Proof of on going relationship

[Chris_Жанна 11]

Hello,

I am trying to figure out how to provide a good proof of an ongoing relationship. Right now me and my S/O use skype to skype on our computers to talk through the head set and type to each other with the messenger service. I know that the screen shots I have are not solid proof of this and I'm worried about having enough evidence of an ongoing relationship for her interview. We both do not have land lines and skype does not have much services for Russia (as far as I know) can anyone help me to figure out ways to prove legit proof???

Thanks,

Chris

[Neonred 3,553]

Mail some "missing you" and birthday cards to each other. Post cards too. This is good evidence and was looked at more than anything else during my girls interview.

[sivad 0]

Hello,

I am trying to figure out how to provide a good proof of an ongoing relationship. Right now me and my S/O use skype to skype on our computers to talk through the head set and type to each other with the messenger service. I know that the screen shots I have are not solid proof of this and I'm worried about having enough evidence of an ongoing relationship for her interview. We both do not have land lines and skype does not have much services for Russia (as far as I know) can anyone help me to figure out ways to prove legit proof???

Thanks,

Chris

letters to each other,and have your message's saved in the history on your online messenger services.....ie:yahoo i.m. or icq

[baron555 934]

Send some stuff to her(him). Take a photo before you send it and then have her take a photo of the stuff after she receives it. Plus save the receipts, at both ends.

I use Pamela for Skype. It automatically logs in each Skype session, to who, date, length of call. I will use this log summary as part of my evidence.

Some of the stuff that I have sent are: electronic translator, calendar, DVDs of Chicago, a Welcome to America book in both English and Rusian (explains about everyday life and all the things they normally don't tell you). I will be sending to her a stack of sales pages from the junk mail, food market sales pages, a Kohl's catalog, JC Penney, Macy's, Home Depot, etc. So she can see what the prices for things are here.

I will send along with the documents needed for her interview a copy of the preschool pre-registration for the little one.

I will have email log summary sheets, summary sheets for our text messages, and my international calling card summary sheet.

Plus I've had a couple of gifts sent, which she has had her picture taken with (roses one time and bath beauty products the next) and I have the invoice for those which has here name and address as the Ship To.

Hope this helps.

Edited June 18, 2009 by baron555

[mox 298]

Don't sweat the proof of ongoing relationship. If you have a cell phone, you can use the cell phone bill and highlight the international calls. Your Skype records will be plenty also. Emails, cards, letters, etc. are also good.

But seriously, don't worry too much about it. You don't need to provide a ton of detail, just enough to satisfy them that you maintain some kind of relationship with each other. It doesn't have to be a lot.

[slim 1,523]

(I'll jump back up on my soapbox again)

Proof is the most over-hyped part of this entire process. The suggestions above are good, with Neon's being the best. (Keep in mind, his wife is here!)

Hand-written, mushy, lovey-dovey stuff is best. Anyone can print out e-mail lists and call lists, etc. We're in an era where there can be overwhelming papertrails for everything. But, that doesn't prove squat. A birthday card with an "I love you" printed by your hand, in pen, means a lot to the interviewer sitting there looking at it. They can look through lists and lists of numbers and see you've called or Skyped or whatever all the time. But, they don't "feel" anything from that. A picture of her smiling while holding the flowers you sent her or the "missing you" card or whatever, that makes them "feel" something. That "PROVES" you have a relationship.

My wife told me her interviewer was very impressed that I'd hand-written letters to her in Russian. (I copied from prompt or whatever. I don't know that googly-moogly language. I typed up what I wanted to say, printed it out, then copied it in my writing. Signed, sealed, delivered...... history!) If you have time, send her a Hallmark "I love you card" and put some cheesy "OOOchin, oochin, oooooochin Skuchayu.... Ya lubly tibya" on the bottom in some chickenscratch Russian and then sign your goofy pet name (you know you have one!) Could just do the trick!