Do I need to go to see my spouse more than once?

[Morning Sunshine 0]

Hello! Someone told me I had to go visit my spouse sometime after I have started the visa process? Is this true or is only the one time sufficient? This is for a K3 visa.

Edited October 30, 2008 by ~Dream Love~

[ninjarocket 1]

It's not a requirement, but visits are the strongest form of evidence considered at the interview.

Hello! Someone told me I had to go visit him sometime after I have started the visa process? Is this true or is oly the one time sufficient?

[payxibka 10,045]

not required but it sure helps in proving a relationship...

[Mononoke28 135]

We got married in January of 2007. I filed in February, a few days after I had seen my husband last and didn't see him again until the end of September right before his interview. If you can't make it, you can't make it. Bottom line is that you're married and if you have all the evidence in the world to back up your relationship, then you're all good.

Diana

[Morning Sunshine 0]

We got married in January of 2007. I filed in February, a few days after I had seen my husband last and didn't see him again until the end of September right before his interview. If you can't make it, you can't make it. Bottom line is that you're married and if you have all the evidence in the world to back up your relationship, then you're all good.

Diana

Ok, yes I want to go back over there in March. I just hate to travel alone again. It was tough. I will try to go back over there because there are some things I have to straighten out. I guess I should wait until his interview. Thank you.

Edited October 30, 2008 by ~Dream Love~

[bratikicks 0]

hi,

i would like to share to u our very short love story....

well, we've known each other last january 2008 ,then he came here march 28,2008 and on that day he proposed to me infront of my parents,after that we set our wedding date which is april 12,2008 then he went back to states may 19,2008...then june 13,2008 we filed our cr1....since he was so busy with his business he doens't have time to visit me again,we only communicate thru fone,chats,emails so on and so forth....

but during my interview consul asked me how many times did my husband visited me, i said only once.....then he asked me again when did your husband proposed? i said on that very day he arrived,he proposed to me infront of my parents,he said ok so when did u get married?i replied on him i said april 12,2008 then he asked me some pics and he let me identify who was on the pics,he also asked me some cards and emails and i gave it to him....and lastly he said "Ok seems that your documents are fine,wait for ur name to be called and u can go home"then i got pink slip,paid my visa delivery then i went home....

tip:

*aslong as ur know each other very well

*discuss everything to be discuss

*asked about her/his past

*more communication needed

*and be prepared on interview

*bring all the necesary things needed

*be confident/relax/calm during the interview

hope this help........

good luck

[Shahnila Shiraz 0]

Hey We can travel together so u won't be alone. All u have to do is confirm the days?? I want to be there if his interview is in March??

[birch- phuk_beer 0]

I , like other here would suggest it....highly....

otherwise looks questionable....especially from that part of tthe region.

I 'm leaving in a few weeks for my 6th trip in 14 months. 4th since married....

the more the better.........

[notime4haterz 0]

I'm sorry to disagree with some people...

I think you should visit as much as possible.

With my ex-husband I was with him for 10 years and we were married and had all this evidence like you can't imagine. When we went to remove conditions from his residency they rejected him, began deportation proceedings and put him in immigration jail saying our marriage was not real. The adjudicator was very obviously prejudiced against Muslim people and even asked me, "Aren't your family mad you married one of them?" Eventually we won our case in front of a judge, but he was devistated by what happened to him and he went back to his country permanently and we ended up divorcing.

So if you can afford to, please visit your husband and gather as much proof as you can get. Don't take any chances. And understand, regardless of what everyone wants to believe, they DO hate Muslim people and they DO look for any reason to deny Muslim people entry into the United States. Don't give them any chance to deny you.

[WaitingforRakesh 0]

I would visit him if you can, just to make the time go faster.

The last time I visited my husband was in February and now I will go again for Christmas. I am in the military, so I only get so many days of leave a year and when it was safe to go, we were too busy. Hopefully, his interview will not be long after that. I never felt good about leaving the US since Aug because I didn't know when the USCIS would approve his case.

So I would suggest go if you can before the 6 month your case has been at USCIS. That way you won't have to worry about missing anything. I would have tried harder if I had know it would be this long of a wait.

[JoBri 547]

And then there are those who are not wealthy, like me. I earn above what is required, but I dont earn enough to be able to afford a trip there again or to be able to have the luxury of missing any work. we talk maybe 2 minutes each day, sometimes twice a day, by phone, and we meet online every week or two now, when our work schedules allow. Yeh, it would feel better if we could visit... more secure for getting the visa, but I certainly dont have that luxury.

But I DO believe that God brought us together, and that it is through Him we are married. I have to rely on other means to prove relationship.

1. She cant be added to my bank account while not here, but I did get her put on a signature card at my bank, to be able to receive any money from my checking account if I died.

2. I added her to my car title. She is co-owner, with me of my car. She is on my vehicle registration as well.

3. where I rent, they have her as the co-lease of the apartment.

4. When I send her money, she saves the receipts of that as I do as well.

5. I have sworn affidavits of a long time friend who knows all about her and has spoken with her several times, who took me to the airport when I flew there to marry her, who picked me up at the airport when I returned, who helped me pick out the ring for her. I have a sworn affidavit from the pastor/counselor at my church who gave marriage counselling to us, long distance for her, and the results of the personality tests he had us take too.

6. I have photos of the furniture I bought her, for the bedroom, before restoring it and after restoring it.

7. I could not afford the airfare at the time to fly to her when we married. I have copies of all that... the credit card purchase of the airline tickets by her for me, the payment of the hotel costs that she insisted paying... She invested a lot in me, and trusted me a lot... and now I am working at investing a lot in her to get her here.

8. I have the copies of phone bills, showing the daily phone calls over a 2 year period.

9. Record and pictures of the beautiful gold cross with a diamond and 2 emeralds on it that I bought her for her brithday, which she now has in her possession... Photos of it from when I had it here, and now she has in her possession.

10. The many pictures taken when I was there.

11. I called the US Embassy Manila, to ask if it would be helpful if I was there for her interview, in person with her, and they said it wasnt necessary. But they said they would note that I called to inquire about that.... that I was willing to fly there in spite of the financial setback it would cause us, if need be. Apparently just being willing to go there means a lot.

12. I still am debating if I should print and mail the over 2000 pages of chats we shared together.

13. I put together a wedding photo album to send her.

14. I am getting a supervisor at work to write a letter and have it notarized to send, detailing in it how she is all I can ever talk about at work day after day after day.... how important she is to me... how everyone at work, including the residents at the nursingg home I take care of, ask about her on a daily basis, wondering if I heard from ehr that day, praying for her and for me, showing sympathy for her still not being here yet.

15. I am sure I left many other tings out of this...

But just cant afford to fly there....

But I trust my God with it all, who is ultimately the one who immigration also answers to... Absolutely nothing in this world is out of his control. He places such a high value on marriage, I trust him with the things I have no control over... such as being able to visit...

You know... When I got married, my wife didnt tell me till after the fact that there was a new law enacted in the Phils that required a person to be in country longer than I had the luxury to do, in order to get married. Well, the government lifted that law on our behalf... I am sure God did that. And am sure that in the end, it is God who will work all things together for the good for the two of us.

[himher 634]

It is good to spend as much time together as possible, but it is more important to be able to show that you really, really know all about one another. That means all the little details about work, families, and day-to-day details about each other. I was only able to visit my wife twice (as a matter of fact I only visited her in person twice ever lol, once to get married and once to break up the separation about halfway through the approval process) before her visa was approved. BUT, we talked nearly every day, and kept records of that - and did everything else we could do to make sure we could show we had ongoing communication and a valid marriage. For us we probably could have come up with the money but it was lack of time off from work that kept me from being able to travel back and forth.

I sympathize but disagree with the poster who states that "they hate muslim people", but I have to say that we have been treated throughout the process with respect and professionalism and we have not personally experienced any overt prejudice either at the embassy, USCIS application support centers, airports, or at the USCIS location where we went for AOS interview. No uncovered photos have ever been required, including at the state DMV (drivers license). It feels like my wife actually gets better and more respectful treatment than I do as I dam sure have to remove hat, shoes, sweater/jackets, etc when I go through airport security lol...

The only time we were ever treated different from anyone else was at LAX some TSA rent-a-drone wanted to paw around under her hajib and we suggested that we run ourselves through the "puffer" or that they just call a female officer - so they put her through the sniffer instead of making her undress at the airport. Which was fine, they were just doing their job and we wanted them to be able to do what they had to do without compromising her beliefs either.

Best of luck to the OP

[njaxfl 0]

And then there are those who are not wealthy, like me. I earn above what is required, but I dont earn enough to be able to afford a trip there again or to be able to have the luxury of missing any work. we talk maybe 2 minutes each day, sometimes twice a day, by phone, and we meet online every week or two now, when our work schedules allow. Yeh, it would feel better if we could visit... more secure for getting the visa, but I certainly dont have that luxury.

But I DO believe that God brought us together, and that it is through Him we are married. I have to rely on other means to prove relationship.

1. She cant be added to my bank account while not here, but I did get her put on a signature card at my bank, to be able to receive any money from my checking account if I died.

2. I added her to my car title. She is co-owner, with me of my car. She is on my vehicle registration as well.

3. where I rent, they have her as the co-lease of the apartment.

4. When I send her money, she saves the receipts of that as I do as well.

5. I have sworn affidavits of a long time friend who knows all about her and has spoken with her several times, who took me to the airport when I flew there to marry her, who picked me up at the airport when I returned, who helped me pick out the ring for her. I have a sworn affidavit from the pastor/counselor at my church who gave marriage counselling to us, long distance for her, and the results of the personality tests he had us take too.

6. I have photos of the furniture I bought her, for the bedroom, before restoring it and after restoring it.

7. I could not afford the airfare at the time to fly to her when we married. I have copies of all that... the credit card purchase of the airline tickets by her for me, the payment of the hotel costs that she insisted paying... She invested a lot in me, and trusted me a lot... and now I am working at investing a lot in her to get her here.

8. I have the copies of phone bills, showing the daily phone calls over a 2 year period.

9. Record and pictures of the beautiful gold cross with a diamond and 2 emeralds on it that I bought her for her brithday, which she now has in her possession... Photos of it from when I had it here, and now she has in her possession.

10. The many pictures taken when I was there.

11. I called the US Embassy Manila, to ask if it would be helpful if I was there for her interview, in person with her, and they said it wasnt necessary. But they said they would note that I called to inquire about that.... that I was willing to fly there in spite of the financial setback it would cause us, if need be. Apparently just being willing to go there means a lot.

12. I still am debating if I should print and mail the over 2000 pages of chats we shared together.

13. I put together a wedding photo album to send her.

14. I am getting a supervisor at work to write a letter and have it notarized to send, detailing in it how she is all I can ever talk about at work day after day after day.... how important she is to me... how everyone at work, including the residents at the nursingg home I take care of, ask about her on a daily basis, wondering if I heard from ehr that day, praying for her and for me, showing sympathy for her still not being here yet.

15. I am sure I left many other tings out of this...

But just cant afford to fly there....

But I trust my God with it all, who is ultimately the one who immigration also answers to... Absolutely nothing in this world is out of his control. He places such a high value on marriage, I trust him with the things I have no control over... such as being able to visit...

You know... When I got married, my wife didnt tell me till after the fact that there was a new law enacted in the Phils that required a person to be in country longer than I had the luxury to do, in order to get married. Well, the government lifted that law on our behalf... I am sure God did that. And am sure that in the end, it is God who will work all things together for the good for the two of us.

Hi Brian,just a pc of advice,never ever tell the embassy you're struggling financially or lets say you can't just afford for another trip to the Philippines to visit your wife.Financial situation of the petitioner which is you is likely the main concern of the of the gov and the CO in particular.If you have a sufficient income just like you said,then so be it.You have a job,then your income will show on your W2 from your employment,and on your Affidavit of Support.Embassy wouldn't take any explanation regarding your financial issues neither they will consider.I have a friend who got denied from a wrong e-mail she showed to the CO-email contains how her husband savng money for her thru using disscounted coupons here in the US-which is ridiculous.But financial issue is always a main concern.I didn't see my husband for a yr after we got married coz we're trying to save money for my trip and my 2 children,but i never mentioned any of that at the embassy especially during interview.Nothing wrong of saving money,of using disscounted coupons but the embassy wouldn't care.

[Rabi 0]

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[njaxfl 0]

And then there are those who are not wealthy, like me. I earn above what is required, but I dont earn enough to be able to afford a trip there again or to be able to have the luxury of missing any work. we talk maybe 2 minutes each day, sometimes twice a day, by phone, and we meet online every week or two now, when our work schedules allow. Yeh, it would feel better if we could visit... more secure for getting the visa, but I certainly dont have that luxury.

But I DO believe that God brought us together, and that it is through Him we are married. I have to rely on other means to prove relationship.

1. She cant be added to my bank account while not here, but I did get her put on a signature card at my bank, to be able to receive any money from my checking account if I died.

2. I added her to my car title. She is co-owner, with me of my car. She is on my vehicle registration as well.

3. where I rent, they have her as the co-lease of the apartment.

4. When I send her money, she saves the receipts of that as I do as well.

5. I have sworn affidavits of a long time friend who knows all about her and has spoken with her several times, who took me to the airport when I flew there to marry her, who picked me up at the airport when I returned, who helped me pick out the ring for her. I have a sworn affidavit from the pastor/counselor at my church who gave marriage counselling to us, long distance for her, and the results of the personality tests he had us take too.

6. I have photos of the furniture I bought her, for the bedroom, before restoring it and after restoring it.

7. I could not afford the airfare at the time to fly to her when we married. I have copies of all that... the credit card purchase of the airline tickets by her for me, the payment of the hotel costs that she insisted paying... She invested a lot in me, and trusted me a lot... and now I am working at investing a lot in her to get her here.

8. I have the copies of phone bills, showing the daily phone calls over a 2 year period.

9. Record and pictures of the beautiful gold cross with a diamond and 2 emeralds on it that I bought her for her brithday, which she now has in her possession... Photos of it from when I had it here, and now she has in her possession.

10. The many pictures taken when I was there.

11. I called the US Embassy Manila, to ask if it would be helpful if I was there for her interview, in person with her, and they said it wasnt necessary. But they said they would note that I called to inquire about that.... that I was willing to fly there in spite of the financial setback it would cause us, if need be. Apparently just being willing to go there means a lot.

12. I still am debating if I should print and mail the over 2000 pages of chats we shared together.

13. I put together a wedding photo album to send her.

14. I am getting a supervisor at work to write a letter and have it notarized to send, detailing in it how she is all I can ever talk about at work day after day after day.... how important she is to me... how everyone at work, including the residents at the nursingg home I take care of, ask about her on a daily basis, wondering if I heard from ehr that day, praying for her and for me, showing sympathy for her still not being here yet.

15. I am sure I left many other tings out of this...

But just cant afford to fly there....

But I trust my God with it all, who is ultimately the one who immigration also answers to... Absolutely nothing in this world is out of his control. He places such a high value on marriage, I trust him with the things I have no control over... such as being able to visit...

You know... When I got married, my wife didnt tell me till after the fact that there was a new law enacted in the Phils that required a person to be in country longer than I had the luxury to do, in order to get married. Well, the government lifted that law on our behalf... I am sure God did that. And am sure that in the end, it is God who will work all things together for the good for the two of us.

Hi Brian,just a pc of advice,never ever tell the embassy you're struggling financially or lets say you can't just afford for another trip to the Philippines to visit your wife.Financial situation of the petitioner which is you is likely the main concern of the of the gov and the CO in particular.If you have a sufficient income just like you said,then so be it.You have a job,then your income will show on your W2 from your employment,and on your Affidavit of Support.Embassy wouldn't take any explanation regarding your financial issues neither they will consider.I have a friend who got denied from a wrong e-mail she showed to the CO-email contains how her husband savng money for her thru using disscounted coupons here in the US-which is ridiculous.But financial issue is always a main concern.I didn't see my husband for a yr after we got married coz we're trying to save money for my trip and my 2 children,but i never mentioned any of that at the embassy especially during interview.Nothing wrong of saving money,of using disscounted coupons but the embassy wouldn't care.

Hi Brian,just a pc of advice,never ever tell the embassy you're struggling financially or lets say you can't just afford for another trip to the Philippines to visit your wife.Financial situation of the petitioner which is you is likely the main concern of the of the gov and the CO in particular.If you have a sufficient income just like you said,then so be it.You have a job,then your income will show on your W2 from your employment,and on your Affidavit of Support.Embassy wouldn't take any explanation regarding your financial issues neither they will consider.I have a friend who got denied from a wrong e-mail she showed to the CO-email contains how her husband savng money for her thru using disscounted coupons here in the US-So the Co thinks her husband is not capable of supporting her here in the US and seem to be likely a public charge.But financial issue is always a main concern.I didn't see my husband for a yr after we got married coz we're trying to save money for my trip and my 2 children,but i never mentioned any of that at the embassy especially during interview.My husbands income is more than enough for our family but we're trying to be smart.He went to the PHilippines only 3x and only stayed a week.We talked everyday on yahoo and sometimes on the phone.We we have a very good conversation and seems not to ran out of topic which is a good way of knowing each other even from thousand miles away...Nothing wrong of saving money,or using disscounted coupons but the embassy wouldn't care.WOULD BE NICE TO SEE AND VISIT THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE IF YOU CAN OR IF YOU HAVE EXTRA MONEY TO SPEND BUT IF YOU WILL SACRIFICE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING,WHICH IS SAVING FOR HER UPCOMING TRIP HERE AND TO BE WITH YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIVES THEN IT'S THE SMART THING TO DO.

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