Yardies at home and a farrin, Part 27!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

(((hugs)))

When the K1 was denied he was not banned for 3 years like you are thinking... he has 3 years clean and sober, it is the possession charges in his past that made him ineligible.

So he is not eligible for a visa at all without a waiver, and he is not eligible for a waiver of those charges as a fiance' - only as a spouse...

The good news is we can marry now and start over from there without the 3 year ban that others have had to wait out... however, we will have the waiver processing time which is at least 2-4 months after the denial at the interview...

clear as mud, eh?

got it! clear as tar! Well, at least you don't have to wait much longer to be his "Mrs"! And the filing game can begin again!

[JAPrincess 27]

Any tips on job hunting to the newbie???

www.craigslist.org

[Zee's Boo 0]

Hello Yardies

I heard back from the Congressman on Friday...

Our K1 is dead.

The embassy sent the congressman a letter saying the only way we are eligible to file a waiver for his specific ineligibility is if we are married.

The K1 visa case has been closed, and the letter stated no further action could be taken...

So... Now, I got 40 days to plan a wedding!

Sorry to hear Japrincess :-( but you now have a marriage to look forward to! :-)

Does anyone know the difference between a Marriage Certificate With Entry Number and one Without Entry Number?

which do we need??

[LadyC 1]

Hi Yardies sorry i have been away for awhile now. I hope everyone is doing great. Congrats, prayers and good luck to anything i have missed. JaP you can do it girl. Congrats and Good Luck.

Well here is my up date...Jaheim has moved to another level of evil. Some may not like me saying this but it is what it is. This child will put me in jail soon enough and he knows what he is doing. My hubby cant seem to control him and he cant seem to understand my feelings. He has turned my life upside down. My friend that used to watch him no longer wants him in her home because he is so disrespectful. He told her 5 year old son that his mom was so big and fat that she cant fit in my van. My husband said nothing, no punishment nothing he just went and sleep and when he woke up he was mad at everyone because we said he should have done something. Well now my hubby and my friends are not on speaking terms and I am in the middle. G says he is my husband and they are just my friends. The smoke is still coming from my ears. Moving on everything I do as punishment G undo. He treats Jaheim as if he is a baby. When he dont want to eat G sits and feeds him, this child looks at me like I am sh&t under his shoes and do not say good morning or anything. Well on Sunday his mother called him and he took the phone into the closet between the clothes and proceed to disgrace my name. I told his mother that I never ill treat my kids and I dont ill treat hers the pickney just dont have no F'ing manners. G did nothing or said nothing. Im so pissed I just want to runaway. My 19 year old had to step in and explain to G that he is wrong. Im at my ropes end with this situation. ****Help***

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

Good morning all. I have to go back and read to see what I missed, good thing it has been slow on here.

Lady C. I do not know what to say on that note. I can't stand disrespect, so I know you are ready for some heads to roll. Maybe yall can try some counseling or something. Girl I am not the one to give advise in that situation, cause if it were me, the little man would not be able to sit down for a few days.....you feel me.

I am not sure how the K2 process starts. Eric is suppossed to be checking on that, but I guess I will have to take charge of that as well, like everything else.

Job searches-- Try everything. Monster.com, yahoo jobs, usajobs.com, sunday papers have a lot of jobs, Unemployment office,craigslist, even try driving to somewhere that you are interested and ask. That is what Eric did all of the above.

Sorry for your loss MissusM09, I just went through something similar a few months ago. I am still feeling the heartache. It does get better as time goes on

Oh and Finesse Please have a drink for me. Lord knows it is five o' clock somewhere and I can't drink. Eric have his little drinks in the evening and I just wanna slap the cup out of his hand........but then again that would be alcohol abuse, wouldn't?

gotta go do a little work will be back in a few

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Hi Yardies sorry i have been away for awhile now. I hope everyone is doing great. Congrats, prayers and good luck to anything i have missed. JaP you can do it girl. Congrats and Good Luck.

Well here is my up date...Jaheim has moved to another level of evil. Some may not like me saying this but it is what it is. This child will put me in jail soon enough and he knows what he is doing. My hubby cant seem to control him and he cant seem to understand my feelings. He has turned my life upside down. My friend that used to watch him no longer wants him in her home because he is so disrespectful. He told her 5 year old son that his mom was so big and fat that she cant fit in my van. My husband said nothing, no punishment nothing he just went and sleep and when he woke up he was mad at everyone because we said he should have done something. Well now my hubby and my friends are not on speaking terms and I am in the middle. G says he is my husband and they are just my friends. The smoke is still coming from my ears. Moving on everything I do as punishment G undo. He treats Jaheim as if he is a baby. When he dont want to eat G sits and feeds him, this child looks at me like I am sh&t under his shoes and do not say good morning or anything. Well on Sunday his mother called him and he took the phone into the closet between the clothes and proceed to disgrace my name. I told his mother that I never ill treat my kids and I dont ill treat hers the pickney just dont have no F'ing manners. G did nothing or said nothing. Im so pissed I just want to runaway. My 19 year old had to step in and explain to G that he is wrong. Im at my ropes end with this situation. ****Help***

Damnnnn.....Firstly and foremost, G needs to understand that your friends have been there before he was! ANd it's not about 'them' vs 'him', his son has a problem and he needs to acknowledge it!

You two need to sit down and work out a plan for dealing with Jaheim's behaviour and acceptable punishments. G needs to NIP it in the bud or it will be a problem FOREVER!

I know you said you were going to counseling sessions, how are they working out?

As for him telling his mother #######, I would ignore that ish, YOU know what you do and not, but then again, it's kinda dangerous if he's making allegations....

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Hi Yardies sorry i have been away for awhile now. I hope everyone is doing great. Congrats, prayers and good luck to anything i have missed. JaP you can do it girl. Congrats and Good Luck.

Well here is my up date...Jaheim has moved to another level of evil. Some may not like me saying this but it is what it is. This child will put me in jail soon enough and he knows what he is doing. My hubby cant seem to control him and he cant seem to understand my feelings. He has turned my life upside down. My friend that used to watch him no longer wants him in her home because he is so disrespectful. He told her 5 year old son that his mom was so big and fat that she cant fit in my van. My husband said nothing, no punishment nothing he just went and sleep and when he woke up he was mad at everyone because we said he should have done something. Well now my hubby and my friends are not on speaking terms and I am in the middle. G says he is my husband and they are just my friends. The smoke is still coming from my ears. Moving on everything I do as punishment G undo. He treats Jaheim as if he is a baby. When he dont want to eat G sits and feeds him, this child looks at me like I am sh&t under his shoes and do not say good morning or anything. Well on Sunday his mother called him and he took the phone into the closet between the clothes and proceed to disgrace my name. I told his mother that I never ill treat my kids and I dont ill treat hers the pickney just dont have no F'ing manners. G did nothing or said nothing. Im so pissed I just want to runaway. My 19 year old had to step in and explain to G that he is wrong. Im at my ropes end with this situation. ****Help***

LadyC..sorry that you are having to go through this. Is the boy currently seeing a counselor? I feel like I vaguely remember hearing that he was going to see a counselor? Also, you might want to look for behavioral therapists in your area who can work with you on specific interventions to modify and change his behavior. Unfortunately what I know for a fact is this: this child's behavior WILL NOT change unless the behavior of the parents change. Your husband is going to HAVE to step up and be active in changing his own behavior and expectations, as well as his son's. He cannot continue to sit back and allow you to do the work on your own. U can ask any counselor/behavior therapist/whatever that systemic change starts from the top. Once you (and husband) commit to working on changing yours and his behaviors, then the child will have no choice but to fall in line. But it has to start with you two. And really, it has to start with your husband! Somehow you've got to make him understand that he really is the key to getting you all to live together as a family and eradicating these negative behaviors. Good luck to you...I know it's extrememly hard, especially when the adults aren't on the same page in regards to behaviors/discipline/etc.

Edited July 27, 2010 by Mrs. Palmer

[LadyC 1]

Thanks Ladies for your reply I have been saying the same things to G but all he says is he is gonna do better but he never does. We started counseling but we have not gone in a few weeks but we will be starting back.

[bajankutie 4]

Morning Ladies

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

hello bajan...how r u?

[bajankutie 4]

hello bajan...how r u?

excited, nervous

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

excited, nervous

OH YES! You have the 2nd interview at the Embassy! Girl, claim your victory in the name of the Most High right now!! And let us know as soon as you know!

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

OKAY ladies need some assistance

How exactly do I get started with this K-2 Visa process??????? Been reading a few threads, but they say so much that is different for specific countries. Do I need to file the I-130 first or should I contact the consulate? HELP

[sus 70]

Morning all -

LadyC, sorry to hear you are having problems still - I agree that counseling is a good idea, and you and G need to get on the same page - You have to present a united front or the behavior won't change. You might want to browse around on some of the parenting forums, like http://forum.supernanny.com/ - Sometimes it helps to read what others have tried / success or failure.

Good luck today Bajan - waiting for the good news!

[dillon 6]

Hi Yardies sorry i have been away for awhile now. I hope everyone is doing great. Congrats, prayers and good luck to anything i have missed. JaP you can do it girl. Congrats and Good Luck.

Well here is my up date...Jaheim has moved to another level of evil. Some may not like me saying this but it is what it is. This child will put me in jail soon enough and he knows what he is doing. My hubby cant seem to control him and he cant seem to understand my feelings. He has turned my life upside down. My friend that used to watch him no longer wants him in her home because he is so disrespectful. He told her 5 year old son that his mom was so big and fat that she cant fit in my van. My husband said nothing, no punishment nothing he just went and sleep and when he woke up he was mad at everyone because we said he should have done something. Well now my hubby and my friends are not on speaking terms and I am in the middle. G says he is my husband and they are just my friends. The smoke is still coming from my ears. Moving on everything I do as punishment G undo. He treats Jaheim as if he is a baby. When he dont want to eat G sits and feeds him, this child looks at me like I am sh&t under his shoes and do not say good morning or anything. Well on Sunday his mother called him and he took the phone into the closet between the clothes and proceed to disgrace my name. I told his mother that I never ill treat my kids and I dont ill treat hers the pickney just dont have no F'ing manners. G did nothing or said nothing. Im so pissed I just want to runaway. My 19 year old had to step in and explain to G that he is wrong. Im at my ropes end with this situation. ****Help***

THAT'S IT!!!! I AM CALLING NANNY 911 on that boy!

Seriously I really feel for you and I know you are frustrated beyond belief. There is only so much a person can take especially if you aren't getting the support you need from his father. Have you guys discussed sending him back to his mother?