How to deal with the down time

[Mags 112]

I think you should all just sit around feeling sorry for yourselves. That's what worked for me.

Cyber sex is a great way to pass the time.

It helps if it is with your future spouse.

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Cyber sex is a great way to pass the time.

It helps if it is with your future spouse.

Or even not.

Oh wait, this is a thread for future marrieds, not VJ Whores of Babylon. Sorry.

[Mags 112]

Or even not.

Oh wait, this is a thread for future marrieds, not VJ Whores of Babylon. Sorry.

[yankepeach 2]

Cyber sex is a great way to pass the time.

It helps if it is with your future spouse.

I had to go to the restroom, but after reading this.....well the tears were rolling and I am afraid I was laughing to hard, I don't have to pee any more.

[MelissaJulian 30]

Thanks Jill. I guess we'll hear soon.

Just to say that we replied to the RFE on the 16th and hopefully we will hear something really soon. I was really lucky to have my fiance with me last week. I had to say goodbye to him on Monday night and I thought it wasn't possible to cry as many tears as I did that night. But I remember that the next time he comes to visit, it will be to stay. I try to stay focused on that during the tough times.

[nickandkayte 0]

On topic, I joined a gym and did up to 5 exercise classes a day. And from this I am now becoming a certified fitness instructor and could never have done this without having all that down time to kill. It was really life-changing for me, and my body. Needless to say, I came to the USA in a better shape, and stronger than I have ever been before in my life.

I also made new friends, and it gave me something to do while the time difference was not in our favor. This was between August (Before my NOA2) and December.

So by the time I came over, I got my husband back in to working out, and one of our favorite times together is at the gym pushing each other to life more weight and run faster. Nothing beats working out together and staying healthy.

Edited July 21, 2010 by nickandkayte

[Alex~Alan 8]

My feller is her for approx. 4 more weeks. I could give you the time down to the last minute.....but its too depressing. lol. I know I am being silly, but jeesh! I sure as heck am not looking forward to his leaving, yet again. It's not like I don't know he is coming back or that I am getting to go over there for his interview and to do a bit of honey mooning while there....ok a lot of honey mooning.....but I am bugging out every time I think about him leaving.

So how do you deal with your SO being 4000 miles or more away. What gets you through. How do you distract your self from being miserable.

I think for Alan and I, what has been helpful is not pining and whining about longing to be together. We try not to let ourselves get too emotional. We talk...we talk A LOT...everyday. This really helps. We laugh and joke and try to keep our spirits lifted. I have been reading self-help books on being a better partner/spouse, as I feel we could probably all use new information. This down time for us has made us both think a lot about who we are, why previous relationships may not have worked, and how we can prevent making the same mistakes in the past. My reading has also given us additional things to talk about. While being apart is so very difficult, we cannot change what we cannot change, so we just try to make it as pain-free for each other as possible and try to be supportive and not draining to one another.

[yankepeach 2]

I think for Alan and I, what has been helpful is not pining and whining about longing to be together. We try not to let ourselves get too emotional. We talk...we talk A LOT...everyday. This really helps. We laugh and joke and try to keep our spirits lifted. I have been reading self-help books on being a better partner/spouse, as I feel we could probably all use new information. This down time for us has made us both think a lot about who we are, why previous relationships may not have worked, and how we can prevent making the same mistakes in the past. My reading has also given us additional things to talk about. While being apart is so very difficult, we cannot change what we cannot change, so we just try to make it as pain-free for each other as possible and try to be supportive and not draining to one another.

lol....Us too. The talking all the time.Thank god for skype, let me tell you. We even sleep with it on so we can look over and see the other. Its funny becuase they are five hours ahead...and he is on my schedual.

[Asila 10]

I <3 skype. If things don't work out, I plan on proposing to it.

[yankepeach 2]

I <3 skype. If things don't work out, I plan on proposing to it.

SKYPE is the bomb. I would go insane with out. Am very thankful for it for sure.