so mad about hubby

[Rings 10]

Listen, tell your husband that it's not about his feelings. It's about you and how you feel and what you feel is right. Tell him that even if it's not important to the USCIS, it's important to you and he should honor you as his wife. You have a need and he needs to understand that what you need is important to you. Explain that it's not about his needs and that you need him to please try to understand that you have feelings too and your feelings are important. It's not about the USCIS it's about making your spouse feel better and he need to do that damn him!

[bowgirl 8]

sounds sooo much like my husband but all we can do is keep getting stressed, yell at them, cry, beg until it's all over and done

yes, i agree..i think it's a female thing..my husband say i always worry or i always find something to worry about..and it's so frustrating when he's so relaxed and cool and not even seem to worry about the whole thing! why can't these guys understand that we just want to be prepared, organized and ready when the big day comes? or is it a male thing..?

[christeen 966]

sounds sooo much like my husband but all we can do is keep getting stressed, yell at them, cry, beg until it's all over and done

yes, i agree..i think it's a female thing..my husband say i always worry or i always find something to worry about..and it's so frustrating when he's so relaxed and cool and not even seem to worry about the whole thing! why can't these guys understand that we just want to be prepared, organized and ready when the big day comes? or is it a male thing..?

Funny, it is my husband that is the nervous-twervis about everything! He is stressing everyday and asking about the paperwork. But in all fairness, I kinda just handled everything (like I always do, that is a man thing) so he is here at the last minute saying "what do I need to do"? Well DUH lovy, it's all been done! The interview is pretty much the only thing he has had to do and HE'S stressing now!!! Gimmie a break!!! Sorry, venting! MEN

[taj'samericanwife 0]

i always ask him to send me some papers : photocopy of his passport to show the CO how many entries he did , asking him when ill call dr to get an appointement letter , he said until november ( my interview is on november 16 ) , i scream , why does he have a cold blood !!!! its me who"s always stressing , always asking , always starting a subject ...

he's sure about himself that the interview wont be failed because having a son together is the best approvel of our relation !!!

dont know what to do

we have a son and we are put on AP

[christeen 966]

i always ask him to send me some papers : photocopy of his passport to show the CO how many entries he did , asking him when ill call dr to get an appointement letter , he said until november ( my interview is on november 16 ) , i scream , why does he have a cold blood !!!! its me who"s always stressing , always asking , always starting a subject ...

he's sure about himself that the interview wont be failed because having a son together is the best approvel of our relation !!!

dont know what to do

we have a son and we are put on AP

Very true, they do not look upon a child as proof of a bonafide relationship... However, to try to see the positive, at least you can expect that your husband (sinad) stays very cool in stressful situations.... This is a great attribute for a spouse. Better to have a balance between the two... Just give him everything he needs, label it and send him on his way, he will be OK!!! You're NEVER gonna get a rise outta him if that is not his nature, so just go with it!!!

i always ask him to send me some papers : photocopy of his passport to show the CO how many entries he did , asking him when ill call dr to get an appointement letter , he said until november ( my interview is on november 16 ) , i scream , why does he have a cold blood !!!! its me who"s always stressing , always asking , always starting a subject ...

he's sure about himself that the interview wont be failed because having a son together is the best approvel of our relation !!!

dont know what to do

we have a son and we are put on AP

Very true, they do not look upon a child as proof of a bonafide relationship... However, to try to see the positive, at least you can expect that your husband (sinad) stays very cool in stressful situations.... This is a great attribute for a spouse. Better to have a balance between the two... Just give him everything he needs, label it and send him on his way, he will be OK!!! You're NEVER gonna get a rise outta him if that is not his nature, so just go with it!!!

(which this is as much of an affirmation of what I need to keep in mind when dealing with my other half...lol...)

[uglygirlpo 0]

please tell him, that having a child with him while you are still in your country is not an assurance that you wont get denied,unless, you are in the US with your child.there's no denial when you adjust status if you have a child with him and you are already here in the US wether you are in food stamp, based on experience.ask him that you need certain documents bec. even if he's rich and there's no enough evidence, it would be useless.i guess your husband is like mine, lazy slow when it comes to fixing the petition. I had a hard time too getting what i need from my husband for my petition. god bless you,i'm sure things will be fine with you, once your husband realizes the situation.

[Siham 0]

i always ask him to send me some papers : photocopy of his passport to show the CO how many entries he did , asking him when ill call dr to get an appointement letter , he said until november ( my interview is on november 16 ) , i scream , why does he have a cold blood !!!! its me who"s always stressing , always asking , always starting a subject ...

he's sure about himself that the interview wont be failed because having a son together is the best approvel of our relation !!!

dont know what to do

we have a son and we are put on AP

why on AP ?

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Please everyone NOT from Casa watch what you advise as this embassy is very different and hard than others, dont even begin to compared steps. My best rememberence is you DO at least have to take a copy of the letter to the dr, requirements chg from embassy to embassy. In Morocco at least all that i have seen when it is the woman coming from there most had no problems, you should do fine if well prepared with the questions/answers, just do NOT under estimate these people. AP is a time after the interview that they do MORE search and finish up your case, most men get it, i dont remember of a woman ever getting it

[Siham 0]

thank alot !!!!! brnidokiegurl

we met online , and hubby said no dont tell them , tell them that we were family friends !!!!! but no i disagree i prefer to say the truth no ?

he thinks meeting online will make a problem for the process !!

[brnidokiegurl 0]

U ALWAYS tell the truth, alot these days meet online (we did) worse to say family friends as they may think it was preplanned and arranged with friends and family

[MsSheka 0]

U ALWAYS tell the truth, alot these days meet online (we did) worse to say family friends as they may think it was preplanned and arranged with friends and family

Good Advice

[Sandrila 1]

Aren't we always the ones to take on the load?

If he doesn't care about his own case....then?

Yes give him a deadline SOONER than you really need it, that way if he delays you will still have time.

I am sorry to hear of your frustrations but you will quickly learn you are not alone in having to deal with them.

Good Luck

thank alot !!!!! brnidokiegurl

we met online , and hubby said no dont tell them , tell them that we were family friends !!!!! but no i disagree i prefer to say the truth no ?

he thinks meeting online will make a problem for the process !!

no don't lie about it.

I was sketchy about it at first and like how credible we would look saying that but it happens so much now adays and there is nothing wrong or unusual about it.

[Siham 0]

today i sent some of your messages just to let him know that i'll really need his photopy of passsport and phone records

you what was his answer "makes no sence "

feel im gonna cry !! its hurts alot

[Siham 0]

after getting that answer from him , i stopped talking to him , blocked him in msn , stop answering the phone

after 3 days of trying he called mom in her mobile lol , and i talked to him , we talked for 40 minutes , told him that he doesnt feel what he's saying , doesnt feel what i feel abt this process cus its me who's gonna be in front of the cow

he said that he was stressed about our son's case , now he's at least sure he'll have interview in the same day as me ,

so now im just waiting for the letter then ill take appointement with Dr Khadija in Casablanca for me and my son !!

but he still doesnt want to send me his photocopy of passport , and i said ok "i dont care "

[brnidokiegurl 0]

they will have a copy of his passport in the application they received from him (that he prepared) and what were his reasons that you cant have a copy of this?