Let's hear it from spouses of Morocco whose marriages are working!

[venusfire503 54]

I love this thread - I was just thinking it might be a good idea to have 2 pinned threads - one about relationships that didn't work out (what is most commonly posted), and another about relationships that are working. It would be a good way to show both, and have some balance. This way, if someone is concerned for any reason, they could read the 'warning' thread, but if they need to read something positive (the journey is so difficult, and hearing negative things is sometimes a little too much) they can read about the success stories.

I'm one of those who rarely makes an appearance, because my husband got his citizenship more than 2 years ago. We celebrated our 7 year anniversary recently, and people who see us with each other are surprised we've been together so long because we're so happy! We like to hang out together, even if it's just sitting on the couch, or shoveling snow (like today). He sometimes surprises me at work by showing up to spend my lunch break with me - that always brightens my day. We made it through the entire immigration process, from being in different countries, all the way up through citizenship, and beyond. We were totally different people - on paper - when we met, but our hearts are very similar, which is why I think we've made it despite the odds. We also take good care of each other, and make our marriage a priority.

venusfire

[BraveAmnay 56]

I feel so happy at the end there are some Us Wives who has possitif things to say about their husbands .I wish everyone happiness in their life and always hear good news and why not support each other on here if anything go bad .I would like ask all Moroccan husband to take care of their wife and always remember what they went trought to be with us and also how long they suffer while they were waiting for us to be together with them under same roof .Actualy i hope soon me and my wife will be together .May Allay bless us

Edited February 4, 2014 by BraveAmnay

[mounir412 101]

yes we need to hear some good stories

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

Nice Idea B.

Well my husband had a little difficult time with the boredom in the very begining. We live in a very suburban area and it is always quiet. Too quiet. He was accustom to walking out to the pace of people on the streets, being with his friends, family, and by his ocean immediatly.

Straight off the slaouia truck... it is a difficult to find a job.

Get footed.....

And accomplish the things you both wish to do right away.

Though we were both happy we were together finally and loved each others company, I wished he could have had a few Moroccan/Arabic speaking folks around here to meet. Still looking.

He missed his food. His missed his FAMILY! He missed the ways he was accustom to. The music. The language.

All these things I could not provide.

We went places locally, visiting different cities around So Cal. This was fun to show him all the things here we take for granted yet are very new and different to fresh eyes. But the travel to here and there was not everyday reality.

At times there were some words of him wanting to go back....then he did.

He had not been in the U.S. a year yet.

I certainly did not want him here unhappy.

Practicality, told me it was way to early to visit but now looking back it was P E R F E C T. After about 2 weeks he was ready to come HOME.

He missed us so much and I assume, saw that though his family n home were familiar to him and still very important, he no longer had the same priorties there.

That was back in Oct 2013.

Now we are in a better state of growth. He is taking advanced level ESL classes in the local college. And will persue his GED. After this...something in the computer field would be up his alley.

Up by 6 45 am. and on the sprinter train by 7 27. Home by 4, simiar to a work schedule which is healthy for a person.

I see a depth of improvement/appreciation with his English and interests of furthering his education... that was not ever planned on when we would talk about him finally being here.

WE assumed he should start working immediatly, to get him acclimated to life here???

But GOD had other plans, and this is where we are at with him.

He does his thing, FISHING, all day on his days off from school. He cooks his tajine when he wants to taste Morocco. And we got a IPTV box that connects off the internet broadcasting Arabic, Turkish, Iranian, Kirdish, Russian, Europrean and of course the main Moroccan channels. BTW if you dont already have this...your husband would love it!!! only 30 a month after you purchase the box. Multiple FUTBOL channels too. but that is for me.

He and my daughter get along very well. She sees a peaceful male figure in the house now. The past expriences were not this way. We all 3 are close and have nice laughs at home. He loves loves my mother and her cooking. She adores his curtious and gentlemanly ways.

I do try to stay in touch with the other ladies that struggled with me on VJ through the wait and maybe one day they will invite my husband and I to there hometown to visit...hint. That would be interesting and I am game.

There are realistic ups and downs like in every Marriage(MENA or not)....he just has a sexier accent than some.

I remain grateful for us being together and not having a horrible story to share.

Now if he will just make that appointment at the DMV.....

[Peace.... 281]

Six years ago we met....Today we share together our three year wedding anniversary. What an amazing journey it's been. Would I do it all over again? Yes, a million times over. When mohammed got here to the states, he embraced America as if he had lived here his entire life. The most challenging part was the food. Mohammed was intrigued with our grocery stores as I was with Marjane in Morocco. For the first year, I only worked part time, which made his days shorter and less boring. Every Friday, I would take him to the mosque, where he met many Moroccans. I was amazed how many friends he made and all the nice married couples, and some just like us waiting for immigration to finally be over. We have made a joyous life together and we are always preparing for our future, and making the big move out West is our goal now. As others here, we are a pretty laid back couple. We enjoy going to movies, camping, picnicking, fishing, traveling and just chilling out at home cooking some good Moroccan dishes. I couldn't ask for a more compassionate and loving husband, and a wonderful step father if I may say so. If there is one important thing my husband has taught me, it's the importance of patience. As I learn more and more about Islam, I learn more about him as a whole person. I love hearing him pray when the house is silent, I tell him it's like music to my ears.

In the end, each and every moment we share together, we find peace, love and respect, and if that's what my future holds with him, I look forward to each and every day.

[basstof and robi 4]

hello everyone...

we have been together total for almost 8 years and married for 2. everything is fantastic and beyond wonderful!!!! we worked through many many MANY things before we decided on getting married and now have a very clear understanding of each other and our hopes and dreams for our future...yes he gave up being near his family and everything back home...but he has made his life here with new faces and a loving family......and all that comes with making home where your heart is. we are very fortunate and blessed in so many ways and say thank you every day for everything we have. he is my everything and we are here for each other through whatever comes our way....together.

i wish for everyone to trust their hearts and listen closely to what its saying....listen and share....hug tight and hug often....

[destiny64 222]

Thank you all for sharing, I hope to see more !

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

And yours?

Destiny64. how is it going with you both?

[RFQ 110]

My girlfriend has been married almost 2 years to a Moroccan man who was hear on a student visa. He has been an amazing husband to her and they are really such a great match. They knew each other only a couple months when they married-- though it was done through halal/Islamic terms with the intent of marriage from day 1 (or ruling out their compatibility). They spent 6 months in Morocco recently. They are an adorable couple and I pray God blesses them with many children and a long life together.

[destiny64 222]

And yours?

Destiny64. how is it going with you both?

Life is going pretty good. In the beginning my husband just took some esl classes and cooked while I worked. We worked right off at getting him his drivers license since he had one in Morocco. It went very smoothly and he knows his way around pretty well now. I hope to be able to get a second car soon. After a few months he became bored with staying home and he also wanted to be able to help out his mother with money, he needs to work in order to do that! He's been working for a temp agency and found employment in a manufacturing facility within 5 min walking distance so things fell into place.

I would say our biggest challenge has been him being homesick. I found him constantly on skype chatting with his family, and he would continue to do it after I arrived home. The weekends he would open skype immediately to talk to them. After a few months I lost it , I tried to understand but became quite annoyed that we spent years getting him a here and I spent MOST of my life on the computer, I sure wasn't going to let it continue to be a daily thing.

I felt the only thing that changed for him was when he was with his family he was constantly on the computer with me, then once he arrived here he was constantly on the computer with them. I think I remember saying "should I get on the computer also so that I can have some time with you via chat?"

I do understand it, I know he is homesick and left everything he knows and his family means the world to him. However, with time he's slowly pulling away from the computer and we've set some "family time" for him to chat.

As for our family here in the U.S, we all get along well. My husband and I love each other and as others have said, its a work in progress! Communication continues to be our strong point and just remembering that we do have cultural differences. I definitely don't desire to be any closer to my family as he is with his HA! Not including my kids in that statement, they are my world.

My husband does have the advantage of meeting other Moroccans, who would have thought since we are from Vermont???! So he does get out with them for soccer (not in the winter) or coffee after going to the masjid .

So what I can say is so far so good and hope it continues!

[Shoot Em Straight 385]

It is truely a BLESSING he has other Moroccans to befriend there.

I think I remember saying "should I get on the computer also so that I can have some time with you via chat?"

hahhhhhhhhhha I laughed. THX for sharing.

[tnh9479 1]

We have been married for 8.5 years, have 5 y/o twins, and my hubby got his citizenship 4 years ago. It has been a journey, but no one else would I rather spend it with!

[sandinista! 1,816]

My husband more or less doesn't care if he knows any Moroccans here. There are a few guys he's met that he'll talk to occasionally, but they're not a major component of his social life. This may change as the kids get older, and he has more time for socializing outside of family, but maybe not. But other Moroccans weren't really a factor at all in his settling in here.

[destiny64 222]

The only thing that knowing other Moroccan's has helped with, is his being able to go out and "play". I think if he didn't have that connection , he would have had a harder time finding ways to enjoy sports. It helps to meet others from the mosque and be invited to go play soccer or volleyball. People's social lives tend to blossom from current or past people at work or via attending church/mosque. All I can say is he's happy to have the mosque close enough to befriend others. It's not easy to come from another country and find friends easily. I'm certainly not going out to play soccer or volleyball Nor would he enjoy it if I did I would probably end up in the ER......

[Cathi 5,742]

Nice Idea B.

Well my husband had a little difficult time with the boredom in the very begining. We live in a very suburban area and it is always quiet. Too quiet. He was accustom to walking out to the pace of people on the streets, being with his friends, family, and by his ocean immediatly.

Straight off the slaouia truck... it is a difficult to find a job.

Get footed.....

And accomplish the things you both wish to do right away.

Though we were both happy we were together finally and loved each others company, I wished he could have had a few Moroccan/Arabic speaking folks around here to meet. Still looking.

He missed his food. His missed his FAMILY! He missed the ways he was accustom to. The music. The language.

All these things I could not provide.

We went places locally, visiting different cities around So Cal. This was fun to show him all the things here we take for granted yet are very new and different to fresh eyes. But the travel to here and there was not everyday reality.

At times there were some words of him wanting to go back....then he did.

He had not been in the U.S. a year yet.

I certainly did not want him here unhappy.

Practicality, told me it was way to early to visit but now looking back it was P E R F E C T. After about 2 weeks he was ready to come HOME.

He missed us so much and I assume, saw that though his family n home were familiar to him and still very important, he no longer had the same priorties there.

That was back in Oct 2013.

Now we are in a better state of growth. He is taking advanced level ESL classes in the local college. And will persue his GED. After this...something in the computer field would be up his alley.

Up by 6 45 am. and on the sprinter train by 7 27. Home by 4, simiar to a work schedule which is healthy for a person.

I see a depth of improvement/appreciation with his English and interests of furthering his education... that was not ever planned on when we would talk about him finally being here.

WE assumed he should start working immediatly, to get him acclimated to life here???

But GOD had other plans, and this is where we are at with him.

He does his thing, FISHING, all day on his days off from school. He cooks his tajine when he wants to taste Morocco. And we got a IPTV box that connects off the internet broadcasting Arabic, Turkish, Iranian, Kirdish, Russian, Europrean and of course the main Moroccan channels. BTW if you dont already have this...your husband would love it!!! only 30 a month after you purchase the box. Multiple FUTBOL channels too. but that is for me.

He and my daughter get along very well. She sees a peaceful male figure in the house now. The past expriences were not this way. We all 3 are close and have nice laughs at home. He loves loves my mother and her cooking. She adores his curtious and gentlemanly ways.

I do try to stay in touch with the other ladies that struggled with me on VJ through the wait and maybe one day they will invite my husband and I to there hometown to visit...hint. That would be interesting and I am game.

There are realistic ups and downs like in every Marriage(MENA or not)....he just has a sexier accent than some.

I remain grateful for us being together and not having a horrible story to share.

Now if he will just make that appointment at the DMV.....

All 3 of you( and your pup) are welcome to visit us in New Hampshire any time!