Getting her out of vacation mode

[SuperDuper! 230]

I saw Chris Rock the other night on TV talking about relationships. His explanation for why couples sometimes don't get along is they don't have the same focus. So what you have to do is get to the point where you do have the same focus...more specifically, you both need to focus on what SHE wants. Once you do that, then everything will be fine. Slim...take note. hahaha

Did you see the part about Chris Rock's rules for women?

1. Gimme some head.

2. Don't talk so much.

3. Make me a sammich.

That's it. That's all they have to do to make men happy.

VV, I think you're right in your post because my wife always says something about me being primitive.

It sounds like she brings out your inner caveman. Not many women can do this, so congratz!

[SMR 368]

Good marriage equals sex each and every day minus times of illness and other occasional life interruptions. Both the man and the woman need to ask for it alternately...meaning no one always initiates or "begs." The "menu" of activities should be long and always changing, if even only in some minor way.

The pleasure, exercise, release of stress and the warmth and closeness is medicinal and will, I judge, extend life and allow moments of deep love. In this process, the man should walk away feeling "like a man" and the woman should feel "like a woman." That's what must happen in a marriage. If that issue gets twisted, confused, or not honored strongly, there will be troubles bye and bye.

The core of a man's DNA instructions is to penetrate and for women to be penetrated...so this needs to show up in primal and civil ways in a marriage. When a man and a woman hide, deny or repress this truth they are not incongruity with their purpose or mission or drive...or their nature. They loose authenticity, and they, at some deep level, know this truth and are unhappy and angry.

All the "talking it out" or therapy, or flowers and candy is BS as far as sustaining a life-long relationship. They are of minor impact. The best gifts are those given at unexpected times and without requirement such as silly holidays like Valentines Day. But words or money won't do squat and have only a quick fix impact. The next day your back in the same old stuff.

Twice a day!

And on that note...Russian Woman's Engish

Yes=No No=Yes Maybe=No. We need= I want. Sure you can go= you better not.

Man's English

I am hungry=I am hungry. I am tired= I am tired. Nice dress=I want sex Would you like to go out for dinner=I want sex

Just joking, it isn't that way at all

This probably stems from the fact that in Russian, the phrase "Да нет, наверно", which translates word for word as "yes no, probably," is perfectly understandable and definite.

[Oksana81 0]

SMR, that phrase should read "probably not"

[SMR 368]

SMR, that phrase should read "probably not"

That's my point. To a Russian, it means something very definite. But word for word, it is "Yes no, probably."

[eekee 182]

No, in that context it has a different meaning. Even literally word-for-word.

[Oksana81 0]

No, in that context it has a different meaning. Even literally word-for-word.

what???

[HannahP 119]

Good marriage equals sex each and every day minus times of illness and other occasional life interruptions. Both the man and the woman need to ask for it alternately...meaning no one always initiates or "begs." The "menu" of activities should be long and always changing, if even only in some minor way.

The pleasure, exercise, release of stress and the warmth and closeness is medicinal and will, I judge, extend life and allow moments of deep love. In this process, the man should walk away feeling "like a man" and the woman should feel "like a woman." That's what must happen in a marriage. If that issue gets twisted, confused, or not honored strongly, there will be troubles bye and bye.

The core of a man's DNA instructions is to penetrate and for women to be penetrated...so this needs to show up in primal and civil ways in a marriage. When a man and a woman hide, deny or repress this truth they are not incongruity with their purpose or mission or drive...or their nature. They loose authenticity, and they, at some deep level, know this truth and are unhappy and angry.

All the "talking it out" or therapy, or flowers and candy is BS as far as sustaining a life-long relationship. They are of minor impact. The best gifts are those given at unexpected times and without requirement such as silly holidays like Valentines Day. But words or money won't do squat and have only a quick fix impact. The next day your back in the same old stuff.

Just out of curiosity, how many successful marriages have you had?

[HannahP 119]

Holy cow! Did everyone just read this post? Can we sticky this thread? WOW! A "Western woman" just jumped in my corner.

Pff. You're very honest, which I respect a lot, and anyone who is honest is bound to have an ounce of truth in what they say.

We also have the same sense of humor, as well as very flawed relationships so I can relate.

[SMR 368]

No, in that context it has a different meaning. Even literally word-for-word.

what???

Well, to be honest I've heard it mean different things based on inflection. It could mean "probably not." It could be sarcastic and mean "definitely not." (If you say probably not in English with the right intonation it can mean that, too.)

Also, eekee: how can the word-for-word translation change based on context? That's the point of a word-for-word translation. It doesn't change based on context. It just becomes wrong based on context.

[eekee 182]

No, in that context it has a different meaning. Even literally word-for-word.

what???

Well, to be honest I've heard it mean different things based on inflection. It could mean "probably not." It could be sarcastic and mean "definitely not." (If you say probably not in English with the right intonation it can mean that, too.)

Also, eekee: how can the word-for-word translation change based on context? That's the point of a word-for-word translation. It doesn't change based on context. It just becomes wrong based on context.

The word also functions as a particle, and would therefore translate differently. Like "right" as in correct and "right" as in the direction.

[slim 1,514]

Anyone got ideas for other great comedy stuff to show her next?

Coming to America, Harlem Nights, etc.

It sounds like she brings out your inner caveman. Not many women can do this, so congratz!

$#!T, almost all women do this! (Well, the hot ones, anyway.) And yeah, she says I'm so primitive - like a caveman.

That's a compliment, right?

In all seriousness, I was working with a young woman about two years ago and I had to move this big heavy roll of plastic onto a pushcart. There were no handles or anything on it and the only way to move it was just to grab it and heave-ho until I moved it where I wanted to. I squated down, grunted, pushed and pulled and manuevered that thing onto the cart. I was all out of breath, clothes all out of whack, dirty, (probably sweating a little!). This girl stood there and gave me that unmistakably primitive look. She said, "I can see why your wife likes you so much."

Just out of curiosity, how many successful marriages have you had?

Oh snap!

Pff. You're very honest, which I respect a lot, and anyone who is honest is bound to have an ounce of truth in what they say.

I'm going to run for president.

We also have the same sense of humor, as well as very flawed relationships so I can relate.

So do you think the sense of humor comes from the relationships or the relationships come from the sense of humor?

Or are we just gluttons for punishment?

[Brad and Vika 129]

Nice dress=I want sex Would you like to go out for dinner=I want sex

Just joking, it isn't that way at all

Fortunately or not, women just do not understand the way our minds work. Clothes are like wrapping on a present to us. No matter how nice, beautiful, colorful, or exciting the wrapper, and no matter how many nice things we say about it, the whole time we are just thinking about ripping it off and opening the box. Even if we have seen the contents of the box a million times. We're just hard-wired that way.

[Dave-n-Oksana 49]

Nice dress=I want sex Would you like to go out for dinner=I want sex

Just joking, it isn't that way at all

Fortunately or not, women just do not understand the way our minds work. Clothes are like wrapping on a present to us. No matter how nice, beautiful, colorful, or exciting the wrapper, and no matter how many nice things we say about it, the whole time we are just thinking about ripping it off and opening the box. Even if we have seen the contents of the box a million times. We're just hard-wired that way.

Ain't that the truth. Oksana keeps asking why I get a silly grin on my face when I say I am getting my Christmas early this year.

[HannahP 119]

We also have the same sense of humor, as well as very flawed relationships so I can relate.

So do you think the sense of humor comes from the relationships or the relationships come from the sense of humor?

Or are we just gluttons for punishment?

This depends. What kind of toys do you keep under your bed?

/sexaaayyyy

[slim 1,514]

We also have the same sense of humor, as well as very flawed relationships so I can relate.

So do you think the sense of humor comes from the relationships or the relationships come from the sense of humor?

Or are we just gluttons for punishment?

This depends. What kind of toys do you keep under your bed?

/sexaaayyyy

Guns.