exhausted and scared!

[M+S 0]

Hello VJ

well i start to feel very nervous and I don't even know will be my interviw now i am wiating ofr my package 4 and interview letter ..I feel like I am about to have th emost difficlut exam in my life ..I feel depressed i need my husband with me and I miss him terribly alot of time I feel I just can't breathe and look in our photos and cry ..I cry everyday ..I am tired I can hardly sleep or eat i am tired that I have to go through this just to have very simple right which is to be with my husband ..

I feel very responsible ..and stresed ebcause if I screwed the embassy interview I will not be able to be with my hsuabnd and i don't wanna let him down..I need Vj support I need to know that it's gonna be ok .whenever I read in Vj that someone had a problem I freak out !.

Is it only me or this is how everyone feels ? I don't know if Iam being negative..This is what Mark says he keep saying also "for god sake salwa if we didn't get the visa who would!!" Bu people in Cairo embassy is very very annoying and Egypt is full of Egyptian men marrying American women for Visas when I was notarizing my marriage peprs 10 days ago in the ACS in the Embassy there was American woman who married to 2 Egyptian men and the first as soonas he had teh visa left her and said" thanks for the visa" and he had an affair with her sister and the second made her live in Egypt till they married and then he took her in a very far city in the desert and forced her to sign immigartion papers for him and she tried to escape 5 times but he chased her and he was always able to get her back he prevented her from calling or emailing her familiy and that day I saw her she escaped and someone who she met in the street borrowed her the money to be able to get to Cairo and that day she stayed infront of teh embassy from 12 AM till 8 AM when the embasys opens !!!

After all this I really would be very careful to give any Egyptians any Visa and now I really undertsnad why the CO woman was very mean to me in my visitor visa interview .In my counry it's very rare for Egyptian woman to marry American or even western men because families here because Egypt is very conservative country and women freedom is not the same as men ..I really don't know if this would help that I am a female .

I feel very bad after I saw that American lady and what happended to her "IT'S HORRIBLE ".

I keep thinking of the worst possisblities like me get denied or having AR I really feel very impatient I am so scared of the AR thing I don't I think I surive like this being away from my husband I feel like iam not married!!! i wanna be in my home and feel I am a wife ..this whole process is very confusing ..and I feel so psychologically exhaused!

Thank you

[metinspain 0]

This certainly is hard on all of us...I miss my husband terribly. You are not alone!

Try not to worry so much...as long as you present to them your honest case, there should be no reason for them to deny you.

Good luck!

[Cygnet 0]

This certainly is hard on all of us...I miss my husband terribly. You are not alone!

I agree.

I also think everyone worries about the interview. And it doesn't matter what country you're from. Almost everyone worries. Just take a deep breath and focus on your own case. You should do fine.

[meddykomp 0]

Salwa,

I know it is so hard to remain positive when you are waiting for the interview and imagining all that can go wrong. We all fear the worst when we are waiting and especially when we are apart and missing the one we love. Try and keep in mind that those other cases are not your case. Everybody's situation is unique. Go to your interview and be honest in all your answers. Most likely, doing that will lead to an approval. Also remember that people do overcome AR and even denials. Your love for eachother will bring you back together in the end one way or another.

Good Luck,

~Angel~

[Aymerlu 3]

The wait is hard on all of us and the Cairo embassy is just terrible. It is considered a "high fraud" embassy so I guess they check people out a little more. We had our interview on Feb 14th. The lady told us he would have his visa in 6 weeks and we are still waiting. He gets finished with one check and the place him on another. I too have started battling depression, I cry a lot, sleep or can't sleep at all, and don't have an appetite. I know it will all come to an end and that God is in control. If you need to talk....PM me.....I totally understand what you are going through.

[M+S 0]

I called Mark now he said joking " we will have treatment for you once you are here " because he thinks I worry too much , well I worry I have to..but I really have to look at teh positive side you are all right ..I am trying to be more confidenat I should be why I wouldn't!!

Thank God i have this website and you all VJ friends it helps alot hearing other people's in the same boat having the same feelings supporting you..

I feel better but still worried I can't help it thoughit's not in my hand ..see Aymerlu you know it's horrible Place and this what makes me worry .

I miss my husband and I am too tired of being worried abotu saving every penny for airplane tickets so we can see each others worrying about his days off!!! worrying about him having time to come and if his boss will let him come or not , worrying about not having privacy since we stay at my parents home "no enough money to stay at hotels" worrying about dates and counting it down when it's time for him to go Back and bearking down for him leaving me .worrying about cheap flights!!! which i smadly high from time to time!!!

it's a long flight and it's expensive ..

I had enough worries and now the interview ..God knows how much I love my Husband and that's what makes me worry because I can't stand being awya from him more ..It's really hard

i wanna thank you all for your support ..It really helped

salwa

Edited June 2, 2006 by Salwapasserby

[germangel 0]

Salwa,

as hard as it may be, try to stay positive because if you come to the embassy all freaked and scared,they will think something is wrong.

If you have proof of a bona fide marriage, you will get through. Even if they put you on AR, which of course I hope they will not, you will make it. Because you are married for love, not for the visa. It will be okay, sweetie!

We are all worried before the interview, it is normal and okay to be. But don't let it rule your life.

I know you miss your hubbie, but just think that it'll all be over and nothing can part you after all this process is over.

I wish you good luck, and I cross my fingers for you.

Get some sleep and try to get your mind off of it.

You'll be fine, I believe in it!

*hugs*

Angelika

[MPGGPM 0]

I miss my husband and I am too tired of being worried abotu saving every penny for airplane tickets so we can see each others worrying about his days off!!! worrying about him having time to come and if his boss will let him come or not , worrying about not having privacy since we stay at my parents home "no enough money to stay at hotels" worrying about dates and counting it down when it's time for him to go Back and bearking down for him leaving me .worrying about cheap flights!!! which i smadly high from time to time!!!

it's a long flight and it's expensive ..

I had enough worries and now the interview ..God knows how much I love my Husband and that's what makes me worry because I can't stand being awya from him more ..It's really hard

i wanna thank you all for your support ..It really helped

salwa

I empathize and totally understand about "saving every penny" for plane tickets. Sounds similar to my and my wife's situation. The cost of plane tickets are not cheap. (Thank god for the invention of the credit card, right? ) My wife lives in Istanbul. It is around$1500 for me to fly there this summer. (I looked at Expedia just now, though, and you definately got us both beat, because a trip to Cairo.....is a whopping $1800....yikes! )

Neither of us have much of a life right now, because of this process. Between the plane tickets, immigration fees , lawyer fees, and even tuition ,(since she is still finishing her degree), etc..........it is very tough financially. We hardly go out.

I wouldn't worry so much about staying with your parents. My wife does the same as well while she waits out the process in Turkey. It doesn't bother me. If anything, although she makes enough there to afford her own place, we agreed that she stay with her parents...tough as it is on her , (I mean , who wants to live with their parent's at our age, right? ) But like you, we do it to save money.......knowing each penny we save is helping us to buy one more round trip ticket to see one another.

I am sure he feels the same way as I do, and doesn't mind staying with your parents when he vists you in Egypt.

A lot of us are in the same situation as you both............

I wish you both well..

[TPC 0]

Hi,

I haven't gotten that far into my journey, but it must feel great to have your I-129f approved . I am still waiting on that to happen. Out of everything that I have been through in my life, I believe this has been the hardest thing to do. It's exciting because you know that you are going to be with your soulmate one day, but it's heart breaking because you have to spend so much time apart from each other. Some days you are ok, and then there are other days that you feel like you just can't go on any longer without your mate. I am so glad that this forum exists. It's good to know that there are people out there that knows exactly how you feel. I just want to tell all of you thanks for the words of encouragement that you give to your fellow VJ members. We will all be with our soulmate by the grace and mercy of God in Jesus name.

TPC

[M+S 0]

well yeah You are right if I got to the embassy this way I am sure I wouldn't be able to reply in 2 words a single question!!! ..i will try to take a deep breathe and relax

Mark is thinking to travel to here "if we had the money by then" and attend the interview with me I need him to support me knowing he is there will help me alot but I really don't know if this is good or not to have him with me in my interviw and I also don't wanna make him fly for 20 hours just to attend with me an interview ..i don't wanna be selfish i must think of him too this is too tiring esp that they may never issue the visa on the same day and he will have to go back soon so i will be going to US alone !!!!

so I don't know i don't want Mark to fly across the atlantic just to attend my interview and go back home alone without me because I am acting like a 4 years old kid " I KNOW IAM"

I really must be calm and confidan tand try to relax and be prepared ..I will really try

Thank you very much ..your posts helped me alot

Salwa

Edited June 2, 2006 by Salwapasserby