Any February 2012 filers?

[Cori and Rob 55]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I've been trying to think of something to say to you that may make you feel better, but I'm sure there isn't much I can say that would. Without knowing your situation, I'd recommend marriage counseling, but if you've already tried it or things are beyond repair, maybe a separation is the answer. My only advice would be to take a step back and really ask yourself if you can get past what is going on and if there can be a future with the two of you. Just know that if things don't end up working out, you'll bounce back and you'll get through it. I'm so sorry your are going through a rough time. It sounds like a difficult situation.

[Gavin + Heather 7]

Katie, Gavin and I are here for you! I know you have wonderful, supportive friends and family at home, but if we can be a resource for you, we'd love to be one.

[Shezi 108]

Thanks

No... things aren't going so well here. It's a long story and a lot of drama, but I think I've reached the breaking point. I think I've just had enough

KT I'm so sorry to hear that I don't know if it's something that can be worked out or even if you guys want to try - I know how exhausting it can be mentally when things aren't working. I also have divorce behind me so I understand the breaking too.

If you want to talk - just shout. Thinking of you

Shezi x

[KTandTommy 31]

Thanks guys, I appreciate the support & lack of judgement!

Things have been crappy almost since the minute I set foot in Florida. We just don't seem to go well together, personality-wise, goal-wise, etc. I don't want to slag him, but I feel like he showed me a completely different person when we were dating than who he turned out to be. I feel like we've just been on a roller coaster of fights and apologies for the last 9 months.

He's been going to his own personal counselor for almost two months now, and we also have a (different) couples counselor... but I just don't see it working out. This sucks.

Edited October 27, 2013 by KTandTommy

[OrderofProtection 42]

Who is still waiting on on the green card. What's your status? We got a potential interview waiver in September, but nothing since. Anyone else in our boat?

Edited October 30, 2013 by Mary & Julian

[SLMcT 5]

Thanks guys, I appreciate the support & lack of judgement!

Things have been crappy almost since the minute I set foot in Florida. We just don't seem to go well together, personality-wise, goal-wise, etc. I don't want to slag him, but I feel like he showed me a completely different person when we were dating than who he turned out to be. I feel like we've just been on a roller coaster of fights and apologies for the last 9 months.

He's been going to his own personal counselor for almost two months now, and we also have a (different) couples counselor... but I just don't see it working out. This sucks.

I am so sorry to hear all this I know marriage reveals so much more of a person that dating does, especially coming from a long-distance relationship. Thinking of you both and you go through counseling and seek out the path for your future. Like so many have said, we are here for you. We supported each other thru the VISA process and we will continue to support each other, no matter what happens.

Sending you hugs xx

[KTandTommy 31]

Thank you so much... I can definitely use as many hugs as I can get right now.

This sucks.

[Mark + Melissa 49]

Who is still waiting on on the green card. What's your status? We got a potential interview waiver in September, but nothing since. Anyone else in our boat?

We're still waiting as well. Supposedly they are supposed to be processed in February. Haven't heard anything since then.

[OrderofProtection 42]

Hey you guys. Here's wishing you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! I hope you all get what you want (and if you are waiting for the GC, I especially hope you get what you want

[KTandTommy 31]

Just an update for you all...

I filed for divorce... court date is Jan. 10. I still haven't received the GC, but as soon as the divorce is done, I'm going to make an infopass appointment and figure out how to return it. I'm kind of curious about how VAWA works, even though I don't want to stay in the US anymore. I just want it on record that he was abusive to me, so that he is never able to bring another woman into the country again. Anyone know anything about that?

[Cori and Rob 55]

Just an update for you all...

I filed for divorce... court date is Jan. 10. I still haven't received the GC, but as soon as the divorce is done, I'm going to make an infopass appointment and figure out how to return it. I'm kind of curious about how VAWA works, even though I don't want to stay in the US anymore. I just want it on record that he was abusive to me, so that he is never able to bring another woman into the country again. Anyone know anything about that?

Katie, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but I applaud you for getting out. I have a very close family member dealing with the end of a both physically and emotionally abusive relationship, and I know it takes a lot of courage and strength to walk away from that. So many women unfortunately stay in situations like that. As for VAWA, it comes up a lot on the boards, and I know it is designed to protect the immigration status of the victim, but I don't know if there are consequences for the USC. Try doing a search in VJ to see what you can see. Good luck with everything!

[KTandTommy 31]

Katie, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but I applaud you for getting out. I have a very close family member dealing with the end of a both physically and emotionally abusive relationship, and I know it takes a lot of courage and strength to walk away from that. So many women unfortunately stay in situations like that. As for VAWA, it comes up a lot on the boards, and I know it is designed to protect the immigration status of the victim, but I don't know if there are consequences for the USC. Try doing a search in VJ to see what you can see. Good luck with everything!

Thanks He wasn't physically abusive, but he put me through 10 months of mental and emotional hell. I should have gotten out sooner, but I kept hoping it would get better. I posted in the Effects of Major Change board, and it doesn't seem like VAWA will affect the USC at all. Which is a shame. I have no doubt that he's done this before, and will do it again.

[Mark + Melissa 49]

Approved!! Finally got the notification that the green card was approved on December 31. Got message today it's been mailed. Skipped interview entirely, so it's worth the wait. For those still waiting, what was bizarre, is I got the text notification of a case status update on December 31, and when i checked the USCIS case status, it said it was approved December 4. Then about 2 hours later I got another text message that the case status was updated, and the date was changed to December 31. I think it got stuck on someone's desk while they went on vacation.

[Shezi 108]

Approved!! Finally got the notification that the green card was approved on December 31. Got message today it's been mailed. Skipped interview entirely, so it's worth the wait. For those still waiting, what was bizarre, is I got the text notification of a case status update on December 31, and when i checked the USCIS case status, it said it was approved December 4. Then about 2 hours later I got another text message that the case status was updated, and the date was changed to December 31. I think it got stuck on someone's desk while they went on vacation.

Fantastic news - a very happy new year to you!!!

[OrderofProtection 42]

Just an update for you all...

I filed for divorce... court date is Jan. 10. I still haven't received the GC, but as soon as the divorce is done, I'm going to make an infopass appointment and figure out how to return it. I'm kind of curious about how VAWA works, even though I don't want to stay in the US anymore. I just want it on record that he was abusive to me, so that he is never able to bring another woman into the country again. Anyone know anything about that?

KT!

Good luck to you in the next phase of your life and I know that you will find someone who deserves your love and devotion. Keep posting and keep in touch with where life takes you next.

Mary