hypothetically speaking

[B_J 2,752]

Your timeline is sort of confusing. You've always been such a positive, optimistic person on here; I really hope things are working out for you.

[rlogan 2,036]

The fact she was granted a visa does not obligate you to anything.

Hypothetically a manipulative person would still come here, despite your objection to continuing the relationship, using a combination of guilt-tripping and the occasional sop of pretended affection being thrown your way.

Hypothetically the target falls for both ploys, feeling guilty when they were the target of cynnical manipulation from day 1 and getting all giddy over the slightest morsel of fake affection. So he allows her to live with him.

Hypothetically the target marries, knowing it is wrong but feeling trapped and desperately hoping for a miracle - maybe she will love me in the end; I will prove I was a gentleman. I will suffer like Jesus on the cross.

Hypothetically the manipulator divorces the target after months of more misery than he has experienced in his lifetime. Hypothetically she is granted the green card on her own.

Hypothetically there are 2.7 million genuine, loving, wonderful Filipinas who would die to take her place and make this man the King of the World. But instead of doing justice and bestowing upon the deserving a wonderful life of family and security this man rewards the scheming evil witch. Thus the strategy of evil is perpetuated by virtue of its success and the strategy of honest and sincere effort is punished.

In the end then what this hypothetical man does is teach others that dishonesty, cheating, and evil intentions are the key to successful immigration.

His excuse will be that his intentions were good.

[Tahoma 2,291]

In the end then what this hypothetical man does is teach others that dishonesty, cheating, and evil intentions are the key to successful immigration.

His excuse will be that his intentions were good.

Amen, brother Robert.

@JR..Love can be blind...to a fault.

[jrmejia 31]

The pleasure of giving is giving without expecting anything back.

The art of forging is an art that not many possess.

[jrmejia 31]

Your timeline is sort of confusing. You've always been such a positive, optimistic person on here; I really hope things are working out for you.

Everything is fine. It was a hypothetical question.

[rlogan 2,036]

The art of manipulation includes speaking in riddles instead of straightforward, frank communication. There is a kind of manipulator that gets everyone involved in their personal crises, getting their kicks out of others investing their emotional energy. They're always doing the wrong thing and getting victimized, so nobody thinks their motives could be suspect. They're always assuring us emphatically how innocent and sincere they are. And look how they've laid themselves bare for everyone to see...

Except that with this personality they also conceal things that heighten the drama. They allude and insinuate instead of just stating facts plainly. People are baited with part of the story but never the whole thing.

The name is actually "Emotional Vampire", which points out the hypocrisy in the business about giving without getting anything back. The vampire very much feeds off others, sucking the emotional energy out of them. People put their energy into giving advice that has been sought out by the vampire, and the vampire creates this emotional roller-coaster. Sometimes the vampire seems to be doing the right thing and people who have given up on him start putting their faith and energy into the "atta boys" - and then their hopes are dashed upon the rocks.

Hard to predict this one because the motivations are not normal and the severity unknown. But the more disordered, the greater the calamity sought.

[jrmejia 31]

I feel pity for those who lost the sense of humanity and the are of forgiving. Good luck nailing your nail.

[sunandmoon 450]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oU_rqm7WPPI

[sunandmoon 450]

Life's a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get.

[rlogan 2,036]

I feel pity for those who lost the sense of humanity and the are of forgiving. Good luck nailing your nail.

OK I have been successfully manipulated now into completely reversing myself because I am so ashamed of being pitied and all.

This is like pre-manipulator 101 level stuff here buddy. I have no resentment, anger, or ill-will. It is so transparent we are supposed to think highly of you for being "forgiving" and your "sense of humanity", whatever that means. Forgive who for what? What does this "sense of humanity" mean exactly?

Bringing this back to concrete reality, the relationship is either wrong or right. There's no points for slashing your wrists and spilling your blood and guts all over the stage.

Forgive me for being crass, but my idea was to bring home little miss hotty wife who devoted herself to her husband and family. Blast one out of the park, you know. Home run city. For me, anyway. Some men want a woman who makes a lot of money.

If you instead focus on how you can show everyone what kind of abuse you can take stoically then sure - you take lots of abuse and suffer.

So both of us have accomplished what we set out to do. It makes me no better person. I readily admit my selfish motives of wanting to snuggle up with little miss devoted hotty. But the truth is yours are selfish motives too. It's just that your world view is like the flagellants of the middle ages. Those guys whipped themselves publicly to bloody pulps to show their religious devotion, all based on their reward being in heaven.

But they were more straightforward in their belief system. In the case at hand, they'd be saying they want to immigrate a woman who whips them bloody, and the bloodier the better. Because that way they go to heaven big time.

[jrmejia 31]

Two ways to handle things in life:

We let our ego control us or we control our ego! I feel pity for a man when his ego dictates his life. The more your scratch your rash the more it will itch. (Ego in action)

My 2 cents!

[sunandmoon 450]

What if...what if... what if...

[Tahoma 2,291]

Note this question is about canceling a K1 visa. Thank you for sticking to the subject. Any off the topic post/comment should be removed.

Moderators...At the request of the OP, please remove the posts below because they are all off-topic. Thank you.

I read a nice hypothetical quote some where. "A man hypothetical misfortune is another man hypothetical fortune."

Off the topic:

I am the type who is always measuring the glass of water. I know it is half empty. *BUT* I just like to know if it is half empty because the water is drying out or it is half empty because it is about to be filled up.

The pleasure of giving is giving without expecting anything back.

The art of forging is an art that not many possess.

I feel pity for those who lost the sense of humanity and the are of forgiving. Good luck nailing your nail.

Two ways to handle things in life:

We let our ego control us or we control our ego! I feel pity for a man when his ego dictates his life. The more your scratch your rash the more it will itch. (Ego in action)

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Moderators...At the request of the OP, please remove the posts below because they are all off-topic. Thank you.

[sunandmoon 450]

Moderators...At the request of the OP, please remove the posts below because they are all off-topic. Thank you.

they'll need to remove my posts as well...