How do you say goodbye?

[Messybrownhair 251]

You are not alone on your fear. But you have to make the best of your predicament.

First step, accepting the fact that you are marrying an american and you have to leave your parents and sibling to start your own family. And you mentioned that you would be coming back to the Philippines/Asia in 2015. Just do a count down and it would be soon 2015.

For me, the thought that my mother can fly anytime she wants to visit me in the US and I could fly back anytime i want to go back to the philippines makes me worry less about her. Quite thankful with my hubby that instead of working, he encourages me to do my own photography business. Since I am my own boss, i could come and go anytime i want. And when it comes to my mother, money is not an issue. I only mention my mother coz my father died few years ago.

My brother is also in the philippines to take care of my mom.

Also i accepted the fact that after i get married, my home is now with your husband. It sometimes bothered me that some people would say that i want to go back "home". And "home" they mention is their parents and siblings back in the philippines. I wonder how they consider their life with their husband. Are they saying that they are not at "home" with their husband? Just me speaking out loud.

Thanks rheanick! Well for me, I will always have "two" homes. My room in Manila will always be home too, just like my new place with my fiance is also going to be home You are lucky that money is not an issue for you, that is not the case for a lot of people. And yes, hopefully by 2015, we can get assigned in China again. My fiance is in foreign service and military so we will try to get assigned somewhere in Asia.

[BigJohn 4]

You know if your parents are interested, you can always petition for them to come in 3 years after you become a citizen.

[Atencio 43]

Nothing really to offer messybrownhairm. Wish you the best of luck getting through it. My wife will be facing the same situation in 10 days.

[Matt and Evieve 1]

I feel for you. I'm also the youngest and the only girl so it will be hard for me leaving my family here. I get a lot of encouragement in the verse in my signature. That it is God's will to leave their families and be joined to the one they're married with. I am consoled everytime I read this one.

Where will you be in US? In Vermont?

I wish you well and everything will be fine. God bless you and your fiance!

[Richie Rich 70]

Step --thanks for all your helpful contributions to V.J . My fiancee will soon be going through this also .It will be hard on her also since she is the oldest girl in the family . She works but still takes care of her ailing dad at home . I know it will be hard on her to leave her family behind especially her dad ( they are close ) . I hope to be there for moral support and accompany her here to the Usa . Maybe I will be moved to tears also since I am close to her family also .Good luck on your journey and keep posting on V.J .

[Messybrownhair 251]

You know if your parents are interested, you can always petition for them to come in 3 years after you become a citizen.

But it will take years right?

I feel for you. I'm also the youngest and the only girl so it will be hard for me leaving my family here. I get a lot of encouragement in the verse in my signature. That it is God's will to leave their families and be joined to the one they're married with. I am consoled everytime I read this one.

Where will you be in US? In Vermont?

I wish you well and everything will be fine. God bless you and your fiance!

Thanks, it is a great quote, and might I add that you have beautiful wedding pics!

Step --thanks for all your helpful contributions to V.J . My fiancee will soon be going through this also .It will be hard on her also since she is the oldest girl in the family . She works but still takes care of her ailing dad at home . I know it will be hard on her to leave her family behind especially her dad ( they are close ) . I hope to be there for moral support and accompany her here to the Usa . Maybe I will be moved to tears also since I am close to her family also .Good luck on your journey and keep posting on V.J .

You are welcome.. VJ has also helped me a lot. Thanks as well for the support and I wish you both all the best

[tallcoolone 102]

To answer you question it is "Paalam"

Don't quote me on that, I am just a White Boy..........

[RVIANE♛ 5]

make friends outside the military "some" wives go nuts specially during deployment days

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

I feel for you. I'm also the youngest and the only girl so it will be hard for me leaving my family here. I get a lot of encouragement in the verse in my signature. That it is God's will to leave their families and be joined to the one they're married with. I am consoled everytime I read this one.

Where will you be in US? In Vermont?

I wish you well and everything will be fine. God bless you and your fiance!

Edited February 1, 2011 by ~happyndinlove~

[marriedtomrg 141]

Trust me...we're a dysfunctional family. lol I haven't even scratched the surface there! All the same, I do love 'em!

Thank you Kaye! Your family is not dysfunctional at all, everyone handles this differently! I appreciate your comment, and yes I agree, its not another planet I wish you the best!

[marriedtomrg 141]

Well...currently approving their I-130 won't be much of a problem. The question would be when their visas would be made available based on their category...I was under the impression it doesn't take very long. Am planning to sponsor my mom when I become a US citizen also.

But it will take years right?

[envy_me 18]

this post really made me feel sad, it reminded me of my last days in manila back in 2008..

i remember how hard it was to push my baggage cart not only because they're heavy but because my chest wanted to explode..

the feeling of walking away from my mom and dad while they watch me walk towards the airport gate was indescribable!!!!

i tried to be indifferent, tried not to look back because i did want them to worry and cry.. but it was really hard..

the only thing that made me feel at ease that time and until now is that, i tell myself ----

it's not goodbye, IT'S SEE YOU LATER!

.

[crystal01 29]

this post really made me feel sad, it reminded me of my last days in manila back in 2008..

i remember how hard it was to push my baggage cart not only because they're heavy but because my chest wanted to explode..

the feeling of walking away from my mom and dad while they watch me walk towards the airport gate was indescribable!!!!

i tried to be indifferent, tried not to look back because i did want them to worry and cry.. but it was really hard..

the only thing that made me feel at ease that time and until now is that, i tell myself ----

it's not goodbye, IT'S SEE YOU LATER!

.

[tallcoolone 102]

I dedicate this song to you

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XVgLxPgTzlE

[Messybrownhair 251]

We will be in PA, only the wedding will be in Vermont

Again, I appreciate all the responses from everyone! Hope everyone is surviving the snowstorm!