I don't know what to put, HELP :)

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Hello everybody!

My fiance and I are gonna filed the I-129F petition and our love story is sort like this: we met while I was in USA with a J1 visa, he was married, I was working for them, we were really close friends and after a couple of months we started a "relationship" for 9 months while he was still married. After a year in the states, I returned to my home country and I thought everything will end up there, but since the day I got back we have talked pretty much everyday for almost 2 years and we saw each other in December 2012 while he was still married, and we are planing to see each other again in September 2013 (2 times) and other one in November 2013.

Now he's divorced and we wanna start a life together. But well, the point is: we don't know what to put in the question 18 "describe the circumstances under which you met.", the USCIS will care about the fact we had something and we saw each other in December while he was married? or that I met him while he's married?

Thanks in advance for the replies

[lost_at_sea 995]

They literally just want to know when you met and started your relationship (and putting in which country and on what visa would do no harm). They don't give much interest to the actual circumstances (who liked who first, who was married, any of that). You can just put "We met in X country on Y date, while Z was visiting Some Place on VWP" or whatever it was.

It's not much of a story, just a statement of fact. The size of the box and the wording of the question should give you an indication of the level of detail to go into.

The purpose is just so they understand what the circumstances looked like - was it arranged? was it via a matchmaking website? that sort of thing. Meeting someone who is married is not unusual.

Edited July 1, 2013 by lost_at_sea

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ok!

Thanks!!!

[loughrey101 13]

Hello everybody!

My fiance and I are gonna filed the I-129F petition and our love story is sort like this: we met while I was in USA with a J1 visa, he was married, I was working for them, we were really close friends and after a couple of months we started a "relationship" for 9 months while he was still married. After a year in the states, I returned to my home country and I thought everything will end up there, but since the day I got back we have talked pretty much everyday for almost 2 years and we saw each other in December 2012 while he was still married, and we are planing to see each other again in September 2013 (2 times) and other one in November 2013.

Now he's divorced and we wanna start a life together. But well, the point is: we don't know what to put in the question 18 "describe the circumstances under which you met.", the USCIS will care about the fact we had something and we saw each other in December while he was married? or that I met him while he's married?

Thanks in advance for the replies

That won't be a problem because the USCIS don't make moral judgements on whether either of you committed adultery etc. or not. They are only concerned with the legal aspect of things and as long as he is divorced, you have a genuine reason for being together in the States, and have met within 2 years of filing that is all they need to know. Their main concern is that it is a genuine relationship and not a scam in order to enter the country etc. Your story obviously is not one where you are using him as a means of entering the country and have a genuine reason for being together so that is not an issue at all. Just be honest and everything will be okay.

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Thank you so much for the responses!

Then it will be something like this: "We met in September 2010 when I was in USA with a J1 visa and I was working with his family"?

I'm planning to send a copy of my previos visa, passport stamps and the "certificate of eligibility for exchange visitor (J1) status" as evidence of how we met.

[TBoneTX 44,679]

That won't be a problem because the USCIS don't make moral judgements on whether either of you committed adultery etc. or not. [...] Their main concern is that it is a genuine relationship and not a scam in order to enter the country etc.

However, this is certainly the consulate's concern, especially the last.

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

However, this is certainly the consulate's concern, especially the last.

Yes, this. For the I-129F petition, you just need to both be free to marry at the time you file and have met face-to face at least once within the 2 years prior to filing. When you have the actual K-1 visa interview, that is when the CO could possibly bring up the dates and the 'in's and out's' of your relationship. How strict the consulate is you will interview at makes a difference. Research about the consulate you will be going through and be prepared with plenty of evidence that your relationship is bona fide.