Tourist Visa For Nigeria

[Dana and Divine 61]

I applaud you for standing your ground. Geesh I understand that many people are scammed by Nigerians and I pray for their hearts and get very angry with the scammers. But my God, not everyone who marries a Nigerian goes into their marriage blindly. I believe with every ounce of my strength if God is made the center of anyone's marriage and He has ordained it to be so it will be successful. I am glad the discouraging words did not discourage you. God bless you and your future with you husband. You go girl!

AMEN!

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

No, it's not too quick. That very scenario has played out here many times. THIS poster seems the exception. I wish her luck.

There is a time to caution someone and then there is a time to answer the question asked. To be aware of when to point out something and when to remain neutral, is called tact. We do not have to be the self appointed siren to blast warnings 24/7 every time someone new steps into the forum for information and we disagree with the way someone chooses to live their adult live. Until such advice is asked for, it is simply overkill to judge someone's relationship a recipe for disaster based on one small post. Don't kill a fly with a grenade. Compulsion to control plans of other adults with unkind and force full judgments is uncalled for and an auto pilot power trip. Assumptions and advice are not the same thing.

[TJ 4EVER 40]

There is a time to caution someone and then there is a time to answer the question asked. To be aware of when to point out something and when to remain neutral, is called tact. We do not have to be the self appointed siren to blast warnings 24/7 every time someone new steps into the forum for information and we disagree with the way someone chooses to live their adult live. Until such advice is asked for, it is simply overkill to judge someone's relationship a recipe for disaster based on one small post. Don't kill a fly with a grenade. Compulsion to control plans of other adults with unkind and force full judgments is uncalled for and an auto pilot power trip. Assumptions and advice are not the same thing.

Well said

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

I just have great respect and admiration for the OP.

She came back with a cool respons without getting her oars out of the water. This should be an inspiration to all.

[Erujeje and Ayira 6]

lol.. go head sistah.. lol.. I ain't mad at you..Congratulations and I hope it all goes beautifully for you.. I myself sent both the letter of invite and the info on my housing. Just to be sure all 3 times (on my way back to Nigeria next week).. I had a horrible experience the first time I applied, the lost my visa had to drive down to DC to get it one day before my flight!! So better to be safe than sorry.

Peace,

Chi

Peace Sis,

I really hope they dont lose my visa when that time come....

I just have great respect and admiration for the OP.

She came back with a cool respons without getting her oars out of the water. This should be an inspiration to all.

I have learned in my life that you can't battle someone with a negative comment, just handle them with love.....

Well said

[Erujeje and Ayira 6]

Thank you so much for saying that when they stated the comment "recipe for disaster" and "not making it past 3 years" I was like I thought we all were on the same journey trying to marry our Nigerian men and I thought this site was to support us Sistahs that are entering into the journey...Very well stated.

AMEN!

Amen....My thoughts with her negative words were Olorun mi (Oh my God)...what have I entered....

[souleymon 27]

As Much as u expect good Guilds here

U have to know some will intentionally

want to misdirect u with their yeye comment.

Getting ur visa wont be a Problem.

An Iv,plan for wedding n ur husby P page should do.

Welcome to VJ.

Happy Married Life in advance

[winnie george 67]

There is a time to caution someone and then there is a time to answer the question asked. To be aware of when to point out something and when to remain neutral, is called tact. We do not have to be the self appointed siren to blast warnings 24/7 every time someone new steps into the forum for information and we disagree with the way someone chooses to live their adult live. Until such advice is asked for, it is simply overkill to judge someone's relationship a recipe for disaster based on one small post. Don't kill a fly with a grenade. Compulsion to control plans of other adults with unkind and force full judgments is uncalled for and an auto pilot power trip. Assumptions and advice are not the same thing.

A big hug for this comment

[livindadream 156]

Thank you so much for saying that when they stated the comment "recipe for disaster" and "not making it past 3 years" I was like I thought we all were on the same journey trying to marry our Nigerian men and I thought this site was to support us Sistahs that are entering into the journey...Very well stated.

Amen....My thoughts with her negative words were Olorun mi (Oh my God)...what have I entered....

It's sad to say..but some people on here think that they are the only "Nigerian Queen"..that nobody else shud deserve to have a successful marriage with a Nigerian. Like..they are the only one entitled to go to Nigeria, marry a Nigerian, etc. It cracks me up. And those of you who know who you are that do this...then YES you are on blast front and center. It's a shame because comments like the ones you were given are the reason some of US are even afraid to ask questions yet this is what this site is supposed to be about. sheesh! On another note...when I went to Nigeria, I just filled out the visa app saying I'm going as a tourist and sent a print out of my hotel reservation. If you go the route of 'letter of invitation'..I think you're just making more work for yourself. Have a great trip and congrats on your upcoming marriage.

Edited July 20, 2012 by ibogal

[Faithful2012 34]

There is a time to caution someone and then there is a time to answer the question asked. To be aware of when to point out something and when to remain neutral, is called tact. We do not have to be the self appointed siren to blast warnings 24/7 every time someone new steps into the forum for information and we disagree with the way someone chooses to live their adult live. Until such advice is asked for, it is simply overkill to judge someone's relationship a recipe for disaster based on one small post. Don't kill a fly with a grenade. Compulsion to control plans of other adults with unkind and force full judgments is uncalled for and an auto pilot power trip. Assumptions and advice are not the same thing.

Now go ahead you need to PREACH...well said.

I just have great respect and admiration for the OP.

She came back with a cool respons without getting her oars out of the water. This should be an inspiration to all.

That's right.......Amen

[Faithful2012 34]

:ranting: :ranting: :ranting: :ranting: :ranting:

Funny, prejudice folks in America say the same thing about Inter-racial marriages...won't last no time... and that doesn't make it anymore true than the statistics I see here. Where can I find these numbers?

Yes, there are scammers everywhere, not just in Nigeria. They are all over the United States. We call them SALES PEOPLE, Marketers, Doctors, Lawyers, Secretaries, Bookkeepers...laborers..etc. Oh, and then there are those that SCAM the government claiming to be disabled to get a check for themselves and their children, or lie about their income and bills so they can get foodstamps. But bay-be...come Saturday night you can see them out all over town scrubbing the ground, drunk as all get out or in the liquor store or discount cigarette shop buying up everything but "what their kids need with the money". PLEASE...I'm so tired of people and their many prejudices. No, I don't approve of scamming, but to classify only ONE group of people as scammers is far from the absolute truth!

People lie and scam each other everyday. We can only answer for our own souls, our own choices and our own lives. That's all any of us should worry about. And furthermore,if we can't encourage and show each other some love, maybe we just shouldn't respond at all.

WELCOME TO VJ! GOD BLESS YOUR JOURNEY, YOUR MARRIAGE, AND YOUR LIFE!

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That is right....you too need to PREACH....Amen

[Faithful2012 34]

It's sad to say..but some people on here think that they are the only "Nigerian Queen"..that nobody else shud deserve to have a successful marriage with a Nigerian. Like..they are the only one entitled to go to Nigeria, marry a Nigerian, etc. It cracks me up. And those of you who know who you are that do this...then YES you are on blast front and center. It's a shame because comments like the ones you were given are the reason some of US are even afraid to ask questions yet this is what this site is supposed to be about. sheesh! On another note...when I went to Nigeria, I just filled out the visa app saying I'm going as a tourist and sent a print out of my hotel reservation. If you go the route of 'letter of invitation'..I think you're just making more work for yourself. Have a great trip and congrats on your upcoming marriage.

Very true statement.......100% agree....Its crazy, I do so much reading on this site....and sometimes I have to just SMH....at some of the responses. One thing I know is everyone is NEW at one point in time and its not right for anyone to assume anything just because on the first post you are not displaying every single detail.

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

I am glad others opted to call this behavior out, because yesterday I was fuming over the comments made, but kept myself to myself. All I can say today is I got over it, but kudos to you all for stepping up!

[Dana and Divine 61]

I am glad others opted to call this behavior out, because yesterday I was fuming over the comments made, but kept myself to myself. All I can say today is I got over it, but kudos to you all for stepping up!

TracyJo...you just stay silly! We need to laugh and you're def the one we come too when we need uplifting or someone to just pull on those kick butt boots...to give us a hand!

[dwheels76 5,468]

TracyJo...you just stay silly! We need to laugh and you're def the one we come too when we need uplifting or someone to just pull on those kick butt boots...to give us a hand!

I better than shut up cuz I am one of "those" misinformed met online, married on my first visit to my Nigerian King and oh yeah lets see I am by the way menopausal, pass child bearing years (I guess), clueless, and trolling the internet (or is that cougaring the internet) for young bucks to prey on.

Give me a flippin break..............Sorry had to vent. OP as I said befoe I love you. You go on with your bad self enjoy have fun and God bless you both.

Anyone else not feeling the love this OP is trying to convey. . We now return you to your VJ programing.