This has got to be the hardest part!

[garnet80 1]

I first thought getting packet 1 ready to go was rough, but no... then I thought the wait for NOA2 was pretty rough, wrong again. Now here we are 19 days from the K1 interview in Vancouver. Flights are booked, motel is booked. All of the paperwork is in order. We've read the Vancouver reviews that are up. But I'm so scared. I don't see why he wouldn't be approved, but it could easily happen. The things that people say aren't red flags in Vancouver, they scare me too (I am recently divorced, engaged while very separated but still married all the same. I am 11 years his senior... he will be turning 19 two weeks after the interview, his AGE itself...)

I worry that my tiny income will raise questions, even though my co-sponsor makes a few thousand more than she needs to. I worry that we didn't provide enough financial info. We each did 3 years of tax transcripts, letter from employer, paycheck stubs and each filled out our form.

I think we are fine on evidence of relationship? He's taking about 50 photos, print outs of a few emails from each of us over the past year, copies of postage from packages sent, he's taking in actual letters I sent him, and I scanned a couple and emailed them. We also got a letter of support of our relationship from my mom, and two of our friends. I added an evolution of relationship in case that comes up.

He speaks well, will have no problem answering questions, remembers dates, people, etc. So thats good.

I know we're lucky to have Vancouver be where he is interviewed. We have had incredibly fast processing times with this whole process. I am terrified our luck has run out.

If he gets it, he will be moving in two weeks, on his birthday (assuming passport and visa are in hand).

My last worry is, if he's declined, what then? The options all seem pretty awful.

And I have one very off topic and random question, if anyone knows. Say your Canadian husband, newly married in the US gets you pregnant. Can the USC apply for medicaid if the insurance she has isn't up to par? Is it only the beneficiary that needs to stay away from govt benefits? This isn't my problem, and isn't GOING to be my problem lol, I am just curious.

Thank you to anyone that took the time to read through this. I'm sure everyone that has gone through this has had worry hit preinterview...

[Hugglebuggles 60]

First, it's normal to worry. Before our interview I was basically a wreck, obsessing over everything, thinking of strange and really unlikely reasons why I wouldn't be approved, and looking back a lot of that was rather silly. It is what it is. If you are missing a document, or if you don't have enough financial evidence, you will have the opportunity to send it in after the interview. Vancouver is really good about getting the information, processing it and printing the visa- you wouldn't be facing months of waiting time like you would in Montreal.

I think I read in your last thread that you are going to the interview? Am I right or making things up? If you are going, then that is really the best relationship prof you can have. You are there with him, supporting him, and if the CO has any concerns about your previous relationship or the age difference, he/she can just ask you about it. Even if you aren't coming, I think he has more than enough relationship evidence. A lot of people aren't ever asked for any at all, especially if you included a lot of evidence with your I-129F.

If for some unknown reason the visa is denied, it would depend on why. If it's for a medical condition, a previous overstay or something of that nature, there are waivers that he can apply for. If it is because there are doubts that your relationship is legit, I believe you can appeal the decision with USCIS (which takes forever) or you could get married and try for a CR-1. There have been some people on here who have been successful doing that. But you don't even need to worry about that, I see no reason why they wouldn't think your relationship is for real!

Good luck, I'm sure everything will be great

[garnet80 1]

Thank you for your reply. I'm afraid I can't afford to go with him. We have the money for everything he needs, but there isn't enough for me in there too.

He never overstayed, I don't believe they will find any medical conditions, and I think he has all the documents. My worries are just the age difference, his age, my recent divorce mostly. >.< I can't imagine they would doubt the legitimacy of our relationship. That is one worry I don't have lol.

I hope we have enough financial proof. >.<

We would have to get married in Canada wouldn't we? If we were denied? If we did it in the US that could get him banned?

[Flames9_RN 358]

What many do that are worried, is list all the documents they are taking to the interview, that way if ur missing something, someone may catch it! Not much else one can do! Will the age difference play a part in their decision? in a perfect world, no. In an immigration world, hard to say, it shouldn't, but he should be prepared to have a strong rebuttal if it is brought up at the interview.

[Hugglebuggles 60]

Well, for the record, I've never seen anyone on here be denied because of an age difference, or a recent divorce alone.

You could get married in the US, there isn't a problem with that as long as he was to return home to Canada and have you apply for the proper visa.

[garnet80 1]

His response about my recent divorce is that we separated in early 2008, and he moved in with his girlfriend and her children. He refused to help pay for the divorce, which is why it took so long. We lived apart long before the divorce was final.

I was thinking I could add more paycheck stubs in with the financial documents. Would it be a moot point to put more of mine, since my income doesn't matter? Would it make sense to just use more of my mothers since it is her income that pushes us over the limit?

I'm surprised, I thought getting married here after a failed K1 would result in a big no no of doing so. Because I mean, it's iffy if you come in with intent to marry... they don't seem to like that. But you are supposed to be honest lol. There is no winning with the border guard!

[Kathryn41 3,205]

You'll be fine . Age differences are not that big a deal in Canada.

To reassure you, a friend of mine sponsored her husband to Canada from England - she was 16 years his senior and he was in his early 20s at the time. They had absolutely no problems with immigration even though it was a number of years ago when age differences were more unusual. Even though this is the US Consulate, they will be aware that age differences in North American relationships are not uncommon.

Yes, you as a US citizen are fully entitled to take advantage of whatever public/means tested/tax based programmes that you need. He will not be allowed, and if there are any 'family' type benefits, his presence will be excluded from the benefit amount - but you are fine to apply and receive such benefits .

It is not the intent to marry in the US that is the problem . . it is the intent to marry and remain in the US that is the problem. Entering as a visitor with the intention to get married and immigrate without leaving the US is visa fraud. Entering as a visitor with the intention to get married and then start the appropriate immigration process is perfectly fine and happens all the time.

Good luck at the interview .

Edited April 9, 2010 by Kathryn41

[arya 22]

I understand your worry all too well. I went for an interview in Vancouver and I just wanted to let you know about the age difference thing. They will probably ask about it. My husband is 11 years older than me, and when I went to the interview she point blank asked me about it. She said that our age difference is big and she had to ask me what I find attractive about him and what do we have in common. To list some things that we both like. I also have a master's degree, while my husband is a car technician and she asked about that too! She asked what do you talk about, since you don't have the same type of education?! I was a little offended by that. I felt like I had to defend him, but whatever. All in all, it wasn't too bad and I'm sure your fiance is going to pass

[Dan and Ali 3]

Hey garnet,

I can't tell you for 100% sure that you'll be approved because of course, no one can tell you that except the CO (I hope your fiance gets Hoang, she interviewed me and was amazing!), but I think that if you search through all the review posts for Vancouver (and Montreal, even!) you'll be quite hard pressed to find a review where the couple was denied due to the CO doubting the authenticity of the relationship or plain old just thinking the couple shouldn't be together. Before my interview, I suffered the same anxiety that you're suffering now and I would honestly stay up so late every night worrying that we were going to be denied ... it was terrible, and in hindsight, a huge waste! My situation isn't the same as yours by any means but it wasn't exactly cut and dry like some people's. We ended up having to provide further information and didn't get our approval immediately. But you know what? Even though we went and didn't get approved that day, we also didn't get denied, either (the CO was actually very apologetic about needing the additional info ... she seemed genuinely remorseful). As soon as we did provide the additional documents, they issued the visa almost instantly. I guess what I'm saying here is that the likelihood of you getting denied is really slim. However, the likelihood of you having to provide more info etc ... that ball is totally in your court. If you cover all your bases and make sure that you have every required thing and a lot of proof of your relationship, you'll be fine. If you're worried about the age difference being an issue, prepare your fiance to answer questions about it. Thinking back to my interview experience, the CO did ask me a couple of personal/touchy questions, but they were important questions that I am sure anyone would have asked had they had the power to do so (like the CO does, lol). The important thing to remember is that the CO's personal opinion on your life choices and whatnot is not what is going to get you approved or denied, what will get you approved or denied is having - or not having! - everything the consulate asks for.

Good luck and I can't wait to read your successful review!

[garnet80 1]

Thank you all for the answers and insight. If anyone cares to share some of the harder questions, even by PM, we would appreciate it. We've been on webcam tonight talking about answers to what we think might come up... but what do we know lol. The reviews all seem to have very very basic questions, and then here you guys are saying they get personal and such. We think we have the correct paperwork, but I am sure our answers could use some work.

Again, thank you for the replies, and reassurances. It seems we maybe have a good shot.

[Marilyn. 340]

I know it isn't as big of a difference but I am 7 years older then my husband but I was never asked about it... in fact I wasn't really asked any questions about our relationship

[sachinky 465]

You're from CANADA.

Relax. He'll be fine.

[coraliesolms 47]

You have a co-sponsor with all the previous tax info.... ok there

So, you are 11 years older, happens all the time in NA...ok there

Proving relationship, youre fiance does not come from a country where visa fraud is a concern... ok there..

Check check and check. As long as he answers confidently, looks the consul in the eye.. you should be 100% ok Breath easy, your soon to be hubby will most likely be there soon!!

[slider100 8]

Just as my friend Coralie said, "He will be fine" !!!

Good Luck!!!

KnR aka slider100

[coraliesolms 47]

WHAT ARE YOU STILL DOING NORTH OF THE 49th SLIDER????

When my visa gets here, Im walking out of the post office and catching a cab to the nearest airport!!