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rade2rising Experienced

rade2rising   205

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wow popular subject.

After the first 3 pages I just couldnt read anymore.

Bottomline is no one is concerned about age gaps between couples. Judgement in life is left to God.

So if there is 50yrs age gap so what? more happy couples the better. If they make it or not thats their business.

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Probably get flamed for this but what the heck. I'm going to have to step in here and agree with Kiwi. In my short time at VJ, I have read horror story after horror story regarding male beneficiary's

Cathi
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Do you know anything about Algerian culture or Islam at all? First of all the fact that he had a "secret" relationship with an older woman does not make him "western minded", it means that in his cul

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Here's the problem with love: When you're in it, even an actual red flag looming in front of your eyes, can be ignored or quite easily be explained away. The more people, whether family, friends or we

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indiana_sweetie   120

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wow popular subject.

After the first 3 pages I just couldnt read anymore.

Bottomline is no one is concerned about age gaps between couples. Judgement in life is left to God.

So if there is 50yrs age gap so what? more happy couples the better. If they make it or not thats their business.

That's true...but what about when we are at the mercy of officials who can decide in one moment if we can be together or not?

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See my Timeline for details of our visa journey
17-Aug-2011 Our Wedding Day in Kosovo 
07-Nov-2011 Filed I-130
21-Nov-2011 NOA1
23-Aug-2012 NOA2 Approved 276 days
10-Jan-2013 Case complete via email

28-Feb-2013 Interview, result AP
11-Apr-2013 Embassy appointment - VISA APPROVED and issued in 4 hours
30-Apr-2013 POE Chicago O'Hare - He's home!

04-Sep-2014 Moved to northern California

12-Mar-2015 Filed ROC
16-Mar-2015 Documents delivered
18-Mar-2015 Check cashed
19-Mar-2015 NOA1 dated 03/16/2015 received in mail
13-Apr-2015 Biometrics completed
02-Feb-2016 Contacted USCIS about case, was told it's on hold because of security checks (email)
04-Mar-2016 Moved to Wisconsin
12-Aug-2016 New Biometrics appointment
14-Sep-2016 Contacted USCIS again about case (email said we should hear from them by Oct 6)
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 explaining the Service Request is currently being reviewed by an officer.
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 with Interview appointment for both of us for 28-Sep-2016
28-Sep-2016 Interview, both of us, separated, not hard, 10 min. each, result---said hubby will get GC in about 10 days
26-Oct-2016 *****STILL WAITING*****
02-Nov-2016 Card is being produced!!!
08-Nov-2016 Card is mailed
10-Nov-2016 Card is Delivered!!!! YAY
CITIZENSHIP: 

Biometrics appointment for 2020-03-27 has been cancelled until further notice as all field offices are closed because of COVID-19.

***NOA dated 12/10/2020 USCIS stated they are able to reuse previous Biometrics***

Interview was easy. My hubby's Oath Ceremony is scheduled for February 25th. I can't watch >sad< but happy he is getting his certificate!

25-FEB-2021 Oath Ceremony! My hubby is a Citizen!

 
 
 
 
 
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lrgarcia36   1

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Hello, I can't really give you numbers on "how many" but I know there are more than you can suspect. My husband and I were approved and there is a 16 year age difference. We really don't think about it unless it is brought up by someone. Since we went through Lagos, which is known for being a very very difficult consulate, I feel that front loading the application with every bit of evidence (even included hotel receipts) at the beginning of the process as well as being very well prepared at the interview stage helped our case get approved (and needless to say prayer of course was utmost important).

God Bless you on your journey and Stay Strong!

If you feel comfortable doing the paperwork on your own, then it can be done...the only reason you would need an attorney is if your case was complicated. From what I have read most attorneys just slow up the process and charge a bundle of money for something you can do on your own and with the help of VJ members :thumbs:

God Bless you also on your journey and stay strong too!

Thanks for help and support :)

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Darnell Grand Master

Darnell   8,478

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*bump* any of the pp's still here? just being nosey..

Hi ! How's the nose recently?

Sometimes my language usage seems confusing - please feel free to 'read it twice', just in case !
Ya know, you can find the answer to your question with the advanced search tool, when using a PC? Ditch the handphone, come back later on a PC, and try again.

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Darnell   8,478

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wow popular subject.

After the first 3 pages I just couldnt read anymore.

Bottomline is no one is concerned about age gaps between couples. Judgement in life is left to God.

So if there is 50yrs age gap so what? more happy couples the better. If they make it or not thats their business.

God = Visa Officer in Casablanca? Then I agree with you.

Otherwise, your 'post' is pedantic. Yer making a collection of these, btw. I pray you stop, soon.

To 'be pedantic' is not useful for folk seeking advice here. In fact, your 'writings' have a high probability of being hurtful, should one actually follow your advice.

Sometimes my language usage seems confusing - please feel free to 'read it twice', just in case !
Ya know, you can find the answer to your question with the advanced search tool, when using a PC? Ditch the handphone, come back later on a PC, and try again.

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Whoa Nelly ! Want NVC Info? see http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/NVC_Process

Congratulations on your approval ! We All Applaud your accomplishment with Most Wonderful Kissies !

 

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X Factor   1,111

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That's true...but what about when we are at the mercy of officials who can decide in one moment if we can be together or not?

If the age gap looks so obvious I would be worried

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Sent I-129 Application to VSC 2/1/12
NOA1 2/8/12
RFE 8/2/12
RFE reply 8/3/12
NOA2 8/16/12
NVC received 8/27/12
NVC left 8/29/12
Manila Embassy received 9/5/12
Visa appointment & approval 9/7/12
Arrived in US 10/5/2012
Married 11/24/2012
AOS application sent 12/19/12

AOS approved 8/24/13

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indiana_sweetie   120

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If the age gap looks so obvious I would be worried

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In this case I would say eww!

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See my Timeline for details of our visa journey
17-Aug-2011 Our Wedding Day in Kosovo 
07-Nov-2011 Filed I-130
21-Nov-2011 NOA1
23-Aug-2012 NOA2 Approved 276 days
10-Jan-2013 Case complete via email

28-Feb-2013 Interview, result AP
11-Apr-2013 Embassy appointment - VISA APPROVED and issued in 4 hours
30-Apr-2013 POE Chicago O'Hare - He's home!

04-Sep-2014 Moved to northern California

12-Mar-2015 Filed ROC
16-Mar-2015 Documents delivered
18-Mar-2015 Check cashed
19-Mar-2015 NOA1 dated 03/16/2015 received in mail
13-Apr-2015 Biometrics completed
02-Feb-2016 Contacted USCIS about case, was told it's on hold because of security checks (email)
04-Mar-2016 Moved to Wisconsin
12-Aug-2016 New Biometrics appointment
14-Sep-2016 Contacted USCIS again about case (email said we should hear from them by Oct 6)
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 explaining the Service Request is currently being reviewed by an officer.
22-Sep-2016 Letter from USCIS dated 9/20 with Interview appointment for both of us for 28-Sep-2016
28-Sep-2016 Interview, both of us, separated, not hard, 10 min. each, result---said hubby will get GC in about 10 days
26-Oct-2016 *****STILL WAITING*****
02-Nov-2016 Card is being produced!!!
08-Nov-2016 Card is mailed
10-Nov-2016 Card is Delivered!!!! YAY
CITIZENSHIP: 

Biometrics appointment for 2020-03-27 has been cancelled until further notice as all field offices are closed because of COVID-19.

***NOA dated 12/10/2020 USCIS stated they are able to reuse previous Biometrics***

Interview was easy. My hubby's Oath Ceremony is scheduled for February 25th. I can't watch >sad< but happy he is getting his certificate!

25-FEB-2021 Oath Ceremony! My hubby is a Citizen!

 
 
 
 
 
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wow popular subject.

After the first 3 pages I just couldnt read anymore.

Bottomline is no one is concerned about age gaps between couples. Judgement in life is left to God.

So if there is 50yrs age gap so what? more happy couples the better. If they make it or not thats their business.

Hello!

As one person who has just been denied. The only thing they focused on was an age differnce. 15 years. The couple of questions that they did ask all had to do with age. If someone is reading this to see if there could be problems in your future because of it the answer is....yes. You have to be prepared for heartache, extra time apart to appeal, or to move to your spouse's country. It is wonderful, and I am very happy for those that do not encounter difficulties but you have to be realistic going into it that the love that you two feel and share may not be the way that the CO looks at it. I am not trying to be negative, I am just saying be in it for the long run and I wish you the best.

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If the age gap looks so obvious I would be worried

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You are hilarious! very funny.

Petitioner LPR upgraded to USC June 22, 2012
August 22, 2012: case complete
October 18, 2012: Interview (APPROVED)
October 26, 2012: Picked up visa from DHL (delay caused by Sandy)
December 15, 2012: POE Atlanta....................became USC July 2016!!!!

Mothers' Journey (My sister is the petitioner)

September 10, 2013: Sent I-130 (UPS next day service)

September 12, 2013: Received text to confirm delivery

September 16, 2013: Received NOA 1

March 22, 2014: Received NOA 2

April 8, 2014: File Received by NVC

May 26, 2015: Interview (approved)..........now LPR (delays caused by 2 RFE)

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God = Visa Officer in Casablanca? Then I agree with you.

Otherwise, your 'post' is pedantic. Yer making a collection of these, btw. I pray you stop, soon.

To 'be pedantic' is not useful for folk seeking advice here. In fact, your 'writings' have a high probability of being hurtful, should one actually follow your advice.

exactly! you got that right!

I believe there may be a God but I am not one to lay it on others until God is a reality. (a fact)

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X Factor Grand Master

X Factor   1,111

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In this case I would say eww!

Mee too :)

Sent I-129 Application to VSC 2/1/12
NOA1 2/8/12
RFE 8/2/12
RFE reply 8/3/12
NOA2 8/16/12
NVC received 8/27/12
NVC left 8/29/12
Manila Embassy received 9/5/12
Visa appointment & approval 9/7/12
Arrived in US 10/5/2012
Married 11/24/2012
AOS application sent 12/19/12

AOS approved 8/24/13

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Darnell Grand Master

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exactly! you got that right!

I believe there may be a God but I am not one to lay it on others until God is a reality. (a fact)

Alas, rade2rising gives exceptionally bad 'advice' since he joined vj.

I truly wish, nay, I Pray to the God, that he'd shut up.

ANYONE that follows his advice, from yesterday to the first day he joined, is doomed to fail,

as

his advice was wrong.

Sometimes my language usage seems confusing - please feel free to 'read it twice', just in case !
Ya know, you can find the answer to your question with the advanced search tool, when using a PC? Ditch the handphone, come back later on a PC, and try again.

-=-=-=-=-=R E A D ! ! !=-=-=-=-=-

Whoa Nelly ! Want NVC Info? see http://www.visajourney.com/wiki/index.php/NVC_Process

Congratulations on your approval ! We All Applaud your accomplishment with Most Wonderful Kissies !

 

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nate and riyn   11

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Damn, that's mean. :angry:

She has RFEs listed. But, you didn't care enough about her feelings, why should I even expect you to care enough to look at her signature.

i agree with you.. that comment is totally mean :(

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I know that this thread is basically about the age gap(yes there is 17 years difference between my husband and myself), but it seems to me that one thing that people doesn't seem to notice and I am sure it raises a larger red flag than the age difference is the question does the beneficiary have any RELATIVES all ready in the US?

Only through my reading and talking with couples whose SO are in pending AP/AR or are all ready here in the US have I realized that alot of them have family here. Possibly another red flag that is worthy of checking out?

"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. " – Herm Albright

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Receive Green Card in mail: 06/03/2010
Received SSN: 06/17/2010
Received NEW SS CARD: 07/20/2010 (to match GC!)
Got JOB!!: 09/27/2010
Got a better JOB!!: 11/20/2010
ROC Mailed: 02/16/2012
Check cashed: 02/24/2012
NOA received dated for: 02/22/2012
Biometrics dated: 04/18/2012
RFE: 10/23/2012
RFE Response Confirmed: 11/16/2012
Interview at Orlando office: 02/13/2013

2nd RFE!!: 10/03/13

2nd RFE Response: 10/09/2013

Update Biometrics: 10/13/2013 NEVER GOT 10 yr card!

N-400 mailed: 01/21/2014

Biometrics (N-400): 02/21/2014

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Peace....   281

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Was doing some searching on VJ and saw this thread, it seems it's been around for some time now. I am 15 years older than my MOROCCAN husband. We have been together since 2009 and his visa was approved the same day of his interview. You would think him being from Morocco, his interview would have been harsh with our age difference, but never the less he was approved on the spot. We have been married since February 2011, and life is wonderful and I would do it all over again.

I admire all of you going through this process and those of you who are still waiting to be with your loved ones.

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