Bridezilla Update...(I think I'm OK posting this here...)

[JillA 2]

Oh my god Amanda! That is utterly disgusting that she behaves that way, and worse that her husband would allow his wife to speak to his own father in such a way.

[MrsCat 6]

This is not the kid I knew. The kid I know is respectful, funny, knows right from wrong....I don't know what he's doing.

i suggest getting him a subscription to this. it sure sounds like he needs this.

I think he's the editor and chief actually.

[MrsCat 6]

I'm utterly aghast and speechless!

There's More!

Sadly, on Wednesday my Father In Law was asked to g o talk to Bridezilla and Chris at their condo. So, he drove down there thinking that maybe they were going to settle all the bad feelings and put them to bed.

NOT WHAT HAPPENED.

Bridezilla berated my father in law for a good hour. She told him he ruined her wedding. She said that he was a nasty and mean person because he didn't spend much time talking to her family. She said that they were "equals" now and called him "Frank". (In our family, we still call Mr. and Mrs.) When my FIL told her that he didn't think they were equals due to him being her FIL, his age, experience, etc. she refused to accept it and said they were on the same level now.

She said she resents the fact that my Sister In Law's boyfriend, Canadian guy named Josh, was "allowed" to be in the family photos when she wasn't allowed to be in them in our wedding a few years back when her and chris were "just" boyfriend and girlfriend. (Not true...we never dis-included her..she was MISERABLE at our wedding because it wasn't hers..)

And then, she threw out one of the biggest insults you could probably throw at someone...

She said, "And, in closing, Frank, I just want you to know that I think you are CHEAP".

He was shocked. He didn't know what to say. My FIL is far from cheap. He's an incredibly generous man. He may be a little stubborn and stern, but he is NOT cheap.

The worst part? My brother in law sat there the entire time and did not say one word. So, my father in law just got up and left.

This is not the kid I knew. The kid I know is respectful, funny, knows right from wrong....I don't know what he's doing.

[Sprailenes 47]

She's cutting all the ties. Before you know it she'll be telling him he can't see or talk to his own family anymore.

Someone needs to smack her and remind her that she ruined her wedding single handedly.

[Danu 19]

Wow Amanda. I'm so sorry for your whole family, and scared for him. It does sound very much like hes taking the role of submissive abused spouse already. I shudder to think whats happening at their home. I really do pray that at some point he gets out of there, thats horrible. Absolutely horrible. To start with the disrespect is just unbelievable. She ruined her own day by being a selfish spoiled brat, and no one said the two sides had to get along, let alone speak to each other. Then to just decide she is calling your FIL by his first name...wow... I mean I'm on first name terms with my future MIL, but I asked her what she would like me to call her, I didn't just tell her I'm calling her Sue, because in no way are we equals. Just getting married doesn't make you any older or wiser. I seriously wish I could slap this girl for you guys, shes going to end up ruining the relationship your BIL has with the rest of the family.

I guess the only thing I can say is maybe talk to your FIL about your BIL to make sure there aren't annimosities there as he may truely be scared and he might be getting abused, even if its just verbally. Should he decide at some point to get himself out of that situation, if he feels strong enough and not like hes trapped, he will definately need the family's support.

[MrsCat 6]

To be honest, I don't feel sorry for him for one second. Obviously I don't know him, so there may be some redeeming qualities but he's chosen his bed and is now lying in it. Until he makes a decision to man-up he'll be eatting ####### sandwiches for the rest of his life.

And obviously she deserves to be one of the wives on Housewives of _______ because she certainly fits the profile of a spoiled worthless ignoramus.

[beans 7]

Un-freaking-believable...

[Mephys 2]

Wow....all I can say is wow.

I didn't think he would stick with the marriage.....but he did. Now he's in trouble. I feel bad that he didn't get the balls to walk away from her before everything.

She sounds like a nightmare, and she will bring nothing but trouble to him and the family. I'm sorry to hear that Amanda.....

[NArocks 13]

Holy Cow Amanda, How super un cool for her to say those things to your FIL while your BIL just sat there with his pee pee between his legs. Blood is blood, what an incredibley selfish DOUCH ( pardon the word ) . Like stated the next step is you guys will not hear from BIL because she does not want him to associate with anyone who will tell him the truch. Truth being she is a JERK.

[trailmix 77]

To be honest, I don't feel sorry for him for one second. Obviously I don't know him, so there may be some redeeming qualities but he's chosen his bed and is now lying in it. Until he makes a decision to man-up he'll be eatting ####### sandwiches for the rest of his life.

And obviously she deserves to be one of the wives on Housewives of _______ because she certainly fits the profile of a spoiled worthless ignoramus.

I have to agree with MrsCat somewhat here. While I don't wish any unhappiness for your BIL or the marriedwomanzilla for that matter - he did choose her and despite all warnings, he went ahead with that wedding.

Now i'm not saying he is 'getting what he deserves' - he doesn't deserve to be treated badly - but he is a grown man.

It doesn't surprise me at all that he didn't come to your FILs defence - I mean the guy can't stick up for himself, how on earth can he come to the defence of another.

All that aside - the woman needs counselling (and he probably does too).

Edited August 8, 2009 by trailmix

[thetreble 19]

Agreed with all of you on all points.

He chose it. He's made a mistake. Whether he thinks he has or not, I have no clue.

My FIL has said to her she is no longer welcome in his home and that if it was her intention to take Chris from his family, she's doing a pretty good job of it.

This family is really tight. There is a lot of love there. I would have never expected in a million years for it to get this extreme. I thought...well..she will come crawling back with her tale between her legs at some point. But I guess when someone has that strong of a personality, it is no surprise what comes out of the mouth. She's obviously controlling and manipulative. I sort of knew that a couple years ago but, again, not to this extreme.

My husband is pretty scared of losing his brother. He understands that, sometimes, that just happens in families but he's absolutely petrified of losing one of his best friends in life. He doesn't even know what to do at this point.

[Sprailenes 47]

It is so sad.

Family should always come first but some people have such a hold and he probably thinks he's doing the right thing. She should seriously be ashamed of herself.

And you know if he does ever decided to cut the ties.. she'll probably make his entire life miserable. He needs to get out now.

[moni_calla 0]

It is quite sad, but at this point he should just try and protect himself financially.

[moni_calla 0]

If the stress of a wedding did this to her, please make sure she's on an ample amount of birth control or the stress of children just may make her spontaneously combust.

Surprisingly childbirth would probably change her not so nice ways, most have a different outlook on life after kids.

That was his friends' piece of advice before he hit the church alter "Don't procreate until you know the marriage will last!"

What I don't get is when couples have kids in order to "strengthen their marriage." If you're marriage has problems already, kids are not going to suddenly solve it. I doubt anyone would argue that kids make life more complex.

Maybe they think the fear of child support would scare the ####### out of the other person and they won't leave? I know people that are paying an insane amount and probably would've figured out a way to stay with the person to keep it from happening if they could or would've chopped off their schwance before doing something stupid when young LOL.

Possibly, but that still proves that "children make life more complicated."

Children make life a lot more interesting...........

I have to disagree. She is so controlling now she would probably be more controlling after kids, I think it's safe to say that she'd use those kids to control him.

If the stress of a wedding did this to her, I could imagine how having kids would make things. I think women use an event such as a wedding as an excuse to be a zilla, there's no excuse to treat people that way. Could you imagine when morning sickness kicks in? Sheesh nine months of hearing her whine and complain and then a lifetime of having her hanging those kids in his face whenever he steps out of line.

If you're a b1tch before, you're a b1tch after and kids don't necessarily change things. Sometimes it makes things worse unfortunately.

Sprai,

I wasn't referring to her controlling ways I was referring to the total disregard/disrespect with everyone around her.

Sometimes when people are this self centered something drastic has to happen for them to change and children are one of the drastic things that can do that.

But as far as being a B1, she will be a lifer in that club!!!

Edited August 9, 2009 by moni_calla

[DeadPoolX 9]

There's More!

Sadly, on Wednesday my Father In Law was asked to g o talk to Bridezilla and Chris at their condo. So, he drove down there thinking that maybe they were going to settle all the bad feelings and put them to bed.

NOT WHAT HAPPENED.

Bridezilla berated my father in law for a good hour. She told him he ruined her wedding. She said that he was a nasty and mean person because he didn't spend much time talking to her family. She said that they were "equals" now and called him "Frank". (In our family, we still call Mr. and Mrs.) When my FIL told her that he didn't think they were equals due to him being her FIL, his age, experience, etc. she refused to accept it and said they were on the same level now.

She said she resents the fact that my Sister In Law's boyfriend, Canadian guy named Josh, was "allowed" to be in the family photos when she wasn't allowed to be in them in our wedding a few years back when her and chris were "just" boyfriend and girlfriend. (Not true...we never dis-included her..she was MISERABLE at our wedding because it wasn't hers..)

And then, she threw out one of the biggest insults you could probably throw at someone...

She said, "And, in closing, Frank, I just want you to know that I think you are CHEAP".

He was shocked. He didn't know what to say. My FIL is far from cheap. He's an incredibly generous man. He may be a little stubborn and stern, but he is NOT cheap.

The worst part? My brother in law sat there the entire time and did not say one word. So, my father in law just got up and left.

This is not the kid I knew. The kid I know is respectful, funny, knows right from wrong....I don't know what he's doing.

This woman is exceedingly rude and sounds pushy as all hell. I can't imagine this marriage will last. At least there are no kids involved. Right now he could divorce her and possibly escape alimony charges, but with kids? He'll get gutted for child support and probably never see those kids either.

As for the part I bolded up above, I say the whole "first name/honorific" thing depends on the person and what's permitted. For instance... my wife's parents insist I call them by their first names. I felt a little odd about doing that (and I still do at times), but they're pretty laid back and apparently prefer it. My dad, on the other hand, wants my wife to refer to him as "doctor [last name]" or "dad." My wife doesn't really want to do either, so refrains from addressing him at all.

To be honest, I don't feel sorry for him for one second. Obviously I don't know him, so there may be some redeeming qualities but he's chosen his bed and is now lying in it. Until he makes a decision to man-up he'll be eatting ####### sandwiches for the rest of his life.

And obviously she deserves to be one of the wives on Housewives of _______ because she certainly fits the profile of a spoiled worthless ignoramus.

I agree. He had to have known something about her personality before marrying her. Even if his knowledge was limited, he's obviously seen how she acts towards other. He went through with it and now he needs to deal with it.