Any help will be greatly appreciated

[Bralaheh 0]

my fiance is soon to be leaving her home due to domestic issues that are being brought on by her family. she currently lives in Toronto. does anybody know of any rooms for rent or anything of that sort? she doesn't have a job at the moment so i'll be sending her all that i can. i can afford 300-500 but we are definately trying to stay around 300 just to make sure we can afford it. i've found a site called kijiji but if anyone can give me an idea of any other sites or places in particular that are open i'd be greatly appreciative, so would ellie! thanks guys you are always so much help!

[beans 7]

I found...

http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/roo/1429014175.html

http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/roo/1428587984.html

http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/bra/roo/1428521808.html

http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/roo/1427949450.html

http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/roo/1427217258.html

There is some. you'll notice they are rooms for rent. Since finding housing for $300 is fairly hard for a place like Toronto. Good luck

[Spoom 8]

Toronto's an expensive market. If she isn't held to the core area, you might try looking at housing outside of Toronto proper since the prices would likely be a lot less.

[Carlawarla 1]

my fiance is soon to be leaving her home due to domestic issues that are being brought on by her family. she currently lives in Toronto. does anybody know of any rooms for rent or anything of that sort? she doesn't have a job at the moment so i'll be sending her all that i can. i can afford 300-500 but we are definately trying to stay around 300 just to make sure we can afford it. i've found a site called kijiji but if anyone can give me an idea of any other sites or places in particular that are open i'd be greatly appreciative, so would ellie! thanks guys you are always so much help!

I don't know what's going on with Ellie Brad, but I'm wondering if it wouldn't be a good idea for you to go up to Toronto and physically help her with this move and what appears to be a mess. I find this a little concerning. She lives in Toronto, and you the American are asking where she can live because her family is abusive? How old is she? What will she live on if she's not employed? Does she have no friends where she lives? You're looking for rooms for rent for $300.00 a month in Toronto? Not going to happen unless it's a dive with cockroaches. How is her family being abusive? Has she called the police?

Any information you can provide that would better assist us in helping her out would be appreciated.

[Sprailenes 47]

If I were you, I'd be asking Ellie a lot of questions about this situation. Sorry but it just sounds odd.

[ScooterMac 2]

Have you looked into having her stay at a hostel? They generally have reasonable weekly/monthly rates, without the full cost of an apartment.

Also, I agree with the other posters...this sounds a little odd.

[Bralaheh 0]

theres actually nothing strange about it at all. her family is iranian and they are completely against the two of us being together. i am not up there currently because i don't make a whole lot of money so i have to stay here at work and make the money for her until she gets a job. do you think she is using me or something? she's not. i'm here because i have to work. not because i want to work. it's because i have to in order to be able to send her what i have. there are lots of apartments that i've found between 300-400. even a roach dive is better than an abusive household. i'd do anything in the world to be able to put her somewhere nice but safe is the most important thing because it's only a matter of time until she is here with me. her father has told her that he would kill her so i'm getting her out. she is a full time student so she hasn't been working. i'd rather her stay in school and only work part time. so it is hard for her to find something at the moment. mostly because we are dealign with counsellors and the police. plus when she is home she has to act like she is asleep or her family will yell and threaten her. she only has a certain time in the day when she can make progress on her own. she has class all day and has to be home at a certain time. she is 21 but her family treats her as if she's 10. so of all the people who took the time to say how strange this situation sounds if you can respond back with something that might actually help it would be greatly appreciated. thanks

i haven't thought about a hostel. i will look into that. i wonder what the price is monthly?

it's so crazy that you guys think that i haven't been right in the middle of this the whole time. how close are you to your fiances? if they were going through something difficult wouldn't you be a part of it? would you question the person you have decided to marry?

she has no friends in toronto because she hasn't lived there long. she moved from iran to toronto about 9 months ago. all her friends are iranian. they took the side of her family and ditched her.

i hope this helps guys. thanks

[ScooterMac 2]

I wasn't saying you weren't involved or didn't care, I just didn't know your backstory so it sounded odd. If you'd prefaced your request with the information you just provided, you probably wouldn't have gotten as many "this sounds weird" responses. I wasn't trying to sound snarky, I was just trying to help.

I don't know how much hostels cost monthly - if I were you, I'd goggle "toronto hostels" and look at the sites that pop up. My old roommate stayed at a hostel in Toronto while waiting for his approval to come to the US on a K-1 and he said it was reasonable and affordable - he's still in touch with a number of people he met while living there.

[Sprailenes 47]

It's not that I don't think you're close to her.

All I gathered from your posts is: "Doesn't work, is abused by family, needs to move, I need to send her money"

In the world of immigration those could all be warning signs and you didn't explain much to us.

So thank you for explaining.

How far along are you in the immigration process?

[trailmix 77]

Hey Brad,

Sorry to hear your fiancee is having such a hard time. I'm not familiar with Toronto at all, so i'm not much help there, just want to wish you both well.

[Sprailenes 47]

If she's only 21... there's a shelter called Stop 86 located in the Annex. Tell her to call them.

(416) 922-3271

Stop 86 is the only emergency shelter in Toronto exclusively for homeless teenage girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 25. Stop 86 provides a safe and supportive community where women can assess their situation and plan for their future. The shelter assists 27 young women to re-establish themselves in the community.

It's a wonderful shelter, one of the best in Toronto and it's in a safe area.

[Bralaheh 0]

i'm going to check out that shelter. thank you.

[antda 13]

Hi Brad & Ellie,

Sorry to hear about your situation, and I hope that your fiance finds the help that she needs for a shelter in Toronto. I totally understand her situation, as I remember at one point in my life, I found myself homeless and in various shelters in Toronto too (but that's another story..not sure if I should say more here...can pm me about that though if need be....). Anyways, I did a quick search for you online, and this is what I found, that might be able to help:

-211 Toronto Canada: http://www.211toronto.ca/index.jsp (or just dial 211 for free on the telephone/payphone in Canada)

Complete List of Homeless Sheleters and Hostels in Toronto and Toronto Area:

http://www.211toronto.ca/Gatekeeper?WebApp...;logSearch=true

- Street Helpline: Get help for yourself or someone in need on the streets. Call Street helpline 1-866-392-3777. Free from any payphone.

- Findhelp Canada: http://www.findhelp.ca/en/index.php

Hope this helps you and your fiance. And I hope they are able to find housing and other help as soon as possible too. Nobody deserves to go through a situation like this, and it's good that you are able to be supportive in all ways when she is going through such.

Good luck with you and your fiance. Wishing both of you all the best....

Ant

Edited October 20, 2009 by Ant+D+A

[BermyCat 1]

If she's only 21... there's a shelter called Stop 86 located in the Annex. Tell her to call them.

(416) 922-3271

Stop 86 is the only emergency shelter in Toronto exclusively for homeless teenage girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 25. Stop 86 provides a safe and supportive community where women can assess their situation and plan for their future. The shelter assists 27 young women to re-establish themselves in the community.

It's a wonderful shelter, one of the best in Toronto and it's in a safe area.

Shelters often have free legal help if you need to get things like restraining orders...

~ Catherine

[Sprailenes 47]

Stop 86 is good for that also.

Also is she muslim? There are a few womens muslim groups in and around Toronto that could help her also.

Edited October 20, 2009 by Sprailenes