I tried,but I failed :(

[mybaby 0]

Sorry guys, if I share this

I talked to my fiance this morning and we are having fun with our conversation. He acted one specific position that I find it very cute,I find him very handsome when he is doing that kind of (chest out,shoulder stretched with a little kid face ) And I told him, I remember the time that we are together and I sometimes look at him doing the same thing. And I performed to him how he look like with he do such thing and we have fun, later I realized he stopped talking and he is doing something else on his computer So, I asked him, if something wrong happened that I did not aware of?At first he doesn't want to say anything ( because he said, he tries to let it go within himself first and try to just talk to me again when its gone, but he said its very hard to let it go ). Then he told me what is it, he said that , when we are having fun, it seems that I am making fun of him, that brought back his past when he is still a kid and he doesn't like that feelings I am sad about it.

I told him many times, that I find him very handsome and cute when he is doing his little kid actions (for my eyes) But still he feels so much pain and I feel sad and guilty about it,, it then the reason why he is feeling bad of himself, though he told me that its nothing about me or what I did, its just his feelings that took over that makes him feel that way

I tried to just let it go and told myself that it has nothing to do with me, but still its very hard on my part and failed to dictate my head those I feel that I can't do or say what ever I wanted this time after what happened He told me before that I will just let him feel what he wanted to feel and just let him express what he wanted to express to me without me being into it, that I find.. so hard to do

I don't understand my feelings now, I feel pain in my heart because of what happened, I don't know if I am just selfish that I am listening to what I felt inside, because if I let him know this, I think he will again tell me that I am not letting him feel or express what he is feeling inside him, its so hard on my part and I don't know where will I put myself on this kind of situations.. (my tears is falling) .

I love him so much and I don't want him to feel such, but he already did

Any way,sorry guys for this, but thank you so much for reading..

God bless you all..

[-B&T- 1]

He'll get over it just give him some time and next time be careful on teasing him. I think he's very sensitive or maybe had a bad experience when he was a kid.

[jom 4]

Forget about that position and dont ask him to do it even for you. Goodluck.

[epey_denz24 1]

yah girl give him time.....ikaw nalang muna ang umunawa sa kanya. basta keep telling him that u love him and sooner everything will be alright.. dont be sad girl!!!! cheer up!!

[RonMay 1]

you're not alone! lol... my hubby is a bit sensitive too when i try to imitate him... and he'd say im making fun of him. of course not (well not in the manner of belittling him, but rather teasing him as he teases me sometimes)... its weird coz i usually dont get offended when he teases me. but when i tried, some of my joke will goes down in the toilet... though i always try to explain its just all for fun and that its pretty unfair for me if he teases me big time and im ok w/ it and if i teases him (w/ similar jokes) he'd take it negatively... so yea sometimes im being more careful where and when to strike back. kalog kasi ako... i make a joke to most everything, even on tv... give him time... you'll be back to sweetness again in no time hehehe...

Edited May 12, 2009 by RonMay

[It's me 1]

He'll get over it just give him some time and next time be careful on teasing him. I think he's very sensitive or maybe had a bad experience when he was a kid.

i agree

[bulaklak 0]

OP. how old is your husband? the way you describe he is overly sensetive. he shouldn't ignore you and treated you silent treatment instead letting you know about the thing he dislike so you'd be aware of it.

[bulaklak 0]

Sorry guys, if I share this

I talked to my fiance this morning and we are having fun with our conversation. He acted one specific position that I find it very cute,I find him very handsome when he is doing that kind of (chest out,shoulder stretched with a little kid face ) And I told him, I remember the time that we are together and I sometimes look at him doing the same thing. And I performed to him how he look like with he do such thing and we have fun, later I realized he stopped talking and he is doing something else on his computer So, I asked him, if something wrong happened that I did not aware of?At first he doesn't want to say anything ( because he said, he tries to let it go within himself first and try to just talk to me again when its gone, but he said its very hard to let it go ). Then he told me what is it, he said that , when we are having fun, it seems that I am making fun of him, that brought back his past when he is still a kid and he doesn't like that feelings I am sad about it.

I told him many times, that I find him very handsome and cute when he is doing his little kid actions (for my eyes) But still he feels so much pain and I feel sad and guilty about it,, it then the reason why he is feeling bad of himself, though he told me that its nothing about me or what I did, its just his feelings that took over that makes him feel that way

I tried to just let it go and told myself that it has nothing to do with me, but still its very hard on my part and failed to dictate my head those I feel that I can't do or say what ever I wanted this time after what happened He told me before that I will just let him feel what he wanted to feel and just let him express what he wanted to express to me without me being into it, that I find.. so hard to do

I don't understand my feelings now, I feel pain in my heart because of what happened, I don't know if I am just selfish that I am listening to what I felt inside, because if I let him know this, I think he will again tell me that I am not letting him feel or express what he is feeling inside him, its so hard on my part and I don't know where will I put myself on this kind of situations.. (my tears is falling) .

I love him so much and I don't want him to feel such, but he already did

Any way,sorry guys for this, but thank you so much for reading..

God bless you all..

Nope, it is not selfish when you are listening what you feel inside. you are human and you have feelings too. let him express what he feels and listen to him( if you mean that he wants to talk what happened to him when he was a kid?)

he hasn't moved on yet about his childhood nightmare. perhaps he need to talk to a therapy. him having a bad childhood experience is not an excuse to treat you this way.

you know, in order to have a happy, peaceful mind and less argueing; couple need to communicate what they really feel toward each other.

of course you love him if not why are you married him in the first place. just because you love him that much doesn't mean its only your responsible how the marriage works. you TWO have responsible to each other.

Edited May 13, 2009 by lotus101

[mybaby 0]

Thank you lotus101 and for everybody that reads my post. I also have a lot of mistakes on our relationships, we already talked about it and discussed it From the start when he felt that, he already told me that its not about me, it's about him and his feelings. I just don't feel that way when these things happened,I just felt that its my fault and after I post this yesterday, I realized that it's true its not about me.. Sometimes, people will forget to listen to others if we are on the stage of hurt,no matter what other people say as long as we or specifically me was hurt, I find it so hard to accept what he was saying :(I have to work on it first, I am also proud of myself because of the big changed I am going through since we became lovers.I was hurt that time, that is why I don't received it in my heart that its not my fault.

Anyways, of how we resolved it last night, I am very happy for each other because we solved it by just simply talking and not letting each feelings took over and finished the conversation with a huge laugh and smile with each faces..

Its all my feelings that I listened when I started making this post. I should have give him time and accept that its not my fault Thank you so much for all of you who read my post.

By the way we are not yet married, we are both very happy waiting this coming July 8. He is turning 32, I am thinking of a nice present for him, I hope he will be here by the end of this month

Thank you so much to all of you.

[jsnearline 2]

There are cultural differences that can come into play too. One time my wife found a receipt for a card I had bought for her. Instead of keeping her mouth shut, she teased me about it, to the point I walked out of the house quite upset. I was so mad because I was trying to do something nice for her and instead of appreciating it, she was being merciless about how I had left the receipt lying around in a place she could find it. I came to find out that that kind of teasing is more acceptable in the Philippines (or among her family there at least) than here). She was coming at it from the perspective of how funny it was that she had "busted" me, and didn't realize that here it's bad form to do that to your spouse. If you see something like that, you keep your mouth shut and act surprised when they give it to you...

[bulaklak 0]

It maybe it has something to do with the cultural differences but it is more something to do with the character and maturity with the person. also some people just have an odd a sense of humor. teasing with your spouse and make fun because you busted him about the receipt is kinda like you tease your friend NOT a spouse. there is a right time what and when it is approriate to tease your spouse without making them mad.

Edited May 13, 2009 by lotus101