Why I don't want children

[trailmix 77]

Aw #######. Got me there.

I've been awake for almost 24 hours, so my ability to communicate has steadily gone downhill. By tonight, I'll be grunting.

I was wondering - do you notice a difference in the food in Canada - do you find it better, worse, different at all?

[DeadPoolX 9]

Aw #######. Got me there.

I've been awake for almost 24 hours, so my ability to communicate has steadily gone downhill. By tonight, I'll be grunting.

I was wondering - do you notice a difference in the food in Canada - do you find it better, worse, different at all?

I don't notice a difference. I wouldn't say it's necessarily better or worse than what I've experienced in the United States.

[Krikit 1,164]

I've been awake for almost 24 hours, so my ability to communicate has steadily gone downhill. By tonight, I'll be grunting.

Why have you been awake for 24 hours?

[DeadPoolX 9]

I've been awake for almost 24 hours, so my ability to communicate has steadily gone downhill. By tonight, I'll be grunting.

Why have you been awake for 24 hours?

Well, last night I had pain shooting down my spine and into my legs. To make things worse, I felt nauseated. So I didn't get a whole lot of sleep.

[Krikit 1,164]

I've been awake for almost 24 hours, so my ability to communicate has steadily gone downhill. By tonight, I'll be grunting.

Why have you been awake for 24 hours?

Well, last night I had pain shooting down my spine and into my legs. To make things worse, I felt nauseated. So I didn't get a whole lot of sleep.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

[Rhiannercakes 14]

I'm not too big on children myself.

Mm, instead of going through all the reasons I don't want them, I can give you the main one:

"Society".

I know you can raise your kids to be all good n stuff, but society has a way of changing people.

I grew up being the perfect one, obeying what my parents said and not getting in trouble with the law. I was also terribly antisocial and was bullied throughout my life, even by my brother.

My brother on the other hand, is horrible.

He's been in trouble with the police at least 10 times, and numerous other things. We believe it was who he was friends with.

My parents raised us THE EXACT SAME WAY.

My fiance wants kids so bad, and I know he'll be a good dad... but I just don't want them because I don't want them to grow up in this ever changing, horrible society.

I guess that's just my reason, even if it's easily arguable.

Maybe I'll change my mind one day.

Edited April 8, 2009 by Rhiann

[Krikit 1,164]

My daughter says she's not having children because she's too selfish. My son wants them so I at least have a chance at being a grandparent.

[trailmix 77]

I'm not too big on children myself.

Mm, instead of going through all the reasons I don't want them, I can give you the main one:

"Society".

I know you can raise your kids to be all good n stuff, but society has a way of changing people.

I grew up being the perfect one, obeying what my parents said and not getting in trouble with the law. I was also terribly antisocial and was bullied throughout my life, even by my brother.

My brother on the other hand, is horrible.

He's been in trouble with the police at least 10 times, and numerous other things. We believe it was who he was friends with.

My parents raised us THE EXACT SAME WAY.

My fiance wants kids so bad, and I know he'll be a good dad... but I just don't want them because I don't want them to grow up in this ever changing, horrible society.

I guess that's just my reason, even if it's easily arguable.

Maybe I'll change my mind one day.

Wow that's a HUGE difference in wants and outlook, I wish you luck on working on that one (really - I don't mean that in a mean way).

I think it's too bad that you seem to be so cynical about society (not from purely a have children or not standpoint).

[Sprailenes 47]

Haha that was my reason for not wanting kids too Rhiann. I used to tell people: "Raising kids in this world is abuse"

When I found out I was pregnant at 19 I was going to give him up to a homosexual couple.

I figured I could do something nice with something that was unplanned and unwanted. Then I looked at the ultrasound, I was told not to look but I did. Something just clicked, and it wasn't me thinking that I could change the world with one person or anything like that. What was I feeling all of a sudden? Pure love. I can't explain it. I just fell in love and I just suddenly got the urge to protect, nurture and love this being inside of me. So I decided to keep him. I don't regret it at all. He looked like a peanut in that picture, but that was my peanut.

My mother was amazing during this time too, we explored all of my options including termination. She had not one ounce of judgement towards me and she was truly my rock during that time and the years ahead. I guess it was then that I began to fully understand my mom.

My only regret is that I failed with the family aspect of it... I always wanted to get that right, but after two years of fake love his father and I decided to stop playing house and part ways. He hasn't talked to Ethan since.

Sometimes things happen, and they change us... for the better. But I can respect the decision to not want to have kids, because I have been there and I have had that mentality. But just never say never because you really "never" know.

[JillA 2]

Haha that was my reason for not wanting kids too Rhiann. I used to tell people: "Raising kids in this world is abuse"

When I found out I was pregnant at 19 I was going to give him up to a homosexual couple.

I figured I could do something nice with something that was unplanned and unwanted. Then I looked at the ultrasound, I was told not to look but I did. Something just clicked, and it wasn't me thinking that I could change the world with one person or anything like that. What was I feeling all of a sudden? Pure love. I can't explain it. I just fell in love and I just suddenly got the urge to protect, nurture and love this being inside of me. So I decided to keep him. I don't regret it at all. He looked like a peanut in that picture, but that was my peanut.

My mother was amazing during this time too, we explored all of my options including termination. She had not one ounce of judgement towards me and she was truly my rock during that time and the years ahead. I guess it was then that I began to fully understand my mom.

My only regret is that I failed with the family aspect of it... I always wanted to get that right, but after two years of fake love his father and I decided to stop playing house and part ways. He hasn't talked to Ethan since.

Sometimes things happen, and they change us... for the better. But I can respect the decision to not want to have kids, because I have been there and I have had that mentality. But just never say never because you really "never" know.

Awwww that's such a sweet story, Nev!! Think about how life would be so different without Ethan.

[Sprailenes 47]

Life would be BORING without Ethan.

I have come to that conclusion.

[JillA 2]

Life would be BORING without Ethan.

I have come to that conclusion.

Yeah people always say "What on earth did I do before kids?"

[Rhiannercakes 14]

I'm not too big on children myself.

Mm, instead of going through all the reasons I don't want them, I can give you the main one:

"Society".

I know you can raise your kids to be all good n stuff, but society has a way of changing people.

I grew up being the perfect one, obeying what my parents said and not getting in trouble with the law. I was also terribly antisocial and was bullied throughout my life, even by my brother.

My brother on the other hand, is horrible.

He's been in trouble with the police at least 10 times, and numerous other things. We believe it was who he was friends with.

My parents raised us THE EXACT SAME WAY.

My fiance wants kids so bad, and I know he'll be a good dad... but I just don't want them because I don't want them to grow up in this ever changing, horrible society.

I guess that's just my reason, even if it's easily arguable.

Maybe I'll change my mind one day.

Wow that's a HUGE difference in wants and outlook, I wish you luck on working on that one (really - I don't mean that in a mean way).

I think it's too bad that you seem to be so cynical about society (not from purely a have children or not standpoint).

I don't take any offense from it at all.

I didn't grow up in society, I grew up sheltered in my house.

So, of course I see society as horrible.

The things I read and watch just disturb me, and it really makes me not want to bring kids into this world.

But I know one day I need to give up on that standpoint and try raising kids.

I can't just not give my fiance kids, especially since he thinks I'd make a good mom.

I should give it a chance, and like Sprailenes said, something will probably just click and I'll want them one day.

I'm only 21, and my mindset just tells me "You don't want kids".

Maybe when my fiance and I settle down, marry and finish paying off his debt, maybe something in my mind will click.

Who knows, I can't predict the future.

[thetreble 19]

Believe me, I'm 25 now and I feel entirely different than I did at 21. Your outlook might change completely At 21 I was in college, had been with my husband a little while, but wasn't overly serious yet. I was an incredibly selfish #######. i loved myself ... a lot.

Now though...I can't wait until I have a baby. I mean, I CAN wait it's just that I feel that maternal instinct now. I want to bring something into this world that I can teach and guide to grow..etc. I just can't imagine not having

[meowmeowmeow 1]

mad props to you. the world is overpopulated enough as it is. not to sound cold. maybe if anything you can consider adopting a child from another country, or just even doing a sponsorship thing if you really want to connect with a child...

best wishes