To Those Who Are Married, Not Married & Soon To Be Married

[cEzYcHiC 0]

(this was sent to me centuries ago) BEWARE: dont correction me and dont english me cause im not graduation!!! bato bato sa langit ang tamaan ASKAL!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: shedidn't want anything from me, but needed a month's noticebefore the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. These create an environment conductive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

"I will keep a smile on my face and in my heart even

when it hurts today. I know that the world is a looking glass and gives back to me the reflection of my own soul. Now I understand the secret of correcting the attitude of others and that is to correct my own." !

Mare, PINAIYAK mo 'ko!!! Kakatouch and very inspiring!

[o0pink0o 3]

I already read this story before but it was worth reading again Edited April 6, 2009 by o0pink0o

[SuperDuper! 230]

Truly, it is the little things that mean a lot in an intimate relationship and marriage.

In all my times of searching online, there was always one question that I would ask pinays: WHat will you do to make your man feel special and loved? 99% of the time, pinay would not have a specific answer. Usually they just say, "I will love you always" or "I will prepare your food for you" or I will give you massage when you return home from work". Now the more specific they got, the more that I knew she knew how to properly care for her man.

Ultimately, I went for a pinay that sat on my lap and fed me rice, and would spontaneously put sugar and creme in my coffee, and blot my sweaty face on a hot Dumaguete day.

It is the little things we do for each other that make a marriage work. So never stop doing them!

Cheers

[mishy 1]

:crying:

That's was a very inspiring story . I will share this to my hubby. I'm touch ....

Thanks for sharing

I want More! More! More!

[DanielParul 50]

Its beautiful! I miss Daniel....

[kaibigan 8]

i'm so touched! this story made me cry a river grabe!

thank you for posting i emailed this to Jamie my love

and i hope you wont mind if i posted this to my myspace account

i will share this to all my married& single friends. God bless!

[Jov_mar 0]

wow napaka touching naman ng story mo madam...and very inspiring.....that's LOVE is all about...hehehehhe

i hope my hubby will soon read this one...

thanx for sharing....

jovie

Edited April 7, 2009 by Jov_mar

[steveee 0]

Ohhhh made me cry inspiring!, I'm so touch its a wonderful story, thanks for sharing hopefully every person read this story it motivates them and made their marriage more stronger than ever!

[meowmeowmeow 1]

thanks for posting..it was very touching

[jhcruz18 3]

awwwwwww. one of the most beautiful stories that i ever read. thanks for sharing it with us. Cheers! :star: :star: :star: