How to cancel my CR1 visa ?????

[Deep Breathe 9]

Follow your head on this one, not your heart. You can contact the U.S. Embassy where you had your interview. tell them the truth of why, dont be ashammed, its okay. Ive seen many ladies in your place before, some cancelled, some did not, and wished they never came here........ Its not easy what your going through, but remember, you will move forward, with or without him........ Best wishes....

[nancy55 6]

Follow your head on this one, not your heart. You can contact the U.S. Embassy where you had your interview. tell them the truth of why, dont be ashammed, its okay. Ive seen many ladies in your place before, some cancelled, some did not, and wished they never came here........ Its not easy what your going through, but remember, you will move forward, with or without him........ Best wishes....

i understand what you mean, i did not mentioned in my post the exact reasons why i want to cancel, or not use this visa,because i have plenty of reasons , i dont want to talk about, im pretty sure anybody in my place could think the same like me, i just want to have a happy life ,

[iamwhatiam80 92]

Of course im sorry for the problems you are having with your husband. But quite frankly this is making me angry. You should not have filed in the first place if you werent sure about you husband. Because of people like you my baby son is forsed to grow up without his father! Because of people like you that take up government time that could have been spent on a case that really needed their time. Im sorry to be so harsh, but hearing that you have wasted all this time and now are looking to find a way to cancel your visa?! Do know what some people are ready to do to be at the stage that you are fortunate to be at?! Wanna know how to cancel? JUST CALL AND CANCEL. Dont waste anymore of their time. And this is not just you, you just happened to catch my attention in a very difficult time. There are alot of people who are filing for pr and dont really actually want it, or just arent sure. And im just sitting here staring at the "initial review" status day after day after day.and watching my little one cry for hours after he sees his dad on skype. This whole system of ontaining a permition to even enter us is EVIL. poorly designed. I feel like the government just doesnt give a ####### about the cases and how much pain brings every minute apart from your loved one. They just waste time during the day to get a payccheck and go back home at the end of the day to their families and cozy dinners. This is just ridiculous. For a country with so many advancements and such technologies, its just imbarrasing and ignorant.

I understand the pain of being separate from families for an extended period of time. We all go through it and we all should give each other strength and support. But who gave you the right to vent your frustration and to be upset on this poor lady who is going through a difficult time in her life.

Your case has been allocated its own resources. No one else is interfering with that. Unexpected things happen in everyone's lives. You owe an apology to this woman.

This forum is for getting help and advice from fellow VJer's. Please stop venting your frustration on others in this community. I wish you best of luck in your family reunification.

[nancy55 6]

I understand the pain of being separate from families for an extended period of time. We all go through it and we all should give each other strength and support. But who gave you the right to vent your frustration and to be upset on this poor lady who is going through a difficult time in her life.

Your case has been allocated its own resources. No one else is interfering with that. Unexpected things happen in everyone's lives. You owe an apology to this woman.

This forum is for getting help and advice from fellow VJer's. Please stop venting your frustration on others in this community. I wish you best of luck in your family reunification.

this is exactly what i wanted to tell her but you know my english! ,

[nancy55 6]

Of course im sorry for the problems you are having with your husband. But quite frankly this is making me angry. You should not have filed in the first place if you werent sure about you husband. Because of people like you my baby son is forsed to grow up without his father! Because of people like you that take up government time that could have been spent on a case that really needed their time. Im sorry to be so harsh, but hearing that you have wasted all this time and now are looking to find a way to cancel your visa?! Do know what some people are ready to do to be at the stage that you are fortunate to be at?! Wanna know how to cancel? JUST CALL AND CANCEL. Dont waste anymore of their time. And this is not just you, you just happened to catch my attention in a very difficult time. There are alot of people who are filing for pr and dont really actually want it, or just arent sure. And im just sitting here staring at the "initial review" status day after day after day.and watching my little one cry for hours after he sees his dad on skype. This whole system of ontaining a permition to even enter us is EVIL. poorly designed. I feel like the government just doesnt give a ####### about the cases and how much pain brings every minute apart from your loved one. They just waste time during the day to get a payccheck and go back home at the end of the day to their families and cozy dinners. This is just ridiculous. For a country with so many advancements and such technologies, its just imbarrasing and ignorant.

i wish i wake up to find myself outsd of this horrible dream

Nothing guarantees that the relationship with the spouse remain the same and nothing will change one day,what means Approval if im going though problms with the man i married , and what means Visa , i dont care about any visa , if i have no good marriage

[iamwhatiam80 92]

this is exactly what i wanted to tell her but you know my english! ,

Dont worry sister. All will be good God willing.

If you have already made up your mind not to join him, let the visa just expire.

If you are more concerned, then get in contact with the embassy/consulate that issued the visa and ask them what you need to do.

[Deep Breathe 9]

i understand what you mean, i did not mentioned in my post the exact reasons why i want to cancel, or not use this visa,because i have plenty of reasons , i dont want to talk about, im pretty sure anybody in my place could think the same like me, i just want to have a happy life ,

It is no one's business of why you feel this way, what is important is you and your well being....... I truly wish you the best........

[JohnR! 5,495]

Hi, I tried to cancel my visa application before my original interview date (September 10,2013) but i just postponed the interview date to a later date (September 27, 2013) due to some issues between me and the US spouse i married with, i still have a lot of problems with him, and i can't imagine myself leaving my country in this situation, my visa was approved on (the first week in this month, i still have no program on how to leave or when and what to do, i tried my best to success and to continue this marriage but to no avail , am tired i feel am just wasting my time , my hope is to know how to cancel my visa after issuance ? Im the beneficiary,

1. Do i need to email the IV unit to cancel the visa? Do you have any model on how to email the consulate for this purpose? i know when i email the consulate they will ask me to bring my passport and the envelope to the consulate to cancel the visa ,and they will print on the steeled visa “cancelled” or something like this

Or

2. Do i just need to wait until the expiration date (January 2014)? In this case, will i need as well to go to the consulate with my passport and the envelope? What they will print on my passport in this case: cancelled or invalid/expired?

I don’t know if there is any difference between the 2 options, I know the goal is one ‘cancellation’

I feel humiliation and pain because of this husband who does not take into account how my feelings and the feelings of my family, every time i forgive him, i need now to cancel my visa to give up the fight and to move on in my life,

Thank you

Just let the visa expire.

If you are not planning to live in the US it would be a mistake to use the visa 'just because' for once you use it you will need to stay in the US in order to maintain your resident status.

There is no prejudice to changing your mind.

[chaingang 7]

fatima , not to be rude , but there are people in this world who doesn't care what God give them , if God has given you chance , use it , distance creates alot of problems , even a very stable couple gets frustrated too , i am waiting on my wife visa from the past 3 years , we are patiently waiting when she will get her visa and she will be with me ,

I am not saying there will be no mistakes in your husband , yes there will be , if he was as harsh as u r thinking he would never seek forgiveness from you , he is saying sorry to you if he does something wrong , you will be doing mistakes too , since no one is perfect , let me tell you this , you are muslim from your name , i know what marriage is for muslim people , once ur married you are married woman , in Muslim society divorce is second to murderer ,You don't want divorce label on you , which couples don't have issues ,

personally i hate these couple who just gave up so easily , there are mistakes u can forgive and there are some mistakes u can't forgive , offcourse adultery cant be forgiven,

i can tell you what will be result after divorce if you have plans to get divorce after getting visa .

You will be hurt for couple of days and you will have label of divorce , he will be crying for couple of days but he will find some other option , since he is man and for man finding any young girl wont be a problem, i know it is going to piss u off but that's the fact , for men there are always alot of options in muslim socity , if he is young or old if he is successful he will get any other virgin lady ,

you are getting divorce label and any other prolly divorce man which is already married will marry you , you are getting nothing out of this divorce except misery and pain ,

learn how to comprise in this life ,no one is perfect with your good attitude and humbles you can change any one , since you are muslim and i know what God says about divorce in the Glorious book ,

chapter 4:35

If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, GOD will help them get together. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.

[2:226-227]
Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then GOD is Forgiver, Merciful. If they go through with the divorce, then GOD is Hearer, Knower.

rest is your decision , i am giving you this advice as brother , think wisely , think about your self first and your family .

May Allah help you

Amin

[nancy55 6]

Why are you making up stuff? This is totally untrue. Using visas for purposes other than what they are issued for (which you suggest she do) IS a crime.

No one should be upset at the OP because she made the choice to not go live with a husband who is clearly not the man she married. I'm sure this is not a choice she has made lightly and everyone should get off their high horses about working things out and reunification. Why should she live here in the US if she doesn't want to and she had no prospects? Good for her, she made the right choice for herself.

Fatima, no need to stay married to this man if you don't want to. You can go to court and get divorced on your own.

True, "Using visas for purposes other than what they are issued for"

[cdneh 3,112]

Of course im sorry for the problems you are having with your husband. But quite frankly this is making me angry. You should not have filed in the first place if you werent sure about you husband. Because of people like you my baby son is forsed to grow up without his father! Because of people like you that take up government time that could have been spent on a case that really needed their time. Im sorry to be so harsh, but hearing that you have wasted all this time and now are looking to find a way to cancel your visa?! Do know what some people are ready to do to be at the stage that you are fortunate to be at?! Wanna know how to cancel? JUST CALL AND CANCEL. Dont waste anymore of their time. And this is not just you, you just happened to catch my attention in a very difficult time. There are alot of people who are filing for pr and dont really actually want it, or just arent sure. And im just sitting here staring at the "initial review" status day after day after day.and watching my little one cry for hours after he sees his dad on skype. This whole system of ontaining a permition to even enter us is EVIL. poorly designed. I feel like the government just doesnt give a ####### about the cases and how much pain brings every minute apart from your loved one. They just waste time during the day to get a payccheck and go back home at the end of the day to their families and cozy dinners. This is just ridiculous. For a country with so many advancements and such technologies, its just imbarrasing and ignorant.

Um, no.

Your baby son is 'forced" to grow up without his father due to decisions his PARENTS made. I understand your anger, but it is misdirected. The OP hasn't affected your case in any way, and your rant at her is unacceptable and undeserved.

OP, only you can decide where you go from here. Take your time, and don't let other peoples opinions decide for you what is best. You have to live your life for yourself, and not for anyone else.

[cdneh 3,112]

How is is this post not in violation of the TOS?

At the least, it's terrible advice.

[Deep Breathe 9]

fatima , not to be rude , but there are people in this world who doesn't care what God give them , if God has given you chance , use it , distance creates alot of problems , even a very stable couple gets frustrated too , i am waiting on my wife visa from the past 3 years , we are patiently waiting when she will get her visa and she will be with me ,

I am not saying there will be no mistakes in your husband , yes there will be , if he was as harsh as u r thinking he would never seek forgiveness from you , he is saying sorry to you if he does something wrong , you will be doing mistakes too , since no one is perfect , let me tell you this , you are muslim from your name , i know what marriage is for muslim people , once ur married you are married woman , in Muslim society divorce is second to murderer ,You don't want divorce label on you , which couples don't have issues ,

personally i hate these couple who just gave up so easily , there are mistakes u can forgive and there are some mistakes u can't forgive , offcourse adultery cant be forgiven,

i can tell you what will be result after divorce if you have plans to get divorce after getting visa .

You will be hurt for couple of days and you will have label of divorce , he will be crying for couple of days but he will find some other option , since he is man and for man finding any young girl wont be a problem, i know it is going to piss u off but that's the fact , for men there are always alot of options in muslim socity , if he is young or old if he is successful he will get any other virgin lady ,

you are getting divorce label and any other prolly divorce man which is already married will marry you , you are getting nothing out of this divorce except misery and pain ,

learn how to comprise in this life ,no one is perfect with your good attitude and humbles you can change any one , since you are muslim and i know what God says about divorce in the Glorious book ,

chapter 4:35

If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, GOD will help them get together. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.

[2:226-227]

Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then GOD is Forgiver, Merciful. If they go through with the divorce, then GOD is Hearer, Knower.

rest is your decision , i am giving you this advice as brother , think wisely , think about your self first and your family .

May Allah help you

Amin

Edited October 29, 2013 by Luck with us?

[Deep Breathe 9]

.

"you are getting divorce label and any other prolly divorce man which is already married will marry you , you are getting nothing out of this divorce except misery and pain ,"

ARE YOU SERIOUS? TELLING THIS LADY THIS? This man could be a monster, beat her, abusive mentally and or physically......... but she should compromise? Muslim or not,NO ONE deserves to be in a bad marriage. I rather have a label of divorce from my husband, then a label of possibley crippled or dead if he is a wife beater.....

As for what she can get out the divorce as you mentioned, I believe she will come out with her dignity and a new future with someone else who will treat her as a queen and with full hearted love.

Edited October 29, 2013 by Luck with us?

[nancy55 6]

fatima , not to be rude , but there are people in this world who doesn't care what God give them , if God has given you chance , use it , distance creates alot of problems , even a very stable couple gets frustrated too , i am waiting on my wife visa from the past 3 years , we are patiently waiting when she will get her visa and she will be with me ,

I am not saying there will be no mistakes in your husband , yes there will be , if he was as harsh as u r thinking he would never seek forgiveness from you , he is saying sorry to you if he does something wrong , you will be doing mistakes too , since no one is perfect , let me tell you this , you are muslim from your name , i know what marriage is for muslim people , once ur married you are married woman , in Muslim society divorce is second to murderer ,You don't want divorce label on you , which couples don't have issues ,

personally i hate these couple who just gave up so easily , there are mistakes u can forgive and there are some mistakes u can't forgive , offcourse adultery cant be forgiven,

i can tell you what will be result after divorce if you have plans to get divorce after getting visa .

You will be hurt for couple of days and you will have label of divorce , he will be crying for couple of days but he will find some other option , since he is man and for man finding any young girl wont be a problem, i know it is going to piss u off but that's the fact , for men there are always alot of options in muslim socity , if he is young or old if he is successful he will get any other virgin lady ,

you are getting divorce label and any other prolly divorce man which is already married will marry you , you are getting nothing out of this divorce except misery and pain ,

learn how to comprise in this life ,no one is perfect with your good attitude and humbles you can change any one , since you are muslim and i know what God says about divorce in the Glorious book ,

chapter 4:35

If a couple fears separation, you shall appoint an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family; if they decide to reconcile, GOD will help them get together. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.

[2:226-227]

Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then GOD is Forgiver, Merciful. If they go through with the divorce, then GOD is Hearer, Knower.

rest is your decision , i am giving you this advice as brother , think wisely , think about your self first and your family .

May Allah help you

Amin

thank you for your reply , yes no one is perfect i agree, i see marriage first, visa second,

i avoid divorce not for social reasons or even religious, because I know between married couples surely there are problems ,