February 09 - VSC

[vespa rossa 0]

Here's a question for you. For those of you planning on doing more traditional church weddings (man, I'd love to do the boat thing!!), are any of you getting married in the Catholic church?

Am trying to navigate that now, but apparently most churches don't seem to want to bend their "must be a member for 6 months - year" rule for immigrant fiances that have to get married within 90 days. Also partly my fault as when I moved to NYC a few years ago I didn't formally register with a church. Just curious about everyone else's experiences.

[Maire 1]

Here's a question for you. For those of you planning on doing more traditional church weddings (man, I'd love to do the boat thing!!), are any of you getting married in the Catholic church?

Am trying to navigate that now, but apparently most churches don't seem to want to bend their "must be a member for 6 months - year" rule for immigrant fiances that have to get married within 90 days. Also partly my fault as when I moved to NYC a few years ago I didn't formally register with a church. Just curious about everyone else's experiences.

<---not a church person

[lee b 2]

I feel so much beter after my nap.

I am not a church going person so I can't help you out with that, but I hear its quite an ordeal.

[zambo 0]

Question for my february peeps (crossposted in procedures forum)

We are preparing the documentation for packet 3 and i have a question about police records.

My fiancee lived in St Charles, MO in 1993-94 while on an exchange program in highschool.

Then in Spring, TX in 2004 and in Houston, TX in 2007

Do we need to collect police certificates (background checks) from each police department?

thoughts on getting these (with her living in Germany)?

[Dave & Jenny 0]

Here's a question for you. For those of you planning on doing more traditional church weddings (man, I'd love to do the boat thing!!), are any of you getting married in the Catholic church?

Am trying to navigate that now, but apparently most churches don't seem to want to bend their "must be a member for 6 months - year" rule for immigrant fiances that have to get married within 90 days. Also partly my fault as when I moved to NYC a few years ago I didn't formally register with a church. Just curious about everyone else's experiences.

Hmm...having to "formally register with a church"....jeeze, what bureaucracy! What is next? Will we have to get the church to process our P-129F to approve us to pray?

Seriously sorry that you are getting caught in religious red tape...that is my problem with "organized religion" - you get an "organization" with rules to self-perpetuate the "organization" (not the religion)...

[zambo 0]

Question for my february peeps (crossposted in procedures forum)

We are preparing the documentation for packet 3 and i have a question about police records.

My fiancee lived in St Charles, MO in 1993-94 while on an exchange program in highschool.

Then in Spring, TX in 2004 and in Houston, TX in 2007

Do we need to collect police certificates (background checks) from each police department?

thoughts on getting these (with her living in Germany)?

Nevermind - no need for american police records - confirmed in the other thread.

[Maire 1]

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[delci06 0]

Here's a question for you. For those of you planning on doing more traditional church weddings (man, I'd love to do the boat thing!!), are any of you getting married in the Catholic church?

Am trying to navigate that now, but apparently most churches don't seem to want to bend their "must be a member for 6 months - year" rule for immigrant fiances that have to get married within 90 days. Also partly my fault as when I moved to NYC a few years ago I didn't formally register with a church. Just curious about everyone else's experiences.

I live in Dallas and had the same problem b/c we would go to the church that was closest to us. sometimes we were in Ft Worth or Coppell etc. When I called the church to set up an appointment, they told me that b/c they hadn't rec'd an envelope from us in a while we couldn't get married there. I told her that sometimes we forget the envelope or sometimes we are in a different city. It didn't seem to matter to them so I wrote a letter to the diocese. Lucky they directed me to a deacon that was very helpful and allowed us to take the classes and test. We got married by the church in Mexico. The priest in Mexico was even nice about it once my mother in law explained our situation to him.

Oh yeah, and I also complained about getting the impression that the church was only about money.

Edited June 22, 2009 by delci06

[Maire 1]

Here's a question for you. For those of you planning on doing more traditional church weddings (man, I'd love to do the boat thing!!), are any of you getting married in the Catholic church?

Am trying to navigate that now, but apparently most churches don't seem to want to bend their "must be a member for 6 months - year" rule for immigrant fiances that have to get married within 90 days. Also partly my fault as when I moved to NYC a few years ago I didn't formally register with a church. Just curious about everyone else's experiences.

I live in Dallas and had the same problem b/c we would go to the church that was closest to us. sometimes we were in Ft Worth or Coppell etc. When I called the church to set up an appointment, they told me that b/c they hadn't rec'd an envelope from us in a while we couldn't get married there. I told her that sometimes we forget the envelope or sometimes we are in a different city. It didn't seem to matter to them so I wrote a letter to the diocese. Lucky they directed me to a deacon that was very helpful and allowed us to take the classes and test. We got married by the church in Mexico. The priest in Mexico was even nice about it once my mother in law explained our situation to him.

It sounds to me the church is just a big business...but I might be wrong....

[D_n_M 0]

Hey Everyone... Busy day today. I still have no NOA2 hardcopy and Im still in AP. I do have all my papers ready, for the most part. Hows everyone doing today?

[Naito 0]

Here's a question for you. For those of you planning on doing more traditional church weddings (man, I'd love to do the boat thing!!), are any of you getting married in the Catholic church?

Am trying to navigate that now, but apparently most churches don't seem to want to bend their "must be a member for 6 months - year" rule for immigrant fiances that have to get married within 90 days. Also partly my fault as when I moved to NYC a few years ago I didn't formally register with a church. Just curious about everyone else's experiences.

I live in Dallas and had the same problem b/c we would go to the church that was closest to us. sometimes we were in Ft Worth or Coppell etc. When I called the church to set up an appointment, they told me that b/c they hadn't rec'd an envelope from us in a while we couldn't get married there. I told her that sometimes we forget the envelope or sometimes we are in a different city. It didn't seem to matter to them so I wrote a letter to the diocese. Lucky they directed me to a deacon that was very helpful and allowed us to take the classes and test. We got married by the church in Mexico. The priest in Mexico was even nice about it once my mother in law explained our situation to him.

It sounds to me the church is just a big business...but I might be wrong....

Yeah it sounds that way a little bit. I'm always surprised with all of the rules Catholics must follow. I'm glad my fiancee and I will be getting married in a Methodist church! No rules to contend with...well not too many strict rules at least.

[Maire 1]

Hey Everyone... Busy day today. I still have no NOA2 hardcopy and Im still in AP. I do have all my papers ready, for the most part. Hows everyone doing today?

I missed uuuuuuu..gosh never thought i could say that...lol

[D_n_M 0]

Hi Maire... I was very busy today. I had a great Fathers day weekend. My BH is sick and i am supposed to take care of her..but we are apart. I'm glad everyone is getting ready to see their SO and I am hopeful the few that have not received their NOA2 will get news this week. I am in limbo with mine but time will fly and we will be together soon planning a reunion to party with all of you. After 4 months in USCIS I'm sure the rest will be a breeze. Are you feeling better this week?

[Maire 1]

Hi Maire... I was very busy today. I had a great Fathers day weekend. My BH is sick and i am supposed to take care of her..but we are apart. I'm glad everyone is getting ready to see their SO and I am hopeful the few that have not received their NOA2 will get news this week. I am in limbo with mine but time will fly and we will be together soon planning a reunion to party with all of you. After 4 months in USCIS I'm sure the rest will be a breeze. Are you feeling better this week?

awwww cuterzzzz ur so positive I love it!!!yes i feel better...thanks for asking.....and ur positivism will pay off..i promise u !!!!we missed u today lots...I know I did...and i CANT WAIT FOR OUR REUNIONNNN SO MUCH FUNNNNNNNNNN

[D_n_M 0]

I'm sure all of this will pay off. After all if it easy its not worth having. Our relationship grows as we are forced to communicate on a non-physical level. My little one wants her nails done too and Daddy isn't as good as Maria!