Ramadan 2009

[~ameriptian~ 54]

Traveling next Friday inshaAllah to spend Eid with extended family... I have to say that this Ramadan was so blessed for me and John alhamdulillah.. I'm so proud of him!

Can't imagine how a quiet Eid is like lol.. But hopefully I'll get to make it different next year...

[Staashi 371]

Traveling next Friday inshaAllah to spend Eid with extended family... I have to say that this Ramadan was so blessed for me and John alhamdulillah.. I'm so proud of him!

Can't imagine how a quiet Eid is like lol.. But hopefully I'll get to make it different next year...

Aya, I pray that next year your Eid is spent with John - quiet or festive, for your sake, I hope that it is one spent together. May Allah answer your prayers.

[Muh and me 18]

we have a big Eid prayer at the downtown convention center. But our masjids dont plan anything else. Everyone goes to Johns Incredible Pizza after.. we invade it. But since we are jobless, we will just come home and do a party for ourselves here... Unfortunate that our community only does activities that can be costly and leaves many out...

I know what you mean. There is a big Eid prayer at the state fair park and we aren't goin only because I can't handle hordes of people like they will have. And our masjid is goin to some pizza place later also and its $17 a person. There is no way my husband will pay that much for something he really don't like. So I guess we just stay home and do nothing.

[doodlebugg 10]

Wow I can't beleive the end of Ramadan is almost here. This is my first year as a muslim and I''ve learned (still learning) quite a bit. I have to say alot of you have been my teachers. I'd like to thank you all very much. I certainly hoped my husband would help me more but I have learned alot more from everyone else. Does anyone have any special plans for EID?

nope . I'll have a housefull of 13 yr olds sleeping over so I plan on hiding in my bedroom for the night:P There will be tons of different types of pizza, m&m's, twizzlers, soda at night and bagels and cream cheese in the am. whoo hoo. lol

[amysaid 9]

Wow I can't beleive the end of Ramadan is almost here. This is my first year as a muslim and I''ve learned (still learning) quite a bit. I have to say alot of you have been my teachers. I'd like to thank you all very much. I certainly hoped my husband would help me more but I have learned alot more from everyone else. Does anyone have any special plans for EID?

nope . I'll have a housefull of 13 yr olds sleeping over so I plan on hiding in my bedroom for the night:P There will be tons of different types of pizza, m&m's, twizzlers, soda at night and bagels and cream cheese in the am. whoo hoo. lol

mmmm, bagels and cream cheese. #1 on my shopping list when i get home.

[venusfire503 54]

Amanda,

I'm far from an expert, but one thing that came to mind is to be careful about things like locking the door when you are changing to make sure he doesn't accidently see you naked during the day during Ramadan. Don't make sexual comments to him either, since Muslims are not supposed to think about sex while fasting. And be prepared to do without hugs and kisses until sundown!

Also, if you don't fast, it's a good idea to eat and drink where he won't see you. Try to avoid cooking things with strong smells - especially if it's something he really likes. Those aren't things that I heard anywhere - just things that seem polite.

Good luck if you do try to fast. Don't be hard on yourself if you aren't able to do it 100%, or slip up sometimes.

venusfire

Actually, unless her husband thinks about sex 24/7 and is unable to control himself, I don't see how changing clothes in front of him is going to do any harm. And there is nothing wrong with a hug and peck on the cheek goodbye in the morning before work or when coming home. Husbands and wives can be together, as long as it's not sexual or leads to sex. A kiss and hug doesn't have to be sexual.

If I am not mistaken, even the prophet, salallahu alayhi wassalam, hugged and kissed his wives while fasting.

I guess it all depends - my husband feels that it's not allowed (seeing me change, hugging, kissing, etc). I can't argue with him since it's not my religion, and I only know what I've heard from him (and a little that I've read about). I think it makes sense that it should be allowed as long as it doesn't lead to anything, but I can also see the logic in not taking chances (even if it didn't lead to action, it could lead to thoughts). Especially since, for some, what's forbidden is even more tempting! Either way, I wouldn't feel right about saying or doing anything to suggest that my husband should be less strict/observant. I think it's up to him to decide how he feels and how he wants to practice his religion. Just like it's up to everyone else! I guess what I should've said to Amanda was to talk to her SO and see what he believes is allowed or not allowed, and work with that. Hey, I'm learning!

venusfire