Husband denied, pending USCIS decision

[batista1880 3]

to tell u the truth it doesnt really matter age or anything in front of a consul i had my interview on March 5 2012 im 29 and my husband is 32 we were denied under 2 sections first beccause i divorced and remarry whithin 2 months being separated and divorced under Abandoment for 4 years from my ex i traveled more than 2 times a year and stil that wasnt enough for the consul the other was false materials that we presented which at no time we done but then again its based on luck i wasnt ask to show proof i was just degraded and that is why i am going to fight this battle to the end there r so many people that get away with Fraud and the ones that r really togeter for love gets denied but only if u give up which i am not even if i have to move to where my SI lives i will but no way will i let a decisiom from a consul take away all i worked for and my happiness

[suganspyce42 5]

So we are to be denied because this process has sucked every last bit of money, and I cannot afford to go back over?

I am speechless, (well not really but I refuse to voice my actual opinion here)

Honey keep your head up. My husband is from my nigeria but he is currently an international student in another country. I am 13 yrs older and I am staying prayed up, I know God will see us through because it's true love. I spent 2 months with him when I vacationed from work but I can't take another trip right now and neither are we able to afford it right now but God will see us through, I know he will because I am a firm believer in his word. Try again and again if you must. You have all the leverage you need.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Nigeria is a mess to get through. It is because some Nigerians will do anything to get a visa to the US. They run out and get multiple passports, with slightly different data to apply many times for a visa, they will pair up with people who aren't their spouses to come in under the DV lottery and they will form relationships with people they find physically disgusting to enter as a fiance or spouse ( at least until they have a green card in hand ) People here have had Nigerian partners run off within a month of arrival, and have discovered that their Nigerian partners have "real" spouses/children hidden from them . The consulate is trying to stop this and sometimes it is a royal pain the the behind for those of us that fall into their generic profile of someone being taken advantage of. The more you fall into the possible victim profile the further you have to go to show them you know what you are about and that you have thoughly vetted your partner to be. If you are determined to get through Lagos you have to listen to the tough love , go the extra mile and you will prevail. Many people run over on a wave of lust and marry only to be disappointed that they don't satisfy the unwritten requirements of time together and proof of a relationship to get a visa out of Lagos.

[favored 31]

Honey keep your head up. My husband is from my nigeria but he is currently an international student in another country. I am 13 yrs older and I am staying prayed up, I know God will see us through because it's true love. I spent 2 months with him when I vacationed from work but I can't take another trip right now and neither are we able to afford it right now but God will see us through, I know he will because I am a firm believer in his word. Try again and again if you must. You have all the leverage you need.

I get irritated when all people say is God.. prayer without work is nothing.. ok.. you need to do the work and then pray for the labor you do be blessed and favored... do you think people that go approve did not pray? but i tell you they make all the paper work and sacrifices needed. do you think people that got denied because they have suspect/false documents do not pray? This journey is not easy, so why leave your self open to setback.. so if the CO says we deny you cuz you did not make another trip.. you will then go home and wish you had made that trip or be willing to trade that trip for anything at that point? i understand times are hard and money is not easy, but if things are very tough now and you can't make trip, how can you show support on the I-134 then. so why not make that trip now and pray God sees you effort and makes it all worthwhile at the end... is it an evil spirit that resides in all COs?

Edited March 8, 2012 by favored

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

to tell u the truth it doesnt really matter age or anything in front of a consul i had my interview on March 5 2012 im 29 and my husband is 32 we were denied under 2 sections first beccause i divorced and remarry whithin 2 months being separated and divorced under Abandoment for 4 years from my ex i traveled more than 2 times a year and stil that wasnt enough for the consul the other was false materials that we presented which at no time we done but then again its based on luck i wasnt ask to show proof i was just degraded and that is why i am going to fight this battle to the end there r so many people that get away with Fraud and the ones that r really togeter for love gets denied but only if u give up which i am not even if i have to move to where my SI lives i will but no way will i let a decisiom from a consul take away all i worked for and my happiness

Nope. You were denied for lack of punctuation.

Just kidding...

Age doesn't matter at some consulates, but it's a very big deal at some others. It depends very much on what would be considered socially acceptable in the beneficiary's country. In many cultures the primary purpose of marriage is to produce a family. In those cultures it would be unusual for a woman to enter a marriage if she was nearing the end of her child bearing years.

Also, in some cultures it's considered unusual for someone to marry outside of their race, religion, or social group. The couple might be subjected to persecution or ridicule.

Neither one of these is proof positive that the relationship is a sham, but they do cause a consular officer to wonder if the relationship would exist if immigration was not a factor. Would the beneficiary be as willing to break those cultural taboos if they were going to continue to live in that country? A consular officer in Lagos would usually conclude that they would not, and they'd deny the visa.

[tan&tuyet 15]

My husband is 12 years my junior.

I am a permanent US resident, filed the I-130, husband went for his interview which lasted all of 5 minutes and the man recommended our case be closed, verbally stating to my husband, it is their belief that with the age difference it is for relocating purposes only. He claimed we had no proof of relationship.

This could be the problem too right OP is not a US citizen but a green card holder?

[VanessaTony 3,567]

This could be the problem too right OP is not a US citizen but a green card holder?

No... Because she corrected herself a couple of posts later, she is a citizen

[Summer75 16]

This could be the problem too right OP is not a US citizen but a green card holder?

If you keep reading below, you will see OP clarified she is a US citizen...

[AlexBa 5]

I appreciate all your advices, but really this site has only sent me back into depression mode. Good luck to you all! As for me, I shall go back to relying on God to see this is done!

[AlexBa 5]

Don't give up too quick. There are times you can fly to Nigeria that aren't too bad like NOW. I just flew there from JFK to Lagos for $795.00. Way betther that the 1300.00 I will be paying over the summer! I've flown twice now with Arik Air.

I feel for your husband because the interviewer who spoke with my husband was not kind. Asked very few questions and didn't look at any of the extra evidence my husband (then fiance) had brought with him. We are not giving up and this time I am sending in a ton of stuff, not for the US but for the consulate in Lagos!!!

[tan&tuyet 15]

If you keep reading below, you will see OP clarified she is a US citizen...

My bad people I guess I miss that part

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

Ok so u really need to make another visit. One visit is not good enough whereas you are husband and wife. Also you need to show proof of joint ownership if possible. Think of things that you could put his name on as well. They will send it back, and will ask for more proof. Get a joint bank account in his country if you could. If you could put him on your lease, insurance, benificiary would help as well. I am in contact with others on here where the ages are man 24 and wife 52 and another man 28 and wife 55?. USCIS is asking for more proof to make sure the relationship is bona fide. Most important please make sure your name has changed whereas you now carry your husbands last name. Hope some of this helps.

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

@ Renee, I have added him everywhere I could without a SSN, my name has been changed everywhere, all that evidence was submitted with our paperwork. The man said we had enough proof, no additional evidence was needed, the paperwork was complete.

Don't give up too quick. There are times you can fly to Nigeria that aren't too bad like NOW. I just flew there from JFK to Lagos for $795.00. Way betther that the 1300.00 I will be paying over the summer! I've flown twice now with Arik Air.

I feel for your husband because the interviewer who spoke with my husband was not kind. Asked very few questions and didn't look at any of the extra evidence my husband (then fiance) had brought with him. We are not giving up and this time I am sending in a ton of stuff, not for the US but for the consulate in Lagos!!!

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

AlexBa Makes me wonder if the same man interviewed both our husbands. This man was rude, in my opinion. I am not giving up, it's just not a place I wish to be right now. I hired an attorney who, to say the least, did not advise me well and was misleading!

[Iyawo_Omo_Yoruba 31]

@Babygurl Thanks for the suggestions, trust me when I say I am sitting here trying to come up with a way to get over there. I have a few things up my sleeves, such as visiting the Consulate while I am there. This was recommended to me by a dear friend.