muslim marriage tips

[UmmSqueakster 54]

I thought rinsing/soaking the rice removed some of the starch stuck on the outside. *digs around for joy of cooking*

[jordanianprincess 0]

I thought rinsing/soaking the rice removed some of the starch stuck on the outside. *digs around for joy of cooking*

It does do that as well. You actually don't need to soak it to remove the starch, a good wash will take care of that. I bought a sieve/strainer large enough to fit 4 cups of uncooked rice. I wash my rice in it. Sooooo much easier.

[morocco4ever 63]

I used to cook minute rice, but I found the long grain rice that I have to drive an hour each way (bleh) to get is much better. I learned to cook it from my ex Iraqi bf. He rinsed it, then lightly fried it in a little oil, then boiled it for approx 15 min. put on a lid and finish cooking for an additional 5 minutes.

I don't know if each of these steps make a difference, but the rice is light and fluffy, not sticky, which is what I like.

[jordanianprincess 0]

I used to cook minute rice, but I found the long grain rice that I have to drive an hour each way (bleh) to get is much better. I learned to cook it from my ex Iraqi bf. He rinsed it, then lightly fried it in a little oil, then boiled it for approx 15 min. put on a lid and finish cooking for an additional 5 minutes.

I don't know if each of these steps make a difference, but the rice is light and fluffy, not sticky, which is what I like.

Sounds almost the same way I make my rice, lightly fry it, add water, salt, bring to a boil, let it simmer until done.

My favorites are Jasmine rice and Basmati.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I put that example because that is on my list... pretty good huh

Yeah but if I may, depending on where you live I'd also add making sure that the car is heated/air conditioned before she has to enter it.

Yes!! More good ideas. They ARE "outside" activities.

Oh he will make sure my tank is filled in more ways than one

Was that the peanut gallery response you were hoping for?

a-yup!

kind of brings up another muslim related marital topic though......so we're all on the same page, it's just not allowed to have sex when the woman is menstruating and no ####### but everything else is fine and dandy right? (that whole doing it through a hole in a sheet isn't real, right? )

I just saw this... I don't even know what to say. Doesn't know fiance know what he can and can't do?

[doodlebug 3]

Yes!! More good ideas. They ARE "outside" activities.

Oh he will make sure my tank is filled in more ways than one

Was that the peanut gallery response you were hoping for?

a-yup!

kind of brings up another muslim related marital topic though......so we're all on the same page, it's just not allowed to have sex when the woman is menstruating and no ####### but everything else is fine and dandy right? (that whole doing it through a hole in a sheet isn't real, right? )

I just saw this... I don't even know what to say. Doesn't know fiance know what he can and can't do?

sarah i'm disappointed in you!!!!

I posted that yesterday in your honor and you didn't even notice it till now????? you're slackin kiddo!

[sarah and hicham 3]

Yes!! More good ideas. They ARE "outside" activities.

Oh he will make sure my tank is filled in more ways than one

Was that the peanut gallery response you were hoping for?

a-yup!

kind of brings up another muslim related marital topic though......so we're all on the same page, it's just not allowed to have sex when the woman is menstruating and no ####### but everything else is fine and dandy right? (that whole doing it through a hole in a sheet isn't real, right? )

I just saw this... I don't even know what to say. Doesn't know fiance know what he can and can't do?

sarah i'm disappointed in you!!!!

I posted that yesterday in your honor and you didn't even notice it till now????? you're slackin kiddo!

Actually I'm pretty sure you were serious about this. Why wouldn't you be? You were when you asked these things before!

[doodlebug 3]

Actually I'm pretty sure you were serious about this. Why wouldn't you be?

Sometimes I *gasp* like to kid around.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Actually I'm pretty sure you were serious about this. Why wouldn't you be?

Sometimes I *gasp* like to kid around.

Say it ain't so.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

On topic for a brief moment:

Qur'an 30:21

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ~ِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات ٍ لِقَوْم ٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Wa Min 'Āyātihi 'An Khalaqa Lakum Min 'Anfusikum 'Azwājāan Litaskunū 'Ilayhā Wa Ja`ala Baynakum Mawaddatan Wa Raĥmatan 'Inna Fī Dhālika La'āyātin Liqawmin Yatafakkarūna

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.

A good exercise - reflect on the meanings of the words mawada and rahma - roughly translated as love/affection and mercy/compassion. What actions in a marriage would show mawada and rahma? What would you like your partner to do, to demonstrate love and compassion? What do you do for your partner, to show mawada and rahma?

[sarah and hicham 3]

Actually I'm pretty sure you were serious about this. Why wouldn't you be?

Sometimes I *gasp* like to kid around.

mhmm. Funny joke, just like the others.

[AichaKandisha 0]

On topic for a brief moment:

Qur'an 30:21

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ~ِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات ٍ لِقَوْم ٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Wa Min 'Āyātihi 'An Khalaqa Lakum Min 'Anfusikum 'Azwājāan Litaskunū 'Ilayhā Wa Ja`ala Baynakum Mawaddatan Wa Raĥmatan 'Inna Fī Dhālika La'āyātin Liqawmin Yatafakkarūna

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.

A good exercise - reflect on the meanings of the words mawada and rahma - roughly translated as love/affection and mercy/compassion. What actions in a marriage would show mawada and rahma? What would you like your partner to do, to demonstrate love and compassion? What do you do for your partner, to show mawada and rahma?

I love this rahma.

[sarachid 0]

On topic for a brief moment:

Qur'an 30:21

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ~ِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات ٍ لِقَوْم ٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Wa Min 'Āyātihi 'An Khalaqa Lakum Min 'Anfusikum 'Azwājāan Litaskunū 'Ilayhā Wa Ja`ala Baynakum Mawaddatan Wa Raĥmatan 'Inna Fī Dhālika La'āyātin Liqawmin Yatafakkarūna

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.

A good exercise - reflect on the meanings of the words mawada and rahma - roughly translated as love/affection and mercy/compassion. What actions in a marriage would show mawada and rahma? What would you like your partner to do, to demonstrate love and compassion? What do you do for your partner, to show mawada and rahma?

thank you Rama for this... I sent a copy to my husband and asked if I could do anything else to make him feel loved more..

[morocco4ever 63]

On topic for a brief moment:

Qur'an 30:21

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ~ِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات ٍ لِقَوْم ٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Wa Min 'Āyātihi 'An Khalaqa Lakum Min 'Anfusikum 'Azwājāan Litaskunū 'Ilayhā Wa Ja`ala Baynakum Mawaddatan Wa Raĥmatan 'Inna Fī Dhālika La'āyātin Liqawmin Yatafakkarūna

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.

A good exercise - reflect on the meanings of the words mawada and rahma - roughly translated as love/affection and mercy/compassion. What actions in a marriage would show mawada and rahma? What would you like your partner to do, to demonstrate love and compassion? What do you do for your partner, to show mawada and rahma?

thank you Rama for this... I sent a copy to my husband and asked if I could do anything else to make him feel loved more..

I wouldn't dare ask my husband this, I am sure his answer would embarass me!

[sarachid 0]

On topic for a brief moment:

Qur'an 30:21

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ~ِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجا ً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّة ً وَرَحْمَة ً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَات ٍ لِقَوْم ٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Wa Min 'Āyātihi 'An Khalaqa Lakum Min 'Anfusikum 'Azwājāan Litaskunū 'Ilayhā Wa Ja`ala Baynakum Mawaddatan Wa Raĥmatan 'Inna Fī Dhālika La'āyātin Liqawmin Yatafakkarūna

And one of His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.

A good exercise - reflect on the meanings of the words mawada and rahma - roughly translated as love/affection and mercy/compassion. What actions in a marriage would show mawada and rahma? What would you like your partner to do, to demonstrate love and compassion? What do you do for your partner, to show mawada and rahma?

thank you Rama for this... I sent a copy to my husband and asked if I could do anything else to make him feel loved more..

I wouldn't dare ask my husband this, I am sure his answer would embarass me!

I e-mailed him and asked... it was a very sweet answer

I know I will reqret this but what would your husband say??