Walked out empty handed

[Staashi 371]

Beth, i'm kinda worried about his behavior towards you. When things begin to unravel, this is the

time to come together, not call another one names. It is not acceptable Beth no matter how one

thinks. You are a good woman. Be that woman Beth. If this process is going to turn him into an immature person, then what will happen when something else goes wrong he doesn't like?

I am really upset at what he did to you. Now he won't accept your calls, etc...hmmmm...

Seems like you didn't give him what he wanted and now you're gonna pay for it. Holy moly

Beth i'm so upset I could spit nails!

Go and have the best time of your life with you friends tonight. Drink what you want, dance

if you want, don't be there if he decides to call. I'm just appalled at his behavior. Yes you are

tired coz you put in many many hours of work and stress so HE can have things. I think he has

shown his ugly side and it's not good. I am just so very sorry what has happened.

Give yourself time to think very carefully at what your next steps will be. Don't make any

rash decisions.

We love you Beth....please remember that always.

Beth, girl, I'm with Jeanne on this one - spitting nails mad - but I'm gonna tell you to take it one step further. RUN!!!!! Get the hell out of this relationship now. Sister, let me tell you that hearig that you have ruined his life, that everything is your fault, etc., etc., is just the beginning to a long life of verbal abuse. Trust me on this.

I don't care how good he makes you feel in bed, or anywhere else for that matter, all those dreamy illusions will be torn apart when this sh!t continues at the least expected moment. You think your heart is broken now - ha! You won't even feel like you have a heart after a few years of this #######. You'll be numb inside. And, I'm not fvcking with you on that one.

** him, and that horse-drawn gravy train that he thought he was riding in on. Beth, if I was you, I'd be heading for the big "D" and I don't mean Dallas.

God bless!

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

Beth, i'm kinda worried about his behavior towards you. When things begin to unravel, this is the

time to come together, not call another one names. It is not acceptable Beth no matter how one

thinks. You are a good woman. Be that woman Beth. If this process is going to turn him into an immature person, then what will happen when something else goes wrong he doesn't like?

I am really upset at what he did to you. Now he won't accept your calls, etc...hmmmm...

Seems like you didn't give him what he wanted and now you're gonna pay for it. Holy moly

Beth i'm so upset I could spit nails!

Go and have the best time of your life with you friends tonight. Drink what you want, dance

if you want, don't be there if he decides to call. I'm just appalled at his behavior. Yes you are

tired coz you put in many many hours of work and stress so HE can have things. I think he has

shown his ugly side and it's not good. I am just so very sorry what has happened.

Give yourself time to think very carefully at what your next steps will be. Don't make any

rash decisions.

We love you Beth....please remember that always.

Beth, girl, I'm with Jeanne on this one - spitting nails mad - but I'm gonna tell you to take it one step further. RUN!!!!! Get the hell out of this relationship now. Sister, let me tell you that hearig that you have ruined his life, that everything is your fault, etc., etc., is just the beginning to a long life of verbal abuse. Trust me on this.

I don't care how good he makes you feel in bed, or anywhere else for that matter, all those dreamy illusions will be torn apart when this sh!t continues at the least expected moment. You think your heart is broken now - ha! You won't even feel like you have a heart after a few years of this #######. You'll be numb inside. And, I'm not fvcking with you on that one.

** him, and that horse-drawn gravy train that he thought he was riding in on. Beth, if I was you, I'd be heading for the big "D" and I don't mean Dallas.

God bless!

All I can say is I know your right.Im tired of being the whipping girl cause something does not go right or as thought.

I dont control USCIS , but yet he thru it all back in my face when we left interview with no approval or even a denial.

Now I wonder, what was the past 3 years for? Why this journey? Looks like I keep meeting the same kind of man over and over.

Love ya all, and thank you!! xoxoxo

[anitacastillo 0]

All I can say is I know your right.Im tired of being the whipping girl cause something does not go right or as thought.

I dont control USCIS , but yet he thru it all back in my face when we left interview with no approval or even a denial.

Now I wonder, what was the past 3 years for? Why this journey? Looks like I keep meeting the same kind of man over and over.

Love ya all, and thank you!! xoxoxo

Have you considered speaking with a therapist about this?

I'm really sorry about the situation. Its better to have "lost" 3 years, then have 10+ years of pain and debt.

((Paris Heart))

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

All I can say is I know your right.Im tired of being the whipping girl cause something does not go right or as thought.

I dont control USCIS , but yet he thru it all back in my face when we left interview with no approval or even a denial.

Now I wonder, what was the past 3 years for? Why this journey? Looks like I keep meeting the same kind of man over and over.

Love ya all, and thank you!! xoxoxo

Have you considered speaking with a therapist about this?

I'm really sorry about the situation. Its better to have "lost" 3 years, then have 10+ years of pain and debt.

((Paris Heart))

Therapist? Great, now I need help? Forget it, some are not meant to have families, Im one of them.

Im a good person, always counted on to make and do the right things, Im tired of being counted on. Im a good person, too big hearted, hard worker, worked for all I have in this world, nobody gave me anything, just heartche.

All in all, bottom line, if you love a person, you dont shut them out, you communicate one way or another, in good and bad. You dont hurt a person on purpose just to show a superior statue. Im human, Im not perfect, but I never hurt a person to "teach them a lesson" especially on matters of the heart. Im through, Im tired, beat up mentally, I just want to know there is kindness, and respect, and honestly between men and woman who truly love each other.

[christeen 966]

All I can say is I know your right.Im tired of being the whipping girl cause something does not go right or as thought.

I dont control USCIS , but yet he thru it all back in my face when we left interview with no approval or even a denial.

Now I wonder, what was the past 3 years for? Why this journey? Looks like I keep meeting the same kind of man over and over.

Love ya all, and thank you!! xoxoxo

Have you considered speaking with a therapist about this?

I'm really sorry about the situation. Its better to have "lost" 3 years, then have 10+ years of pain and debt.

((Paris Heart))

Therapist? Great, now I need help? Forget it, some are not meant to have families, Im one of them.

Im a good person, always counted on to make and do the right things, Im tired of being counted on. Im a good person, too big hearted, hard worker, worked for all I have in this world, nobody gave me anything, just heartche.

All in all, bottom line, if you love a person, you dont shut them out, you communicate one way or another, in good and bad. You dont hurt a person on purpose just to show a superior statue. Im human, Im not perfect, but I never hurt a person to "teach them a lesson" especially on matters of the heart. Im through, Im tired, beat up mentally, I just want to know there is kindness, and respect, and honestly between men and woman who truly love each other.

Hang in there girl... Don't make any decisions or do anything yet... Give you both some time to clear your heads and be able to see above the trees... Then you can see what the reality is... You know who you are, be secure in that... Pressure situations can bring out the best and worst in people... You seen that after the hurricanes, just as I did... Some people and communities band together and help each other out, others loot and steal and horde.... So give it a few days then see where you both stand...

In the meantime, hang out with people who appreciate you for who you are and who do good things for your self esteem... When your self esteem is down it is not a good time to have to defend yourself... I cant say go have fun as I know how this would weigh on your every thought, but at least be around happy people and people who can bring you up... Chin up girl, you have survived a lot and will survive this, no matter what ...

[Frenchwife 1]

All I can say is I know your right.Im tired of being the whipping girl cause something does not go right or as thought.

I dont control USCIS , but yet he thru it all back in my face when we left interview with no approval or even a denial.

Now I wonder, what was the past 3 years for? Why this journey? Looks like I keep meeting the same kind of man over and over.

Love ya all, and thank you!! xoxoxo

Have you considered speaking with a therapist about this?

I'm really sorry about the situation. Its better to have "lost" 3 years, then have 10+ years of pain and debt.

((Paris Heart))

Therapist? Great, now I need help? Forget it, some are not meant to have families, Im one of them.

Im a good person, always counted on to make and do the right things, Im tired of being counted on. Im a good person, too big hearted, hard worker, worked for all I have in this world, nobody gave me anything, just heartche.

All in all, bottom line, if you love a person, you dont shut them out, you communicate one way or another, in good and bad. You dont hurt a person on purpose just to show a superior statue. Im human, Im not perfect, but I never hurt a person to "teach them a lesson" especially on matters of the heart. Im through, Im tired, beat up mentally, I just want to know there is kindness, and respect, and honestly between men and woman who truly love each other.

Beth

you are a great woman.

sure you can have families

but maybe not with this man

and yes you can learn from this for the next one

maybe it is better as I said that you part no

are you letting embassy know that you need them not to issue the visa

don t want you to get in more trouble

if he gets his visa then remember he can ask you to support him

seems he showed bad sides of him

I understand you should not zant him around

sorry for these hard words

worried for you

[venusfire503 54]

All I can say is I know your right.Im tired of being the whipping girl cause something does not go right or as thought.

I dont control USCIS , but yet he thru it all back in my face when we left interview with no approval or even a denial.

Now I wonder, what was the past 3 years for? Why this journey? Looks like I keep meeting the same kind of man over and over.

Love ya all, and thank you!! xoxoxo

Have you considered speaking with a therapist about this?

I'm really sorry about the situation. Its better to have "lost" 3 years, then have 10+ years of pain and debt.

((Paris Heart))

Therapist? Great, now I need help? Forget it, some are not meant to have families, Im one of them.

Im a good person, always counted on to make and do the right things, Im tired of being counted on. Im a good person, too big hearted, hard worker, worked for all I have in this world, nobody gave me anything, just heartche.

All in all, bottom line, if you love a person, you dont shut them out, you communicate one way or another, in good and bad. You dont hurt a person on purpose just to show a superior statue. Im human, Im not perfect, but I never hurt a person to "teach them a lesson" especially on matters of the heart. Im through, Im tired, beat up mentally, I just want to know there is kindness, and respect, and honestly between men and woman who truly love each other.

I don't think she was trying to be mean - just that when someone keeps doing something a certain way, and ends up (which is sounds like you think you're doing - keep meeting the same kind of man over and over) with less than desirable results, having someone neutral on the outside to help you find a different way to do things (and therefore get better results) might make life easier. It doesn't have to be that you only have 2 choices: 1 - keep finding the 'wrong' men or 2 - be alone. Maybe someone can help you figure out something different: 3 - find a good man and be in a relationship that is happy and healthy. Needing some guidance doesn't make anyone 'bad' or 'weak' or anything like that.

Or, if this was just a one time thing and the relationship can and should be saved, maybe it's not such a bad idea to get some advice to make sure that it STAYS a one time thing, and that the relationship doesn't become one that shouldn't be saved.

Relationships aren't easy, and I don't know if anyone can do it alone. Think about how many break ups and divorces there are, and how many people do seek counseling (not just here or in a therapist's office).

Whatever you decide to do, I hope things work out for you.

venusfire

[meowmeowmeow 0]

Therapist? Great, now I need help? Forget it, some are not meant to have families, Im one of them.

Im a good person, always counted on to make and do the right things, Im tired of being counted on. Im a good person, too big hearted, hard worker, worked for all I have in this world, nobody gave me anything, just heartche.

All in all, bottom line, if you love a person, you dont shut them out, you communicate one way or another, in good and bad. You dont hurt a person on purpose just to show a superior statue. Im human, Im not perfect, but I never hurt a person to "teach them a lesson" especially on matters of the heart. Im through, Im tired, beat up mentally, I just want to know there is kindness, and respect, and honestly between men and woman who truly love each other.

beth, there's nothing wrong with therapy....but if it doesn't float your boat, it's all good too. i can suggest a cheap alternative: St. John's Wort. I was suffering from a really deep bout of depression back in college and a therapist prescribed this for me. I took it three times a day for six months and noticed a huge change, and it helped a lot. What it does is mainly stabilize your mood so you don't get too excited or too down. Not saying you're a nutjob, but after knowing what you have gone through, I wouldn't be surprised if you felt that you needed something to level you out. If you feel like you should go out and get wasted, do what you gotta do, so long as you're careful about it...but hopefully don't make that a habit...

As for your man: I hope things work out. Granted, things are tough and it's really bad right now and everything, but it's not the end....we all have our own different journeys, stories, and experiences, but with all that's said and done, when you love someone deeply, passionately, etc. you may react in ways that you will regret later, but you most definitely do not push it or try to end it if you didn't really want to stick around....I would take a step back and look at the situation overall, and him, and YOURSELF. And ask yourself if you want to continue with this process. I would also agree with some of the posters about verbal abuse being a bad sign which may lead to other forms of abuse. Please, protect yourself before anything else. No one will ever love you like how you will love yourself!!

[amysaid 9]

Therapist? Great, now I need help? Forget it, some are not meant to have families, Im one of them.

Im a good person, always counted on to make and do the right things, Im tired of being counted on. Im a good person, too big hearted, hard worker, worked for all I have in this world, nobody gave me anything, just heartche.

All in all, bottom line, if you love a person, you dont shut them out, you communicate one way or another, in good and bad. You dont hurt a person on purpose just to show a superior statue. Im human, Im not perfect, but I never hurt a person to "teach them a lesson" especially on matters of the heart. Im through, Im tired, beat up mentally, I just want to know there is kindness, and respect, and honestly between men and woman who truly love each other.

beth, there's nothing wrong with therapy....but if it doesn't float your boat, it's all good too. i can suggest a cheap alternative: St. John's Wort. I was suffering from a really deep bout of depression back in college and a therapist prescribed this for me. I took it three times a day for six months and noticed a huge change, and it helped a lot. What it does is mainly stabilize your mood so you don't get too excited or too down. Not saying you're a nutjob, but after knowing what you have gone through, I wouldn't be surprised if you felt that you needed something to level you out. If you feel like you should go out and get wasted, do what you gotta do, so long as you're careful about it...but hopefully don't make that a habit...

As for your man: I hope things work out. Granted, things are tough and it's really bad right now and everything, but it's not the end....we all have our own different journeys, stories, and experiences, but with all that's said and done, when you love someone deeply, passionately, etc. you may react in ways that you will regret later, but you most definitely do not push it or try to end it if you didn't really want to stick around....I would take a step back and look at the situation overall, and him, and YOURSELF. And ask yourself if you want to continue with this process. I would also agree with some of the posters about verbal abuse being a bad sign which may lead to other forms of abuse. Please, protect yourself before anything else. No one will ever love you like how you will love yourself!!

Be careful with St. John's Wort, it is effective for mild depression, but it has a LOT of drug interactions, some which can potentially be fatal: http://www.rxlist.com/script/main/art.asp?...6348&page=3

[meowmeowmeow 0]

Be careful with St. John's Wort, it is effective for mild depression, but it has a LOT of drug interactions, some which can potentially be fatal: http://www.rxlist.com/script/main/art.asp?...6348&page=3

good point, hopefully someone who would consider this would not take anything else along with it though thanks for the link.

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

Be careful with St. John's Wort, it is effective for mild depression, but it has a LOT of drug interactions, some which can potentially be fatal: http://www.rxlist.com/script/main/art.asp?...6348&page=3

good point, hopefully someone who would consider this would not take anything else along with it though thanks for the link.

Im not depressed, only to find I was made a fool of. Again, finally talked to him and was screamed at un-mericfully. Enough is enough.

I'm withdrawing the petition at the embassy Monday, then will start re-building my life. I gave all I had, and it was never enough.

You do not walk away from one you love, you dont scream at them like they are a demon, you dont shut one out.

I thank all of you's for you help and mostly friendship. This is a journey I will never forget, and one I will never do again.

I love you all!!!

[sara..... 371]

Be careful with St. John's Wort, it is effective for mild depression, but it has a LOT of drug interactions, some which can potentially be fatal: http://www.rxlist.com/script/main/art.asp?...6348&page=3

good point, hopefully someone who would consider this would not take anything else along with it though thanks for the link.

Im not depressed, only to find I was made a fool of. Again, finally talked to him and was screamed at un-mericfully. Enough is enough.

I'm withdrawing the petition at the embassy Monday, then will start re-building my life. I gave all I had, and it was never enough.

You do not walk away from one you love, you dont scream at them like they are a demon, you dont shut one out.

I thank all of you's for you help and mostly friendship. This is a journey I will never forget, and one I will never do again.

I love you all!!!

beth....i can not begin to know what has happened but i worry about you please take care of urself.... if u ever need to talk im here......

sara

[R and F 34]

Again Beth I am with you 100 percent and can only say that we on VJ care about you and know you have given it all you got. We wish you the best always and stay on with us, we are here as friends and as family, we never leave each other no matter what.

[morocco4ever 63]

Be careful with St. John's Wort, it is effective for mild depression, but it has a LOT of drug interactions, some which can potentially be fatal: http://www.rxlist.com/script/main/art.asp?...6348&page=3

good point, hopefully someone who would consider this would not take anything else along with it though thanks for the link.

Im not depressed, only to find I was made a fool of. Again, finally talked to him and was screamed at un-mericfully. Enough is enough.

I'm withdrawing the petition at the embassy Monday, then will start re-building my life. I gave all I had, and it was never enough.

You do not walk away from one you love, you dont scream at them like they are a demon, you dont shut one out.

I thank all of you's for you help and mostly friendship. This is a journey I will never forget, and one I will never do again.

I love you all!!!

I give you credit for knowing when it is time to walk away, and following through. Best wishes to you and your future.

[christeen 966]

So sorry Beth... Big hugs.... Please keep in touch if you ever feel like you need a shoulder... I'm here for you...