Fiance for a 17 years old..

[Cubanito_rua 0]

Hello,

I have a son who was born in USA from Cubans parents. He is 17 and works as a part time and studies at college and he will finish next year. When he was about 11 he went to Cuba and met a lot of friends and he has keep communication with them by mail, email and phone. He is in love with one of those girls and they are a kind of fiancé since almost 2 years, she is also 17 and we have also communication with her parents without any problem. My son wants to marry her next year here in US and bring her with a Fiancé Visa.

My questions are:

1-Can they do it because of their ages? (Remember we and her parents can sing if it were necessary)

2-Who can make him an affidavit, can it be done for a friend of us?

3-He never thought he will have to prove his love, and then he has a lot of pictures/letter/postcards of her everywhere but he did not keep any envelop. How can he prove his love….he will go next March, what can he do to help that process?

4-She does not have any relative in US, is that good or bad for that process?

Thanks in advance, they are really in love and we are happy because they both are good children.

[sercontigo 1]

Wow...are you sure about this? 17 seems far too young to have a wife.

[MaryandMian 1]

What Is a “Fiancé(e)”? A fiancé(e) is a person who is engaged or contracted to be married. The marriage must be legally possible according to laws of the state in the United States where the marriage will take place.

This is taken from the United Stated Department of State website. http://travel.state.gov/visa/immigrants/ty...html#Ineligible

2-Who can make him an affidavit, can it be done for a friend of us?

I agree that they are very young and may not be able to handle the responsibilies of marriage. The affidavit sponsor would be agreeing to take care of her for 10 years or until she became a citizen. She is not eligible for any government aid and if she takes any it must be repaid back.

I highly recommend that you read the guides and understand the responsibilities that are involved and see what steps you need to take to proceed. I think that if they truly love one another waiting some more time would be better for them. I would think he would want his wife to come to the USA and he be financially able to care for her, have a home for her and not to mention that all that goes with a growing family.

[JanaknJanet 0]

Thanks in advance, they are really in love and we are happy because they both are good children.

I'm right there with the thought that 17 is just a bit too young... marriage committment... how is he going to support his wife.? and then.. children? .. have him get his education, get a good job. savings, etc. then .. think of marriage.. not the cart before the horse..

Children are just that CHILDREN.... if you feel he is capable .. then.. he should be considered a YOUNG MAN.. not a child..

[Alex+R 0]

They would get married at 18, and I'll bet a lot of people do that. He should wait to file til he's 18, to avoid hassle, I think. Although I know it can take a long time to get the visa from Cuba. Your son is in for a wait, I believe.

The I-864 affidavit of support for the greencard, if he needs a co-sponsor, can be signed by any citizen of the U.S. who makes 125% of poverty line.

For the initial petition, he needs to prove that he has met his fiancee in the last 2 years. So, he should take pictures, keep copies of his boarding passes for the plane, passport stamps,

receipts from Cuba, credit card statements, whatever it would take to prove that. Proving that the relationship is real will come into play at the interview, and the best proof will be the answers his fiancee gives, someone here says.

Not having any relatives could be good for the process, but won't be bad. (Regarding proof it's not marriage fraud).

Edited November 28, 2006 by Alex+R

[rosyanne 0]

I too think it might be too early for him to thinking about marriage. He probably don't have enough income to support her so he will need a sponsor anyways...

[Alex+R 0]

I don't really think we need to tell them that it's not appropriate for them to get married. Different cultural norms and whatnot. They didn't come here to be told how to live their lives. Now when it's a 50 year old guy asking how he can marry his 16-year-old Filipina molestee, THAT'S when I start voicing my opinion a little louder.

[garya505 2]

I don't really think we need to tell them that it's not appropriate for them to get married. Different cultural norms and whatnot. They didn't come here to be told how to live their lives. Now when it's a 50 year old guy asking how he can marry his 16-year-old Filipina molestee, THAT'S when I start voicing my opinion a little louder.

Your ignorance and prejudice is showing.

Under Philippine law, the legal age for marriage is 18. If the contracting parties are between the ages of 18 and 21, they must present written consent to the marriage from their father, mother or legal guardian.

http://www.gov.ph/faqs/marriage.asp

[Alex+R 0]

I don't really think we need to tell them that it's not appropriate for them to get married. Different cultural norms and whatnot. They didn't come here to be told how to live their lives. Now when it's a 50 year old guy asking how he can marry his 16-year-old Filipina molestee, THAT'S when I start voicing my opinion a little louder.

Your ignorance and prejudice is showing.

Under Philippine law, the legal age for marriage is 18. If the contracting parties are between the ages of 18 and 21, they must present written consent to the marriage from their father, mother or legal guardian.

http://www.gov.ph/faqs/marriage.asp

Yes, call me crazy, I'm prejudiced against 50-year-olds in relationships with underage girls. You obviously don't know what I'm talking about; people come on this board asking how they can marry their underage Filipina every few months.

If you want to have a consenting relationship between a 50-year-old and an 18-year-old Filipina, that's not my business. Sure I find the idea of sleeping with someone 2.5 times my age revolting, but that's just me and I understand that.

[garya505 2]

I don't really think we need to tell them that it's not appropriate for them to get married. Different cultural norms and whatnot. They didn't come here to be told how to live their lives. Now when it's a 50 year old guy asking how he can marry his 16-year-old Filipina molestee, THAT'S when I start voicing my opinion a little louder.

Your ignorance and prejudice is showing.

Under Philippine law, the legal age for marriage is 18. If the contracting parties are between the ages of 18 and 21, they must present written consent to the marriage from their father, mother or legal guardian.

http://www.gov.ph/faqs/marriage.asp

Yes, call me crazy, I'm prejudiced against 50-year-olds in relationships with underage girls. You obviously don't know what I'm talking about; people come on this board asking how they can marry their underage Filipina every few months.

If you want to have a consenting relationship between a 50-year-old and an 18-year-old Filipina, that's not my business. Sure I find the idea of sleeping with someone 2.5 times my age revolting, but that's just me and I understand that.

So, in your opinion what is an acceptable age difference? 10 years, 15 years, 20 years? What is the minimum age of woman you would find acceptable for a 50-year-old man? What is the maximum age of a man you would consider acceptable for a 18-year-old woman? Does your acceptable age difference depend on the woman's age? What if she is 21, or 25, or 30, then what would you find acceptble?

[mybackpages 0]

[mgleason 0]

[arwensun1965 0]

Like most people have said please read the guides very carefully so you can get a clear picture of what is required. Yes your son can have a sponsor as long as that sponsor fully understands the responsibilities that he/she is willing to undertake. No it does not make any difference if the young lady does not have any relatives in the USA in fact it might prove to be good for her.

Please do not read the other comments about your son's age, it is nothing to do with anyone on this board and people just like to judge now and again and have no right too, they can be quite ignorant. In England the LAW is that you can marry at 16 with a parents permission, the LAW in Scotland is that you can marry at 16 without the parents permission. I know the LAW varies in the USA, many young people marry and have very successful marriages.

Good Luck to your son and his young lady and good luck to you too as your being a great mum and supporting your son.

Janice

[Alex+R 0]

So, in your opinion what is an acceptable age difference? 10 years, 15 years, 20 years? What is the minimum age of woman you would find acceptable for a 50-year-old man? What is the maximum age of a man you would consider acceptable for a 18-year-old woman? Does your acceptable age difference depend on the woman's age? What if she is 21, or 25, or 30, then what would you find acceptble?

I find the minimum age acceptable for a 50 year old man to be 18 years or whatever feels right to the two people as long as she is an adult and able to make her own decision.

I find the minimum age acceptable for ME to be with a 50 year old man to be about 45. Because I am not attracted to older men. But that's just me. Not everyone.

You're just getting sensitive because you're older and dating someone younger. You didn't read what I said before you flew off the handle.

[garya505 2]

So, in your opinion what is an acceptable age difference? 10 years, 15 years, 20 years? What is the minimum age of woman you would find acceptable for a 50-year-old man? What is the maximum age of a man you would consider acceptable for a 18-year-old woman? Does your acceptable age difference depend on the woman's age? What if she is 21, or 25, or 30, then what would you find acceptble?

I find the minimum age acceptable for a 50 year old man to be 18 years or whatever feels right to the two people as long as she is an adult and able to make her own decision.

I find the minimum age acceptable for ME to be with a 50 year old man to be about 45. Because I am not attracted to older men. But that's just me. Not everyone.

You're just getting sensitive because you're older and dating someone younger. You didn't read what I said before you flew off the handle.

No, I responded because of your obviously prejudiced statements about the 16-year-old "molestee" and the 50-year-old-guy, and the "50-year-olds in relationships with underage girls", and "underage Filipina" remarks.

Because it's not your preference, you'd like to characterize any relationship with an age gap outside of your acceptable 5-year limit as sick and perverted.

OK, whatever.

Edited November 28, 2006 by garya505