Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 23)

[*JG* 2]

btw - i had to finally take my belly ring out....it was annoying the hell out of me. i think i shouls be ale to put it in again when this is over since i had it n for so many years.

otherwise, my doctor told me about http://www.pregnancypiercings.com/

I took mine out and anesthesia closed it up. As long as they don't use any anesthesia on you for any reason, I think you should be okay.

[finesse 3]

I took mine out and anesthesia closed it up. As long as they don't use any anesthesia on you for any reason, I think you should be okay.

it is ok with me either way....who knows if i will even be able to expose my bod when this is over anyway...

[Ellsinlove 2]

Girl Yes on the boys make your hair grey

My kids stress me out to the point that I tune them out

They be like

Momma momma momma momma momma momma momma momma

then hubby is like BRANDI dont you hear then calling you

and then I come back to reality.

[finesse 3]

anybody hear from JaP?

[Ellsinlove 2]

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anybody hear from JaP?

She posted some new baby pics on FB!

[*JG* 2]

The main problem is us not being able to raise her properly. We can't even afford a big enough place to have a room for her. I wish I could bring her here on the K-2 but it's approaching so fast & it's so complicated with her being on another island & in school that I just don't know how we could manage it. We'd have to find a new, bigger (& MUCH more expensive place) on my salary in just a few months & file for her. Only a miracle would make that happen & I don't foresee any good job prospects any time soon. All that aside, I'd still want to know. Her Mom is shady & has 2 more kids from different guys so she's just looking for handouts wherever she can get them & she did a lot of bullying of hubby to take the meager $$ he earned. Here's where I get HOT! Instead of breathing down his neck when work was slow & threatening to take him to court, she could've left him alone so he was able to start getting his education in JA. The dumb ####### screwed herself because it's gonna be a looooong time before he can work here since he's learning to read now. If she'd let him get started there, maybe he would've been in a better position to come here & start working & taking the test to get a driver's license. No matter, his Mom has his daughter so she gets NOTHING even when he does start to work!

I have to ask, Ells.....did you talk about bringing her with you when you went through the process?

And, why is she with his mom?

1 issue at a time too......first of all you know I preach how hard the adjustment is. The two of you have a few additional issues. I wouldn't be so down on the job prospects. If he wants to and if he works hard enough, opportunities will present themselves and he can make something of them. yeah, he will start at the bottom; but that's not a death sentence in the job prospects. Keep the faith there.

From what you say, there is no way possible to file the K-2 at this time. IMO, it would actually probably break you at this point. What is the hurry though? Get settled in together.....get him up to where he wants to be to enter the job field and just life in the US ....and then talk about it again.

I know you are focusing your anger at the BM; but in truth, he has a mind of his own. He could've made different choices as well. You can't blame her for everything. And, in all honesty, you wrote about some of his issues with the first school he went to......you can blame the bums as you called them.....but, again, he made some choices. Hopefully, he will correct some of those schooling choices now and do something with it.

That being said, yes, I do get where you are coming from. It's not going to be easy, my friend. You CAN do this though. Hang in there. And, be patient.

No plans to see him yet Dens... gonna wait and save money for the trip to come.. which I hope is sooner than later!

Two comments.. and hope im not all in the mix.. .

I was silly to think that most babys mamas were like me! When it comes to my son and my ex, we get along, Im not vindictive and was more than happy when my ex remarried and his new wife was wanting to love my son too. More people to love him the better! But I was a fool to think that my hubby.. whose also a Libra.. that his kids mom would be so kind. She would love nothing more than to wreck us and put him thru misery over his kids and its so sad.... I always told myself Id never be with a man with kids because I never wanted the drama of all that.. (shallow I know) but now I look and see why I thought that way! This beeeatch is too much! ugh..

Yeah, I know that one.

Hang in there. Hopefully, she can't be that way forever.

[DedicatedWife 4]

Alright Yardies, I'm out for the day. Need to get ready to finish up some work so I can get home to my Booski! Holla at y'all tomorrow...same time...same place.

[*JG* 2]

Awww, she looks great!

Everyone is aware of the possibility of daughter not being his but his Mom loves that little girl like she's the one who had her. I'm so grateful to his Mom for what she's doing. To me it seems like baby mama is happy to have one less child to care for cause she has another one on the way & she doesn't care for any of them that well. At least his daughter is not being raised by baby mama's latest man who is resentful of her other kids cause they aren't his.

Trust me, our apartment is nothing to write home about. I also walk around & feel envious of the people who live in nice places. I love those old Victorians & some of the other places. It's just not in my salary to be able to live in any of them. The one thing I absolutely REFUSE to do though is live in someone's converted garage that they call an 'in-law'. Those places are the WORST! But I love the rest of the city....that there's always something going on & it's proximity to any place you want to go.

I used to watch "Party of Five" and "Monk" and dream of living in those houses.

Yep, we'll call him Dash for short...

That's what one of the Kardashian's just named their little boy isn't it?

[*JG* 2]

have you seen that family guy advertisement where there boy is callig for his momma like 20 times over and over and finally the mother yells "WHAT?" and then the boy just says "hi".....i love that one...that is my son too.....

My daughter will call or text and get right to the point. My son will call me 20 times a day and say "whatcha doin?"

Both do crazy stuff and both manage to get on my last nerve.

Daughter will only eat healthy stuff. Son eats day and night.

They both have their quirks.

[dillon 6]

My daughter will call or text and get right to the point. My son will call me 20 times a day and say "whatcha doin?"

Both do crazy stuff and both manage to get on my last nerve.

Daughter will only eat healthy stuff. Son eats day and night.

They both have their quirks.

Marley will text me from her room in the morning to tell me to come in there and give her a kiss or she will text me at night to say good night.

[finesse 3]

I have to ask, Ells.....did you talk about bringing her with you when you went through the process?

And, why is she with his mom?

1 issue at a time too......first of all you know I preach how hard the adjustment is. The two of you have a few additional issues. I wouldn't be so down on the job prospects. If he wants to and if he works hard enough, opportunities will present themselves and he can make something of them. yeah, he will start at the bottom; but that's not a death sentence in the job prospects. Keep the faith there.

From what you say, there is no way possible to file the K-2 at this time. IMO, it would actually probably break you at this point. What is the hurry though? Get settled in together.....get him up to where he wants to be to enter the job field and just life in the US ....and then talk about it again.

I know you are focusing your anger at the BM; but in truth, he has a mind of his own. He could've made different choices as well. You can't blame her for everything. And, in all honesty, you wrote about some of his issues with the first school he went to......you can blame the bums as you called them.....but, again, he made some choices. Hopefully, he will correct some of those schooling choices now and do something with it.

That being said, yes, I do get where you are coming from. It's not going to be easy, my friend. You CAN do this though. Hang in there. And, be patient.

Yeah, I know that one.

Hang in there. Hopefully, she can't be that way forever.

not really sure where this convo started but why would ells even be considering bringing her stepdaughter here if hubby can't even stand on his own?

i am in agreeance here that i wouldn't put myself in that position either..

[Ellsinlove 2]

I have to ask, Ells.....did you talk about bringing her with you when you went through the process?

And, why is she with his mom?

1 issue at a time too......first of all you know I preach how hard the adjustment is. The two of you have a few additional issues. I wouldn't be so down on the job prospects. If he wants to and if he works hard enough, opportunities will present themselves and he can make something of them. yeah, he will start at the bottom; but that's not a death sentence in the job prospects. Keep the faith there.

From what you say, there is no way possible to file the K-2 at this time. IMO, it would actually probably break you at this point. What is the hurry though? Get settled in together.....get him up to where he wants to be to enter the job field and just life in the US ....and then talk about it again.

I know you are focusing your anger at the BM; but in truth, he has a mind of his own. He could've made different choices as well. You can't blame her for everything. And, in all honesty, you wrote about some of his issues with the first school he went to......you can blame the bums as you called them.....but, again, he made some choices. Hopefully, he will correct some of those schooling choices now and do something with it.

That being said, yes, I do get where you are coming from. It's not going to be easy, my friend. You CAN do this though. Hang in there. And, be patient.

We talked about bringing her once we were in a place to do so if she & her Mom wanted it to happen. The reason I've been thinking about the K-2 is because of the 1 year time frame they give you before you have to go through the whole huge process again. If there was a way to get her here & then send her to St. Maarten to go to school until it was time for high school, I'd do that. But I'm sure there are time limits on how long she has to reside in the U.S. before she'd go out of status even if she had a greencard.

I wish I knew the whole story & whose decision (albeit a good one) it was to have her go to his Mom's. It is so hard to get straight answers from anyone on anything it seems. I guess it's just a different communication style....it seems details aren't as important or everyone intuitively knows what the other person means. But I do think her being there is better for her, it never felt like she was in very good hands when she was staying with her mom.

You're right, one step at a time & I need to have more faith. I see it every day....immigrants everywhere working jobs even though they can't even speak the language, let alone read it. If they can do it, he can too...I keep reminding myself of that.

I wish they gave more time to file K-2...very few people are probably ready & settled to bring more family here after only a year. I'm not in a big hurry but was considering trying to make that timeline. It is going to have to wait though.

My anger with BM comes from his last & only phone call to her. I was fine with her prior to that. But when the first thing that came out of her mouth when he called was if he had a job yet, it became abundantly clear that her only motive was to get money from him. Not, "how are you?", "how's life in farrin?", "how's married life?"...none of that, just "are you working?" After that, we haven't called again. If she has business, she can talk to his Mom & she can relay it.

He's hard enough on himself about his poor choices that I don't feel the need to be. He is brutal on himself so I know he doesn't need me to help him recognize anything. Life is sure a crazy learning process. I know he (& I) are learning daily about decisions & the choices we make. I hope he's learning how to make better choices in the future although some days I'm not sure.

Patience......breathe in, breathe out.

[MRStee 19]

Congrats My2, JQ, and TAMH!!!

Dillon- I too have issues with FB. My husband never has don't anything shady, but it's like I'm obsessed with his page and what he is doing/talking to. I've just had too many lying, cheating men in my life so I tend to think all men are like that. I'm working on trying to chill though. I've thought about just breaking away from FB too for that reason.

Irie- I have no idea why and I wasn't even drinking, but baby "Iris" came to mind for your possible baby. I thought it's a combo of Irie and Louis. I mean your name is Cat , not Irie, but that is what I call you on here so that is why Iris came to mind. I know I'm a whack.

I love that name... umm 17 pages already Yardies... Hi! lol

Good Morning All,

I hope everyone has a blessed day!

Today, I am full of smiles and cheer! when I got into my office this morning it is beautifully decorated , they are having a luncheon for me since today will be my last day through sometime next week and a Bride tiara to wear all day.

aww thats nice!

[Shemmy 4]

Girls are great till they turn into teenagers! Mine just turned 16 and whoa... LOL actually, her and I have always been super close and now that shes older, shes like my best friend at times. Mother/daughter relationships are one of a kind... but so are son/mothers! I kno you guys will be blessed regardless!

My daughter is a teenger now and we are really close but then again she's not a typical teenager.

[MRStee 19]

Awwe sweetie this must be a tough situation for you, just remember Communication and open honesty Sis and the two of you can get through anything together (((hugs)))

You watch it, were you hollering at the TV?

LOL same thing happened this weekend with the cakes and pies for Q's Bday but unfortunately I succumbed to the baked goods voices

Ells (((hugs))) yes once put into perspective it seems overwhelming I know but if it happens it will be a blessing. I'm glad he is focused and on track regarding his goals and I know he has you to thank for that!

LOL yuh so crazy

No I didn't watch it, my computer was sick! It wouldn't come on for a while.. Thought i was gonna die lol