Yardies at Home and a Farrin (part 19)

[MRStee 19]

MsTee, have you talked to your mister yet?? I'm just wondering how excited he is right now!

Yes I talked to him, he was telling me about the questions. He said his stomach was hurting because he hadn't eaten. So I told him, hang up with me and go eat!!! We usually talk at night so its cool. I just wanna wrap my arms around him right now!

[JAPrincess 27]

Edited October 13, 2009 by JAPrincess

[MRStee 19]

Greetings & Good Afternoon Ladies!!

I hope everyone is well!

CONGRATS on the approvals, Mrs. Palmer & Ms.Tee!!! LANNNNNNNGTIME OVADUE MRS. P!! LANNNNNGGGGGG TIME!!!!!! Many blessings & a speedy arrival to you both!

Have a bless-ed day!

Gill

Thank you so much.. You have a blessed day too!

[JAPrincess 27]

MsTee, have you talked to your mister yet?? I'm just wondering how excited he is right now!

Yes I talked to him, he was telling me about the questions. He said his stomach was hurting because he hadn't eaten. So I told him, hang up with me and go eat!!! We usually talk at night so its cool. I just wanna wrap my arms around him right now!

[*SunRay* 1]

Awww, it's always good to log in and See Gilli in the house....

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Hey MsTee...no worries...I just think that one of the problems that continue to plague the African-American/and Afro-Caribbean (is that right) is that this "exotic" and "genuinely beautiful" looked of mixed race people is something to aspire to. Whether you mean to or not in your actions, thoughts, beliefs, this will perpetuate itself in one way or another. Why do you think bleaching is running so rampant in JA? And not just JA, but all over the world. Unfortunately Africans and those from African descent continue to struggle with acceptance of their own skintone, features, etc because they know that for a majority of people it is not "as beautiful". Beautiful--yes. But still not "as beautiful". That's like saying a woman is smart, but not "as smart" as a man. Or a larger woman may be beautiful, but not "as beautiful" as a smaller woman simply because of size. If there is a way that we can make all of our children feel as though they are the most beautiful beings, then we need to make that our mission in life EACH AND EVERY DAY! If we do so, if we uplift ALL of our children, make them ALL feel special, then will there be no need for constant desire to change themselves. Trying to be something that they are not--regardless of the mental and physical implications that may be endured during their pursuit. Looking for others to validate them instead of finding that validation and acceptance within themselves and from those that love them. It would probably prevent 1/2 of the ####### that's going on with our young people today.

Greatly said!!!!!!

Girl we got to help you with the quotes LOL I always think you are writing the post when you are commenting.

Ells can hold the Quoting 101 class

girl just tryna stay out of trouble at work.... im soooo glad u and z are talking now.. i really think she is willing and ready to be friends again.. maybe just not the whole circle thing again..which is probably best..

okay roger always has his apron on..our kitchen is ready for u lol

thanks philly.. he wanted me to go w/ him, but they were closed sat for columbus day, cuz they are never open on monday and need to take advantage of holidays like the rest of us i guess LOL.. dyam gvt workers..

how did mr philly's day go w/ the boys yesterday

I was like why we taking baby steps LOL but I am not the only one with the initial of Z I see.

Mr Philly was ok yesterday the boys ended up up across the street at the Fass gyals house on their porch for the rest of the day he reported I must put a stop to this with the quickness!

smaddy pass me the cliff notes fi mrs p post please

mstee that's an odd question they asked him

to write down your names?

I thought the same thing? what if he coudn't read or write then what?

I have heard stories where the SO didn't know how to spell it - or didn't know the last name -

what a damn shame

Bunz...mek yuh get yuh lazy self hup and read mi post! Mi try and spread knowledge and good cheer tidey! I heard another reason they sometimes ask the beneficiary to sign their sponsor's name is to validate that they actually KNOW their names...imagine if you're sponsoring someone and they don't know your name. Or how to pronounce it. Or how to spell it. As far as the issue of them possibly not knowing how to write, then I'm guessing that would've come up in the THOUSANDS of documents that they had to sign before they got to the interview. BUT, if someone else "helped" with the signing...then...

Most document preparation in this process are handled by the USC , signing ones name on documents is totally different than having to write others names correct? The issue is having to be able to read and write others name other than the SO's name but children etc. I understand the importance of he or she knowing the information but realistically being able to write it could be an issue and I wonder how that would handled if that came in to play.

I would hope that even if the beneficiary has minimal reading/writing skills at best, then the USC spouse or SO would work to help them learn to at least recognize or write their (USC) name or even the names of their children. To me, and this is just my opinion, it still shows some validity to the relationship. I know that others may not agree, and I'm not saying that this is the "sole proof" of what should be considered valid, but to me, I would hope that it would at least be important enough to the beneficiary to know how to write/copy/recognize/pronounce the names of his/her spouse and children. And as the USC, I would damn sure make sure that he was able to do so.

[finesse 3]

Mrs P. - you make some very valid points. i agree that it is a true shame that anyone would not love themselves for who they are and what they look like. all children are beautiful and special....i agree with you 100%

however, interracial children do come with their own set of challenges.....they question their own identity. who am i? am i white? am i black? i don't look like either one....where do i fit in? It is up to us as parents to make our children feel special and important no matter what their makeup is...

i don't believe that interracial children are 'better' or 'more beautiful' than those of their one race counterparts (that would go for someone who is all black or all white or all whatever) but I do think that interracial children are more interesting and unique..

what i find interesting is that for centuries and centuries breeding outside of one's race has been so taboo and so wrong and so looked down upon and to some people downright disgusting(in societys eyes) and when people finally started to do it, the result has been some extremely stunning and talented human beings...

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Greetings & Good Afternoon Ladies!!

I hope everyone is well!

CONGRATS on the approvals, Mrs. Palmer & Ms.Tee!!! LANNNNNNNGTIME OVADUE MRS. P!! LANNNNNGGGGGG TIME!!!!!! Many blessings & a speedy arrival to you both!

Have a bless-ed day!

Gill

Ohhhh...thank you so much Gill! Now I can go out on "dates" w/ my husband like you and Ken!

[Islandwoman 0]

APPROVEDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!

Questions:

When was the last time she came to visit?

How many children?

Write our names down...

APPROVED

Congrats Mstee!!

[sus 70]

I would hope that even if the beneficiary has minimal reading/writing skills at best, then the USC spouse or SO would work to help them learn to at least recognize or write their (USC) name or even the names of their children. To me, and this is just my opinion, it still shows some validity to the relationship. I know that others may not agree, and I'm not saying that this is the "sole proof" of what should be considered valid, but to me, I would hope that it would at least be important enough to the beneficiary to know how to write/copy/recognize/pronounce the names of his/her spouse and children. And as the USC, I would damn sure make sure that he was able to do so.

I agree completely, MrsP - but when you see the cases of met someone, return home, file in a month or two months time - There isn't a lot of time to prepare the SO or ensure that you have the proof that you have a valid relationship - I think a question like this can weed out some of those situations.

[Islandwoman 0]

Oh Sus! I thought of you on my birthday.... My friend Patrick asked me if I had been to the AWESOME purse outlet in NH yet. LOL

You're not gonna now.......

[sus 70]

Mrs P. - you make some very valid points. i agree that it is a true shame that anyone would not love themselves for who they are and what they look like. all children are beautiful and special....i agree with you 100%

however, interracial children do come with their own set of challenges.....they question their own identity. who am i? am i white? am i black? i don't look like either one....where do i fit in? It is up to us as parents to make our children feel special and important no matter what their makeup is...

i don't believe that interracial children are 'better' or 'more beautiful' than those of their one race counterparts (that would go for someone who is all black or all white or all whatever) but I do think that interracial children are more interesting and unique..

what i find interesting is that for centuries and centuries breeding outside of one's race has been so taboo and so wrong and so looked down upon and to some people downright disgusting(in societys eyes) and when people finally started to do it, the result has been some extremely stunning and talented human beings...

WOW, that is the most profound post I have ever seen from finesse!

You are so right, though - When I used to work as a camp counselor, we had one girl that attended the program who was profoundly retarded, with MS, and in a wheel chair - The littlest interaction from anyone made her smile and laugh, which were about the only things she could outwardly express. It has always stuck in my head what our Director said to me - We were talking one day and watching the kids interact with her - he said that it is people like her that will be sitting at the right hand of God on your judgment day, and how you treat that person now will affect where you spend your afterlife - It always stuck in my head in my interactions with people - The smallest word to someone, especially a child, can totally affect their life - whether they are white, black, mixed, fat, skinny, whatever -

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Mrs P. - you make some very valid points. i agree that it is a true shame that anyone would not love themselves for who they are and what they look like. all children are beautiful and special....i agree with you 100%

however, interracial children do come with their own set of challenges.....they question their own identity. who am i? am i white? am i black? i don't look like either one....where do i fit in? It is up to us as parents to make our children feel special and important no matter what their makeup is...

i don't believe that interracial children are 'better' or 'more beautiful' than those of their one race counterparts (that would go for someone who is all black or all white or all whatever) but I do think that interracial children are more interesting and unique..

what i find interesting is that for centuries and centuries breeding outside of one's race has been so taboo and so wrong and so looked down upon and to some people downright disgusting(in societys eyes) and when people finally started to do it, the result has been some extremely stunning and talented human beings...

Yeah...but were the results of them being "stunning and talented" as you say due to people treating them differently--being encouraged more, being provided w/ more opportunities or acceptance based on appearance, etc and as a result they were given access to more, and thus able to achieve more? Simple and plain, the overall tone of society is that they are more accepting. Because really, everyone has the potential to be stunning and talented...but are they being given encouragement and opportunities to do so. Now don't get me wrong, I know that mixed race children do get teased, and do struggle with the idea of who they can identify with, but in regards to overall acceptance, I honestly feel that the fairer skinned, mixed race child is still going to come out on top. I definitely agree with you though that it is up to the parents and family of our children to make sure that they are all talented, stunning, beautiful, and genuine. And then we will have a generation of superstars, chemists, doctors, mathematicians, whatever the color.

[sus 70]

Oh Sus! I thought of you on my birthday.... My friend Patrick asked me if I had been to the AWESOME purse outlet in NH yet. LOL

You're not gonna now.......

I know Cat they got raided -

And if you do find them - Don't sell Chanel ones on EBay

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

I would hope that even if the beneficiary has minimal reading/writing skills at best, then the USC spouse or SO would work to help them learn to at least recognize or write their (USC) name or even the names of their children. To me, and this is just my opinion, it still shows some validity to the relationship. I know that others may not agree, and I'm not saying that this is the "sole proof" of what should be considered valid, but to me, I would hope that it would at least be important enough to the beneficiary to know how to write/copy/recognize/pronounce the names of his/her spouse and children. And as the USC, I would damn sure make sure that he was able to do so.

I agree completely, MrsP - but when you see the cases of met someone, return home, file in a month or two months time - There isn't a lot of time to prepare the SO or ensure that you have the proof that you have a valid relationship - I think a question like this can weed out some of those situations.

i agree

there is just no excuse to be denied for that reason