Cheating

[Completely 3]

Then maybe you can explain how to meet the "right women" then. These girls, the ones I know, are all from Mindanao and usually have stronger moral values than places like Manila. I have met most of them when I was there last and they all seems like very sweet individuals. This whole thing just seems to conflict with the culture

whoa!!!!!

im from manila.. and i would definitely DISAGREE with what you're saying..

maybe you've seen the bad side of manila, like where u can find the hookers..

thats why you're like stating that mindanao girls have stronger moral values than us..

careful with what u say.. try to go visit and stay in different places of manila so you'll know what you're talkin abt..

i think what really matters is the person's background or uprbinging..

you're tellin me they have "stronger moral values cos they're from mindanao"..

but here you are posting things abt how your "filipina friends from mindanao" cheated on their husbands.. :whistle:

I am really wanting to say something but I wont.. But I think wherever regions they came from does not matter.. Like I said no one can not generalize where they came from..

[envy_me 18]

Then maybe you can explain how to meet the "right women" then. These girls, the ones I know, are all from Mindanao and usually have stronger moral values than places like Manila. I have met most of them when I was there last and they all seems like very sweet individuals. This whole thing just seems to conflict with the culture

whoa!!!!!

im from manila.. and i would definitely DISAGREE with what you're saying..

maybe you've seen the bad side of manila, like where u can find the hookers..

thats why you're like stating that mindanao girls have stronger moral values than us..

careful with what u say.. try to go visit and stay in different places of manila so you'll know what you're talkin abt..

i think what really matters is the person's background or uprbinging..

you're tellin me they have "stronger moral values cos they're from mindanao"..

but here you are posting things abt how your "filipina friends from mindanao" cheated on their husbands.. :whistle:

I am really wanting to say something but I wont.. But I think wherever regions they came from does not matter.. Like I said no one can not generalize where they came from..

hmmmm.. makes me wonder what that is..

but you're correct it doesnt matter where they came from..

[Completely 3]

Then maybe you can explain how to meet the "right women" then. These girls, the ones I know, are all from Mindanao and usually have stronger moral values than places like Manila. I have met most of them when I was there last and they all seems like very sweet individuals. This whole thing just seems to conflict with the culture

whoa!!!!!

im from manila.. and i would definitely DISAGREE with what you're saying..

maybe you've seen the bad side of manila, like where u can find the hookers..

thats why you're like stating that mindanao girls have stronger moral values than us..

careful with what u say.. try to go visit and stay in different places of manila so you'll know what you're talkin abt..

i think what really matters is the person's background or uprbinging..

you're tellin me they have "stronger moral values cos they're from mindanao"..

but here you are posting things abt how your "filipina friends from mindanao" cheated on their husbands.. :whistle:

I am really wanting to say something but I wont.. But I think wherever regions they came from does not matter.. Like I said no one can not generalize where they came from..

hmmmm.. makes me wonder what that is..

but you're correct it doesnt matter where they came from..

hahaha. prefer not to hurt people, situations varies to different people.. I believe in people treating others right.. Not by means of financial but treating him/her with love and respect.. Material things can not replace these two.

Peace!

[envy_me 18]

Then maybe you can explain how to meet the "right women" then. These girls, the ones I know, are all from Mindanao and usually have stronger moral values than places like Manila. I have met most of them when I was there last and they all seems like very sweet individuals. This whole thing just seems to conflict with the culture

whoa!!!!!

im from manila.. and i would definitely DISAGREE with what you're saying..

maybe you've seen the bad side of manila, like where u can find the hookers..

thats why you're like stating that mindanao girls have stronger moral values than us..

careful with what u say.. try to go visit and stay in different places of manila so you'll know what you're talkin abt..

i think what really matters is the person's background or uprbinging..

you're tellin me they have "stronger moral values cos they're from mindanao"..

but here you are posting things abt how your "filipina friends from mindanao" cheated on their husbands.. :whistle:

I am really wanting to say something but I wont.. But I think wherever regions they came from does not matter.. Like I said no one can not generalize where they came from..

hmmmm.. makes me wonder what that is..

but you're correct it doesnt matter where they came from..

hahaha. prefer not to hurt people, situations varies to different people.. I believe in people treating others right.. Not by means of financial but treating him/her with love and respect.. Material things can not replace these two.

Peace!

but yeah respect no matter where u came from..

[HoneySkin 0]

and here we are again in OT.

..wonder why its back and forth?

I thought this topic would end up funny ....

[trinket 30]

What’s all this hoopla about whoever is God-fearing doesn't cheat?

So all atheists in the world are cheaters??

[ronjie 0]

thats why one should really get to know their partner before going into marriage..if someone goes into marriage right away, say aftr a few a months of having a bf/gf relationship and the cheating suddenly happen, the victim always end up saying.." why??"..

the answer is...cus they dont REALLY love you.

true love takes time to grow... it takes time to develop... it takes time to get stronger....and true love never hurts.

you'd rather get the true ones than the fake ones eh?

**for the thread's concern: old people, just be cautious when falling inlove with a very young one.

true maybe, but you never really know someone till you live with them.

[Completely 3]

JMHO, but in the context of immigration, I would surmise that a large percentage of these cheaters did not enter the marriage with bona fide intentions.

None of my friends' wives/girlfriends who cheated are in the U.S. The husband/boyfriend is living in the Philippines. I can probably live with not understanding the cheating if they aren't married but once you are married why cheat?

I totally agree with you.. There is no reason to cheat when you married someone......

[Ling Ling 22]

Anybody that believes a certain race or nationality is prone to infidelity (cheating) is plain and simple IGNORANT!

Circumstances of birth, such as race and nationality are random. They are nothing to be proud of or ashamed of.

They do not dictate what kind of a person you will be. It may be your parent's fault for the way you are, but it's your fault if you stay that way.

The cold reality is that some people are not faithful, and may possibly never be.

The cold reality is that people who do not look before they leap, are destined to be hurt.

Love is a leap of faith...but not one that should be taken without caution.

Further, I would challenge that the majority (not all) of these spouses who have been cheated on, may have invested time and money,

but did they truly invest their heart, and take the time for that investment to mature into mutual respect and love.

I believe that some people mistake their impatience or desire to be love.

I believe that some people mistake kindness and compassion to be love.

I believe that some people mistake comfort and sexual attraction to be love.

One person can love another, but it takes time and mutual consent for a couple to be "In Love".

Rather than to warn old people to beware of the young, I would warn all people to beware of impatience.

Take the time to get to know the person you love, and make sure they love you and that each of you understands

the expectations of the other. Impatience and lack of communication are the sign-posts on the road to infidelity.

...the journey continues.

[Mags 112]

Jasman is a long time member of VJ, he is asking this question in relation to the PI.

Thusly, this is a grey area thread, please leave in PI forum as per moving guide.

Thanks.

[bevs 0]

this is sad but the truth really exsist all over the world, whatever culture u have. i knew one filipina who i met online we came from same province MINDANAO, she went to visit me one day, and thats the start of our friendship, in my surprize i was shock when she started telling me things which i dont like to hear, she is so proud to tell me that she had a BOYFRIEND at the place where we live at. then after few year we she visted CDO and again she start telling me things that are so weird again, that she will plan to devorce her husband after she get the USC, then all of sudden she had an unfair to business man who own a parlor at Minnesota where she live. its wierd but u know if i can do something about it i will really let the innocent husband know about everything. with this type of person i try to be far away from them, they are never be a good example to a decent filipina like us.

where we came from doesnt do anything about out attitude and about who we are, we human being is the one who set our attitude and values. we conrtol it and we run it, when we have fear to GOD then we are far from doing things that is not good to do. this illness happen when human being allow it to happen.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Anybody that believes a certain race or nationality is prone to infidelity (cheating) is plain and simple IGNORANT!

Circumstances of birth, such as race and nationality are random. They are nothing to be proud of or ashamed of.

They do not dictate what kind of a person you will be. It may be your parent's fault for the way you are, but it's your fault if you stay that way.

The cold reality is that some people are not faithful, and may possibly never be.

The cold reality is that people who do not look before they leap, are destined to be hurt.

Love is a leap of faith...but not one that should be taken without caution.

Further, I would challenge that the majority (not all) of these spouses who have been cheated on, may have invested time and money,

but did they truly invest their heart, and take the time for that investment to mature into mutual respect and love.

I believe that some people mistake their impatience or desire to be love.

I believe that some people mistake kindness and compassion to be love.

I believe that some people mistake comfort and sexual attraction to be love.

One person can love another, but it takes time and mutual consent for a couple to be "In Love".

Rather than to warn old people to beware of the young, I would warn all people to beware of impatience.

Take the time to get to know the person you love, and make sure they love you and that each of you understands

the expectations of the other. Impatience and lack of communication are the sign-posts on the road to infidelity.

...the journey continues.

I agree. Well said.

[*JG* 2]

You ppl make things so fcking complicated! She cheats, she's GONE! Liva and learn. Who gives a flyin hoot why someone cheats. Ppl cheat cuz they aint HAPPY!

I agree. I find out hubby cheated, he'll come home to find his bags packed and waiting on the front porch for him. I could care less WHY he cheated.

[sj_soulm8ts 0]

They say the same thing about Jamaican men.

I don't think you can generalize the behavior. It happens in all demographics.

Very True! No other statement could be more rational than that! Let´s keep our mind broad guys... Peace to y´all!

[Honey&Sweety 1]

Hi, there! With regards to your posts, It`s not absolutely reliable. I have know many Filipino women married to USC citizens and other foreign nationalities but until now they are together in their old age. Cheating happens in all walks of life, races, religions, etc. Some research indicates that women and men cheat for different reasons. When one looks at the big picture, men and women can cheat for a range of reasons, and both men and women can be motivated to engage in an affair for either sexual or emotional reasons. Sometimes the motivation is even financial. However, in general, men's affairs are seen more often as motivated by physical sex, and are opportunistic: a temptation comes their way and this is foul. If a couple has genuine love, respect and trust it should not happen. No man or women will cheat if they are satisfied with their partners . Whereas there are some circumstances that they cheat because they have unresolved issues with themselves and from their families that hinders them for loving and trusting fully and so they experienced repressions in their subconscious mind .

Some research on why women cheat, on the other hand, paints a more complex picture. Women cheat for a wide variety of reasons.Like Emotional neglect, Self-esteem, Revenge, Excitement, Attention/desirability, Seduction/romance, Love deprivation, Resentment, Lack of Money and lastly if woman experienced disrespect from their husbands or vice -versa. Moreover , during the courtship get to know each other better to avoid regrets someday!!! ...and have FAITH in your relationships and value your vows!!! God bless!