Older American WOmen

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Thats SO damn rude its actually funny!!! It makes me wonder how they come up with the questions sometimes - if I was asked a question like that I really don't know how I'd answer its that rude!!!!!!!

He pulled out a picture of his father breaking Kola with me and said " see how happy he was , he welcomed her to the family with the kola nut, he was smiling because he loved her"

[seaguliable 6]

First, if this was an immigrant visa denial, it was a CR1 or IR1 visa, not K3 that you applied for. There is nothing for the foreigner to do at this point. In a few months, the US Citizen will have an opportunity to appeal what is called a "Notice of Intent to Revoke" the approval of the I-130 petition. If successful, the case will be sent back to Accra for a second interview.

In my experience, unless the US Citizen spouse arranges to go spend at least a couple months living together with the foreign spouse as husband and wife before the next interview, there's little reason to expect a different outcome from the second interview.

[Richie Rich 70]

tHERE WAS NEVER ANY MENTION MADE OF LACK OF PROOF EVERYTHING ASKED FOR WAS OFFERED ,WHAT WAS SAID WAS BECAUSE I WAS A OLDER WOMAN IT WAS A FRAUD MARRIAGE.

i AM NOT CONFUSED i KNOW WHAT WAS SAID TO MY AFRICAN MALE SPOUSE WHO IS OVER 30 BTW ,WHY WOULD YOU WANT A WOMAN OVER 20 YEARS OLDER THEN YOU ? IT MUST BE A FRAUD MARRIAGE

Why would you wish to marry a man that is 20 years younger ? You are in yr 50 's . I remember a movie ''How Stella found her groove back''. If I may ask --Are you a white Americian or African American ? Just asking . I am looking through the eyes of the Interviewing Officer. I see some ''red flags '' . Just saying .

[SuperDuper! 230]

There are PLENTY of double standards in life where WOMEN are the beneficiaries, and MEN get the shaft. FAMILY COURT is the most immediate example that comes to mind.

The OP has the unrealistic expectation that life is fair. Well, I got a news flash for ya: It isn't!

So forget fair. The fact is, a 70 year old geezer CAN impregnate a 22 year old sweet thing. Plus, Nigeria is the biggest fraud country around. Just Google it.

Remember, the USCIS is also trying to protect the American from fraud

Peace.

[seaguliable 6]

Yes discrimination is alive and well in Lagos. My husband was asked in his interview if his father died because he was marrying a white woman.

[seaguliable 6]

OK TY..AM NOW SMILING questine my spouse was in school in nigeria but we married in his home country ghana we did not realize untill late in the game LOS meant lagos all this time i thought we had interviews and our case was followed in ghana,I am upset cause sorry guys i am never living in nigeria bur ghana i didnt mind at all can i get the venue changed??

Why would you wish to marry a man that is 20 years younger ? You are in yr 50 's . I remember a movie ''How Stella found her groove back''. If I may ask --Are you a white Americian or African American ? Just asking . I am looking through the eyes of the Interviewing Officer. I see some ''red flags '' . Just saying .

[Boiler 44,874]

OK TY..AM NOW SMILING questine my spouse was in school in nigeria but we married in his home country ghana we did not realize untill late in the game LOS meant lagos all this time i thought we had interviews and our case was followed in ghana,I am upset cause sorry guys i am never living in nigeria bur ghana i didnt mind at all can i get the venue changed??

This site is for US Immigration.

I have no idea about immigrating to Ghana, perhaps something your Husband can research.

[seaguliable 6]

I put my picture up i am white ,but you know if i was a white guy i donrt think anyone would have said a word about anything which really pisses me off cause i have been independant raised 3 kids and made my own choices through the years have a career that pays decently and live in a state geared to woman and woman rights and am a strong advocate of a womans right to be a cougar....go demi moore..and dam you ,you lilly what american self rightous C.O male

lolz

Edited December 23, 2011 by seawash

[seaguliable 6]

This site is for US Immigration.

I have no idea about immigrating to Ghana, perhaps something your Husband can research.

I am taliking about my i-30 application for him ,someone on here said i have to move there for 2 months to be taken serouisly ,i want to know about my 1-30 for him i requested ghana not nigeria it ended up there cus he was in school there

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

How nice to know in That in a American embassy The pratice of the C.O. is to keep alive sex and age Discrimination towards American women ...gezz its so nice to know thats where my tax dollar goes.Any other reason I could have swallowed but as a professional woman I find it disgusting that its still practiced.AND well heck what if I was barren at 20? hmmm

well you know WOMEN if your AMERICAN and over 30 (except if your unable to bare children )you better get a lawyer to do your K3 .But if your a man ..hey no worries the AMERICAN goverment doesnt view as a problem.

Thank -you for all your nice replies and excuse the anger as you notice not one mention was made regarding lack of proof

seawash

I know you are upset and I am sorry things have not gone the way they probably should have in your case.. But remember that whenever a decision is made in these cases it always effects two people: a man and a woman. The discrimination you are talking about is aimed at the beneficiary. They are not worried or suspicious about an older (or younger) woman being let into the country. I imagine they are very suspicious of men's motives in general.. When you look at the percentages of the genders in prison and which gender is more likely to victimize another person it is hard to argue.

You are fighting the wrong battle. If you truly believe there is discrimination going on is based on gender then your complaint should be that they wrongfully discriminate against male beneficiaries... The fact that nearly half of all approved visas are men being petitioned by women might work against you.

[seaguliable 6]

Why would you wish to marry a man that is 20 years younger ? You are in yr 50 's . I remember a movie ''How Stella found her groove back''. If I may ask --Are you a white Americian or African American ? Just asking . I am looking through the eyes of the Interviewing Officer. I see some ''red flags '' . Just saying .

[seaguliable 6]

There are PLENTY of double standards in life where WOMEN are the beneficiaries, and MEN get the shaft. FAMILY COURT is the most immediate example that comes to mind.

The OP has the unrealistic expectation that life is fair. Well, I got a news flash for ya: It isn't!

So forget fair. The fact is, a 70 year old geezer CAN impregnate a 22 year old sweet thing. Plus, Nigeria is the biggest fraud country around. Just Google it.

Remember, the USCIS is also trying to protect the American from fraud

Peace.

fyi usa goverment isnt protecting me from anything ,let alone fraud guy where you been??

[Boiler 44,874]

fyi usa goverment isnt protecting me from anything ,let alone fraud guy where you been??

Exactly.

Multi national marriages are a two way street, the good thing in your case is that neither of you seem to have major ties so both are free to move.

Now he is not coming to the US anytime soon so the situation is in your hands. Plus if at some future point you do want to consider moving to the US you will have a convincing history to show.

[Ban Hammer 13,113]

one inappropriate post removed. keep the thread g rated please.

[seaguliable 6]

The US Constitution is silent on marriage for two reasons. The first reason is that marriage is not a Federal issue, and the second, more important, is that marriage was not a matter for government at all when the Constitution was written.

Marriage predates the Constitution. Marriage was around for thousands of years before the Constitution was written, and everyone knew what it was. The legalities of marriage, such as marriage licenses and the like, are products of the twentieth century, and were created to protect an existing institution.

i am just saying i should be able to as a usa citzen marry whom i choose and bring them here as long as they are not a criminal or threat to anyone and am upset i jumped through govermental hoops and the best they could come up with was my age