Interview coming up - short on evidence

[anatidae 0]

Hi all

My interview will be coming up in Auckland soon, and I'm a little worried about having evidence supporting the ongoing relationship. Erik left New Zealand in August last year to go back to school, and since then we have chatted every day, via WhatsApp, Viber (iPhone call app) and on vZo video chat. Neither Viber nor vZo have very extensive history to show, however, so I'm hesitant as to what to bring along to the interview. We don't email often, because we chat in so many other different mediums and are in almost constant contact. Would a statutory declaration by myself detailing how we communicate and why I can't provide clear evidence of it, be a good idea? I'm so lost right now, and wondering if this will trip us up, despite the fact that we are in contact literally every day.

Thanks!

[mugumogu 18]

First of all, bring everything you can possibly bring that would act as evidence. Secondly, this won't trip you up. They know video chat is popular now and hard to capture. You're only one of a thousand people they interview every day that has the same problem. A statutory declaration is overkill x 10. Not necessary.

[sabi 148]

we talk through viber too so I just take a screen shot of the history every few days and I put it in word doc (6 screen shots on one page) the same with Skype and the same with our iMessages on iPhone screenshots all the way. There is no other way to have a log of our chats/calls as we have them all for free via iPhone

[cacahuete 2]

Just print out a few pages of the chat history if you can, and copies of any emails you do have. Make sure you also take photos of the two of you together. Also take any letters or cards you have.

I had my interview in Auckland last year and I took three letters, two cards, copies of about five emails and about five photos. They didn't ask to see any evidence at all but you should always be prepared.

[anatidae 0]

Thanks so much for the replies, particularly from the person whose interview was actually in Auckland as it gives me more of a feel for what they're after. Thank you so much

[mixxerr0se 0]

I have my interview (in Auckland) tomorrow, and here are some of the things I am using as evidence:

A few cards and letters we have sent to each other. Some packing slips from packages sent to each other, or receipts from the postage for them. Receipts from engagement ring. Chat logs / emails. Receipts / confirmations from fiance sending my mother flowers, or sending things to me that my friends have ordered from the States but cannot get shipped to NZ (on Amazon etc). Screenshots from Facebook showing photos I have uploaded of things he has sent me (did them from FB so that it was clear we are very obviously / publicy in a relationship). We have been apart the whole time we have been doing this process so we have no "ongoing" relationship photos of us together. Also some MS Paint drawings (silly things) we have done for each other. Um. Screenshot of my timeline on FB showing various things relating to us - the start of relationship, my trip to Seattle to first meet him, the engagement. I know this was all before we were separated so not really "ongoing" but the fact that it is all public I am hoping shows that we are still very much together and in a relationship etc. I showed the date in the bottom of my computer screen to show when they were taken. Also screenshots of both of our pages where it shows "Engaged to:" with the date also. Other screenshots from various places we have interacted around the internet. Some phone logs from fiance with his calls to me highlighted. That's about it, I know a lot of these won't be applicable to you since as you said most of your interactions are hard to track, being video calls and all haha, but I actually thought the same would be true of us, we are mostly in touch that way too, but I still managed to find quite a few things. Hopefully you can adapt some of those ideas to suit you! When is your interview?? I am so nervous / excited for mine tomorrow! After tomorrow if you need any help with anything re. the interview just send me a message, as I will have gone through it! (: