I feel like my husband is being fooled by uscis

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

BZmommy -

There are services in the US that could help your husband if he had your daughter over there alone. He would need to talk to Department of Health and Human Services in his area. There is help with care givers.

[BzmommytoAmerican 8]

And the pount of this post was to know if we needed a referral number in order to know that they are working on the expedite or not. I was not asking opinions about my reasons to expedite or my mistake. I think who decides if i can have my case expedited is USCIS and not members that have no clear knowledge.

For those who helped thanks and for those who get all butt hurt. Sorry

[BzmommytoAmerican 8]

Rebbeca-

Childcare help in arizona is actually frozen you know due to the state of the economy they are not being able to accomodate everybody's needs. Also it would have to be a private nanny/ nurse with experience to place the tube as she pulls it out and thats not cheap. I cannot leave my daughter with anyone.

[Corinthians 7]

Why not add the child to your husbands insurance and go private?

Because they (mom and baby) are in Brazil, so his insurance isn't relevant. If they want private insurance they'd need to buy extra there from a Brazilian company.

[BzmommytoAmerican 8]

And fellow brazillian friend explain to them how in brazil you gotta waita 3 month period to be able to use certain things when you buy new insurance.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Rebbeca-

Childcare help in arizona is actually frozen you know due to the state of the economy they are not being able to accomodate everybody's needs. Also it would have to be a private nanny/ nurse with experience to place the tube as she pulls it out and thats not cheap. I cannot leave my daughter with anyone.

Through DHHR, there might be some care where a nurse would come in daily to take care of these things.

I'm just saying might, but it might not hurt to check.

[AroojandAmin 7]

its gonna happen when its meant to happen...keep trying to get it expedited but somethings are not in our hands...i hope your daughter feels better n ya ur in a difficult situation but dont judge other people n try to prove to everyone that you have it worst in the whole universe.

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

There is an old saying about walking a mile in someone else's shoes.

I think that can apply to quite a lot of comments in this thread. Both sides really.

That being said, to BZMommy, this is what I would say to you. I would be very hesitant to put the health and well-being of my child in the hands of the United States Customs and Immigration Service. Like you, I am a mother. I think I can understand pretty well how upset and worried you might be. But your daughter's care is in your hands. USCIS will listen to your request for an expedite, but it might not be in time for the result you are hoping for. You and your husband have the power to take care of your daughter. Please don't put that care in the hands of a government bureaucracy.

There is a story in the Vietnamese forums of a man whose child died in Vietnam while his wife awaited visa processing. I'm not telling this to frighten you. I am just saying not to count on USCIS for this expedite in as timely a manner as you wish for.

Edited to add that I do very much care about what you are going through.

Edited January 28, 2012 by Rebecca Jo

[yachachiq12 43]

OP, I know this was not your original question, but may I suggest something for you while you're waiting for USCIS to take action?

Has your husband looked into traveler's health insurance for the USC baby? It may be able to buy you a few months of access to private health care in Brazil while you wait. I don't know if her pre-existing conditions would preclude you from getting this, but it may be worth looking into as a possible way to avoid waiting 3 months to see a specialist on your public health care. You would probably have to pay up front and then have the provider reimburse you for services, but explore all your options, as others have suggested.

I will keep your family in my thoughts and hope all works out in the best possible way.

Edited January 28, 2012 by yachachiq12

[BzmommytoAmerican 8]

yachachiq12/

Will look into that hopefully we can get a decent gastro to see whats going on as she is vomiting blood sometimes.

[Boiler 45,404]

Because they (mom and baby) are in Brazil, so his insurance isn't relevant. If they want private insurance they'd need to buy extra there from a Brazilian company.

In the majority of cases it is.

[Boiler 45,404]

Perhaps the best bet would be for the baby to go to his parents/family whilst the immigration side of things is being sorted out.

The baby's needs sound urgent.

[BzmommytoAmerican 8]

What family? All she has id dad. We are in Az dads family which is no help is in maine. Dad works full time and attends college, has a 4 year old from a previous marriage and needs to work to pay bills, support his household, us here and the step child.

[BzmommytoAmerican 8]

Thank you for all your help, while i appreciate all the ideas her going there alone is not possible as my husband cannot attend her needs alone, does not feel comfortable and is not prepared for it. I have been the one changing tubes, going to therspy, drs. He workes for the state and let me tell you he does not have a lot of time off. We will see if they will accept expedite since tier 2 said they should give an answer monday and we will go from there.

[Boiler 45,404]

So he is already looking after the 4 year old or is she in Brazil?

I meant his family in Maine.