Difference of Age

[marybraun 1]

age doesnt matter 'yes it is true" relationship is matter of companionship , trust and understanding. my husband and i have 10 yrs.difference. im 33 and my husband is 43, eversince id like a man older than me .but not to be like 10 yrs more but like wht i said as long as you love each other you trust each other and specially being honest age will not be a reason .

but be carefull also on choosing a woman u want in your life. If she will just use u and be an atm machine for her id rather say be wise and most of all pray to GOD .Destiny is a matter of choice.,

Good luck!

[Girl from Celebes 588]

i had no idea who ya'll were talking about.. but now i know

[Philwithlove 17]

if i am a foriegner guy and searching for a girl. i will pretend to be so poor and whoever loves me despite that then she is the one. hehehe

[Barbara J 115]

SIr I am not saying all filipina women are bad apples! I am a filipina..There are good ones . but FEW! I am only saying be very wary!

[Barbara J 115]

Ok, I'm going to see if I can offend everyone in one post...

All men everywhere will do stupid things for pretty girls. This character flaw isn't exclusive to American men. However, most American men are not as gullible as many Filipinas seem to think they are. In many cases, these guys know darn well that these girls don't really love them. He might only want a sex toy who will treat him like she loves him for a few years. Most of the time, they're just hoping she hangs around and plays nice until he either dies or gets tired of her. Many times these guys go into these relationships knowing that it isn't going to last more than a few years. The sad truth is that many East Asian and Pacific Island girls don't age very well. They're adorable when they're young, but start to deteriorate rapidly when they hit their mid 20's.

...Jim ducks while the Filipinas start throwing kitchen utensils at him...

This isn't really any different from rich old men in the US who marry young trophy wives. These guys know that these girls marry them for their money. As long as the girl acts like his wife then they're generally ok with that. If she does anything to humiliate him, like fooling around on the side, then the relationship is over.

A lot of the men who go to the Philippines are average looking older men with average incomes. These guys wouldn't have a prayer of getting a young trophy wife in the US, but it doesn't take nearly as much to get a young wife in a poor country. There are several reasons this happens a lot in the Philippines. For one thing, the country has a long and sordid history of sex tourism, like many Southeast Asian countries. For another, there's no strong cultural aversion in the Philippines to older men marrying younger women, especially when there's a financial advantage for the bride.

Obviously, the above doesn't apply to everyone. There are many many relationships which are genuine and sincere on both sides. I'm just saying that not all of the guys who are getting played are totally unaware of it. In many cases, they're playing each other.

Could not have said it better myself Jim I agree and my issue is this may not be everyone from Phils but the average visa applications on here are American and Phils. This is all I see every day and then we see where the sad stories start coming in and the relationship[p does not work out. I am sorry but I am old school and large age differences rarely work especially different cultures included.

[Jim N Augie 16]

I agree age is not a big difference in Philippines from an approval point of view and I have a few friends with 25 -30 year difference that got approved and seem happy. Some of my asian friends in other countries also dont view age as a problem. Me personally I think it matters most who you feel you can spend your life with. It's Whatever works for someone. But I have seen at the airport or in Manila where the man seems so old he could fall over anytime and the girl could still sneak into high school and have a seat. Or the man probably couldn't run a quarter mile and the girl is maybe 19 and built. It makes me wonder but really is none of my business. We have 20 years difference between us and it took a little getting used to but we talked so much before even meeting that everything just fell into place. Besides, age is also your attitude, I am in good shape and my kids and thier friends say it's more like I am 30 to them

[CristiFur 15]

Age gap is not a problem with with CO, however just be true to yourself! I know there many with age gap difference and do ok, but I also know there are many more that don't work out. If you have a daughter that would marry a man that is older than you, exactly how would you feel about it? I know in Philippines it is a common thing especially with older Foreigner, but here in the US well where I'm at, I don't see it often. For me one of the criteria was no younger than 15 years than I am, Fiance and I are 12 years apart and to me it still seems much. Bottom line it's your call, but since you've asked I reckon you understand that there are pottential compatibility issue in the future. Lets not kid ourselves that we have a lot in common (mentally and emotionally) with someone that is 20+ years younger.

[baron555 934]

Notice that the OP have never responded after the first posting? Who's getting scammed now?

[southcalhog 43]

I agree age is not a big difference in Philippines from an approval point of view and I have a few friends with 25 -30 year difference that got approved and seem happy. Some of my asian friends in other countries also dont view age as a problem. Me personally I think it matters most who you feel you can spend your life with. It's Whatever works for someone. But I have seen at the airport or in Manila where the man seems so old he could fall over anytime and the girl could still sneak into high school and have a seat. Or the man probably couldn't run a quarter mile and the girl is maybe 19 and built. It makes me wonder but really is none of my business. We have 20 years difference between us and it took a little getting used to but we talked so much before even meeting that everything just fell into place. Besides, age is also your attitude, I am in good shape and my kids and thier friends say it's more like I am 30 to them

My Sentiment Exactly!!

[Jim N Augie 16]

if i am a foriegner guy and searching for a girl. i will pretend to be so poor and whoever loves me despite that then she is the one. hehehe

Lol good plan

[Jim N Augie 16]

Age gap is not a problem with with CO, however just be true to yourself! I know there many with age gap difference and do ok, but I also know there are many more that don't work out. If you have a daughter that would marry a man that is older than you, exactly how would you feel about it? I know in Philippines it is a common thing especially with older Foreigner, but here in the US well where I'm at, I don't see it often. For me one of the criteria was no younger than 15 years than I am, Fiance and I are 12 years apart and to me it still seems much. Bottom line it's your call, but since you've asked I reckon you understand that there are pottential compatibility issue in the future. Lets not kid ourselves that we have a lot in common (mentally and emotionally) with someone that is 20+ years younger.

True enough and it is also the attitude of the filipina. Life is full of up's and down's will she throw things and be a spoiled teenager? The culture in Phil is changing just like anywhere else but the ones the keep to traditional values are worth gold. When things get hard you will find a good filipina working right beside you. Jim.

[Jim N Augie 16]

One example, I had met a Filipina in the U.S. before I met my fiancee. This Filipina I met online told me that she had been happily married and there was a 39 year age difference. He was now deceased. I chose not to meet this woman because I wanted children and she had two already. Another example, there was another man in my neighborhood that was approved and he 35 years older. This couple did break up but it had nothing to do with their age. They were not compatible. Another example, I tried to tell a 24 y/o not to email me again because she was too young and I got this one page email back explaining why a 31 year difference was okay.. and she gave me examples of what she knew of. My point is, that this is common in the Philippines. You sound like you have a Western concious. I do too.

My finance is 27 years younger but I do look younger and she is more mature. The reason I was interested in her had nothing to do with her age, it was that we were so much alike. We were a match. We are really on the same paths and enjoy each other and want the same things. I didn't plan it this way, but I too have seen couples that are similar in age that don't match and are not going to last. Use your good common sense. If this is your soul mate, just make sure that you are hers and if so, you can probably offer her a better happier life than many men out there that are much closer in age. Just don't spoil her once she is here. This is why you love her because of who she is. Best of luck to you.

Disclaimer: Just make sure she is not a manipulative woman or desires money because that would be the worst day of your life if you marry someone like that.

[southcalhog 43]

True enough and it is also the attitude of the filipina. Life is full of up's and down's will she throw things and be a spoiled teenager? The culture in Phil is changing just like anywhere else but the ones the keep to traditional values are worth gold. When things get hard you will find a good filipina working right beside you. Jim.

Jim You and I think mostly Alike. I agree it is the Attitude of the Lady. I myself found a lady that has those traditional Values. I didnt want someone from the city.I got myself a provincial lady. not saying something about city ladys that was my choice. we have been talking for almost 2 years now. just to be sure of her commitment and love when we first met i wanted to make sure she was the one.I put things in place to be content with my decision and she never wavered from the truth. you have to be sure in your own mind if she is the one.the things she has told me, the things we discuss leave no doubt in my mind. this is a lifetime decision so be sure be content and you both dont waver, you both will be ok, NO Matter what your ages, Just be sure!

Edited October 23, 2011 by southcalhog

[villaspurs 65]

This is all good advice. The original poster should have his guard up because there are many women out there that are not genuine and have an ulterior motive but over the six month process, you should see those signs.

As far as a younger filipina marrying PARTIALLY for money (security), well you will find more of that in America than you will in the Philippines. Seriously... just try to be a guy in America and telling a woman you work as a mechanic and trying to get a date. LOL. you won't see a first date. These are the first questions she will find out from you before you go on a date. What do you do for a living ? American women want to know if you have earning potential and can support a family. This is no different anywhere else in the world. The most important facts you can find out about the woman is "who they are" and "how they were raised".

If there is any woman on this forum that married and supports their husband, I would like to hear from them. If there is, could you say they married only for good sex??? Everybody wants something out of a relationship but sometimes people care mostly about love and family. Let's not judge all but it is the case of buyer beware.

I married and support my husband. He's in college to become a nurse, and I'm supporting our family (now of four--we've had two children since he moved here).

[Alex & Rachel 78]

If there is any woman on this forum that married and supports their husband, I would like to hear from them.

That would be me!

Paid for the entire visa, flights and moving costs myself, found work as soon as I had my EAD, and have been supporting us both ever since.

There are all kinds of reasons for getting together.

I did love Jim's post in this thread, though.

Edited October 23, 2011 by Alex & Rachel