muslim marriage tips

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

Charles - You have done quite a bit of instigating in this thread without adding anything of value. I don't think you realize that your comments fuel the fire. There is no reason for you to defend one member or another, we are all grown and can handle it ourselves.

who was i defending this time?

eta: i fail to see how my comments add fuel to this. it seems to be off and running on it's own. i was hoping my posting a pic of a train wreck would slow down things but apparently not

Edited November 28, 2006 by charlesandnessa

[doodlebug 3]

I put that example because that is on my list... pretty good huh

Yeah but if I may, depending on where you live I'd also add making sure that the car is heated/air conditioned before she has to enter it.

Yes!! More good ideas. They ARE "outside" activities.

Oh he will make sure my tank is filled in more ways than one

Was that the peanut gallery response you were hoping for?

a-yup!

kind of brings up another muslim related marital topic though......so we're all on the same page, it's just not allowed to have sex when the woman is menstruating and no ####### but everything else is fine and dandy right? (that whole doing it through a hole in a sheet isn't real, right? )

[ya falaha! 0]

Oh I've already hinted at how lovely and thoughtful it would be if a husband clears the snow off and warms up the wife's car in the morning.

[Caladan 19]

Recent convert?

[mybackpages 0]

Charles - You have done quite a bit of instigating in this thread without adding anything of value. I don't think you realize that your comments fuel the fire. There is no reason for you to defend one member or another, we are all grown and can handle it ourselves.

On the contrary he knows exactly what his actions are doing and that's the point.

Everyone else, seriously this is getting old. Every disagreement is labled as a train wreck. I don't see any personal attacks here. I don't see name calling. I don't understand why people have to make a big thing out of nothing. If people want to discuss this topic then thats all it is, a discussion not a train wreck. If you don't want to participate then don't read, why is that so hard to comprehend?

Now I know why you are called the Princess. where are those cookies?

[sarachid 0]

ok what if your husband said "wow I love when you make that special food" would you not make it when he was working late that day or had a bad day or was super hungry.... in turn what if you said " wow I love it when I get in my car and the tank is full, the inside and outside is clean, and my favorite scent tree is hanging up" would he not make sure that is done for you? if you do for him what he loves he will do for you what you love?? I think that is what Jackie meant....

I think Jackie said what she meant. She pretty clearly tied it to the removal of conditions on the green card. It's in the neighborhood of some 'let's all make adjustments when we marry and be super nice and happy' sentiments that are unobjectionable, but it's not the same thing.

Of course I do nice things for C., and he does nice things for me. We are in love, and both of us care about each other, and are adults. But if we get to the point where I'm thinking, gee, he's going to leave me UNLESS I MAKE LASAGNA, I think something much more fundamental in our relationship would be broken. My lasagna's pretty damn good, but there's limits to its power.

that is a good point too.... oh please pm me the recipe my lasagna always turns out runny

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

Charles - You have done quite a bit of instigating in this thread without adding anything of value. I don't think you realize that your comments fuel the fire. There is no reason for you to defend one member or another, we are all grown and can handle it ourselves.

On the contrary he knows exactly what his actions are doing and that's the point.

presumption on your part. or maybe you're just offended by my presence

[ya falaha! 0]

Oh God, Doodle...don't bring that into this forum! That kind of craziness only belongs on ES

Just a side note..I think the hole in the sheet thing was only brought up to make her look "special" or "unusual". I highly doubt she ever practiced that.

a-yup!

kind of brings up another muslim related marital topic though......so we're all on the same page, it's just not allowed to have sex when the woman is menstruating and no ####### but everything else is fine and dandy right? (that whole doing it through a hole in a sheet isn't real, right? )

Edited November 28, 2006 by moody

[jordanianprincess 0]

Charles - You have done quite a bit of instigating in this thread without adding anything of value. I don't think you realize that your comments fuel the fire. There is no reason for you to defend one member or another, we are all grown and can handle it ourselves.

On the contrary he knows exactly what his actions are doing and that's the point.

Everyone else, seriously this is getting old. Every disagreement is labled as a train wreck. I don't see any personal attacks here. I don't see name calling. I don't understand why people have to make a big thing out of nothing. If people want to discuss this topic then thats all it is, a discussion not a train wreck. If you don't want to participate then don't read, why is that so hard to comprehend?

Now I know why you are called the Princess. where are those cookies?

Here you go my dear....

[doodlebug 3]

Oh God, Doodle...don't bring that into this forum! That kind of craziness only belongs on ES

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

kind of brings up another muslim related marital topic though......so we're all on the same page, it's just not allowed to have sex when the woman is menstruating and no ####### but everything else is fine and dandy right? (that whole doing it through a hole in a sheet isn't real, right? )

[sarachid 0]

that's true... however what if before it was discussed what was expected from both persons and one person has not been keeping up with there expected part...and then close to the time that the time was expiring then the person realized they have not been keeping up with there part. Therefore they might just start doing what they discussed plus more to make up .... hehehe what do you think?

I think that's sick.

He can take his as$ back to where he came from if that's the kind of man he is.

I tried to make it for the man or the women... either case it is bad... but no one is perfect.. anyone can wake up one morning and say "wow I messed up, but I will try to make it right" ??

[Jenn! 918]

I tried to make it for the man or the women... either case it is bad... but no one is perfect.. anyone can wake up one morning and say "wow I messed up, but I will try to make it right" ??

Sure, but why would that time just *happen* to be around when your spouse is receiving the 10-year green card? Unless the green card somehow affects your marriage. Why should it?

[jordanianprincess 0]

I tried to make it for the man or the women... either case it is bad... but no one is perfect.. anyone can wake up one morning and say "wow I messed up, but I will try to make it right" ??

Sure, but why would that time just *happen* to be around when your spouse is receiving the 10-year green card? Unless the green card somehow affects your marriage. Why should it?

I complete agree. To me it sounds like a person would be using the fact that the man only has a 2 year conditional green card to their advantage.

[peezey 0]

Jackie said yesterday "it's in your power" referring to how a marriage will turn out, esp at GC time. When she posted that, I automatically went the "it's both party's responsibility" route, but now that I think more about it, she's right.

It is in the sponsor's power.

If you think your man might leave at GC time, YOU HAVE ALL THE POWER. Pull the dang application if you find out he's the kind of man who would leave for insignificant reasons once he gets what he wants from the relationship.