She's doing it again.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

Hey Hank...double espresso at Starbucks in the Philippines sounds good right about now, ahaha

:thumbs: smell the coffee too ~ double espresso yet

[Hank_ 9,174]

Hey Hank...double espresso at Starbucks in the Philippines sounds good right about now, ahaha

We will be heading to Seattle's Best.... trip down memory lane.

Got a surprise call yesterday from 2GO they were going to be delivering Amy's visa. :dance: Must say the visa is very colorful and nice looking.

[duriantaste 44]

As I've said before, the book, 'His needs, her needs' would help both of you a lot. Therapy is a no brainer....you gotta do it or you will have continued unhappiness dude.

No Offense....let me ask you. Did you hire a lawyer for your K1 process? For them hiring a therapy is like hiring a lawyer for K1 process. Just a waste of time and money. They are having sweet little moments and he is confusing that with problems.

Back to the subject:

The lady is expecting a baby. Give her a break. Maybe she has no idea how to deal with this.

I got to tell you some times they are way to playful and sweet. We just need to know how to interpret them.

I still think you have a cute spoiled girl. Take good care of her!

[Laser1 63]

No Offense....let me ask you. Did you hire a lawyer for your K1 process? For them hiring a therapy is like hiring a lawyer for K1 process. Just a waste of time and money. They are having sweet little moments and he is confusing that with problems.

I don't think that makes sense. The type of people who visit Visa Journey for advice are usually those who would not need a lawyer; but others certainly may need one. But those who visit Visa Journey for marriage advice probably DO need therapy.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

No offense taken.....I did not hire a lawyer, as the K1 process is something I felt I could handle on my own...with the help of some friends on here. A therapist, I used, because it was something I felt I could not handle on my own. I had a hernia operation a few years ago, I hired a doc for that, didn't do it myself, hahah. Some things are better off left to the experts.

I would hardly call what she is doing as cute and playful, she has some emotional issues that need to be dealt with...obviously the OP isn't happy with what is going on, and its not cute and playful to him, sir.

According to OP she acted like that before being preggo, so you can't use that for the reason to act childish. And people have been having babies for a few years now, ahaha, and most know how to deal with it as an adult, in an adult manner.

I find that interesting how you used the word, 'they' and said 'they are cute and playful'....who is this 'they' sir? That's the same as saying blacks are like this, or that, or Japanese men are like this or that....I am not a fan of stereotyping people sir.

So I, personally feel, just about anyone could benefit from therapy, and the OP and his wife most certainly could...just my 2cents.

No Offense....let me ask you. Did you hire a lawyer for your K1 process? For them hiring a therapy is like hiring a lawyer for K1 process. Just a waste of time and money. They are having sweet little moments and he is confusing that with problems.

Back to the subject:

The lady is expecting a baby. Give her a break. Maybe she has no idea how to deal with this.

I got to tell you some times they are way to playful and sweet. We just need to know how to interpret them.

I still think you have a cute spoiled girl. Take good care of her!

I don't think that makes sense. The type of people who visit Visa Journey for advice are usually those who would not need a lawyer; but others certainly may need one. But those who visit Visa Journey for marriage advice probably DO need therapy.

[duriantaste 44]

I just hope no one got offended but for me:

Therapist are what they are the'rapist'. It is a nice way to waste money. Who can tell another person what to think or act? She just playful girl. And I am sure he just over-reacting.

The'rapists know how to manipulate people to milk money out of them. If the customers don't come back they can't pay their bills.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

Have you been to a therapist? I would assume so sir, as you said, 'they tell a person what to think and act'....I've been and she certainly never told me how to act or think in any fashion. It was actually about 'feelings' and connecting your past with your present....YOU are the one that tells yourself how to think and act.

Sure, like any company, they need customers to make money, they provide a service and should be compensated, so that is correct sir.

Interesting how strongly you have reacted to the therapy topic. Its not for everyone, obviously.

BTW, the 'girl' you speak of is a woman, and a married woman...hardly a 'girl' anymore. She is not a child, but as long as you classify her as a 'girl' its easy to allow her to behave as a child....

Interesting...hmm

I just hope no one got offended but for me:

Therapist are what they are the'rapist'. It is a nice way to waste money. Who can tell another person what to think or act? She just playful girl. And I am sure he just over-reacting.

The'rapists know how to manipulate people to milk money out of them. If the customers don't come back they can't pay their bills.

[duriantaste 44]

Have you been to a therapist? I would assume so sir, as you said, 'they tell a person what to think and act'....I've been and she certainly never told me how to act or think in any fashion. It was actually about 'feelings' and connecting your past with your present....YOU are the one that tells yourself how to think and act.

Sure, like any company, they need customers to make money, they provide a service and should be compensated, so that is correct sir.

Interesting how strongly you have reacted to the therapy topic. Its not for everyone, obviously.

BTW, the 'girl' you speak of is a woman, and a married woman...hardly a 'girl' anymore. She is not a child, but as long as you classify her as a 'girl' its easy to allow her to behave as a child....

Interesting...hmm

No, no need to visit them. I have a heart to do good in life and a mind to think correctly. When in doubt about any un'natural behavior, I contact God. The all mighty.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

Ahhh, another piece of the puzzle fits into place.... Take care friend.

No, no need to visit them. I have a heart to do good in life and a mind to think correctly. When in doubt about any un'natural behavior, I contact God. The all mighty.

[actob99 156]

We will be heading to Seattle's Best.... trip down memory lane.

Got a surprise call yesterday from 2GO they were going to be delivering Amy's visa. :dance: Must say the visa is very colorful and nice looking.

Very cool to have in hand... It better look nice for all the time, money, sweat, and stress.... Better go top shelf at the coffee shop for a celebration. Tagay

[Ron and Rhea 42]

SWEET...congrats Hank and Amy. I know you guys are stoked.

So when are you two flying back home?

We will be heading to Seattle's Best.... trip down memory lane.

Got a surprise call yesterday from 2GO they were going to be delivering Amy's visa. :dance: Must say the visa is very colorful and nice looking.

[Dan and Judy 614]

The lady is expecting a baby. Give her a break. Maybe she has no idea how to deal with this.

I got to tell you some times they are way to playful and sweet. We just need to know how to interpret them.

I still think you have a cute spoiled girl. Take good care of her!

Let's put the playful sweet only acting out because she is pregnant fallacy to bed.

This is a post from before she was pregnant.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/319383-what-did-i-do-wrong/

Posted 13 July 2011 - 08:29 PMA little back story on this one. Charry at a young age had a leg injury that did not heal properly resulting in an gastrocnemius equinus contracture. Basically she could not place one of her feet flat on the ground. Once she found out that this could be corrected through surgery she wanted to have it.

Me being the typical husband and wanting everything for my family, currently consisting of just the 2 of us, I found out if it was covered by our insurance and we scheduled the operation. The surgery took place last week, and while not a 100% success the result was favorable.

I work in technical support and as such take phone calls as a part of my job. I am currently working from home to help her as she should not be moving around much for the first week and a half, and she is on crutches, so she can't carry much of anything.

Everything was going fine until yesterday. She had a friend come over, not a problem. I took my lunch break and made lunch for us and her friend brought over some food too. We had a nice lunch, and then I went back to work.

She and her friend were chatting in the other room using their, I'm sitting across from you but I have to scream at you, voices, when a call came in that I had to take. I politely asked her if they could go into the next room over or keep their voices down. A few mins later, still on the same call and having trouble hearing the customer because they apparently didn't listen to me, I asked again. About an hour later after getting off the call I found out why it had gotten quiet, she kicked her friend out.

She is now mad at me saying she wants to leave me because I was rude. She says she wants to leave me saying that she doesn't love me anymore.

She is now trying to do everything for herself and is fighting me over it. If I try to help her she throwsthings around the house, mostly water bottles, but also 2 3-5 lb dumbells, her laptop, at least 1 of the 2 month old kittens, though that was more gently and with a "wee" sound on her part, and other assorted items. She has threatened to break the new AC, hit me with her crutches, a full on swing not anything accidental. She also hit her computer with the crutches too trying to make me mad or something. All that ended up doing was making her more upset when the laptop stopped working.

Without my knowledge, she has taken a bath by herself, the bath part is fine, its the getting in and out of the tub on her own that is dangerous. She somehow cooked her lunch and got a plate and food over to the kitchen table. She has not done it safely however as she burnt herself with hot water while cooking.

She has even snuck out twice taking the car, her driving foot is fine. In the process her wrappings are now coming undone, whether that's from her putting on pants she should not be wearing with her foot wrapped, or just from all the activity she is doing. She has also hurt her leg, but won't tell me what is wrong, take any of the pain medication, or let me take her to the hospital.

What did I do wrong? How can I fix this? And how can I get her to let me help her?

[Ron and Rhea 42]

Most excellent D&J...oh, next to , 'playful and sweet' you forgot that she is only a 'girl'....'playful, sweet girl'...sounds like we are speaking about a 14 year old, not a full grown, married woman....good post, btw.

[duriantaste 44]

Maybe there is some confusion. Maybe I, don't know all the story. I know she is not a little girl. But for some reason, I believe that she is doing is just some playful thing. Don't be surprised that in two years from now those two will be happier than romeo and juliet and will laugh at this post.

You got to love'em when they act like that...so cute, sweet, and innocent.

[Tahoma 2,292]

Don't be surprised that in two years from now those two will be happier than romeo and juliet and will laugh at this post.

Hmmm...Heartbroken Romeo poisoned himself to death and heartbroken Juliet stabbed herself to death.

Hmmm....I'm thinking most couples would be happier than that!

Hmmm...I guess some trolls are smarter than others.