Nightmare of an Interview @ Mumbai 4/19

[SunDancer 0]

--Facebook meeting.

--Spent merely 10 days in person.

--Female petitioner is 38. With a child from a previous marriage.

--Male beneficiary is 24 from India.

Frankly, I am shocked that you are so shocked at this outcome.

Wow, I just have to say you have got to be the most negative person I have seen in a long time. Every time you post it is to always say something negative, or to belittle everyone on this forum. You can say whatever you like or think, however your opinions or thoughts don't matter to me, at the end of the day Harsh and I know who we are and what our feelings are for each regardless of much time we have spent together in person. We have known each other for over 2 years. And what does it matter if I have a child from a previous relationship? You know it amazes me that people can be so narrow minded. Of course we knew it would be tough and the age difference would come into play here, what I am shock at is how they treated Harsh. My god people treat their dogs better then he was treated. Its people like you that have to run at the mouth all the time and always have to put in your two cents that makes others not want to post on forums. Maybe you should to not be a negative Nelly all the time and try to be supportive of others struggles. My mom always says if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Some good advice maybe you should try it!!

Edited April 20, 2012 by SunDancer

[Boiler 45,153]

Wow, I just have to say you have got to be the most negative person I have seen in a long time. Every time you post it is to always say something negative, or to belittle everyone on this forum. You can say whatever you like or think, however your opinions or thoughts don't matter to me, at the end of the day Harsh and I know who we are and what our feelings are for each regardless of much time we have spent together in person. We have known each other for over 2 years. And what does it matter if I have a child from a previous relationship? You know it amazes me that people can be so narrow minded. Of course we knew it would be tough and the age difference would come into play here, what I am shock at is how they treated Harsh. My god people treat their dogs better then he was treated. Its people like you that have to run at the mouth all the time and always have to put in your two cents that makes others not want to post on forums. Maybe you should to not be a negative Nelly all the time and try to be supportive of others struggles. My mom always says if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Some good advice maybe you should try it!!

He did not state any opinions, just facts pertinent to the case.

[SunDancer 0]

Sundancer take this heed and get over there ASAP before ur case gets set back to USCIS.

And really take your emotions out and think like a CO and really examine your friends on Facebook your conversations. Hunni you would be surprised what folk say on Facebook (shock). I had a "friend" who was posting all on his wall I was his girl and giving me daily declarations. Look how you talk to men do you use words like I did "Babe. Hunni and sweetie" as terms of endearment.

They saw something that makes them think you were married and the little time together will not work in high fraud countries.

Yes gird yourself up and get what you need to do the battle and show the proof you need.

I pray you have a good lawyer that knows how to handle your embassy. This is no time for a novice to cut their teeth.

As far as my face book I don't talk to people on there other than my mom and my brother. The only thing I do is play games. Harsh and I do not even communicate via face book. And at one time there were two guys who did the whole I love you marry me thing one from Africa (Lagos) and the other from the same city as my fiancee', however I told them to leave me alone that I was not interested in them as I loved another. When continued to harass me I deleted them and blocked them.

[SunDancer 0]

oh gosh i wonder how they will treat me and my husband. there is a age difference.but that doesnt bothered me. .

to me age aint nothing but a number.

I now agree with you that age is a number, but at the beginning I had issues with the age difference. To talk to and know Harsh you would not believe he is 24. He is very mature mentally for his age. It is amazing how people don't have any problems when it is the guy who is older, but if it's the woman look out, everyone seems to get in an uproar over it. Makes no logical sense.

[Iyawo Ijebu 157]

what I am shock at is how they treated Harsh

Absolutely.

You Guys are as a couple, a paying customer adn thus require good customer serive, regardless is the petition was approved or not.

Any tax payer should be appaled at some of the stuff I am reading about the conduct of our public servants at our Embassies, if the allegations are true.

[Boiler 45,153]

Any tax payer should be appaled at some of the stuff I am reading about the conduct of our public servants at our Embassies, if the allegations are true.

At least they can not keep them apart.

[Iyawo Ijebu 157]

I now agree with you that age is a number, but at the beginning I had issues with the age difference. To talk to and know Harsh you would not believe he is 24. He is very mature mentally for his age. It is amazing how people don't have any problems when it is the guy who is older, but if it's the woman look out, everyone seems to get in an uproar over it. Makes no logical sense.

Well, from a legal standpoint it shouldn't matter but it does matter from a biological standpoint which I am now understanding that the Consulates makes their business. Sad in any case, but once one knows the perceived requirement then one must be prepared to engage on that level. I think this is what our "Sachinky" was hinting at.

This idea that every couple wants to, or can for that matter, produce offsprings is a fallacy and shouldn't be a benchmark for the petition decision.

[V+C 9]

Wow, I just have to say you have got to be the most negative person I have seen in a long time. Every time you post it is to always say something negative, or to belittle everyone on this forum. You can say whatever you like or think, however your opinions or thoughts don't matter to me, at the end of the day Harsh and I know who we are and what our feelings are for each regardless of much time we have spent together in person. We have known each other for over 2 years. And what does it matter if I have a child from a previous relationship? You know it amazes me that people can be so narrow minded. Of course we knew it would be tough and the age difference would come into play here, what I am shock at is how they treated Harsh. My god people treat their dogs better then he was treated. Its people like you that have to run at the mouth all the time and always have to put in your two cents that makes others not want to post on forums. Maybe you should to not be a negative Nelly all the time and try to be supportive of others struggles. My mom always says if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Some good advice maybe you should try it!!

Well said Amy!!! Please don't kick people when they are down. How horrible each one of us would feel if we were told we could not be with our loved ones....

[TimeTravel 78]

Well said Amy!!! Please don't kick people when they are down. How horrible each one of us would feel if we were told we could not be with our loved ones....

+1 , I must say that " sachinky " comments are really MEAN. I wish if he/she supports the people and share the solution for their hard time instead of being mean buddy.

[sachinky 464]

Wow, I just have to say you have got to be the most negative person I have seen in a long time. Every time you post it is to always say something negative, or to belittle everyone on this forum. You can say whatever you like or think, however your opinions or thoughts don't matter to me, at the end of the day Harsh and I know who we are and what our feelings are for each regardless of much time we have spent together in person. We have known each other for over 2 years. And what does it matter if I have a child from a previous relationship? You know it amazes me that people can be so narrow minded. Of course we knew it would be tough and the age difference would come into play here, what I am shock at is how they treated Harsh. My god people treat their dogs better then he was treated. Its people like you that have to run at the mouth all the time and always have to put in your two cents that makes others not want to post on forums. Maybe you should to not be a negative Nelly all the time and try to be supportive of others struggles. My mom always says if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. Some good advice maybe you should try it!!

Oh, awesome. Another one of those "agree with me about how horrible the consulate officers are or say nothing" posts. My favorite! These threads should be titled "please don't bother replying unless you are in agreement. If you disagree with me, you must be a horrible person." If you simply want a place to vent or are in need of some internet sympathy, then just say so. As far as I don't violate the VJ TOS, I believe I am allowed to post as and where I please. Not once did I say anything mean to you personally, I didn't attack your relationship or make any judgements about it. (However, you've already made several unwarranted personal attacks against me, because what I said was the truth, and you didn't like what you heard). I merely made a couple of observations that were apparent from your profile. Bullet points that fit an unfortunate pattern. You can bluster all day long about how you and Harsh know your relationship is real but at the end of the day, it matters whether you can prove that to a consulate officer who sees fraud on a daily basis. And you didn't. The picture you are painting needs to make sense and right now, it doesn't. It reeks of fraud, a text-book pattern Embassy officials are very aware of.

Again, I am not implying that you are in a sham-relationship or a judgement on your relationship -- but it is what it is. I have no idea who you are or who Harsh is but clearly you are very aware of my posting history. That's wonderful, I am sure you have noticed that I am not in the habit of mincing words, I have no time for cyber-hand-holding and sugar coating the truth. Life isn't unicorns and rainbows. Neither is immigration. I have sat in the Bombay consulate-general and watched passports being hurled across the room. My own interview lasted three minutes. I was treated with respect and courtesy. Others weren't. Life's not fair. Why should I lambast the consulate officers who are simply doing their jobs? Jobs that I certainly don't envy. But then again, why should you listen to me? What do I know? I will just go back to watching Food Network with Mr. Sachinky. It is none of my business how old you are, whether you have kids or not from a previous marriage, or how you met. Frankly, I couldn't care less, it will have zero effect on my Friday night. But it IS the US government's business and they certainly care given that you are requesting them to let your beloved enter on an immigrant visa. Here's a tip: the odds are stacked heavily against you. Drop the outrage, especially if you plan on being in this for the long haul.

He did not state any opinions, just facts pertinent to the case.

Minor correction: "She" -- but I am in agreement with you on the rest of the statement. Despite my best efforts, I have been unable to get Mr. Sachinky on VJ.

Well said Amy!!! Please don't kick people when they are down. How horrible each one of us would feel if we were told we could not be with our loved ones....

No one has told the OP that she cannot be with her loved one. She is free to move to India tomorrow if she so desires. It is what we would've done if my CR-1 visa wasn't successful. We, as a country, are very open and non-discriminatory when it comes to handing out visas.

+1 , I must say that " sachinky " comments are really MEAN. I wish if he/she supports the people and share the solution for their hard time instead of being mean buddy.

How was I mean? Because I wasn't "supportive" as you claim? What should I say? "Oh honey, don't worry, everything is going to be fine. Just fight the good fight, girlfriend." How on God's good green earth is that helpful or constructive? You want a "solution" --here's my advice. Move to India to be with your Indian fiance. No amount of letter writing to a Congressman or all the righteous indignation in the world is going to squeeze a visa out of Bombay.

Edited April 21, 2012 by sachinky

[TimeTravel 78]

You want a "solution" --here's my advice. Move to India to be with your Indian fiance. No amount of letter writing to a Congressman or all the righteous indignation in the world is going to squeeze a visa out of Bombay.

Exactly! You needed to give straight forward solution that you gave now. That would be much better.

[V+C 9]

No one has told the OP that she cannot be with her loved one. She is free to move to India tomorrow if she so desires. It is what we would've done if my CR-1 visa wasn't successful. We, as a country, are very open and non-discriminatory when it comes to handing out visas.

In response Mrs. Sachinky:

Some of us have great jobs, with retirement, a house, kids, family.....We can not just on a whim go okay I will move to India then. Maybe if I was in my early twenty's and not established in life I could just do that. Not saying that I would not go and live with him in India, but we have been apart for long enough and if I need to move to India it will be a long process also. Yes it is very sad that it is not so easy to get a visa to be with your loved one. Also it is great to give honest advice, but stating the obvious holes in her case does not help. She knows just like I and you about where the holes are in our cases that we could have more evidence. She was hoping that what they had would be enough and she was disappointed and upset that they denied him his visa and how they treated him. I would feel the same.

[Boiler 45,153]

Some of us have great jobs, with retirement, a house, kids, family.....We can not just on a whim go okay I will move to India then.

Would that not be part of your thought processes when getting involved in such a relationship.

You could replace LA and NY, principal is the same.

Maybe if I was in my early twenty's and not established in life I could just do that. Not saying that I would not go and live with him in India, but we have been apart for long enough and if I need to move to India it will be a long process also.

I moved when I was well past my 20's, it can be done!

Also it is great to give honest advice, but stating the obvious holes in her case does not help.

She may know, but it certainly did not come across that way in the initial post.

She knows just like I and you about where the holes are in our cases that we could have more evidence. She was hoping that what they had would be enough and she was disappointed and upset that they denied him his visa and how they treated him. I would feel the same.

Go back and re read the original post.

[V+C 9]

Would that not be part of your thought processes when getting involved in such a relationship.

I knew nothing about visa's.....We started dating and did not plan on falling in love. I had no idea of this long process of getting a visa to be with the person you love. Call me ignorant I don't care....I did not look for a long distance relationship....I did not seek out someone in a different country. I met my Fiancee here in the US 35 miles away from me and had no idea how this would go. Fell in love and that is it.

I moved when I was well past my 20's, it can be done!

I know it can be done, but it is difficult and a long process in it self. Not easy

[Peter_Pan 661]

oh gosh i wonder how they will treat me and my husband. there is a age difference.but that doesnt bothered me. .

to me age aint nothing but a number.

Wonder if you will say the same when your barely legal daughter brings home a man in his 60s.