How young is too young?

[Anh map 2,098]

Bug,

You are worrying too much. Your age difference isn't too extreme. Concentrate on showing the bona fides of the relationship. You will do fine.

Pink in 2009 for everyone!!!!!!

[William33 110]

What do you guys think is "too young" for marriage? Any VN VJ members marry a younger person from VN? How old was your fiancee? To me, that is the problem with this process - no thought given to individuality of the person. Everyone is just lumped into one big category - old, young, white, black, vietnamese, good, bad, rich, poor. UGH.

Bug

Age gaps are situation specific. Why not offer the specifics of your situation, in terms of age gap for further analysis?

Vague questions, receive vague answers. If you want better advice, more details are required.

This is a good point...sorry about that, I am a bit vague on public forums as you never know who might be reading. But yes, I asked this question for me but also because I never really stop to think about "too young" or not issues. My man is early 20's and I am in my mid-thirties. What is funny is I honestly never stop to think about it, we just click. Truth be told, he is much more mature and wise than I am. I may know more about life (and I think that is more being from America vs. my age) but he is a lot more serious about marital commitments and the spirituality behind loving someone for a lifetime than I am. I have seen a slight stereotype against Vietnamese people, that young for them = naive. This worries me in terms of the HCMC consulate lumping every Vietnamese person, man or woman, into one category when everyone is an individual. Anyway I can circumvent possible problems with this notoriously tough consulate regarding our age gap? Thanks

Bug

Early twenties (Male) and mid thirties (Female)? That sounds like a little over 10 years difference, between two adults. I would not stress too much over this. From my perspective, the female being the younger in the equation tends to send up the red flags, as opposed to the reverse. Which is apparently the case here.

[Dave_Thao 0]

We have a large gap in age mid 40's(me) and mid 20's(her). We had problems getting the visa but the age gap was never brought up.

[Uncle Wally 2]

Get 'em before the hair does!