GUILT !

[sasha414 0]

im a bit confused. pls go direct to the point and not beat around the bush.

[Don José 2]

You'll never understand what some crazy Pinays are up to!

Dude Wait I wanna read this and cant. MARIE Help me

You just blew your cover, bud!

[John&Juvy 36]

My 2 cents

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

If the information is for him, respect him enough to forward it to him.

Btw, regarding the money thing, if he is the one who earns that money, let him decide where to use it. If your money is involved. That's another story.

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

Like I said....He already realized that what he was doing for the past 6 months was too much and he started to slow down for being active or about to stop about this whole thing. Specially na medyo may misunderstanding na ngyari sa grupo. Hanggang sa kagabi nga nka tanggap na naman kami ng mensahe from them again. Thought enough is enough because this is way too much of what we only agreed about when the first time he asked me na "paminsan-minsan lang naman yung gagawin nya". Thought everything is already back to normal when I see him relax everytime he came home from work. We always talked if what is the problems and very open din to each other not even about even a little from the past, that's why I felt bad about sa ginawa ko kasi for the first time may ginawa ako na hindi ko masabi sa kanya. Being a wife I dont think I can just sit down and ignored him even seeing him exhausted physically and mentally about this.

Regarding about the money.... We both earnings money, honestly... there is no "My Money" and "His Money"between us... It's always "Our Money". We get bankruptcy or get rich it is "US", Not just me or him. I never have also a problem if he spent money for this. The problem here is FAR from the money.. It's about his tttoooo much Effort and tttoooo much time that he spent for this bull without getting any credit sa mga kasama nya.

LOL I wish I can tell the whole Story about this whole thing..... But the whole point about this thread is about kung meron ba dito na na-experienced not the same story pero same na nakapag tago ng sekreto sa mga husband nyo for both own good. I even just to talked about it in our own language lol due my husband checking this site also sometimes lol.

[NArocks 13]

Not fair I knowz I am missing out on half of this someone point me to a translator program pleaseeeeeee

You'll never understand what some crazy Pinays are up to!

Dude Wait I wanna read this and cant. MARIE Help me

You just blew your cover, bud!

[PhiLandShiR 18]

My 2 cents

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

If the information is for him, respect him enough to forward it to him.

Btw, regarding the money thing, if he is the one who earns that money, let him decide where to use it. If your money is involved. That's another story.

If he still can think let him think and make the decision.

Korek! I dont really agree with her doing things like that..there's a way..Talk about it!

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

even I cant understand what ur saying

sounds like her husband was contributing to some group she didnt name..

and she did something that'll make him not contribute.. she didnt say what..

Tambien. Clueless as to what she secret thing she did and what was her husband was doing for his group.

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

Dude Wait I wanna read this and cant. MARIE Help me

But for the life of me, it all sounds Greek to me, NaRocks!

[betsay 0]

My 2 cents

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

If the information is for him, respect him enough to forward it to him.

Btw, regarding the money thing, if he is the one who earns that money, let him decide where to use it. If your money is involved. That's another story.

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

Like I said....He already realized that what he was doing for the past 6 months was too much and he started to slow down for being active or about to stop about this whole thing. Specially na medyo may misunderstanding na ngyari sa grupo. Hanggang sa kagabi nga nka tanggap na naman kami ng mensahe from them again. Thought enough is enough because this is way too much of what we only agreed about when the first time he asked me na "paminsan-minsan lang naman yung gagawin nya". Thought everything is already back to normal when I see him relax everytime he came home from work. We always talked if what is the problems and very open din to each other not even about even a little from the past, that's why I felt bad about sa ginawa ko kasi for the first time may ginawa ako na hindi ko masabi sa kanya. Being a wife I dont think I can just sit down and ignored him even seeing him exhausted physically and mentally about this.

Regarding about the money.... We both earnings money, honestly... there is no "My Money" and "His Money"between us... It's always "Our Money". We get bankruptcy or get rich it is "US", Not just me or him. I never have also a problem if he spent money for this. The problem here is FAR from the money.. It's about his tttoooo much Effort and tttoooo much time that he spent for this bull without getting any credit sa mga kasama nya.

LOL I wish I can tell the whole Story about this whole thing..... But the whole point about this thread is about kung meron ba dito na na-experienced not the same story pero same na nakapag tago ng sekreto sa mga husband nyo for both own good. I even just to talked about it in our own language lol due my husband checking this site also sometimes lol.

Show some respect to your husband, girl. I think you should go to him and tell him everything you did in SECRET. I wouldn't want to think how pissed off he will be when he finds out that he is the last to know about your little "secret".

I agree with you about the money issue though. . .

[marklovetina 52]

Not fair I knowz I am missing out on half of this someone point me to a translator program pleaseeeeeee

You'll never understand what some crazy Pinays are up to!

Dude Wait I wanna read this and cant. MARIE Help me

You just blew your cover, bud!

:lol: :lol:

[-B&T- 1]

Are they smoking pot mare? (Joke)Don't hide that letter Juv kung hindi mo pa napunit, ibigay mo nalang kasi baka mag away pa kayo if he finds out that you're hiding something from him. If these people are ruining your lives then it's really better for him to stay away from these guys but just be there to advice and support him. Good luck and hope you guys can sort these things out.

[rheanick 42]

My 2 cents

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

If the information is for him, respect him enough to forward it to him.

Btw, regarding the money thing, if he is the one who earns that money, let him decide where to use it. If your money is involved. That's another story.

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

Like I said....He already realized that what he was doing for the past 6 months was too much and he started to slow down for being active or about to stop about this whole thing. Specially na medyo may misunderstanding na ngyari sa grupo. Hanggang sa kagabi nga nka tanggap na naman kami ng mensahe from them again. Thought enough is enough because this is way too much of what we only agreed about when the first time he asked me na "paminsan-minsan lang naman yung gagawin nya". Thought everything is already back to normal when I see him relax everytime he came home from work. We always talked if what is the problems and very open din to each other not even about even a little from the past, that's why I felt bad about sa ginawa ko kasi for the first time may ginawa ako na hindi ko masabi sa kanya. Being a wife I dont think I can just sit down and ignored him even seeing him exhausted physically and mentally about this.

Regarding about the money.... We both earnings money, honestly... there is no "My Money" and "His Money"between us... It's always "Our Money". We get bankruptcy or get rich it is "US", Not just me or him. I never have also a problem if he spent money for this. The problem here is FAR from the money.. It's about his tttoooo much Effort and tttoooo much time that he spent for this bull without getting any credit sa mga kasama nya.

LOL I wish I can tell the whole Story about this whole thing..... But the whole point about this thread is about kung meron ba dito na na-experienced not the same story pero same na nakapag tago ng sekreto sa mga husband nyo for both own good. I even just to talked about it in our own language lol due my husband checking this site also sometimes lol.

Is your husband happy with what he is doing. If your hubby is happy with his activity even though he is exhausted or not getting credit. Most of the time those stuff won't matter. His activity could be bull for you but not for him.

To be frank with you. Any message i receive intended to my husband, whether good or bad, he has the right to know.

Keeping that message from your could lead to a bigger problem.

You have to look deeper within you to understand the main reason you are feeling this way. There is more to it. Its more than him not getting any credit or being exhausted.

I dont have the whole story but something is ready to explode within you. Talk to your husband. Dont stop until he understands how you feel.

[John&Juvy 36]

OK.... Be right back with all of your mesg later lol. What I did is not that bad as you all thought. But yes what I did is kinda hursh a little even though thought it was for best. Gotta go need to ready for work.

[newlyweds 0]

My 2 cents

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

If the information is for him, respect him enough to forward it to him.

Btw, regarding the money thing, if he is the one who earns that money, let him decide where to use it. If your money is involved. That's another story.

If he still can think let him think and make the decision.

whether he or both parties earn the money, once married.. i think the married couple should both decide how to spend the money. it's unfair if the husband is the only one deciding for the finances, marriage is also about sharing, from emotions to decisions about how money is spent

My 2 cents

If you are making a decision for him... you are indirectly telling us that he does not know how to decide.

You should trust your husband enough to make his own decision.

You could tell him your opinion and views, still, he should be the one to make the final decision.

If the information is for him, respect him enough to forward it to him.

Btw, regarding the money thing, if he is the one who earns that money, let him decide where to use it. If your money is involved. That's another story.

If he still can think let him think and make the decision.

whether he or both parties earn the money, once married.. i think the married couple should both decide how to spend the money. it's unfair if the husband is the only one deciding for the finances, marriage is also about sharing, from emotions to decisions about how money is spent

[newlyweds 0]

i think you should just tell him how it's affecting you; tell him you understand this whole thing but for the life of you, it is sucking out some of your energy as you can't help not think about it.

That's how I try to convince my fiance when he does something i dont like lol

but i always have a sweet way of doing stuff tho lol

tell him, you appreciate and admire his passion for doing that stuff, and it's great but you can see the effects of it on him. Let him know that it is still worrying you even though you trust him about what he is doing. He may understand you more and prioritize your words even more

Don't hide it as that might only create problems in the future. If you get into any trouble, just explain to him that you did that because you love him that much that you dont want to see the effects of it taking its toll on him

[ChuckandRhean 0]

Ok I dont know how to start... coz I dont know where to start lol. But anyway, tag-lish ko na lng mga sis kasi minsan nag oonline din dito asawa ko baka mabasa pa nya to . First I'm going to ask if there is any of you here experienced at the present of your marriage with your husband na magtago ng sekreto for the first time with him for his own good...... and for your peace of mind ? I mean anything... tulad ba ng sulat na hindi mo pinakita sa kanya which is you decided na mas mabuti ng hindi nya na mabasa kasi baka mas lumaki pa yung problema ? I know na mali yung gagawin mo na ikaw yung mag de-decide if what is good or wrong for him pero what if kung ikaw mismo nakikita na yung asawa mo eh blinded with the situation that he into right now..... Na sa umpisa pa lang against ka na, pero syempre dahil mahal mo xa and his your husband you tried to understand him (specially there is nothing really wrong of what his doing naman) and be a little bit more open-minded about it before.

So eto ang ff. ng ngyari

nga after 6 months na sumasama ang loob ko dahil sa ginagawa ng asawa ko na hindi naman masama... pero as in sumobra naman kasi nga nakikita mo yung super effort and pagod nya na hindi nya naman dapat ginagawa just to tried to change the things that he cannot. Tapos eto nga, lately medyo na realized nya na rin konti medyo tama nga ako so medyo lumi-low na xa ng konti sa ginagawa nya.. and then, for the 2nd time na nakakita ako ng tsansa na as in putulin na talaga yung kumunikasyon nya sa grupo na yun kanina sa pamamagitan ng pagtago ko nung huling tsansa nung nasa grupo na makumbinsi ulit ang asawa ko na tumulong ulit sa kanila lalo na na yung asawa ko lng naman as in yung nag bibigay talaga ng sobra-sobrang oras, effort and sariling pera minsan para dito and then yung mga idiot and mga wala man lng pakialam at utang na loob kahit konti yug mga punyeta na mga kasama nya sa na contribute nya sa grupo.

Alam kong hindi ko aaminin sa kanya kung ano ginawa ko lol... pero 50% na baka malaman nya pa rin then 50% na baka hindi nya na talaga malaman.

I really felt guilt sa ginawa ko... pero I think atleast god knows why I did it. This for his own health, marriage and our LIFE !

So the quistion still the same lol. Atleast na experience nyo na ba kahit paano na may itinago sa asawa nyo for a good reason or kung baga sabi nga nila "White Lies "? Walang plastikan ha.... Hindi pa naman ako perfect wife .

In time,Malalaman din nya nagawa mo. Its better that u have to tell him now. Baka pagmulan pa yan ng away nyo. For sure may malalim syang dahilan ,alamin mo.Imberstigador...kumbaga