Birth Control

[limah 1]

I just want to know how many women have had the discussion of using birth control with your husbands or fiance? I have had the conversation with my husband and he insists thats it the best thing for us. Not only because he isn't here, he insists that for the first year we should use it as well. You know, wait until hes established himself and can take care of us. I work from home now, so I am looking forward to being this "at home mom"/"work from home"kinda chick.

Besides, that's all he wants, is to be able to take care of his wife and family.

Anybody????????????

Im sure this has been brought up before but maybe some points of view have changed..... One who agreed before may no longer agree..... and vice versa.

Limah

[doodlebug 3]

Both of us are against birth control.

My ex husband had me get my tubes tied which I hated doing but it was that or no sexlife since he was "done" and refused to get a vasectomy. As soon as my husband gets here our first trip together will be a long weekend to North Carolina where I'll be having a tubal reversal done. After that it's up to G-d how many kids we will have.

[Henia 11]

I just want to know how many women have had the discussion of using birth control with your husbands or fiance? I have had the conversation with my husband and he insists thats it the best thing for us. Not only because he isn't here, he insists that for the first year we should use it as well. You know, wait until hes established himself and can take care of us. I work from home now, so I am looking forward to being this "at home mom"/"work from home"kinda chick.

Besides, that's all he wants, is to be able to take care of his wife and family.

Anybody????????????

Im sure this has been brought up before but maybe some points of view have changed..... One who agreed before may no longer agree..... and vice versa.

Limah

This topic has been tackled here already, but still a good topic.

My husband feels the same way, all he wants to do is take care of his family And ME/NA ppl in general want children soon after marriage, but I think ppl thinking with common sense would want to wait.

My husband and I both want children, me esp before I am 30. Buuuuut we both knowwe would want him there for the birth and the baby year... we both could not even imagine being apart then.

My husband is kinda c'est la vie about it... and I am actually not. He does not want me taking any birth control, and then thou I would I have had bad experiences medically with birth control...so we donnot. We practice common sense and family planning.

My husband wants to think i could just have the baby there (if I were pregnant) but I would rather not. But if it did happen, for sure I would having it there and apply for a N-600. If I had a baby here, with my current situation I would totally be screwed.

And I agree Limah, I would love and am wanting to be a work from home mom...buuuut it all depends when my husband gets here, if he could find work that has medical benefits

[limah 1]

I think I remember you talking about that before Doodle. I hope God blesses u and your husband with as many children as he sees fit and that you and your husband can handle. He never puts too much on our plates.

The decision for us to use it is of course a temporary thing. I learn something new everyday. I have never heard of this form you mention Henia. I'll mention it to my husband. I mean its not written in blood or anything that we absolutely have to use it. Medical benefits, another good point. My daughter is covered by her fathers insurance and I am not a sickly person, but I do have an individual plan that I think I'm paying waaaaaaaaaayyyy too much for.

This is why I posted a topic that I was 100% sure has been mentioned before. I am not one who is going to do a search and look up a topic. I like the freshest of the fresh responses.

Anybody that doesnt want to respond or repeat... how would I know anyway. But thanks ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!

Limah

Edited February 15, 2007 by limah

[wildroze22 0]

im on the pill for reasons other than birth control... but i will be going off of it soon, and def when we are married. we both want kids, whenever hashem sees fit.

its not a religious belief or anything... just the simple fact that we both want kids

[limah 1]

im on the pill for reasons other than birth control... but i will be going off of it soon, and def when we are married. we both want kids, whenever hashem sees fit.

its not a religious belief or anything... just the simple fact that we both want kids

I know my husband wants children, too. Very badly. But not to the point to where he would have me doing this on my own. Its not a religious thing either. A few friends of mine were saying to me, "Oh Girl, you know thats all he wants to do is get married and have kids. He is not going to "let" you take any birth control". I simply responded by saying, "And thats a bad thing?"I wouldn't go behind his back and take it. That is not what I am saying. One of the main reasons I love my husband is because he is always willing to talk about things. We have never had one argument, disagreement yes. But that was over my daughter showing her tukus in Morocco!

Limah

I just want to know how many women have had the discussion of using birth control with your husbands or fiance? I have had the conversation with my husband and he insists thats it the best thing for us. Not only because he isn't here, he insists that for the first year we should use it as well. You know, wait until hes established himself and can take care of us. I work from home now, so I am looking forward to being this "at home mom"/"work from home"kinda chick.

Besides, that's all he wants, is to be able to take care of his wife and family.

Anybody????????????

Im sure this has been brought up before but maybe some points of view have changed..... One who agreed before may no longer agree..... and vice versa.

Limah

This topic has been tackled here already, but still a good topic.

My husband feels the same way, all he wants to do is take care of his family And ME/NA ppl in general want children soon after marriage, but I think ppl thinking with common sense would want to wait.

My husband and I both want children, me esp before I am 30. Buuuuut we both knowwe would want him there for the birth and the baby year... we both could not even imagine being apart then.

My husband is kinda c'est la vie about it... and I am actually not. He does not want me taking any birth control, and then thou I would I have had bad experiences medically with birth control...so we donnot. We practice common sense and family planning.

My husband wants to think i could just have the baby there (if I were pregnant) but I would rather not. But if it did happen, for sure I would having it there and apply for a N-600. If I had a baby here, with my current situation I would totally be screwed.

And I agree Limah, I would love and am wanting to be a work from home mom...buuuut it all depends when my husband gets here, if he could find work that has medical benefits

Where can I find this form?

[Henia 11]

im on the pill for reasons other than birth control... but i will be going off of it soon, and def when we are married. we both want kids, whenever hashem sees fit.

its not a religious belief or anything... just the simple fact that we both want kids

I know my husband wants children, too. Very badly. But not to the point to where he would have me doing this on my own. Its not a religious thing either. A few friends of mine were saying to me, "Oh Girl, you know thats all he wants to do is get married and have kids. He is not going to "let" you take any birth control". I simply responded by saying, "And thats a bad thing?"I wouldn't go behind his back and take it. That is not what I am saying. One of the main reasons I love my husband is because he is always willing to talk about things. We have never had one argument, disagreement yes. But that was over my daughter showing her tukus in Morocco!

Limah

I just want to know how many women have had the discussion of using birth control with your husbands or fiance? I have had the conversation with my husband and he insists thats it the best thing for us. Not only because he isn't here, he insists that for the first year we should use it as well. You know, wait until hes established himself and can take care of us. I work from home now, so I am looking forward to being this "at home mom"/"work from home"kinda chick.

Besides, that's all he wants, is to be able to take care of his wife and family.

Anybody????????????

Im sure this has been brought up before but maybe some points of view have changed..... One who agreed before may no longer agree..... and vice versa.

Limah

This topic has been tackled here already, but still a good topic.

My husband feels the same way, all he wants to do is take care of his family And ME/NA ppl in general want children soon after marriage, but I think ppl thinking with common sense would want to wait.

My husband and I both want children, me esp before I am 30. Buuuuut we both knowwe would want him there for the birth and the baby year... we both could not even imagine being apart then.

My husband is kinda c'est la vie about it... and I am actually not. He does not want me taking any birth control, and then thou I would I have had bad experiences medically with birth control...so we donnot. We practice common sense and family planning.

My husband wants to think i could just have the baby there (if I were pregnant) but I would rather not. But if it did happen, for sure I would having it there and apply for a N-600. If I had a baby here, with my current situation I would totally be screwed.

And I agree Limah, I would love and am wanting to be a work from home mom...buuuut it all depends when my husband gets here, if he could find work that has medical benefits

Where can I find this form?

Are you talking about the N-600?

[Nasturtium 500]

We're waiting until we pay off the debt from this immigration and save up some money 9and he is obviously here.) He wants four

[patiently_waiting 0]

Leaving in the hands of the powers that be. We say what was meant to be will be and we will be blessed with all the children we will have.

[Marry American 0]

We have discussed birth control and have not come up with a solution for the future. We will try and have two children. After that some method of birth control will be used. My fiance wants to take care care of the baby and I, but he will not be able to support us to the level I currently live in the beginning. I will always work. I love my job most aspects of it besides the flying. My job also allows me to be at home some too.

My fiance really wants children very badly. All I hear, the baby, the baby, the baby. he he I am self sufficient. A second income is wonderful but if we do not have excellent child care then someone will stay home and care for the baby. I'm an ####### parent and believe in being there-mommie or daddy. We will only use a babysitter when necessary.

[sereia 0]

my fiance wants us to have children right away. i want them right away too but common sense tells me to wait.

i want spend more time together alone. enjoy ourselves for a while because this will be all so new to both of us! i don't know if it would be wise to add on another huge thing after him moving here, changing language, culture, trying to find a job and earn decent money, my parents, etc. i think we need to settle in more before we think about that. he also wants to take care of me and if i want to stay home. i can. so i don't see us trying to for a baby until he is settled into a career that would allow for that.

i also want to have a big wedding months after our civil marriage so i certainly want to wait until after that! i don't want to be pregnant in my gown. hehe

[Aymerlu 3]

My husband loves my kids and wants to get to know them better before we even begin to think about having another child. Plus we want to get to know each other better. There are so many adjustments and we would rather wait till another child comes into the home.

[ya falaha! 0]

Exactly what we're planning as well. We had discussed getting pregnant right away but decided waiting at least a year would be best.

My husband loves my kids and wants to get to know them better before we even begin to think about having another child. Plus we want to get to know each other better. There are so many adjustments and we would rather wait till another child comes into the home.

[CarolineM 0]

I agree with amy.

Stewart and I have definitely discussed...but we did so WAY before we got married. That's one of those conversations I think is an important PRE MARITAL talk.

[Together4ever 1]

I would be in big trouble if I even considered discussing the subject here.