Yardies at home and a farrin, Part 27!

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

I too decided to leave vj for a minute but it only makes me more insane that I have nothing to reply to

I wish you the best of luck on ttc, matter of fact, best of luck to both of us. JQ SMILEY BOOM, send us some baby dust!

and here is for MISSUS

Good luck ladies

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Ok let me say my 2 cents on this child bringing to US thing

1. lady C I feel for you because if the daddy dont have no cotrol over the child, you sure as heck aint gonna either, because you not the child's biological parent. Then you said the mom knew about the child behavior before, so it was not a surprise but you didnt know the extent of it! Dangggg Jaheim, I thought he was going to get it together. I wanted to ask you when we were talking yesterday what was up with it! But I just thought since you didnt say anything about it it was fine. I am praying for you to make the right decision, for you, your family, your marriage and jaheim, because he will be apart of your life for the rest of your life!!!

Ladies, ladies ladies, a word of advice for you and me Hell all of us!!!

I know yall love yall men and all, but if you have not spent time with these kids dont try to bring them. My husband and I have been together since 06. His daughter was born in 04. Since we first met, since the 2nd day we met and had our second date I met his daughter. Ever time after that she came over when I visited the 10 times i visited, and also whenever I would talk to him on the phone and she was there and we spoke. These are children, they have to get to know you! You cant just think that since you are married to there father they will like you!! It dont work like that. You dont know what they were fed before they came and what they think on their own about you. Dont forget their fathers lived in Jamaica where they could see them when they wanted. Now they live in the US and they can only talk to them. They dont know what goes on here, or what to expect. Make sure the kids are not acting up, uncontrollably to where when they come they have the same problem that C has. And make sure you hubby is strict and can discipline them. These are very important factor. If this thread has taught us anything, its to take the expperience of our fellow Yardie and learn from it, or help others out with it. Before I brought my kids to see my hubby I got to know him and knew they would like him. Because of how I raised them. All kids are raised differently. In Q's story, her ex hubby is negative you never know what he is telling those kids. (Q I pray they open up to Roger because you are a sweet persona nd you deserve it just like Lady C) My kids father has been in prison for a while and out there life so the only one feeding my kids anything was me.

My husband is very strict but thats what they need, they were trying to act up a little bit but he nipped that in the bud when he first got here, but I had his back on it also because he was right and they were trying to push him to see how far they could go. Also when I was in jamaica with my kids, my hubby made sure his daughter was there for the full 10 days so we could see how they interact with each other.

Now they cant wait for her to come, and every day I talk to her she asking about her brothers.

I just hope that we make informed decision before we drastically change the lives of our families as a whole. Everyone excited to get the kids here but make sure you know the kids and let them figure out for themselves if old enough, if they even want to come here.

Ok I have said enough, this baby is kicking and its time for me to go home and cook my hubby dinner.

:dance: Kids gone for a week at bible camp with 6 other cousins :dance:

Time to play hide and go get it :rofl: :rofl:

[MRStee 19]

Ok let me say my 2 cents on this child bringing to US thing

1. lady C I feel for you because if the daddy dont have no cotrol over the child, you sure as heck aint gonna either, because you not the child's biological parent. Then you said the mom knew about the child behavior before, so it was not a surprise but you didnt know the extent of it! Dangggg Jaheim, I thought he was going to get it together. I wanted to ask you when we were talking yesterday what was up with it! But I just thought since you didnt say anything about it it was fine. I am praying for you to make the right decision, for you, your family, your marriage and jaheim, because he will be apart of your life for the rest of your life!!!

Ladies, ladies ladies, a word of advice for you and me Hell all of us!!!

I know yall love yall men and all, but if you have not spent time with these kids dont try to bring them. My husband and I have been together since 06. His daughter was born in 04. Since we first met, since the 2nd day we met and had our second date I met his daughter. Ever time after that she came over when I visited the 10 times i visited, and also whenever I would talk to him on the phone and she was there and we spoke. These are children, they have to get to know you! You cant just think that since you are married to there father they will like you!! It dont work like that. You dont know what they were fed before they came and what they think on their own about you. Dont forget their fathers lived in Jamaica where they could see them when they wanted. Now they live in the US and they can only talk to them. They dont know what goes on here, or what to expect. Make sure the kids are not acting up, uncontrollably to where when they come they have the same problem that C has. And make sure you hubby is strict and can discipline them. These are very important factor. If this thread has taught us anything, its to take the expperience of our fellow Yardie and learn from it, or help others out with it. Before I brought my kids to see my hubby I got to know him and knew they would like him. Because of how I raised them. All kids are raised differently. In Q's story, her ex hubby is negative you never know what he is telling those kids. (Q I pray they open up to Roger because you are a sweet persona nd you deserve it just like Lady C) My kids father has been in prison for a while and out there life so the only one feeding my kids anything was me.

My husband is very strict but thats what they need, they were trying to act up a little bit but he nipped that in the bud when he first got here, but I had his back on it also because he was right and they were trying to push him to see how far they could go. Also when I was in jamaica with my kids, my hubby made sure his daughter was there for the full 10 days so we could see how they interact with each other.

Now they cant wait for her to come, and every day I talk to her she asking about her brothers.

I just hope that we make informed decision before we drastically change the lives of our families as a whole. Everyone excited to get the kids here but make sure you know the kids and let them figure out for themselves if old enough, if they even want to come here.

Ok I have said enough, this baby is kicking and its time for me to go home and cook my hubby dinner.

:dance: Kids gone for a week at bible camp with 6 other cousins :dance:

Time to play hide and go get it :rofl: :rofl:

pretty sound advice but i believe jahiem has servere issues.. In my opinion Lady C is the only one who truly has his best interest at heart and she going crazy... so what to do now?

im not saying this is true of lady c but what if the daddy don't even know the child...

What a world we live in.....

[MissusM09 1]

tell her jap hmph...

I can respect that, but how we gonna add you if we don't know who to add... you get me? lol

lol right.. mi sorry.

prima mojet. theres only one of me...add away, just send a message so i know who is adding me.

[sugarapple 1]

Lady C, it takes a village to raise a child and apparently. G have to give you 100%. I agree 200% you need talk to your husband and give him an ultimatium with a time line and really I think that time line is up you have given it a lot of time. First why is G feeding a big boys like that, if he nuh wan eat then he go to sleep hungry. Me nuh feed my children if the carry on with BS i make them sit at the table when I had enough of watching them groan go in your bed.

But the same thing G say your his husband and your his wife, so guess what he need to listen to you and respsect you and make your life easier as an husband.

Second the mother probably aint making it no better because she should stop the little boy in his track from disgracing your name I aint saying that she talking badness with him but she aint stopping either so to me she helping him disrespect you.

I say SEND HIM HOME...

I have a coworker who was and I say was having problems with her stepsons she and their father band together and cracked down on them. Well one day the son took his disrespect to another level and he tear him a new ####### and tell him he going to send him home. well ever since then he has been a good boy.

I am going to say a prayer for you babes

[bajankutie 4]

pretty sound advice but i believe jahiem has servere issues.. In my opinion Lady C is the only one who truly has his best interest at heart and she going crazy... so what to do now?

im not saying this is true of lady c but what if the daddy don't even know the child...

What a world we live in.....

have a safe and wonderful vacation and thanks again for going the extra mile to help ease my mind.

[sus 70]

Good morning -

I am too lazy to read back and quote, lol - I played hooky yesterday afternoon and went sailing

Congrats on the approval Bajan

[Always Blessed 1]

Good Morning All,

Hope everyone has a great day! As for me I been a little stressed out lately, maybe its just being pregnant I do not know. I am happy but at the same time very aggravated. One minute I love my husband more then anything the next minute I could just shoot him, He is so laid back it driving me insane.

Anyway C, I feel for you girl, I wish you luck on everything with your stepson its not easy.

Jap- Sorry about your waiver being denied but congrats on making the wedding happen, I am sure it will be beautiful.

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

Ok let me say my 2 cents on this child bringing to US thing

1. lady C I feel for you because if the daddy dont have no cotrol over the child, you sure as heck aint gonna either, because you not the child's biological parent. Then you said the mom knew about the child behavior before, so it was not a surprise but you didnt know the extent of it! Dangggg Jaheim, I thought he was going to get it together. I wanted to ask you when we were talking yesterday what was up with it! But I just thought since you didnt say anything about it it was fine. I am praying for you to make the right decision, for you, your family, your marriage and jaheim, because he will be apart of your life for the rest of your life!!!

Ladies, ladies ladies, a word of advice for you and me Hell all of us!!!

I know yall love yall men and all, but if you have not spent time with these kids dont try to bring them. My husband and I have been together since 06. His daughter was born in 04. Since we first met, since the 2nd day we met and had our second date I met his daughter. Ever time after that she came over when I visited the 10 times i visited, and also whenever I would talk to him on the phone and she was there and we spoke. These are children, they have to get to know you! You cant just think that since you are married to there father they will like you!! It dont work like that. You dont know what they were fed before they came and what they think on their own about you. Dont forget their fathers lived in Jamaica where they could see them when they wanted. Now they live in the US and they can only talk to them. They dont know what goes on here, or what to expect. Make sure the kids are not acting up, uncontrollably to where when they come they have the same problem that C has. And make sure you hubby is strict and can discipline them. These are very important factor. If this thread has taught us anything, its to take the expperience of our fellow Yardie and learn from it, or help others out with it. Before I brought my kids to see my hubby I got to know him and knew they would like him. Because of how I raised them. All kids are raised differently. In Q's story, her ex hubby is negative you never know what he is telling those kids. (Q I pray they open up to Roger because you are a sweet persona nd you deserve it just like Lady C) My kids father has been in prison for a while and out there life so the only one feeding my kids anything was me.

My husband is very strict but thats what they need, they were trying to act up a little bit but he nipped that in the bud when he first got here, but I had his back on it also because he was right and they were trying to push him to see how far they could go. Also when I was in jamaica with my kids, my hubby made sure his daughter was there for the full 10 days so we could see how they interact with each other.

Now they cant wait for her to come, and every day I talk to her she asking about her brothers.

I just hope that we make informed decision before we drastically change the lives of our families as a whole. Everyone excited to get the kids here but make sure you know the kids and let them figure out for themselves if old enough, if they even want to come here.

Ok I have said enough, this baby is kicking and its time for me to go home and cook my hubby dinner.

:dance: Kids gone for a week at bible camp with 6 other cousins :dance:

Time to play hide and go get it :rofl: :rofl:

AMEN SISTA!!! I agree totally. You have to give the children a chance to get to know the other person. And you have to have the support of your spouse 100%.

Time to play hide and go get it :rofl: :rofl:

Girl you are too crazy. I haven't played that in a long time..

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

Good morning all!!!

Always-- sometimes I swear I feel the same way. One day I am so in love with my husband then the next day I wanna rip him a new one. But most of those days are when I have heart burn out of this world or my back is killing me... I guess being pregnant does that to women. I just hate it for Eric when I really get big. He is gonna wanna go back JA....LOL!!!

[besaangel 18]

Mornin all...

[MRStee 19]

Lady C, it takes a village to raise a child and apparently. G have to give you 100%. I agree 200% you need talk to your husband and give him an ultimatium with a time line and really I think that time line is up you have given it a lot of time. First why is G feeding a big boys like that, if he nuh wan eat then he go to sleep hungry. Me nuh feed my children if the carry on with BS i make them sit at the table when I had enough of watching them groan go in your bed.

But the same thing G say your his husband and your his wife, so guess what he need to listen to you and respsect you and make your life easier as an husband.

Second the mother probably aint making it no better because she should stop the little boy in his track from disgracing your name I aint saying that she talking badness with him but she aint stopping either so to me she helping him disrespect you.

I say SEND HIM HOME...

I have a coworker who was and I say was having problems with her stepsons she and their father band together and cracked down on them. Well one day the son took his disrespect to another level and he tear him a new ####### and tell him he going to send him home. well ever since then he has been a good boy.

I am going to say a prayer for you babes

Sugar I respect everything you are saying and I agree. Some ting nuh right wid im. I know in a "perfect" world we want children to behave and respect at all times. This child knows exactly what he is doing. He just never has consequences for his actions from his fadda, therefore, he test limits. I say let his modda deal wid ie!

Good morning.

have a safe and wonderful vacation and thanks again for going the extra mile to help ease my mind.

You are very welcomed! Now I can't wait for him to come home to you. I know the reunion will be sweet!

[MRStee 19]

Good morning, again everyone..

Well this is it. My last day at work until next Wednesday I hope everyone has a great week. Don't chat it up too much because I will have to play catch up..lol Peace and blessings for all the approvals, visas, gc, ap, ead, marriages, births..etc. Gonna miss yall... Im going to have a drink for each and everyone of you...

My hubby and I been having sexy parties galore...to hold us over

Oh and on a funny note (it may even be TMI) but how about I packed everything but undies??? LOL I have to go to Walmart or Target and buy some. I always buy new underwear when I travel. I think I have an obsession with it. I own so much underwear its ridiculous!

Edited July 28, 2010 by MRStee

[DedicatedWife 4]

Morning All! I been super busy at work but I have been up on the Facebook in the evenings...been missing my VJ time.

Lady C, my prayers are with you and your family.

Q, I hope that the girls come around soon.

JAP, sorry about the K-1 being dead...best wishes as you embark on your new journey!

Tee, Finesse, Dan-Dan, Dills, and JQ, thanks for sharing your experiences with the kids. It's good for me to see what others have been through. I really don't know what to expect since hubby's son is still so young...I see its not a cake walk at all.

Bajan, congratulations to you and your hubby and your family!

KJ, welcome back...I noticed you were MIA for a minute but its okay its like that some times. Hope you are doing well.

Missus, I feel ya ma, you gotta do what is best for you...we gonna miss you. I'm going to shout you up on FB!

Tee, I know you so ready for your trip!

Eric_Jew Nug, good luck on the K-2 with getting Eric's daugther here.

Bessa, on the job front...leave no stone unturned! Apply, apply, apply!

Edited July 28, 2010 by DedicatedWife

[DedicatedWife 4]

Good Morning All,

Hope everyone has a great day! As for me I been a little stressed out lately, maybe its just being pregnant I do not know. I am happy but at the same time very aggravated. One minute I love my husband more then anything the next minute I could just shoot him, He is so laid back it driving me insane.

Anyway C, I feel for you girl, I wish you luck on everything with your stepson its not easy.

Jap- Sorry about your waiver being denied but congrats on making the wedding happen, I am sure it will be beautiful.

Always Blessed, don't be stressed! I've heard lots of preggers women say they have a love/hate with the fathers. Hang in there...in a few months all of this will be a blur...as you're looking into your baby girl's beautiful face!