second interview in usa ebassy lima peru

[K & J 17]

You have an attitude and that is not going to help you at the interview. People here are asking questions because they are trying to help you, not because they are being judgmental. They are preparing you for cross-examination, for the tough questions.

The fact that you sent money to your husband is good (the other way would have been bad).

Also, I do not know why you keep saying your husband dresses nicely. Are you trying to imply that he has a good socio-economic status and therefore does not need to immigrate to the USA for money? Showing the Embassy that you do not need to come to the USA to succeed financially is always a good thing (because that means you are moving to the USA for love, obviously). But dressing nicely does not do the trick. Bluntly put, Peru is a very "classist" (not racist) country. There are basically 3 questions to determine if you belong to class A or B (it might not be PC but it is reality in Peru, so much, that all polls give their results based on classes): 1) What is your last name, 2) What school/college did you attend, 3) Where do you live (district). Those 3 simple questions are the ones that will give you a tourist visa. The Embassy knows that the people with the right answers are not going to stay in the US illegally.

I know that your application is for a spouse visa. But if your husband ever had a valid tourist visa, then most red flags will turn orange.

[ShellyO 0]

You have an attitude and that is not going to help you at the interview. People here are asking questions because they are trying to help you, not because they are being judgmental. They are preparing you for cross-examination, for the tough questions.

The fact that you sent money to your husband is good (the other way would have been bad).

Also, I do not know why you keep saying your husband dresses nicely. Are you trying to imply that he has a good socio-economic status and therefore does not need to immigrate to the USA for money? Showing the Embassy that you do not need to come to the USA to succeed financially is always a good thing (because that means you are moving to the USA for love, obviously). But dressing nicely does not do the trick. Bluntly put, Peru is a very "classist" (not racist) country. There are basically 3 questions to determine if you belong to class A or B (it might not be PC but it is reality in Peru, so much, that all polls give their results based on classes): 1) What is your last name, 2) What school/college did you attend, 3) Where do you live (district). Those 3 simple questions are the ones that will give you a tourist visa. The Embassy knows that the people with the right answers are not going to stay in the US illegally.

I know that your application is for a spouse visa. But if your husband ever had a valid tourist visa, then most red flags will turn orange.

You are right. I am sorry for being so defensive I need to reread before I reply to anyone. I dont know about the clothes thing I thought he had made a mistsake by dressing in what he usually doesnt dress in. I wished I had know that our ages would have been a red flag I would have been their for his first interview. Yes I realize that everyone is trying to help, after monday I have been on the defensive with everyone. Not that I can recall did he ever have anything but a pasaporte from Peru.

I was the one who has been sending money for the last 2 yearsa to help when someone in the family gets sick or when my husband needed to hire a lawyer for some legal issues on his moms house. So I can say that I have been sending my husband money each month?? Please forgive my attitude I am feeling like I have done something wrong when I havent.

[ShellyO 0]

Oh I understand what they think to be factual but I know that I love my husband. I am also taking care of my dying mother, work full times, go to college fulltime, and yes thank god the internet has cameras like skype, hotmail messnager etc. I know that I love my husband and that is what counts whether I lived with hik or not we have never lost contact. Thank you

I would like to apoligze to you as well. My Attitude was not jelping and now I amgoing to start getting prepare for this next interview. Thanls again for your help.

[El Cachalote 12]

I wish you and your pareja good things. Society, unfortunately is this way...sin embargo...SIGUE, SIGUE ADELANTE!!!

If the love is true, then you cannot fail.

BUENA SUERTE A USTEDES!

Sincerely,

Magnus

Edited March 15, 2012 by El Cachalote

[Peter&Jaime 1]

Unfortunately this is common for the Lima Embassy. Contact jm&mcs. They had a similar experience about 5 years ago. He is about 20 years younger than her and they gave them a terribly hard time at the interview. Lucky she was there with him and they just stuck to their guns and eventually walked away with the visa. As far as I know they are still happily married.

If I was in your shoes I would bring proof my mother's illness. Perhaps a letter from her doctor stating she needs personal care. Letters from family and friends. The fact that you have not seen each other in 18 months compounds the age issue. When you go in there have everything with you to prove your marriage is real: phone records, letters, pictures, affidavits, receipts for sending funds to him. You have to prove that even though you have not seen each other in 18 months that you are still very much a couple. You will both be taken two separate rooms where they will grill you. Make sure your prepared because they will try to break you.

Edited March 15, 2012 by Peter'n'Jaime

[ShellyO 0]

I wish you and your pareja good things. Society, unfortunately is this way...sin embargo...SIGUE, SIGUE ADELANTE!!!

If the love is true, then you cannot fail.

BUENA SUERTE A USTEDES!

Sincerely,

Magnus

GRACIAS MUCHAS GRACIAS HOY TENGO LA ESFUERZAS PARA SIGUE DELANTE Y YO AMO ME ESPOSO Y VOY TENER TODO LISTO POR EL 20 DE APRIL. SOCIETY IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE THAT WAY. THE LOVE IS REAL AND NOW I KNOW WHAT I AM UP AGAINST I WILL PREPARE FOR THIS INTERVIEW AND HAVE ALL THE DOCUMENTS I NEED TO BACK MY CASE. I CAN HARDLE WAIT TO SHOW THEM THE MANY REASONS WHY ME AND MY HUSBAND CHOSE FOR ME NOT TO COME DOWN BEFORE. WE HAD WEB CAM WE HAD TELEPHONES WE HAD FIGHTS LIKE OTHER WOULD THAT FIRST YEAR. DIOS MIO PERO DESDE TODO NOS AMAS MAS QUE NUNCA.

DIOS BENIDGA GRACIAS OTRA VES

[ShellyO 0]

Unfortunately this is common for the Lima Embassy. Contact jm&mcs. They had a similar experience about 5 years ago. He is about 20 years younger than her and they gave them a terribly hard time at the interview. Lucky she was there with him and they just stuck to their guns and eventually walked away with the visa. As far as I know they are still happily married.

If I was in your shoes I would bring proof my mother's illness. Perhaps a letter from her doctor stating she needs personal care. Letters from family and friends. The fact that you have not seen each other in 18 months compounds the age issue. When you go in there have everything with you to prove your marriage is real: phone records, letters, pictures, affidavits, receipts for sending funds to him. You have to prove that even though you have not seen each other in 18 months that you are still very much a couple. You will both be taken two separate rooms where they will grill you. Make sure your prepared because they will try to break you.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL THIS. I NEEDED TO KNOW THAT IT WASNT JUST ME. ME AND MY HUSBAND WERE DISCUSING THIS AND HE SAID IT IS BECOMING MORE COMMON FOR OLDER WOMEN AND PERUVIAN MEN TO MARRY. EVEN THOUGH SOCIETY AND THE EMBASSY DONT LOOK AT IT THAT WAY THATS OK. NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THIS INTERVIEW, IF I HAVE TO COME BACK AND CONTACT MY CONGRESSMEN AND THE NVC IN WASHINTON DC I WILL NOT LET THIS SEPERATE ME AND MY HUSBAND WE HAVE FOUGHT TO HARD TO GET TO WERE WE ARE GOING. I AM THE ONE WHO WANTED TO START HIS VISA AS SOON AS WE GOT MARRIED HE SAID TO WAIT. MAYBE THEY SHOULD START DOING THIS IS THE STATES WHEN YOU MARRY A REGUALR CITIZEN OF THE USA AND WE COULD MAYBE AVOID ALL THE HEAD HUNTERS LOL JOKE. THANKS FOR THE ADIVCE I WILL GO IN WITH A SMILE AND BE THE POLITE CUSTOMER SERIVCE PERSON I AM ALSO MANAGER OF THE MOST ELEGANT CONODS IN THE PACICIC NORTH WEST. I WILL CONTANT THEM HAVE A GREAT DAY.

Edited March 16, 2012 by ShellyO

[TBoneTX 45,063]

OP, PLEASE quit typing in all caps.

If I was in your shoes I would bring proof my mother's illness. Perhaps a letter from her doctor stating she needs personal care. Letters from family and friends. The fact that you have not seen each other in 18 months compounds the age issue. When you go in there have everything with you to prove your marriage is real: phone records, letters, pictures, affidavits, receipts for sending funds to him. You have to prove that even though you have not seen each other in 18 months that you are still very much a couple. You will both be taken two separate rooms where they will grill you. Make sure your prepared because they will try to break you.

Do ALL of this. In addition, get yourself to Lima a couple of days before the Stokes interview, take zillions of fotos of the two of you together in different situations and clothing, print out the fotos, and bring them to the interview.