I want to Divorce my Husband & back to Phils.

[charlie&pam 1]

I misquoted your statement, you meant maghanap nang trabaho. How can she get a job when she did not AOS yet? Why you say that maybe the girl is the mistress of the husband? We dot know them so we cannot really assume or guess. All we can do is give opinions and advises. Every marriage has it's own ups and downs. Especially if you are just newly married and the worst part is, different cultures. Maybe the husband has his reasons why he did that and the wife has her reasons to be mad and jealous too. Now, the point is, we cannot control the husband. What we should resolve here is on how heartbroken can control herself which will lead to both of them resolving their problem. As I see it, it's a communication problem. We wives should be the one who are more understanding and not nagging, controlling and doubtful. We should think of ways on how the husband can trust and love us to death and not drift away from us. Let us not make our husband see our rebellious ways because that would be a way for them to resent to us. Men needs lambing-lambing, they are soooooo easy to please especially when the wife will be the one to act.We have to work for a marriage to WORK. And I mean, a lot of work. If we are weak and give up so easily, then we will not become winners. In order for us to win, we will work for it. In the end, both husband and wife will meet halfway, if not, it's always the wife will win in the end...hehehehe!

yes i agree to your last message...well pwede kang mgpartime kung ang i-94 mo eh di p expired,un ng sbi befor sakin nung kumuha me ssn...ako di p file aos pero my part time work ako......thanks anyway....lol

[charlie&pam 1]

eh ayaw nga daw pag trabahuhin eh tpos iniisip nya eh slave na xa ng asawa nya. pano minamasama nya ayaw nya ksing tanggapin ang maybe or if. gusto nya right agad lol.

hindi nman natin ala kung anu nsa isip ni heart broken eh,,kung un iniisip nya slave n cya bkit p natin minamasama diba.....haysss....lol..

[hellINTIM 9]

hindi nman natin ala kung anu nsa isip ni heart broken eh,,kung un iniisip nya slave n cya bkit p natin minamasama diba.....haysss....lol..

hindi ko minamasa sinabi nya kaso ang taray ako pa masama eh sabi ko malay diba., what if bah. bka nmn akala nya eh nsa pinas parin xa na babae ang hari at lalaki ang reyna lol. she needs to be grown up.

[angel7407 33]

CLARIFICATION : Hwag kayo munang mag reak kung d nio pa alam ang ugat...

Kung di nyo naintindihan ang kwento hwag na makisali...

masyado naman kayong seryoso....CAPITAL LETTER = coz somes here asking again & again & again ...

bakit d nalang basahin lahat ng detalyi bago makisawsaw sa usapan.....

kaya nga capital letter para klaro....kung na offend kayo sa capital letter i dont have intentions that im looking trouble

kung nakikisawsaw lang kayo sa topic para makigulo at mangbastos at maging one sided at hanapan lng ng mali = dont joined

Kung wla na kayo ma i suggest doon nalang kayo sa ibang post....

Suggestion : basahin nio muna from page 1 to last page bago kayo makisali

Kasi my nasabi lng ako na mali reak na kayo agad

Nabasa mo ba bakit nasabi ko yon ?

My nagsabi be nice to everyone = but dikaya ang mga bastos muna unahin mo pagsabihan ...

kung masakit sa mata nio but why they are wasting thier time....

my iba pa nagsabi ...makapal mukha ko at uuwi nalang....sia ang dapat mauna....

ang tao maging mataray lng kung ang iba dyan not making sense....

kung d nio naman naintindihan ang sinasabi ko wag na niong pagtuunan ng pansin...

hahaba lang ang usapan....ignore and leave...

for me somes here are one sided....

sakin naka point lahat ....im not starting....sinasagot ko lng kung nakakatolong kayo o hindi sa mga comments nio

iisipin nio muna kung karapat dapat ba ang comments nio or hindi or the more nio pinupunterya ang tao.....

Bakit, sino ba dito ang hindi naka intindi sa mga isinulat mo? Baka ikaw ang hindi nakakaintindi sa mga replies dito. You did not even understand sa ban if you will overstay here for 180 days. You even asked when will your 180 days ends. Now, who did not understand people's replies? People ask because they don't know that's why you have to explain very well. People ask clarification because some of your words are confusing. You are the poster, so it is your job to make things very clear and it will help people understand the situation better and can weigh things to make good view of the situation. Why would you not accept that you are the one to be blamed of your problem too? You and your husband are the ones contributing to this problem. Not just you and not just your husband. HINDI KAMI NAKISAWSAW, for your information. We are here to guide you. You are the one who came here and asked for advise, so our replies are pointing to you and not to your husband because he is not the one reading this forum. What do you want for us to say? "Heartbroken, it should be better for your husband to change and not give money to the stepdaughter, etc. Your husband should do this and that...etc." Now, who will tell your husband, you? Then you will fight again. As what I have said, you cannot control other people, you should be the one controlling yourself not to react negatively. When people ask advise, the response would be in many different ways. Some are one-sided, so it is up to you on what advises you will pick and use to resolve your problem. You should look at the situation in different ways. You are also one-sided. You only point at the stepdaughter as the villain and the bad. View it in a different manner. Look inside you, inside your husband and inside the self of the stepdaughter. You have been married for 3 months, the battle has not started yet. Be strong. If you love your husband and is willing to fight for your right, say to your self that you can do it. You will make things happen. 3 months is too soon to give up on love and marriage. Fight in a way that your husband will see you worthy for everything. We have to work for it. 3 months is too soon to say that the marriage is not good. But if you can't take it, the just force your husband to buy you tickets and go back to Philippines. If you think that is the best decision and that would be the best for yourself and for your son, then be it.

[John&Juvy 36]

[charlie&pam 1]

hindi ko minamasa sinabi nya kaso ang taray ako pa masama eh sabi ko malay diba., what if bah. bka nmn akala nya eh nsa pinas parin xa na babae ang hari at lalaki ang reyna lol. she needs to be grown up.

ganun b?e ang taray mo kc tignan s pcs mo,,,lol,,teach mo naman ako panu mo gnwa yan at san?

[Heart-Broken 1]

ang sabi ko....baka yung asawa mo yung naging beneficiary ng deceased partner not the other way around. but you cleared that up. ok yun naman pala...yung pera ng stepdaughter was the money used to buy the car...so ano pinuputok ng butchi mo tungkol doon hindi naman pala asawa mo ang gumastos? kahit naman meron pang natira sa insurance money...why would you be asking your husband about it?...that aspect you really don't have any business in.

it's called NETIQUETTE/ETIQUETTE. respeto lang naman sa forum. kse when you type in all CAPS...it means you are yelling. you want us to empathize with you, but please look at your replies to other members...ikaw pa ang mataray pag hindi mo nagustuhan ang sagot. just remember, YOU were the one that came to the forum regarding your problem(s). we did not ask you to let us into your personal affairs....YOU invited us in. kaya sana naman, wag ka masyado maangas in replying to some post.

= Helo po....nasa policy ba f gagamit ng CAPS = yelling ?

Problema kasi dito mahilig mag reak dinaman alam ang ugat

Bago kc mag reak tanungin muna ang nag post what my intentions to use CAPS

Hindi yong isulat nalang na " ur using CAPS sounds that your yelling...mas alam pa nila ang isip ko ...kya agad2 nalang isulat ?

Sia ang nagsabi that sounds im yelling....but for me im not....tinituldukan nio ang sentence dpa tapos

Helo po ...im not mataray ...na offend lang ako sa reak nia na i need to be nice to everyone ....do you know what i reply ? Sabihin mo muna sa mga naging bastos at nakikigulo lang sa topic at nakisawsaw sa usapan dinaman alam

Patas ba ? Pero wla naman silang ma say sa non sense people joining the topic....

again...see my reply above. it would do you good to retract the claws kababayan. nandito kme para makidamay sa situation mo...not helping kung pati kme kinakalmot mo ng claws mo. we really didn't have to post here or reply to you...but we did/do because we feel for you and your situation. you asked us for our advise/opinion, pero lumalabas pa na kme ang hindi nakaka-intindi. and trust me...we've been members of forums for a long time (most of us are even members of multiple forums)...kaya we know to read the thread before jumping in and putting our 2 cents in.

like another member said....hindi pilipino ang napangasawa mo! kaya wag mo isipin na dahil ganito o ganon ang asawang pilipino, eh yung kano na asawa mo should be the same. the world does not work like that my friend. iba ang attitude ng pilipino compared sa mga kano. you want my honest opinion? your posts from all 7 pages of this thread...i got the impression na dapat ikaw ikaw ikaw at wala nang ibang other responsibilities ang asawa mo. did you ever wonder na isa ka sa factor kung bakit frustrated ang asawa mo? my advice...you better learn how to adjust to your new surroundings. baguhin mo yang attitude mo na dapat ikaw lang ang aasikasuhin ng asawa mo. kse bago mo pa man nakilala yang asawa mo....he already had all those responsibilities na inirereklamo mo. and it doesn't help na nakahanap nga sya ng asawa thinking that you will be there for some sort of support...pero poproblemahin ka rin pala nya. TULUNGAN MO ANG ASAWA MO kahit man lang just to listen sa kanya.

[hellINTIM 9]

ganun b?e ang taray mo kc tignan s pcs mo,,,lol,,teach mo naman ako panu mo gnwa yan at san?

drawing ng asawa ko nung binata pa xa eto daw ung future wife na kamukha ko -.- ... infairness kamukha ko nga d pa kmi nag meet nito nung ginawa nya.

[angel7407 33]

ganun b?e ang taray mo kc tignan s pcs mo,,,lol,,teach mo naman ako panu mo gnwa yan at san?

Hahahahaha!!!!

[TravellingNomad 12]

kasi wala nadaw akong time sa kanya....

gusto nia kasi im always w/him

din i understand naman...bahala sila sa buhay nila...mag ulan sana ng apoy....hehehe...

OMG .....ano daw pinopotok ng butchi ko..my nagtanong

Magbasa kasi muna bago makisali sa usapan ok ba ?

nireplyan mo post ko without giving any replies. when i was giving you my opinion earlier you didn't seem to complain and hindi mo ako sinasabihan na magbasa ako. at hindi ako ang tipo ng tao na nakikisabat sa topic unless naiintindihan ko ang thread. at anong ibig sabihin ng sinabi kong yan?....IT MEANS I'VE READ EVERY SINGLE POST, DOWN TO THE LAST LETTER, IN THIS THREAD! kung nasasaktan ka sa mga sinasabi naming lahat dito sa thread mo.....hoy masakit ang katotohanan. gusto mo respetuhin ka ng mga members dito...pero tignan mo naman kung paano ka sumagot sa mga tao dito. my honest opinion?...sa tingin ko kaya nagpuputok ang butchi mo kse gusto mo syo at sa anak mo lang napupunta ang pera ng asawa mo. but please feel free to correct me on this statement if it's wrong. nandito ka na sa amerika day!...hindi puwede yang ugali mo na "ako ang asawa kaya ang pera ng asawa ko dapat sa akin lang mapunta"

ilagay mo sa lugar ang pag-complain mo. sa madaling salita, sinasabi mo na ang kapal ng mukha ng stepdaughter na magpasuporta sa hindi nya tatay. katulad ng sabi ng isang member....di ba ganon din ang ginagawa mo? meron kang anak sa ibang lalaki pero gusto mo yung asawa mo ang sumuporta sa anak mo? what's the difference? ngayong nalaman mo na hindi yung asawa mo ang gumastos sa binili ng stepdaughter na kotse....nag-sorry ka ba sa asawa mo for thinking na sya ang gumastos?

madali lang naman makahanap ng solusyon sa problema mo eh. sagutin mo ang tanong na INIINTINDI MO BA ANG ASAWA MO AT SITWASYON/KALAGAYAN NG BUHAY NYA?!?!?!?! sa palagay ko ang magiging sagot dyan ay hindi. kse kung oo ang sagot...you won't nag him about money!

Edited August 18, 2010 by TravellingNomad

[charlie&pam 1]

drawing ng asawa ko nung binata pa xa eto daw ung future wife na kamukha ko -.- ... infairness kamukha ko nga d pa kmi nag meet nito nung ginawa nya.

infairness talented c Mr. mo huh...lol.....ok....thanks...

Hahahahaha!!!!

[angel7407 33]

The way I see it, there is no resolution to your problem. Even if you will go to 100 counselors, the counselor would go crazy because you cannot understand. You kept on forcing yourself to be right about the caps when it is a rule here in Visajourney that when a person uses capital letter in all words, it means yelling or shouting. Now, even if it is not yelling for you, the one who received and reading your message are thinking you are yelling because you use capital letters. I can just imagine your husband's feeling tortured too on the way you talk to him maybe that' why he will just ignore you most of the times. You are ot making any sense also in some things that you say. It is being said that it is a RULE, so be it and we cannot change it, ok? And I repeat, even if for you it is not yelling, for the people who read and receive, for them it is yelling because they abide by the RULE.

[Heart-Broken 1]

dimo yata na gets "ano pinopotok ng butchi ko ? his lieng & im hurt

nasa taas po ang details ....

1. dec.2009 he plan to spent xmas in Phils. but he change his mind coz expensive tikets

2.my husband buy a new car jan.2010 for a girl sabi nia pera ng tatay nia ang ginamit when i was in phils.

3.when i arrived here feb.2010 he discuss to me that he dont have money at his bank coz he use for girl car

so ano sagot sa tanong mo ?

4.clarification....2005 namatay nanay nia and she & her brother got money from insurance , she buy a car

5. but 2010 nasira kaya #2

kasalanan ba f nasaktan ako na mas pinili bilhan ng car ang girl instead to be w/me for xmas ?

Na try nio bang excited kana to be w/him again at bz na kayo sa preparation tapos bigla nagbago ihip ng hangin...

klaro na ata...db ?

kaya sa nagsabi " Na wla akong karapatan magselos at mag complain much better im go home " kaw kaya ang mauna....kc d ako kapit bahay or hayop...Im his wife ....

[TravellingNomad 12]

alam ko na ang problema dito....

share mo naman kapatid!!

[hellINTIM 9]

share mo naman kapatid!!

nsa last post ko heheehe. na skip mo nsa page 9 huling post. bawal daw ang double post eh. ang kulet pag bigyan si broken hearted. xa kmpihan natin ..