome to the board and I'm sorry that you're going thru this - my prayers go out to you, as well as you Nicky.

yup....i think this happens a lot...and i really would want someone to tell me if they knew my man....and this is one of the down sides for going through this process

What bothers me is that ppl are getting upset with Lilly because she posted here, but the culprit is the "man" they both share. Why is none of the blame on him? He's the one deceiving both women (and probably even more women none of us know about). It's a shame...

no i dont think u all are getting where my anger is coming from with this please re read what i said its wrong what happen to them both however, all that was stated in this post by lilly was ALREADY SPOKEN TO WITH NICKY EVERYTHING this woman talk to nicky and they both shared their stories so what has me upset is that she joined this site to air what they spoke of PERSONALLY what is the purpose if u have already done this with nikki ????someone i need help in understa nding that this is ok

so please tell me now if i was seein ur man and we both found out we shared the same fiance etc....and me and you talk abt it in private off and on all day....then i go join the site u frequent, air it all and you havent, detail for detail and splash a foto and links to blogs etccc...how would u feel. you have to look at it that way as welll what would be the purpose now if someone can get me to understand that then maybe i can begin to see it a different way seriously im open to seein it in a different light but based on facts presented i cant right now woman to woman i would not have put her on blast like that if she had not even come to this thread to express what happen on her own i question her motives on this post

What you are not understanding is that Nicky is still torn. The fact that the visa is almost through and that she's paid for the wedding and sent out invitations is making her lean towards forgiving him much too easily. This is Lilly's way of trying to get it through her head what he's truly done.

Money and pride should not be the leading factors in thinking this through.

It's a last ditch effort. If I were in Lilly's shoes, I would do the exact same thing........whatever I could to get this person to really think it through. I could not live with myself if I just let it fade away without trying.

[*JG* 2]

no i dont think u all are getting where my anger is coming from with this please re read what i said its wrong what happen to them both however, all that was stated in this post by lilly was ALREADY SPOKEN TO WITH NICKY EVERYTHING this woman talk to nicky and they both shared their stories so what has me upset is that she joined this site to air what they spoke of PERSONALLY what is the purpose if u have already done this with nikki ????someone i need help in understa nding that this is ok

so please tell me now if i was seein ur man and we both found out we shared the same fiance etc....and me and you talk abt it in private off and on all day....then i go join the site u frequent, air it all and you havent, detail for detail and splash a foto and links to blogs etccc...how would u feel. you have to look at it that way as welll what would be the purpose now if someone can get me to understand that then maybe i can begin to see it a different way seriously im open to seein it in a different light but based on facts presented i cant right now woman to woman i would not have put her on blast like that if she had not even come to this thread to express what happen on her own i question her motives on this post

I understand all of that.

Just don't see why she SHOULDN'T have posted here just because they spoke offline?

SHe hasn't 'put her on blast', she's aiming for the MAN!!!

This thread and board are not just for Nicky, they are for everyone, I honestly cannot see a problem with what she's done.

I don't understand the bit about motives, her motives seem clear, she wants the world to know that the man is a two-timing rat.

Nicky hasn't done anything wrong, and neither is she saying she has. Just putting it out there.

If Nicky wants to continue her relationship, there is unlikely to be anyone here that will condemn or judge her for that.

telling something that we spoke personally of is putting someone on blast sorry

No, it's not in this case. Lilly took an instant liking to Nicky. There is not hard feelings here. Both of these women were equally duped. They share a bond.

[lillywight 0]

I appreciate all of the posts and opinions about my post last night. I can understand how everybody feels and respect all of the responses.

No . . . I'm not a mean vindictive woman trying to hold on to this good-for-nothing man. I've been through this a time or two in my lifetime and I'm sick to death of men getting over on women. I have no issues letting go of the relationship. I can walk away with my head held high because I did nothing wrong.

My concern actually is for Nicky. She's gonna marry this cheating, lying man . . . and he will then be her cheating, lying husband!!! He will do this to her again . . . and again . . . and again. Infidelity is a disease. Some people have it and some people don't. Corey obviously HAS IT. I have reason to believe that there are "other women" ... and have had some friends in Ocho trying to find out for me for the past couple of months . . . (yes, I shared that with Nicky too).

Nicky and I spoke several times yesterday, and it was abundantly clear to me that she's believing Corey . . . and that she will continue her plans for the wedding . . . a wedding she's funded for a man she's supporting who she bought a Visa for. Her response . . . "I don't know what to do. I've already sent out the invitations!" Come on. You don't know what to do??? Have some self respect and love for yourself!!!

I would become a celibate monk if I could just get Nicky to open her eyes and SEE what the real deal is. Corey only wants a free ride and he will do whatever it takes to get one. Nicky is a wonderful woman with a big heart -- and Corey's taking advantage of it . . . People! His whole entire family KNEW there were 2 of us being played for a Visa!!! It's a coup for them! Money from the U.S.!!!!

Why did I "wait" until last night to post? I only found out yesterday afternoon about this situation and was directed here by a friend who wanted me to know that I too was being played.

Oh -- and by the way, Nicky's profile does indicate where she lives. I did not divulge anything she hasn't.

It's clear that Nicky's gonna do what Nicky's gonna do . . . but I would HOPE that her friends on this Board would love and care about her enough to help her see what's really going on here -- and the destruction to her life that's so very imminent -- financially and emotionally. I tried several times to talk to her yesterday, but she's only hearing what she wants to hear.

If you don't believe me about the relationship, all of my trip reports about my relationship with Corey are on toesindasand.com. They are entitled Bullet, Bullet, Connect , Where the River Meets the Beach , and A week at the Cottage. I am holding a ticket to return to Ocho to spend Corey's birthday with him on 12/2. Obviously, he hadn't received his interview date when I bought it . . . so he was STILL continuing the game on both of us!

I'm not ashamed for calling a spade a spade. I don't know Nicky . . . but I will do whatever I can to keep her from being used any further. If she, ultimately, makes the choice to marry him . . . so be it. I will at least know that I tried to give her all the information about this man that I could (and ALL of it is supported . . . I read text messages to Nicky that he sent me and she had the SAME ONES!). If Corey and his son come to Orlando, I will never become involved with their lives -- ever. Right now . . . my only mission is to save another woman from making a horrible mistake -- and I truly feel that marrying Corey would be devastating to Nicky's life.

This is ugly . . . ugly for her and for me . . . and for our families. We are all hurting. However, it's really a reflection on Corey himself. This could've been anybody on this Board!!! Wouldn't you want to know ALL the facts before you made a decision to marry somebody like this?????

Oh, Lilly, Thank you. After being in the middle of it all day yesterday, and hearing Nicky's reaction, I begged Lilly to plead with her to really think this through. I agree with Lilly's post above 100%. And, yes, if anyone knew anything about my husband, I would want to know. And, if I didn't really think it through, I'd want them to engage others in their cause.........whatever it took.

Not bashing, Nicky. Love is powerful thing and I can see she really loves him. But, to allow him to get away with this will only make him think anything he ever does is going to be okay and forgiven. He disrespected you, girl. Don't you do it to yourself too.

I had decided to walk away from it all . . . heal myself and go on. I'm a strong, independent women and I knew in time, I'd be okay. But, it was Jomo's Girl's pleading to me that made me realize that it wasn't "all about me" . . . it was about Nicky too. I'm sorry that both she and I are going through this. I would give anything for it not to be true . . . but it is true and we both have to deal with it.

StaySweet . . . I love you so very much, Girl. Thanks for being there for me -- you never fail me. Every romantic word, text message, situation I've shared with you. Do you remember laughing and saying that Corey just may be SO SLICK that he doesn't come across as slick? Guess that's not so funny now . . . because that's exactly what was going on.

[StaySweet1 0]

Hey all ... new to the Board . . . was brought here on an expected "journey" today . . .

Learned that my boyfriend is also Nicky "Salmon's" current fiance'. She last saw him in March. I met him in April and have been back to see him 3 times. He and I have been planning our future together . . . and I'm thankful that I was smart enough to make him wait a year before I filed for a Visa, or I'd be in the same position Nicky is.

I've struggled all day . . . have talked to Nicky several times. He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should do . . .

Give her love and support, folks. Her financial investment over this lying and cheating man is only gonna increase when she brings him and his son over here to Florida and she has to support them for a long time. I say cut your losses now, Girl!

Here's a picture of Corey and I taken in August when I was last there to see him and his family (yes -- they ALL know about me).

Oh yeah -- funny thing. Always remember folks that "it's a small world". Nicky lives in Orlando ... and SO DO I.

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

When I see posts like this I try to put myself in Nickys situation and to me either way I am still going to be hurting. Whether its non-public or public. So are you saying that people that go on the Oprah Show (not talking jerry springer) to share with the world their hurtful life situations have no right to do that because it may hurt the other party involved? The reason people share their heart renching stories (in most cases) is so that the world knows these things truely do happen. And to please be aware that anyone can fall victim. These women are already hurting, this is not just to open Nickys eyes its, also an a message to all women who may be questioning something similiar in their lives..... To me hiding it is a sign of shame and embarresment and no one should be feeling either of these right now, only positivie support for both of these woman will help. Nothing else....

Edited October 25, 2007 by StaySweet1

[StaySweet1 0]

I appreciate all of the posts and opinions about my post last night. I can understand how everybody feels and respect all of the responses.

No . . . I'm not a mean vindictive woman trying to hold on to this good-for-nothing man. I've been through this a time or two in my lifetime and I'm sick to death of men getting over on women. I have no issues letting go of the relationship. I can walk away with my head held high because I did nothing wrong.

My concern actually is for Nicky. She's gonna marry this cheating, lying man . . . and he will then be her cheating, lying husband!!! He will do this to her again . . . and again . . . and again. Infidelity is a disease. Some people have it and some people don't. Corey obviously HAS IT. I have reason to believe that there are "other women" ... and have had some friends in Ocho trying to find out for me for the past couple of months . . . (yes, I shared that with Nicky too).

Nicky and I spoke several times yesterday, and it was abundantly clear to me that she's believing Corey . . . and that she will continue her plans for the wedding . . . a wedding she's funded for a man she's supporting who she bought a Visa for. Her response . . . "I don't know what to do. I've already sent out the invitations!" Come on. You don't know what to do??? Have some self respect and love for yourself!!!

I would become a celibate monk if I could just get Nicky to open her eyes and SEE what the real deal is. Corey only wants a free ride and he will do whatever it takes to get one. Nicky is a wonderful woman with a big heart -- and Corey's taking advantage of it . . . People! His whole entire family KNEW there were 2 of us being played for a Visa!!! It's a coup for them! Money from the U.S.!!!!

Why did I "wait" until last night to post? I only found out yesterday afternoon about this situation and was directed here by a friend who wanted me to know that I too was being played.

Oh -- and by the way, Nicky's profile does indicate where she lives. I did not divulge anything she hasn't.

It's clear that Nicky's gonna do what Nicky's gonna do . . . but I would HOPE that her friends on this Board would love and care about her enough to help her see what's really going on here -- and the destruction to her life that's so very imminent -- financially and emotionally. I tried several times to talk to her yesterday, but she's only hearing what she wants to hear.

If you don't believe me about the relationship, all of my trip reports about my relationship with Corey are on toesindasand.com. They are entitled Bullet, Bullet, Connect , Where the River Meets the Beach , and A week at the Cottage. I am holding a ticket to return to Ocho to spend Corey's birthday with him on 12/2. Obviously, he hadn't received his interview date when I bought it . . . so he was STILL continuing the game on both of us!

I'm not ashamed for calling a spade a spade. I don't know Nicky . . . but I will do whatever I can to keep her from being used any further. If she, ultimately, makes the choice to marry him . . . so be it. I will at least know that I tried to give her all the information about this man that I could (and ALL of it is supported . . . I read text messages to Nicky that he sent me and she had the SAME ONES!). If Corey and his son come to Orlando, I will never become involved with their lives -- ever. Right now . . . my only mission is to save another woman from making a horrible mistake -- and I truly feel that marrying Corey would be devastating to Nicky's life.

This is ugly . . . ugly for her and for me . . . and for our families. We are all hurting. However, it's really a reflection on Corey himself. This could've been anybody on this Board!!! Wouldn't you want to know ALL the facts before you made a decision to marry somebody like this?????

Oh, Lilly, Thank you. After being in the middle of it all day yesterday, and hearing Nicky's reaction, I begged Lilly to plead with her to really think this through. I agree with Lilly's post above 100%. And, yes, if anyone knew anything about my husband, I would want to know. And, if I didn't really think it through, I'd want them to engage others in their cause.........whatever it took.

Not bashing, Nicky. Love is powerful thing and I can see she really loves him. But, to allow him to get away with this will only make him think anything he ever does is going to be okay and forgiven. He disrespected you, girl. Don't you do it to yourself too.

I agree 100% with you, finding out something like this in any way would be difficult. And I would want to know to because I am a strong women and I although hurtful nothing that cant be moved on from.

I also have to respond again to why post this on this site or any site for that matter. We need to remember whether we like it or not today we are in the internet world. We chose to join all sorts of sites were we share about our lives good and bad. If you dont want to read it or ever have people comment on your life, then you shouldnt join these sites that people have the right of free speech. In my opinion all Lillys post are respectful and insightful. She didnt come on here ranting and raving calling names or insulting anyone. Much respect to everyone on here who is being supportive and understanding.

[waynegeraldine 0]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

[Jonesie 1]

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week

Unfortunately, you're right...his wording may have offended some but this was the type of "man" he wanted to warn posters about. And one thing I like to add - it's not just some Jamaican men that are dogs, you will find them in EVERY culture.

Edited October 25, 2007 by Jonesie

[*JG* 2]

Hey all ... new to the Board . . . was brought here on an expected "journey" today . . .

Learned that my boyfriend is also Nicky "Salmon's" current fiance'. She last saw him in March. I met him in April and have been back to see him 3 times. He and I have been planning our future together . . . and I'm thankful that I was smart enough to make him wait a year before I filed for a Visa, or I'd be in the same position Nicky is.

I've struggled all day . . . have talked to Nicky several times. He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should do . . .

Give her love and support, folks. Her financial investment over this lying and cheating man is only gonna increase when she brings him and his son over here to Florida and she has to support them for a long time. I say cut your losses now, Girl!

Here's a picture of Corey and I taken in August when I was last there to see him and his family (yes -- they ALL know about me).

I am here for nothing but support to my friend who is hurting badly over this situation. Not only from being dupped by this dog, but because she doesnt want Nicky or any other women to be hurt by this man or others playing the same game. I was with Lilly on the trip when she meet Corey. He persued her like a vengence and I am aghast to find out that he was already engaged. I really cant even wrap my mind around it.

I know some are going to reply and say I am still bringing up personal info, but even though this is not my situation, i have also dated men from JA and it hits a very very personal spot for me. I can not say i have had this exact situation, but there have been uh oh times that i think many women have but tend to ignore. This has opened my eyes and I hope it opens other womens eyes that come across these recent posts that may be questioning there situation and if it helps one women make the decision to leave a bad relationship then God Bless her for she is being save from one less heartache in life.

Nicky as a women there is no judgement being passed on anyone. This is embarrasing, emotional, and very hurtful for all involved and people that love you both. We are women, we need to stand by each other, protect each other, love each other, learn from each other, and teach each other. We are the nurturers of the world and its a much better place because of women.

Wow, Sweet....you just made me tear up. What a beautiful post. You are going to make a wise and beautiful mama, girl!

[lillywight 0]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

[luvtravlin 0]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

I've agree with everything up to this particular point. "I" personally don't think that it would be your responsibility to contact the Embassy to file a complaint, unless Nicky wanted you to or you were both filing. I think that part is completely and totally up to Nicky who is in the process and their interview is shortly approaching.

[waynegeraldine 0]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

I know you have been hurt and the man is a liar but you have NO BUSINESS writing the embassy, I want Nicky to leave the man too but it's no one's business if she decide to stay with him. You are taking this a little to far. I know what went down is kinda crazy but your posts are becoming a little bit overbearing. Nicky was hurt too but she choose to deal with it in quiet dignified manner, please draw the line somewhere, you motives are starting to look suspect.

Edited October 25, 2007 by waynegeraldine

[luvtravlin 0]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

I know you have been hurt and the man is a liar but you have NO BUSINESS writing the embassy, I want Nicky to leave the man too but it's no one's business if she decide to stay with him. You are taking this a little to far. I know what went down is kinda crazy but your posts are becoming a little bit overbearing.

I agree !!

[Yaads 0]

Good Morning Yardies!

First off...whoa

Lilly and Nicky...what an awful hard situation to be in. I am so sorry.

Lilly ~ Kudos to you for being such a kind and caring person that even through your own pain and disappointment you are still reaching out to Nicky. That is a true sign of integrity and compassion.

This is one messed up situation and I am thankful that it was discovered before any serious commitments (marriage/kids) have been made. My heart truly goes out to all involved. I totally understand why Lilly posted...who wouldn't want to expose a two-timing cheat?! I don't see her as saying anything hurtful or malicious...just genuinely concerned for a woman she has never met. Obviously her talks with Nicky, in her opinion, were not getting through to her so she came here seeking Nicky's friends...hoping that those of us who know Nicky on a more personal level can reach out to Nicky with common sense and love. I truly applaud you Lilly for caring about someone you don't even know and whom you have only spoken to since yesterday.

ETA: I just saw what you wrote about writing the embassy...I know you are most likely lashing out in anger and frustration not to mention desparation...but I agree with others that a move like that would be over stepping your bounds. Had you also filed for him it would be a different story...but as you haven't...please leave the immigration side of the matter alone.

Edited October 25, 2007 by Yardiewife

[lillywight 0]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

That is excatly the kind of person Shawn was telling everyone about last week, I don't know the man and don't want to be too harsh, but I'm wondering right now what his girlfriend in Jamaica would think about all of this. He seem to really like talking about the future to together with ladies he meets, he should have been married by now if he is that much the marrying type, there are women in Jamaica you know, but the thing about jamaican women is that they really don't marry bums.

The only thing this man loves are his sneakers and Jeans, and you can toss in a gold chain here and there. I see visa all over this one. Kick him to the curb Nicky, you can do better, but that is only my opinion.

I've shared my concerns with Nicky about my hunch that there are local women he is involved with -- and I gave her specific reasons why I thought what I thought. She can choose to ignore them if she wants, but the signs are there. The hair had been up on the back of my neck since my visit in August and I was desperately seeking the truth. I can handle anything as long as it's the truth. And, handle this . . . I will. I'm writing a letter to the Embassy with PROOF of my relationship with this man. Although it may not fall into the right hands in time for their interview, I pray that God will see fit to keep this bum in his own country . . . and that he stops preying on American women in search of a Visa. Believe me, Corey's very sweet, soft-spoken, and suave . . . almost innocent and naive acting. He could win over a charlatan with his childish good-looks and romantic swooning.

Silly me. I fell too -- and I'm a grown woman. But, knowing what I know now about him, I can walk away without hesitancy.

I know you have been hurt and the man is a liar but you have NO BUSINESS writing the embassy, I want Nicky to leave the man too but it's no one's business if she decide to stay with him. You are taking this a little to far. I know what went down is kinda crazy but your posts are becoming a little bit overbearing.

I appreciate the opinions expressed that I shouldn't write the Embassy . . . and hopefully, when my hurt and anger subside, I'll agree that it's inappropriate. Right now, I'm not in that space.

This man has devastated me, my teenage daughters, my family . . . and we didn't deserve any of it. Why should he walk scott free for his indiscretions? Why should he be allowed to prosper? And . . . his winfall, is Nicky's downfall.

I won't act in an emotional manner. I will give this much thought and consideration. Right now, I'm having a hard time telling what time it is. It's hard when somebody pulls the rug out from underneath you and you're left to deal with it.