Would you let him take a crap on you?

[Mike B. 231]

The answer to the question is no. I wouldn't let anyone take a ####### on me.

[Marina-Del 10]

Sorry for the situation! Good luck with returning home!

[Rob&Dawn 1]

sorry things didn't work out for you. Just as well you found out before you married him, lucky escape!

Good luck with the rest of your life.

[scandal 951]

Is there anyway for me to stay in the states "Legally" without having to marry him?What processes would there be? If none, I am more than happy to go home and restart a life and hopefully get my job back.

Not to deny anything that has been said by others so far, which is all essentially correct information.

I did just think it worth pointing out one fact that may be of relevance here.

JimVaPhuong put it very aptly that your legal status in the US is under your I-94, valid for 90 days from entry. And that you must leave when those 90 days are up.

However, the requirement from the US perspective is that you leave the United States. Not necessarily that you "go home". There may be a difference,

and it may be relevant to you.

The flag on your profile is Australia. I don't know if that's "home" for you, but on the likely assumption that it is, and you are an Australian citizen, then you can leave the United States by going to another country rather than returning immediately to Australia. For example, you could travel to Canada, thereby legally complying with the need to exit the US within 90 days. Bearing an Australian passport, Canada should admit you legally as a tourist. After spending some time there (as little or as long as you like, subject to your Canadian admission - potentially a day or two , even an hour would suffice, or more), you could then legally re-enter the United States as a tourist on your Australian passport. You don't require a visa to do this.

Does this buy you anything? Perhaps, perhaps not.

You wrote that you want to "stay in the states". If you mean permanently - then no, this won't help.

However, if you mean "temporarily", like to take care of some unfinished tasks, or other reasons, then you could potentially do this legally as a way to extend your stay in the US a bit longer. Your US re-entry would be on a VWP (as an Australian) and likely valid for an additional 90 days. You cannot work during that time, but you would be in the country legally.

Good luck.

[Moosker 7]

Good for you for realizing things before you married him and life got really rough for you. Definitely go home and realize if anything it was a learning experience right?

[SCFsnoopy 0]

Is there anyway for me to stay in the states "Legally" without having to marry him?What processes would there be? If none, I am more than happy to go home and restart a life and hopefully get my job back.

Not to deny anything that has been said by others so far, which is all essentially correct information.

I did just think it worth pointing out one fact that may be of relevance here.

JimVaPhuong put it very aptly that your legal status in the US is under your I-94, valid for 90 days from entry. And that you must leave when those 90 days are up.

However, the requirement from the US perspective is that you leave the United States. Not necessarily that you "go home". There may be a difference,

and it may be relevant to you.

The flag on your profile is Australia. I don't know if that's "home" for you, but on the likely assumption that it is, and you are an Australian citizen, then you can leave the United States by going to another country rather than returning immediately to Australia. For example, you could travel to Canada, thereby legally complying with the need to exit the US within 90 days. Bearing an Australian passport, Canada should admit you legally as a tourist. After spending some time there (as little or as long as you like, subject to your Canadian admission - potentially a day or two , even an hour would suffice, or more), you could then legally re-enter the United States as a tourist on your Australian passport. You don't require a visa to do this.

Does this buy you anything? Perhaps, perhaps not.

You wrote that you want to "stay in the states". If you mean permanently - then no, this won't help.

However, if you mean "temporarily", like to take care of some unfinished tasks, or other reasons, then you could potentially do this legally as a way to extend your stay in the US a bit longer. Your US re-entry would be on a VWP (as an Australian) and likely valid for an additional 90 days. You cannot work during that time, but you would be in the country legally.

Good luck.

That doesn't work. You can't go to an adjacent country/state/territory and reenter the US with a fresh 90 days - it will still count down the original 90 days. She'd have to leave the continent entirely, pretty much.

[skylight123 0]

I came to the US through a Fiance Visa. My fiance is a doctor. When I got here, we decided to wait at least before 90 days to get married so we would know each other more because though we've been talking with each other for almost 4 years, we've only spent time in person for a week.

To cut this story short, my fiance had been seeing this girl whom he dating or have been dating for 10 years. Because of my work background, I am able to access information from him including emails, pics, call logs, sms's and other information which he is unaware that I have access to. So basically, this is not accusations, I have profs and picture with dates on it. The worse part is when they both flew to vegas 2 months before I came here. This is evidenced by dated pics and credit card bill statement and confrontation with him which he admitted.

I am decided to go back home to my country because I can't marry him because of what he did and his incapabilities to recogniize his mistake and make amends to them. I have given him lots of chances, tried to work things out with him and compromised for him. I have dealt with his repeated infedility to me until my few days before my visa expires. He is unwilling to correct things and that is why I am going home.

Is there anyway for me to stay in the states "Legally" without having to marry him?What processes would there be? If none, I am more than happy to go home and restart a life and hopefully get my job back.

There is a way. Talk to an immigration lawyer. They offer free consultations. I spoke to a lawyer few years back but forgot the legal terms she told me. I told her if for some reason I change my mind will my fiance go back or can she stay here legally? And she something like the fiance has to file something and she (the attorney) will show proof and reasons why the marriage did not follow thru.

Hope this helps.

[sojen 0]

I came to the US through a Fiance Visa. My fiance is a doctor. When I got here, we decided to wait at least before 90 days to get married so we would know each other more because though we've been talking with each other for almost 4 years, we've only spent time in person for a week.

To cut this story short, my fiance had been seeing this girl whom he dating or have been dating for 10 years. Because of my work background, I am able to access information from him including emails, pics, call logs, sms's and other information which he is unaware that I have access to. So basically, this is not accusations, I have profs and picture with dates on it. The worse part is when they both flew to vegas 2 months before I came here. This is evidenced by dated pics and credit card bill statement and confrontation with him which he admitted.

I am decided to go back home to my country because I can't marry him because of what he did and his incapabilities to recogniize his mistake and make amends to them. I have given him lots of chances, tried to work things out with him and compromised for him. I have dealt with his repeated infedility to me until my few days before my visa expires. He is unwilling to correct things and that is why I am going home.

Is there anyway for me to stay in the states "Legally" without having to marry him?What processes would there be? If none, I am more than happy to go home and restart a life and hopefully get my job back.

I really am sorry it happened to you. I guess it would be a very wise decision to go home than marrying that guy who is not faithful on you.

[It's me 1]

sorry about your misfortune, but im happy that you discoverd it before getting married. You will have to leave the US if you dont marry him, sorry.

[Jeff B. 0]

I came to the US through a Fiance Visa. My fiance is a doctor. When I got here, we decided to wait at least before 90 days to get married so we would know each other more because though we've been talking with each other for almost 4 years, we've only spent time in person for a week.

To cut this story short, my fiance had been seeing this girl whom he dating or have been dating for 10 years. Because of my work background, I am able to access information from him including emails, pics, call logs, sms's and other information which he is unaware that I have access to. So basically, this is not accusations, I have profs and picture with dates on it. The worse part is when they both flew to vegas 2 months before I came here. This is evidenced by dated pics and credit card bill statement and confrontation with him which he admitted.

I am decided to go back home to my country because I can't marry him because of what he did and his incapabilities to recogniize his mistake and make amends to them. I have given him lots of chances, tried to work things out with him and compromised for him. I have dealt with his repeated infedility to me until my few days before my visa expires. He is unwilling to correct things and that is why I am going home.

Is there anyway for me to stay in the states "Legally" without having to marry him?What processes would there be? If none, I am more than happy to go home and restart a life and hopefully get my job back.

If you stay illegally and get caught, if I am correct you will not be able to return to the US for at least 7 years. I worked for an international airline for a long time and whenever we had to deport someone that was the time frame. Im sorry for what happened to you...but be thankful you found out when you did. Good luck to you always.

[Simon and Janet 6]

That really stinks!

I'm glad you didn't make the mistake of marrying that pig. Come on back to Australia and hopefully you'll have many opportunities to go visit the wonderful U.S of A for holidays.

[bonitajan 0]

Yeah go home dear...and you will find a good life out there...dont stay with that stupid guy...i am happy for you that you find out very early....Be thankful to God okies...Happy trip and along your way you will meet another good man that will truly love you deeply okies...just keep faith on HIM...okies...

thanks everyone. I will go home then.

[joelunchbox 0]

You sound like an intelligent, good person. Don't jump into a big pile of stuff. Go find the person you were meant to be with, and like many of us, just look back on this as a learning experience.

[Kinito_2k3 5]

Is there anyway for me to stay in the states "Legally" without having to marry him?What processes would there be? If none, I am more than happy to go home and restart a life and hopefully get my job back.

Not to deny anything that has been said by others so far, which is all essentially correct information.

I did just think it worth pointing out one fact that may be of relevance here.

JimVaPhuong put it very aptly that your legal status in the US is under your I-94, valid for 90 days from entry. And that you must leave when those 90 days are up.

However, the requirement from the US perspective is that you leave the United States. Not necessarily that you "go home". There may be a difference,

and it may be relevant to you.

The flag on your profile is Australia. I don't know if that's "home" for you, but on the likely assumption that it is, and you are an Australian citizen, then you can leave the United States by going to another country rather than returning immediately to Australia. For example, you could travel to Canada, thereby legally complying with the need to exit the US within 90 days. Bearing an Australian passport, Canada should admit you legally as a tourist. After spending some time there (as little or as long as you like, subject to your Canadian admission - potentially a day or two , even an hour would suffice, or more), you could then legally re-enter the United States as a tourist on your Australian passport. You don't require a visa to do this.

Does this buy you anything? Perhaps, perhaps not.

You wrote that you want to "stay in the states". If you mean permanently - then no, this won't help.

However, if you mean "temporarily", like to take care of some unfinished tasks, or other reasons, then you could potentially do this legally as a way to extend your stay in the US a bit longer. Your US re-entry would be on a VWP (as an Australian) and likely valid for an additional 90 days. You cannot work during that time, but you would be in the country legally.

Good luck.

That doesn't work. You can't go to an adjacent country/state/territory and reenter the US with a fresh 90 days - it will still count down the original 90 days. She'd have to leave the continent entirely, pretty much.

Why can't you? What are the supporting legal arguments for what you are saying? Since when a "continent" is a legal well delimited entity??

I am very dubious but I might be wrong... anybody able to confirm or refute?

Thanks

[scandal 951]

Is there anyway for me to stay in the states "Legally" without having to marry him?What processes would there be? If none, I am more than happy to go home and restart a life and hopefully get my job back.

Not to deny anything that has been said by others so far, which is all essentially correct information.

I did just think it worth pointing out one fact that may be of relevance here.

JimVaPhuong put it very aptly that your legal status in the US is under your I-94, valid for 90 days from entry. And that you must leave when those 90 days are up.

However, the requirement from the US perspective is that you leave the United States. Not necessarily that you "go home". There may be a difference,

and it may be relevant to you.

The flag on your profile is Australia. I don't know if that's "home" for you, but on the likely assumption that it is, and you are an Australian citizen, then you can leave the United States by going to another country rather than returning immediately to Australia. For example, you could travel to Canada, thereby legally complying with the need to exit the US within 90 days. Bearing an Australian passport, Canada should admit you legally as a tourist. After spending some time there (as little or as long as you like, subject to your Canadian admission - potentially a day or two , even an hour would suffice, or more), you could then legally re-enter the United States as a tourist on your Australian passport. You don't require a visa to do this.

Does this buy you anything? Perhaps, perhaps not.

You wrote that you want to "stay in the states". If you mean permanently - then no, this won't help.

However, if you mean "temporarily", like to take care of some unfinished tasks, or other reasons, then you could potentially do this legally as a way to extend your stay in the US a bit longer. Your US re-entry would be on a VWP (as an Australian) and likely valid for an additional 90 days. You cannot work during that time, but you would be in the country legally.

Good luck.

That doesn't work. You can't go to an adjacent country/state/territory and reenter the US with a fresh 90 days - it will still count down the original 90 days. She'd have to leave the continent entirely, pretty much.

Why can't you? What are the supporting legal arguments for what you are saying? Since when a "continent" is a legal well delimited entity??

I am very dubious but I might be wrong... anybody able to confirm or refute?

Thanks

I think SCFSnoopy is flat wrong. He (she?) thinks I'm wrong. Whatever. I'm not claiming any special expertise (other than a lifetime of crossing the US/Canadian border back and forth ). It is an international border. From the US perspective, entering a POE from Canada either at a Canadian airport (US POEs are located in Canadian airports for all the major cities), or at a land crossing - is no different than any other POE.

By exiting the US to Canada (or any other country... doesn't have to be Canada) you've complied with the need to leave the US before expiration of I-94. Any subsequent re-entry to the US - whether an hour later, a day later, a year later, whenever... will be seen on its own merits at that time. If the bearer of a valid Australian passport, who has committed no previous immigration fouls, presents for entry at a US POE under VWP I expect s/he would be granted entry. Of course the attending border agent always has discretion to refuse, but there would be no particular reason to refuse entry here.

This stuff about "leaving the continent" is bogus.

Anyway, I'm not saying for a moment that this helps jegcs case. If jegcs wants to stay in the US permanently, this will not provide a solution. All this could do is stall the inevitable by a few months.