Wednesday

[Aymsgirl 0]

someone please explain to me why i am sitting here crying and feeling like i'm going to throw up after finding out my ex is dating someone?

what's wrong with me? i am a happily married woman. but all the same...

BNI is right, you don't want them but you don't want them to move on either. Kind of like don't need you but want you to need me kind of thing. I remarried before my ex and had my son so it really didn't bother me as much when he did remarry. But before I was married and he was dating and bringing other women around my kids it did bother me. Somehow I didn't want him to find the happiness for what he did to destroy our marriage and family. It's a weird feeling but I don't think it is that abnormal. Hang in there, there's a reason why you aren't together and put it this way, let somebody else deal with him!

[Amoon 0]

I got remarried before my ex husband admitted he was dating someone...now that my husband is here, my ex decides to tell me he is with someone. For me it was a relief because up until that point he kept trying to get me to go back to him...now that he knows its a no go he has moved on and I am very grateful for that! I am happy that he is with someone so he will leave me alone!!!

[Kenza 1]

Amanda- how about waiting until he gets his citizenship? (3 years i think) Thats what me and my hubby plan to do, that way you dont have to worry about visa stuff every single trip.

[100% Al Ahly Fan 53]

I got remarried before my ex husband admitted he was dating someone...now that my husband is here, my ex decides to tell me he is with someone. For me it was a relief because up until that point he kept trying to get me to go back to him...now that he knows its a no go he has moved on and I am very grateful for that! I am happy that he is with someone so he will leave me alone!!!

I feel the same Amanda. I WISH my ex would find someone. I feel like he might be a better father then...sigh.

Amy, how long has it been since you two havent been an item? Personally, I can't imagine feeling this way after being married myself. Although, as Tasha stated (this was before I started my relationship with Ahmed 3 years ago) I definitely didn't WANT my ex-husband, but I didn't want him to be happy either. I figured if I was lonely then he should be too. Anyhow, since being with Ahmed all resentment and anger has passed (at least about that) although he still SUCKS as a father! InshaAllah, this feeling will pass honey, hugs.

[Amoon 0]

Amanda- how about waiting until he gets his citizenship? (3 years i think) Thats what me and my hubby plan to do, that way you dont have to worry about visa stuff every single trip.

Yeah...that is probably a pretty good idea. By that time hopefully we will have saved up enough money. So he can get citizenship after 3 years??? Some odd reason I was thinking it was 5...no idea. We will have to think about it a lot between now and then. But we absolutely must go visit very soon!

[Sandrila 1]

I have been so lucky to have so much freedom since my ex and I split.

It has been a roller coaster and I still have to deal with so much BS due the children.

It takes its toll and I just want to be fully cut off from him.

I am just glad that all the resentment and upset over him seeing her and her coming around the kids and that real

hardcore worry and bitterness is gone. He has been with the same girl now for oh probably 6 years. He put me through hell and even though I have had my fun and moved on there are still alot of issues surrounding the other woman and even though I know divorcing him was what we needed to do it is still hard for me to see the other 2 children he made with "her". The man really destroyed our family.

[Meriem_DZ 37]

Amanda- how about waiting until he gets his citizenship? (3 years i think) Thats what me and my hubby plan to do, that way you dont have to worry about visa stuff every single trip.

Yeah...that is probably a pretty good idea. By that time hopefully we will have saved up enough money. So he can get citizenship after 3 years??? Some odd reason I was thinking it was 5...no idea. We will have to think about it a lot between now and then. But we absolutely must go visit very soon!

When an PR is married to a USC, they can get their citizenship after 3 yrs instead of 5.

Meriem

[amysaid 9]

Amy, how long has it been since you two havent been an item?

Well, it's been about a year, I think. We were trying to stay friends, because we have a lot of joint financial obligations, and just because we care about eachother. I kind of figured he must be dating but I was just trying to keep my head in the sand. I was the dumped, not the dump-ee in the situation, so i still have lingering feelings that don't have anything to do with my feelings for my husband. I guess this will bring about the clean break i probably should have done a year ago. anyway, i am feeling a little better today. no more crying anyway. as one of my other friends said, i am infinitely human in my capacity to feel and love, and i should be thankful for that gift. thanks everyone for the kind words. (F)

[sassysis 0]

I have been so lucky to have so much freedom since my ex and I split.

It has been a roller coaster and I still have to deal with so much BS due the children.

It takes its toll and I just want to be fully cut off from him.

I am just glad that all the resentment and upset over him seeing her and her coming around the kids and that real

hardcore worry and bitterness is gone. He has been with the same girl now for oh probably 6 years. He put me through hell and even though I have had my fun and moved on there are still alot of issues surrounding the other woman and even though I know divorcing him was what we needed to do it is still hard for me to see the other 2 children he made with "her". The man really destroyed our family.

I can relate to this! I feel for you.