September 2009 K-1 Visa Filers

[kjenkins86 5]

Can't have the baby dust fall on you if the wind isn't blowing.... if that makes any sense. (We haven't/aren't doing anything, to put it more bluntly.)

Since you put it out there I hope you don't mind me asking. Holding out until the wedding? If so that's great!

[Maggie_Kenyth 1]

well, being as anxious as I am, we've already called DOS.. lmao. DOS knows we are approved according to their records, so thats great news, and they said visa could be printed later today or next week...heres hoping!

[frenzyheart 2]

Since you put it out there I hope you don't mind me asking. Holding out until the wedding? If so that's great!

Yup. I get so many weird looks *surprisingly enough* but I am nearly 26 and still a virgin. Hell, we both are, to be completely honest. But you know, though, it was a decision I made at 13, and it's one of the things I'm the most proud of when I look back at my life. I'm fairly vocal about it, too, but not to the point where it's like "OMG you did it before marriage!? SHAME!" because the way I see it, to each their own. I'm not about to judge someone because of that, nor do I look down on those who do.

[paciencia y fe 2]

Great review Maggie and I'm glad you were comfortable.

Ladies & Gents (wait, where's Seb ),

We need to start discussing AOS or start a new forum. (Ney, Jenn, Karen, Myself, and forgive me if I forgot anyone who's already here)

yes! i've already started "test" filling out the forms. I'm a little stuck on some of the questions regarding weapons and military service, since my honey was in the marines in his country for a short time during the peru-ecuador conflict. he never was in combat but had to do training. i hope this will not be an issue...

when are folks planning to file? I want to have papers ready as to be filed as soon as we get the marriage cert, which should come two weeks after the wedding. So i'm anticipating filing for AOS the very end of May.

[Maggie_Kenyth 1]

frenzy, I was in my 20s and I did do it before marriage, but marriage happened almost right after.. lol.

I was very strong on the fact I wanted to wait until I was married..wait for the one.. etc etc.

I don't ever regret waiting for my first time to be with someone I had intended to spend my life with.

I don't look at it the same now.. but I still hold the same values about sex in that it's important, a commitment etc etc.

SO good for you both =)

[kjenkins86 5]

well, being as anxious as I am, we've already called DOS.. lmao. DOS knows we are approved according to their records, so thats great news, and they said visa could be printed later today or next week...heres hoping!

Lol, goodluck!!!

Yup. I get so many weird looks *surprisingly enough* but I am nearly 26 and still a virgin. Hell, we both are, to be completely honest. But you know, though, it was a decision I made at 13, and it's one of the things I'm the most proud of when I look back at my life. I'm fairly vocal about it, too, but not to the point where it's like "OMG you did it before marriage!? SHAME!" because the way I see it, to each their own. I'm not about to judge someone because of that, nor do I look down on those who do.

Oh ok. I have no problem with people who chose that route, my cousin did and she has no regrets. I just wonder how do you stay faithful to your vow, temptation is strong...

yes! i've already started "test" filling out the forms. I'm a little stuck on some of the questions regarding weapons and military service, since my honey was in the marines in his country for a short time during the peru-ecuador conflict. he never was in combat but had to do training. i hope this will not be an issue...

when are folks planning to file? I want to have papers ready as to be filed as soon as we get the marriage cert, which should come two weeks after the wedding. So i'm anticipating filing for AOS the very end of May.

I doubt that'll be a problem, as long as he wasn't a terroist or fighting against America I guess.

I'll file as soon as I quit spending the money!!

[frenzyheart 2]

Oh ok. I have no problem with people who chose that route, my cousin did and she has no regrets. I just wonder how do you stay faithful to your vow, temptation is strong...

It can be, but it's something we've both discussed in great length, actually, and since the beginning (almost 5 years ago) we both decided that we just wanted to wait.

[kjenkins86 5]

frenzy, I was in my 20s and I did do it before marriage, but marriage happened almost right after.. lol.

I was very strong on the fact I wanted to wait until I was married..wait for the one.. etc etc.

I don't ever regret waiting for my first time to be with someone I had intended to spend my life with.

I don't look at it the same now.. but I still hold the same values about sex in that it's important, a commitment etc etc.

SO good for you both =)

That's why I don't chose to save myself for "the one" because you think you met "the one" and as time goes by he isn't the one. I also think that no man is worth all of me unless he saved himself for me as well, call me crazy...

It can be, but it's something we've both discussed in great length, actually, and since the beginning (almost 5 years ago) we both decided that we just wanted to wait.

That's great that both you are on the same page with this. Best of luck to you and him!!

Where's Seb, Jenn and Kayla? Hope they're ok.

[Jenn and Fuat 2]

Jenn you just have to give him time to adjust a bit. He's scared and has never been out of his home country. I know you're being your awesome self and being all patient right now for him, and I know it will be hard. Just know that we're all rooting for you.

Oh, and I know that there's a website where people can order things from Canada that we can't get in the US, but maybe there' something like that for Turkey too? Might be something worth looking into and it would probably make him feel less homesick.

Yes.. there is a great web site for stuff like that. Yesterday was our best day yet.. even though he failed the drivers test again. I'll tell more about that later

Yesterday he rode his first roller coaster ever.. and insisted on sitting in the front seat. I have never seen him smile so much and he couldn't stop talking about how happy he was yesterday. It was so nice.

[Jenn and Fuat 2]

Jenn, just try to be patient and remember that everything is new to him. I'm sorry to hear that he's having a hard time adjusting. I don't really like cats and I can't imagine living with one so I can understand what he's feeling...

Why7 are you stressing about a failed drivers test? It's not that important until he gets a job and has to drive to work, slow down, you're going too fast I believe.

Ok, I have to ask, what's he doing at your job??? Even if he's there to visit, why is he interacting with your boss to the point that your boss has to opportunity to disrespect your fiance??

I hope it works out for you and you both remain happuy

To clear up a little confusion... we aren't really rushing things. Our little town has no public transportation, so if he wants to be able to go anywhere he needs his license. Even though he has a Turkish license they are making him take the test and he didn't understand some of teh english words ( like Pedestrian).. so he failed it three times and they are making him take a drivers education class before they will let him try again. It had nothing to do with his knowledge or driving or how well he drives.. he was so frustrated that he couldn't pass because they wouldn't help him with word definitions. But... he's enjoying the class, so at least there is a bright spot there.

As for work.. It's not MY boss that was giving him a problem. It was his. Yes.. he is working. He has the stamp, our Corporate Legal team said it was an authorized EAD.. so he is working at Kings Dominion right now. His first day was our opening day.. we were expecting 4,000 people and ended up with 15,000... WE are used to days like that and knowing what it will mean for our employees.. but his introduction to King Dominion consisted of a manager that woulnd't let him take a break for 11 hours and I did not prepare him for that possibility when we got slammed the way we did. The only people that got breaks that day were the ones we LEGALLY had to give breaks to and those are only the kids under age 18. Then, he didn't understand the American Coins and instead of explaining them to him his manager told him to go home that night, go shopping and learn the money before he comes back. The manager has been "dealt with" in regards to how he treated his employees.. but can you imagine Fuat's reaction to all this? I am surprised he even came back to work the next day.

Every day there seems to be some new stress, whether it's the food or the people, or the way our "work" culture is different.. or a snotty lady at DMV telling him he should know what "Pedestrian" means becauase he should speak English.. BUt, at least the situation with the cat is getting a litte better. Of course, I have not given her to someone else and he just does not understand why I won't just give her to the first person I can find that will take a cat.. but we will see what happens.

[Jenn and Fuat 2]

Maggie was approved!!!!!!!!!!!

I KNOW I AM A FEW DAYS LATE BUT... HURRAY FOR MAGGIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jenn and Fuat 2]

The threads close when we reach the 5000 post limit and 'charles the moderator" usually stops by and let us know.

Maggie, still not sure yet, I'm tired of looking at the sticks to see 1 line but then I'm 2 weeks late. I really wanna know but my doc is booked until Tuesday. Lets see what happens. I just wanna get the wedding over with because I'm gaining weight and I ripped my dress a little trying it on

So far it's May 1st and I hope I don't gain any more weight by then because I have a killer APPETITE!!

Congrats again Maggie!!

MAY 1?? ME TOO :)

Well, I have something else to tell everyone, but need to get through all these other posts first.. then I will tell my news and how it relates to our May 1 wedding!

[kjenkins86 5]

Yes.. there is a great web site for stuff like that. Yesterday was our best day yet.. even though he failed the drivers test again. I'll tell more about that later

Yesterday he rode his first roller coaster ever.. and insisted on sitting in the front seat. I have never seen him smile so much and he couldn't stop talking about how happy he was yesterday. It was so nice.

Oh wow, I LOVE LOVE roller coasters!! I'm jealous

To clear up a little confusion... we aren't really rushing things. Our little town has no public transportation, so if he wants to be able to go anywhere he needs his license. Even though he has a Turkish license they are making him take the test and he didn't understand some of teh english words ( like Pedestrian).. so he failed it three times and they are making him take a drivers education class before they will let him try again. It had nothing to do with his knowledge or driving or how well he drives.. he was so frustrated that he couldn't pass because they wouldn't help him with word definitions. But... he's enjoying the class, so at least there is a bright spot there.

As for work.. It's not MY boss that was giving him a problem. It was his. Yes.. he is working. He has the stamp, our Corporate Legal team said it was an authorized EAD.. so he is working at Kings Dominion right now. His first day was our opening day.. we were expecting 4,000 people and ended up with 15,000... WE are used to days like that and knowing what it will mean for our employees.. but his introduction to King Dominion consisted of a manager that woulnd't let him take a break for 11 hours and I did not prepare him for that possibility when we got slammed the way we did. The only people that got breaks that day were the ones we LEGALLY had to give breaks to and those are only the kids under age 18. Then, he didn't understand the American Coins and instead of explaining them to him his manager told him to go home that night, go shopping and learn the money before he comes back. The manager has been "dealt with" in regards to how he treated his employees.. but can you imagine Fuat's reaction to all this? I am surprised he even came back to work the next day.

Every day there seems to be some new stress, whether it's the food or the people, or the way our "work" culture is different.. or a snotty lady at DMV telling him he should know what "Pedestrian" means becauase he should speak English.. BUt, at least the situation with the cat is getting a litte better. Of course, I have not given her to someone else and he just does not understand why I won't just give her to the first person I can find that will take a cat.. but we will see what happens.

Jenn, if you were offended by what I said I apologize but it wasn't my intention to offend you.

However, sorry that he hasn't been passing the tests, don't they have the option to take it in turkish? I understand that him not passing the test has nothing to do with his knowledge of driving, I see plenty people that come here and has had their license in their country and fail the test here, whatever it is I

I KNOW I AM A FEW DAYS LATE BUT... HURRAY FOR MAGGIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MAY 1?? ME TOO :)

Well, I have something else to tell everyone, but need to get through all these other posts first.. then I will tell my news and how it relates to our May 1 wedding!

[Jenn and Fuat 2]

OK a few things...

# 1 Where is Seb and where is Kayla? I feel bad when I can't get on here every day, but I see I am not the only one.

#2. Kayla.. visa yet???

#3. Krystle .. Kayla.... what's up with the baby dust? Any news?

#4. When we get to the point that we have to close this thread, let's move to one for AOS regardless of WHAT MONTH everyone ends up filing. We can call it the September 2009 K1 visa Filers AOS Thread... and just move over there. But I say let's stay here as long as we can.

Alright.. now the news....

Are you ready????

Are you sitting down????

Kayla.. I already sent you a PM about this, but you never responded so either you didn't see it or you were so shocked you couldn't responde.

Are you sure you are ready?

Fuat and I got married on March 30th. YOU are the first people I have told. My mother doesn't even know yet.

We didn't plan on it.. the day we got the marriage license, we decided to go to the mosque to see the Imam ( muslim version of a priest) to see if he would do the religious muslim marraige, so that we were not living in "sin". This was really bothering Fuat and his family.. and in Turkey, the muslim marriage and the legal marriage are two seperate things, so I agreed to go ahead and do this part right away.

So... we went there... and part way through all this we find out that not only would it be the religious wedding.. but also the legal one and he refused to do just the religous one, because of the "laws" of the particular mosque and making sure that we were legitimtly married and there could not be poligomy ( as is still allowed in some muslim countries.. not Turkey ).

Anway, we had a choice.. stop everything right there, or continue with what we were doing and get offically married. It was so important to him that we be able to live together without going against his religous beliefs... and I was torn, because my family would be CRUSHED.. but we decided to go ahead and do it.

So, we were married in the IMam's office.. in jeans.. no rings.. not planning on anything.. but when I took his hand to say my part of the "vows".. felt his hands shaking, and looked into his eyes it was really beautiful.

We were both a little shell shocked and almost crashed the car trying to leave the parking lot

So.. we are offically married but haven't told anyone... EXCEPT FOR ALL OF YOU ( and the millions of other people that could read this page )

We are planning a "wedding" for my family on Saturday, May 1st ( Yeah Krsytle.. great day for both of us). We'll do the dress and rings, etc... still planning on doing it at home as well.

In Turkey, the rings are tied together on a ribbon, placed on our fingers and then the ribbon is cut.. we are going to have my mom place the rigns on our fingers and cut the ribbon.

The whole thing will basically be for the benefit of my family, but it will be nice for us too... we weren't planning on getting married when we did, so were not prepared and we'll consider the May 1 event our actualy wedding.

Aren't you all lucky to be the first to know :)

Now.. if I can just get over the guilt of not telling my family all this I'll be fine

Oh wow, I LOVE LOVE roller coasters!! I'm jealous

Jenn, if you were offended by what I said I apologize but it wasn't my intention to offend you.

However, sorry that he hasn't been passing the tests, don't they have the option to take it in turkish? I understand that him not passing the test has nothing to do with his knowledge of driving, I see plenty people that come here and has had their license in their country and fail the test here, whatever it is I

NO! Not offended at all.. just don't want people thinking I am freaking out about the little things any more than I actually am

[kjenkins86 5]

THE REST OF MY POST:

...don't know whay that happens.

Okay, NOT to pick at you BUT if I'm not mistaken a few months ago we were all talking about the EAD stamp that JFK gives and you specifically said that someone at your job came with the EAD stamp and they weren't allowed to work, and you went on to explain that the EAD stamp was no longer a form of work permit. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Soory to hear how he's being treated, we Americans can be very mean or harsh at times and don't even recognize it.

Glad the cat situation is working out.

At first when I saw the word late, I thought you were gonna say you're pregnant I was ready to say CONGRATS

Yes sweetie, May 1st, so happy!

Hate suspension, not nice. Can't wait to hear what it is.

Enjoy your weekend!