Disaster in the making?

[Sandra G. 5,043]

Why is he in such a hurry? He is young and unemployed and I bet they will end up living with his parents, what a start!

[confusedasheck 21]

I don't think some of the posters seem to understand that this is a region specific question. In Vietnam, getting engaged on the first in-person meeting is usually taken as a sign of immigration fraud by the US consulate.

Yes, her friend is a US citizen. I guess he is just so excited about the girl that he can't wait.

[bigdog 376]

You got to be kidding. Wait untill you at least can support your wife.

[quann 26]

Put Gowon in the "it's a disaster waiting to happen" line.

But I still wish them the best of luck though.

if you think it's going to be a disaster, don't wish them the best of luck...that would only make things worse. wish the CO will blue ball them and AP them for a couple years until they figure things out. i try not to be nice around here, you serve them better by being realistic (like 20/21 yr old coming here asking for marriage advice to a complete stranger from another country).

...and i agree with you gowon that's why i put up a jerry maguire reference.

Edited July 31, 2012 by quann

[abner137 48]

if you think it's going to be a disaster, don't wish them the best of luck...that would only make things worse. wish the CO will blue ball them and AP them for a couple years until they figure things out. i try not to be nice around here, you serve them better by being realistic (like 20/21 yr old coming here asking for marriage advice to a complete stranger from another country).

...and i agree with you gowon that's why i put up a jerry maguire reference.

Ummmm....disaster.......no matter what country......

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

if you think it's going to be a disaster, 1) don't wish them the best of luck...that would only make things worse. wish the CO will blue ball them and AP them for a couple years until they figure things out. 2) i try not to be nice around here, you serve them better by being realistic (like 20/21 yr old coming here asking for marriage advice to a complete stranger from another country).

...and i agree with you gowon that's why i put up a jerry maguire reference.

1) Well...luck as in winning the lottery and/or an aged relative kicking the bucket and leaving them a nice tidy sum

2) In Off Topic, Politics and Religion forums, yes, but I don't want to be placed in AP by the mods now do I?

[confusedasheck 21]

I asked my wife and she said none of his family in the US will come to the wedding. Seems like an uphill battle for him.

Edited July 31, 2012 by confusedasheck

[tan&tuyet 15]

OP your friend should wait until he gets a job before he marries Vietnam is very hard to get by if you are jobless. I am not saying that it is impossible but it is less than 1% chance that he will get approve. Your friend's family should sit down and rationalize with him.

[ScottThuy 140]

Those of us that have been through it know how the CO looks at the scenario and compares it to VN tradition... How often do you see a VN girls family agreeing to her marrying a MAN with no job? (in VN) I can see how the family would have the perception that US=$ but if we put it in real perspectives like if they were two people from and in VN, how much support would the relationship get from family?

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Post made by another duplicate account of the banned ex-member Dau Que has been removed and the account permanently banned.