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[Nagishkaw 510]

Hey, 1st thing is I really thank all the people who participate and share their experience and though. But like always nothing is perfect, i ll explain; my Wife and I have been married for 4 years and half, knowing each other for 2years before the marriage so its 6,5 years ,as every couple just start their life having their own problems mistakes... but thank God we always solve them before they grow. Lately all of what i hear from her 'my wife' that the moroccan people/middel east people are kind of wild and stupide also ###### up in their minde they dont respect their wives , why, because of what she is reading from some experience that they dont make no sence and i m sure other women are like her too, anyway she knew how the arabic, north africain people act and she respects them but some of ya making it hard and dark why because some of the wives are 68 and her husband is 22 she brouth him here after this he divorce her and she is wondring whyyyyy, ya tell me why!!!! and she write and ###### about him and everybody from his country,,,,, really i wonder why!!!!!! People must use brain stop making mistakes that ya gonna blame ur self for it.

I knew that some of ya will not like what i write but heyy wake up, age, though, open minde all of this do matter in the realtionship.

Last thing

share the truth not lies

whose truths, the way you say or the truth, i feel most do tell the truth when they speak of their problems so they are sharing THEIR truths and who is this i find it hard to believe you joined today and already posting this

Are you the Posting POLICE? All what i am really asking for is some stories that arent about how bad moroocan men are.

No, but I am. You have the right to go sit down. Anything you say can and will be held against you.

[Staashi 371]

Hey, 1st thing is I really thank all the people who participate and share their experience and though. But like always nothing is perfect, i ll explain; my Wife and I have been married for 4 years and half, knowing each other for 2years before the marriage so its 6,5 years ,as every couple just start their life having their own problems mistakes... but thank God we always solve them before they grow. Lately all of what i hear from her 'my wife' that the moroccan people/middel east people are kind of wild and stupide also ###### up in their minde they dont respect their wives , why, because of what she is reading from some experience that they dont make no sence and i m sure other women are like her too, anyway she knew how the arabic, north africain people act and she respects them but some of ya making it hard and dark why because some of the wives are 68 and her husband is 22 she brouth him here after this he divorce her and she is wondring whyyyyy, ya tell me why!!!! and she write and ###### about him and everybody from his country,,,,, really i wonder why!!!!!! People must use brain stop making mistakes that ya gonna blame ur self for it.

I knew that some of ya will not like what i write but heyy wake up, age, though, open minde all of this do matter in the realtionship.

Last thing

share the truth not lies

whose truths, the way you say or the truth, i feel most do tell the truth when they speak of their problems so they are sharing THEIR truths and who is this i find it hard to believe you joined today and already posting this

Are you the Posting POLICE? All what i am really asking for is some stories that arent about how bad moroocan men are.

No, but I am. You have the right to go sit down. Anything you say can and will be held against you.

[Muh and me 18]

Hey, 1st thing is I really thank all the people who participate and share their experience and though. But like always nothing is perfect, i ll explain; my Wife and I have been married for 4 years and half, knowing each other for 2years before the marriage so its 6,5 years ,as every couple just start their life having their own problems mistakes... but thank God we always solve them before they grow. Lately all of what i hear from her 'my wife' that the moroccan people/middel east people are kind of wild and stupide also ###### up in their minde they dont respect their wives , why, because of what she is reading from some experience that they dont make no sence and i m sure other women are like her too, anyway she knew how the arabic, north africain people act and she respects them but some of ya making it hard and dark why because some of the wives are 68 and her husband is 22 she brouth him here after this he divorce her and she is wondring whyyyyy, ya tell me why!!!! and she write and ###### about him and everybody from his country,,,,, really i wonder why!!!!!! People must use brain stop making mistakes that ya gonna blame ur self for it.

I knew that some of ya will not like what i write but heyy wake up, age, though, open minde all of this do matter in the realtionship.

Last thing

share the truth not lies

whose truths, the way you say or the truth, i feel most do tell the truth when they speak of their problems so they are sharing THEIR truths and who is this i find it hard to believe you joined today and already posting this

Are you the Posting POLICE? All what i am really asking for is some stories that arent about how bad moroocan men are.

No, but I am. You have the right to go sit down. Anything you say can and will be held against you.

[~Jess~ 0]

this site gets more bizarre everyday

I was just thinking the same thing...

MEEE TOO!! my goodness!

[Ban Hammer 13,133]

[Beautiful_years 0]

####### ????

Just when i think, oh another boring day at veejay... something pops up!

The other day it was bigots treating people as aliens.. subhumans!

If i post an f---ed up story here and your wife takes it personal... my apologies!

Dont tell Nagish the police,

All il have is the right to sit down, shut up and pack my bags!

Hello Nagish.... i love this forum!

If you are looking for good stories... look harder, there are a lot of them here. Dont identify with the worse, there are more good stories here than bad.

P.S

Charles, you just cracked me up....! This laughter is good for my soul.

Edited January 29, 2009 by Beautiful_years

[Nagishkaw 510]

Hello Beautiful_years.

Don't start packing yet. You have the right to Adjust Status and keep all September filers encouraged.

Edited January 29, 2009 by Nagishkaw

[Sinergy 3]

Hello Beautiful_years.

Don't start packing yet. You have the right to Adjust Status and keep all September filers encouraged.

[Beautiful_years 0]

Hello Beautiful_years.

Don't start packing yet. You have the right to Adjust Status and keep all September filers encouraged.

I knew you ll let me stay. lol

Don't you just love these threads!

[Sandrila 1]

whenever I need a laugh

charles, you are there

[Y's_habibitk 2]

You know?

There will always be instances where the spouse,from whatever country..is just straight up using the USC. There will be instances where the marriage is just not working for whatever reason.

I will say that in MENA culture, unlike here..there are many young people who have no real life experience, they have lived, sheltered in their parents homes their whole life. Then here comes a woman who they love and want to marry...they leave everything they have ever known and are thrust into REAL LIFE, life with a wife with needs, bills to pay and sometimes children that arent theirs that they need to adjust to. do ya think this could cause some issues?

Then throw into the mix that their are some USC spouses that will hold over their heads the good ole' "I brought you here, are you using me?!!?"

Honestly, even the best of couples will have their difficulties, even those who are totally "prepared" for all of the little adjustments that will come..and the big ones.

So, if the adjustment gets too hard and people arent communicating or just arent compatable in daily living, sometimes even the immigrant with the best intentions will decide to end the marriage. they get pegged as "users" too. They arent. they just couldnt make the marriage work..perhaps they were never given the tools(either person)

You never know.

What i do know is that people who come to VJ and say...be careful!! but dont give any details, do nothing but make people like your wife worry.

what sandrilla said..there is always-her story,his story and then there is the truth.

this process is hard enough without horror stories being read on a weekly basis.

So, after all of that rambling...my point is the obvious:

there are good men who truly love their wives, with the tools to get through the obsticales that face them when they arrive here. there are good men that loves their wives who dont have the ability to deal with the life adjustment and leave and then there are men who are out to use the USC for a free ticket out of their homelands.

If the marriage would have issues here with two people from the same background..its probably gonna have issues when you throw in the culutre shock and other issues that may already be present.

If you choose to marry a man from a certain background/culture and religion..you better be ready for all that comes with that.

Anyway, thats my 8 cents on the matter

Lisa

[Muh and me 18]

You know?

There will always be instances where the spouse,from whatever country..is just straight up using the USC. There will be instances where the marriage is just not working for whatever reason.

I will say that in MENA culture, unlike here..there are many young people who have no real life experience, they have lived, sheltered in their parents homes their whole life. Then here comes a woman who they love and want to marry...they leave everything they have ever known and are thrust into REAL LIFE, life with a wife with needs, bills to pay and sometimes children that arent theirs that they need to adjust to. do ya think this could cause some issues?

Then throw into the mix that their are some USC spouses that will hold over their heads the good ole' "I brought you here, are you using me?!!?"

Honestly, even the best of couples will have their difficulties, even those who are totally "prepared" for all of the little adjustments that will come..and the big ones.

So, if the adjustment gets too hard and people arent communicating or just arent compatable in daily living, sometimes even the immigrant with the best intentions will decide to end the marriage. they get pegged as "users" too. They arent. they just couldnt make the marriage work..perhaps they were never given the tools(either person)

You never know.

What i do know is that people who come to VJ and say...be careful!! but dont give any details, do nothing but make people like your wife worry.

what sandrilla said..there is always-her story,his story and then there is the truth.

this process is hard enough without horror stories being read on a weekly basis.

So, after all of that rambling...my point is the obvious:

there are good men who truly love their wives, with the tools to get through the obsticales that face them when they arrive here. there are good men that loves their wives who dont have the ability to deal with the life adjustment and leave and then there are men who are out to use the USC for a free ticket out of their homelands.

If the marriage would have issues here with two people from the same background..its probably gonna have issues when you throw in the culutre shock and other issues that may already be present.

If you choose to marry a man from a certain background/culture and religion..you better be ready for all that comes with that.

Anyway, thats my 8 cents on the matter

Lisa

Very well said Lisa!

[star_dragon 0]

I once did this. I once asked/said to my husband so many darn accusing questions or statements over and over because I read things and then I realized that it was my own insecurities with myself. It was causing some issues in our marriage where he felt inadequate because of me!! I think all people that bring an immigrant to the USA should keep their ears and eyes open but you can't let statements from others drive you nuts or make you attack a person's country, way of thinking, religion or such. Sounds like the two of you need to hash this one out and she either needs to let it go. Hope you find a resolution!

I didn't get the impression that the OP and his wife are having problems, I think it's a generalization and he's commenting on some of the stuff they read on here. The truth is we don't know all sides of the story and when a marriage fails, people automatically assume it's GC fraud. I can understand the frustration there but as others have stated in other threads, you often have to wonder when is it just plain ol marriage problems. I'm sure we've all had issues with that (with foreign or American spouses)...Dunno but I kind of see the OPs point of view.

As others said, this forum just gets more bizarre everyday.

[teenutty 0]

I really don't know how to reply to this because I am not sure what you mean. Are you saying your wife is saying things that are not true about Morrocans?

Of course, great differences in age can make a difficult marriage. But didn't the Prophet Mohammed marry Khadija who was many years older than him? A man in his early twenties probably needs to have a few more years before marrying to become a little wiser and more mature.

Hey, 1st thing is I really thank all the people who participate and share their experience and though. But like always nothing is perfect, i ll explain; my Wife and I have been married for 4 years and half, knowing each other for 2years before the marriage so its 6,5 years ,as every couple just start their life having their own problems mistakes... but thank God we always solve them before they grow. Lately all of what i hear from her 'my wife' that the moroccan people/middel east people are kind of wild and stupide also ###### up in their minde they dont respect their wives , why, because of what she is reading from some experience that they dont make no sence and i m sure other women are like her too, anyway she knew how the arabic, north africain people act and she respects them but some of ya making it hard and dark why because some of the wives are 68 and her husband is 22 she brouth him here after this he divorce her and she is wondring whyyyyy, ya tell me why!!!! and she write and ###### about him and everybody from his country,,,,, really i wonder why!!!!!! People must use brain stop making mistakes that ya gonna blame ur self for it.

I knew that some of ya will not like what i write but heyy wake up, age, though, open minde all of this do matter in the realtionship.

Last thing

share the truth not lies

[teenutty 0]

AAMIN lil BROTHER

and when you "act immature "what do they expect, what does young man know about love, real love.Its so easy to blame the green card and not look at life and nature realistically. No arguments here. Over there thay would throw you back with your young wife and say grow up be a man and deal with it. Now you find yourself soo far away from parents and home, everyone confused.Older Usa ladies should know better on leading uninformed foreign guys on romantic love foreign young guy. yada blah, and expect them to be the man. esp under age of 30. WOW. when all said and done its still gonna be all your fault. Hang tough and grow ALLAH HAFIZ

LOL!!! Older "used" ladies. Is wonder if that is what was how the Prophet Mohammed referred to Khadija? Somehow I think the Prophet Mohammed saw the good and special qualities of her and loved her.