Yardies a home and a farrin, Part 25!

[DedicatedWife 4]

Hey Yardies,

Ivan got his AP and EAD in the mail yesterday!! He screamed when he opened the letter because its feels like we have been waiting forever.

I had to chime in on the phone discussion because we just had this same issue last week. He called a girl that he used to talk to that lives in the area. His goal was to link the girl up with one of his friends back in JA. The day that he spoke with her, she asked him if his wife approved of them talking. He later that day asked if I would mind being her friend and them talking. And I'm like "For what?". Why would I want to be her friend? He then later tells me that he is trying to link her with his friend. I'm sitting here thinking what kind of chick would date you, then date your friend. I just thought the suggestion was crazy. Two days later I see that she has called two days in a row and the conversations are lasting way too long. So of course, I asked him about it. Long story short, we had a long discussion about and we called her to confirm their conversation. She was really cool and respectful of our relationship. She even told me that she was concerned that I would not be ok with them talking and asked him about it. The bottom line is that I don't feel like there is a reason for my man to communicate with previous chicks. She is in the past for a reason. He didn't really understand why I wasn't feeling it. But I just think its disrespectful. Not to mention, everyone is not respectful of your relationship and many people can't stand to see you happy, so they cause drama because they are unhappy. My point is don't open the door for potential drama when you don't have to. People are in your past for a reason, so that is where they need to stay. I admit I check my phone bills, but hubby knew that I was somewhat insecure based on past relationships and knew that it was his burden to prove that he was different. I feel like you have to do what's best for your relationship and express when you are unhappy with something. Otherwise, they will assume that its ok. As far as BM, I don't have a problem with that. I feel like its appropriate to converse with them whenever necessary because I do the same with my BF. I call to let him know how her day went, if she got in trouble, etc..And she is 7 years old. I think both parents should be fully involved in their child's life, even if they are not together. And whatever it takes to raise that child has to be done. As long as both parents are respectful of the significant others. Just my 2 cents...

Congratulations on the AP & EAD!

I agree with you about the communication for the parents for the children. I respect that...I just told him before we got married to respect our union.

[kjenkins86 5]

yes mine did it required in the first 30 days if they are under 26

Oh #######, now we're in trouble How didyou do it?

Another thing ladies woman/ men don't respect a marriage that is why there are so many problems. Memba how back in the day a woman/man would see a wedding ring and wouldn't go near you because they \knew that person was off limits but no adays folk don't care. They be like I'm married and the next response it so?? ####### you mean so..I never wanted to date anyone who wasn't fully mine and I still don't.

She knew she was dead azz wrong why would you text someone at that time of morning. Whatever the issue was would still be there in a few hours knowing dis man is hugged up with em wife. Ooh dat makes mad!!!

That's true Dada, no respect nowadays regarding marriage.

KJ, I survived the rugrats...barely...lol. Dem five kids kicked my butt.

No, I'm very comfortable with him or else we would not have married! I'm not trying to change him at all. One thing about me...I will never walk around like my stuff don't stank...you can never put anything above and beyond someone. I stay prayed up and focused. I try my best to trust as much as I can...but I had a moment the other night. I admitted it, discussed it,and now we stronger today from it. Den is a wonderful man, a loving husband and father! I couldn't pray for a better man. So little things may come up because every day will not be sunshine but we'll get though it. I believe we have what it takes to make it through the test of time, I really do!So love that man!

Lol @ the rugrats!

I'm glad you feel that way about your husband, that's great. I love to hear that people are happy.

On another note me and G went to church today and it was special because we've never been to church before. We do pray and we do believe in God but we just never went to church. We also met with the pastor and had another seesion of pre'marital counseling and it was so emotional on my part because the pastor was asking who from my family is doing what and taking part in the wedding and I was so ashamed to say no one. For whatever reason my family doesn't seem too interested or excited and it kills me, especiallly that I have to wake up and look at their fake azz smile everyday but what the heck, you can choose your friends but not your family so I'm stuck with them.

As long as God bless me and him we're ok.

[charandivan 0]

On another note me and G went to church today and it was special because we've never been to church before. We do pray and we do believe in God but we just never went to church. We also met with the pastor and had another seesion of pre'marital counseling and it was so emotional on my part because the pastor was asking who from my family is doing what and taking part in the wedding and I was so ashamed to say no one. For whatever reason my family doesn't seem too interested or excited and it kills me, especiallly that I have to wake up and look at their fake azz smile everyday but what the heck, you can choose your friends but not your family so I'm stuck with them.

As long as God bless me and him we're ok.

That's awesome that you guys went to church together. I think you guys are doing the right thing by setting a strong foundation for your marriage. As far as your family, you are definitely right that you can't choose them. But you have lots of friends, especially on this board, that support you guys. It's always a blessing to be able to share with others, especially when you are going through the same things. In the end, as long as you guys are one accord, that is all you need.

[kjenkins86 5]

That's awesome that you guys went to church together. I think you guys are doing the right thing by setting a strong foundation for your marriage. As far as your family, you are definitely right that you can't choose them. But you have lots of friends, especially on this board, that support you guys. It's always a blessing to be able to share with others, especially when you are going through the same things. In the end, as long as you guys are one accord, that is all you need.

Thanks for the words of encouragement char!

[MRStee 19]

Really I wasnt seeking things out, as I said, I talked to her before and she seemed all cool. Then when I kindly asked her not to text him at 5 am, she came at me like I shouldnt tell her what she can do with my husband, even though he told her the same thing. Some women just make it hard for the rest of us lol.

I was just referring to the fact that if you (not you per say, you in general) go looking for things, you can expect to find anything

I tries to stay out and mind my own business but I do think you had a reason to be mad. I was in the same boat with my ex and I was hotter than fish grease at certain times. I also disagree and think when you get married certain things do need to change. Some of the friends you had before no you can longer have as married folk or lets say maybe your relationship needs to be toned down. To me alot of things change when you get married before you said I do you could walk away and not look back but when married its not that easy or it shouldn't be that easy. Matter of fact I could go on and on but I won't...

Agreed!

[MRStee 19]

Besa sweetheart, as I said before no offense intended so I hope you weren't offended. You have every right to be mad in a situation like that and I'm glad she's no longer a problem.

I apologize if I came off too strong, always an issue that I've had. Also thanks for sharing your experience with us all.

MrsTee I learned from the best, Rashida! Lol just kidding. But we're cool...

Go sit down some where KJ, Everyting good mama I don't have issues with anyone on this board, we just gonna "put on our big girl drawz" and discuss, we agree to disagree thats all. We some strong willed/opinionated wimins lol

[MRStee 19]

yes mine did it required in the first 30 days if they are under 26

i just asked hubby he said he didn't get it he all happy, i said uh, we may get fined...he gave me the look

[MRStee 19]

Tee!!!!! Help!!! I can't seem to write this cover letter. Can I e-mail it to you so you can look it over for me? You said you were good with writing If so can you PM mi yuh e-mail address?

Sure mama mstee918@gmail.com

of all things ive said why you remember that? just playing girl send it! i love a challenge

[MRStee 19]

KJ, I survived the rugrats...barely...lol. Dem five kids kicked my butt.

No, I'm very comfortable with him or else we would not have married! I'm not trying to change him at all. One thing about me...I will never walk around like my stuff don't stank...you can never put anything above and beyond someone. I stay prayed up and focused. I try my best to trust as much as I can...but I had a moment the other night. I admitted it, discussed it,and now we stronger today from it. Den is a wonderful man, a loving husband and father! I couldn't pray for a better man. So little things may come up because every day will not be sunshine but we'll get though it. I believe we have what it takes to make it through the test of time, I really do!So love that man!

Gurl, i almost did a victory praised dance from these words....woooo it touched me... hallelujah.. preach sista DW!!!

Oh #######, now we're in trouble How didyou do it?

That's true Dada, no respect nowadays regarding marriage.

Lol @ the rugrats!

I'm glad you feel that way about your husband, that's great. I love to hear that people are happy.

On another note me and G went to church today and it was special because we've never been to church before. We do pray and we do believe in God but we just never went to church. We also met with the pastor and had another seesion of pre'marital counseling and it was so emotional on my part because the pastor was asking who from my family is doing what and taking part in the wedding and I was so ashamed to say no one. For whatever reason my family doesn't seem too interested or excited and it kills me, especiallly that I have to wake up and look at their fake azz smile everyday but what the heck, you can choose your friends but not your family so I'm stuck with them.

As long as God bless me and him we're ok.

amen sista jenkins!! thats right!

[MRStee 19]

That's awesome that you guys went to church together. I think you guys are doing the right thing by setting a strong foundation for your marriage. As far as your family, you are definitely right that you can't choose them. But you have lots of friends, especially on this board, that support you guys. It's always a blessing to be able to share with others, especially when you are going through the same things. In the end, as long as you guys are one accord, that is all you need.

agreed!

[MRStee 19]

We were "touched" again on the 9th

[kjenkins86 5]

Go sit down some where KJ, Everyting good mama I don't have issues with anyone on this board, we just gonna "put on our big girl drawz" and discuss, we agree to disagree thats all. We some strong willed/opinionated wimins lol

Well MrsTee I'm sorry but my drawz ain't big Okay I'm lieing, the one that honey stretched out lastnight trying to rape meh! Lol but seriously it's great to vent on here and know that we're not the only one's going through these issues, it really does help to let it out...

i just asked hubby he said he didn't get it he all happy, i said uh, we may get fined...he gave me the look

Um,Nat said you can register at sss.gov or something like that, I'm just hesitant about it.

We were "touched" again on the 9th

Yay

[MoLuvsAcory 0]

Hey!! I'm all alone on here. I just read a few pages to catch up.

Thanks for the condolensces. It was my grand uncle who past away. He was 93. He lived his life to the fullest as determined by the creator. Of course family is sad but Uncle lived to see 93 which is a true blessing. In regards to some of our issues on here, he wouldve said " nuh worry urself. Everything criss."

Congrats Charandivan on receiving the AP & EAD in the mail.

MzMorgan, you two heading to JA already?! Go on w/your bad self heading back to yard so soon.

I too am guilty of the "big foot" club. I however describe my feet as being long. No fatness @ all on it. Just narrow & bony.

Dens, it will continue to get better. Try don't make telephone thing mash up unnu good thing. It irritates me when bill is ran up but I believe we deh pon d same level now.

Now to my big issue. Today while @ work I received a phone call from PayPal about some transactions. Purchases she spoke about had me like huh?!? Or better yet #######! She immediately put in an investigation & assured me $$ shall be returned. It was like $60 or a little more in purchases. Now I was annoyed but knew I myself would look into it further when home.

Called bank & noticed checking acct is in neg status. #######! Not my style. Now I'm even more pissed & have plans to be first one @ bank to look into this. Long story short, later that night my bank calls me. They just as PayPal see some weird activity. Some a*% made over $700 worth purchases on my damn bank card!! They even had audacity to go to apple.com & buy stuff. I'm so pissed. But I'm glad they have ppl @ the banks who look out for red flags like this. Lady cancelled my card which unlinks it from acct. Have you ever!?! So 2mmrw I have to go fill out some papers about all these erroneous purchases. I'm telling you these thiefs are really something else & dem ah tek it too far espclly since they robbing poor little old me. I'm glad it was noticed though. But I write down every deposit, withdrawal, purchase. Name it. I writes it down!!! So Mr. Techy wouldn't have depleted my acct w/o me knowing. Some damn nerves. I just hope every $$ is returned in a timely fashion b/c I need my $$$.

OK. I'm done venting. Talk to every1 2mmrw, that's only if I accomplish everything @ bank as I'm intending to.

[DaDa 1]

Sure mama mstee918@gmail.com

of all things ive said why you remember that? just playing girl send it! i love a challenge

Cuz I need help dats why you know folks always remember something when they need you..lol

[DaDa 1]

Hey!! I'm all alone on here. I just read a few pages to catch up.

Thanks for the condolensces. It was my grand uncle who past away. He was 93. He lived his life to the fullest as determined by the creator. Of course family is sad but Uncle lived to see 93 which is a true blessing. In regards to some of our issues on here, he wouldve said " nuh worry urself. Everything criss."

Congrats Charandivan on receiving the AP & EAD in the mail.

MzMorgan, you two heading to JA already?! Go on w/your bad self heading back to yard so soon.

I too am guilty of the "big foot" club. I however describe my feet as being long. No fatness @ all on it. Just narrow & bony.

Dens, it will continue to get better. Try don't make telephone thing mash up unnu good thing. It irritates me when bill is ran up but I believe we deh pon d same level now.

Now to my big issue. Today while @ work I received a phone call from PayPal about some transactions. Purchases she spoke about had me like huh?!? Or better yet #######! She immediately put in an investigation & assured me $$ shall be returned. It was like $60 or a little more in purchases. Now I was annoyed but knew I myself would look into it further when home.

Called bank & noticed checking acct is in neg status. #######! Not my style. Now I'm even more pissed & have plans to be first one @ bank to look into this. Long story short, later that night my bank calls me. They just as PayPal see some weird activity. Some a*% made over $700 worth purchases on my damn bank card!! They even had audacity to go to apple.com & buy stuff. I'm so pissed. But I'm glad they have ppl @ the banks who look out for red flags like this. Lady cancelled my card which unlinks it from acct. Have you ever!?! So 2mmrw I have to go fill out some papers about all these erroneous purchases. I'm telling you these thiefs are really something else & dem ah tek it too far espclly since they robbing poor little old me. I'm glad it was noticed though. But I write down every deposit, withdrawal, purchase. Name it. I writes it down!!! So Mr. Techy wouldn't have depleted my acct w/o me knowing. Some damn nerves. I just hope every $$ is returned in a timely fashion b/c I need my $$$.

OK. I'm done venting. Talk to every1 2mmrw, that's only if I accomplish everything @ bank as I'm intending to.

I know exactly wht papers you have to sign. It basically you saying that these charges are fraud and were not authorized by you. Its a sad thing to happen but if your bank is like my bank all the money will be returned along with any fees you accured. It may take up to five business days though depending on how your bank works. I'm glad they caught it in time though.